【推荐1】Negative thinking is the easiest way to slow down your business and personal goals. But how do you get rid of negative thoughts? We asked members of the Forbes Coaches Council for advice. The views varied widely, but they all had one idea in common：    1    Our experts gave us their best tips, and this is what they had to say：

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Do you want to catch a cold? Get around people with a cold. I am not sure whether the advice still stands, but it certainly means something to me when coaching others. I see a lot of people associating with like—minded and often negative people when they are trying to change something in their lives, like a job. Negative people are not optimistic. Get around positivity physically, through your ears and eyes.

Don’t expect everything to be perfect.

Expecting everything to be perfect can be disturbing and robs you of true happiness.    3    For example, if you are promoted next year—instead of this year, as expected—does one year really change anything in the long run? Striving for goals with a detachment（超然） to the end state having to be perfect can be a liberating（解脱的）way to live on your own terms.

Become intentional about your attitude.

    4    It starts as soon as you wake up in the morning. Become aware when you are focusing on the negative and make the decision to focus on the positive instead. Your attitude is a choice. You attract what you focus on, so let go of what does not serve your goals.    5    

【推荐2】I remember my teen years when all I wanted was to put on weight. Growing up, I was always on the thinner side and try as I could, I never seemed to put on the kilos. I would admire the chubbier (丰满的) girls and wished to be like them.

    1     I had sent out a message saying that I wasn’t good enough because of my body size, not realizing that we train others how to treat us.

Today, I’m comfortable in my skin, and I have learnt the art of self-love. And yes, I did put on the kilos years later after childbirth, but I lost them at the gym, and I am happy with myself. This got me thinking about the number of people today who want to look like someone else.    2     They are always in search of a different self!

Learn to fall in love with yourself. Learn to value yourself. If you do not like something about yourself, why not work out to get to your ideal (理想的) body type? This not only increases your confidence, but you no longer have to wear those ugly tops to hide your stomach.    3    

    4     You do not have to present yourself for every party or appointment. Give yourself space to breathe. As women, we are taught to take care of everyone else but ourselves. We get worn out raising our families and balancing our private lives with our careers, and rarely have time for ourselves. At the end of the day, we are so worn-out; everyone else is happy but us. When you are tired, take enough time to rest.    5     Every so often, take time to refill your cup.

【推荐3】Grade 3 high school students are graduating next summer. Many of them will go to university. The transition from high school to college is challenging.     1    

Your opinions and outlook on college matter.     2     Actually your attitude about whether attending college will have a positive influence on your life is a strong predictor of academic performance.

    3    Your success in college depends, in part, on surrounding yourself with people who can support you and make you have fun. So try to take an active part in extracurricular（课外的）activities so that you can have a smoother adjustment to college.

Don’t be afraid to talk to your professors or teaching assistants.     4     This means trying to find the answers on your own first, but then contacting those who can help you when you can’t. That is what they’re there for! Your professors and teaching assistants want to see you succeed in their classes.

Be confident. Feeling anxiety about communicating with peers, professors and speaking up in class may be a problem for you.     5     The more you speak up in class, the easier it becomes.