We need to be conscious of the fact that people around us influence us in subtle ways that may encourage us, or hamper it. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”.
If this “circle” of people is goal-driven, and encouraging, we can experience a positive impact on our actions. On the other hand, if the people around us are negative and restrictive, we may subconsciously “live-up” to these qualities and stop our own personal growth in the process.
How do you identify who is influencing you? Be mindful of the conversations you have with people and the activities you engage in with them. What are the opinions that dominate in your social group?
Nourish your circle
Once you identify the people who belong to your reference group, it is important to nourish these relationships.
A.Know your circle |
B.Dominate your circle |
C.Over time, this core circle may change. |
D.It means that this “circle” can help you live a better life. |
E.The influence of those around us can be quite significant. |
F.Also remember, just like others influence you, you also have an influence on others. |
G.What are the similarities between you and the five people you are constantly close to? |
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【推荐1】My friends and I had just finished lunch at a hotel when it started to rain heavily. When it became lighter, I decided to get my car which was parked at my office three streets away.
My friends argued that I shouldn’t go, mainly because I was seven months pregnant(怀孕的)then. I made it clear to them that I’d be very careful. One of them wanted to come with me but I insisted that she stayed with another friend who needed help with her baby.
I walked out of the hotel and started making my way to the car. At the crossing, a van stopped and a man came out with an umbrella. Before I knew what was happening’ walked right beside me and told me he’d escort(护送)me to my destination. Although I was very embarrassed and refused, he insisted that he would.
During our walk, he kept telling me to walk slower, as the ground was wet. When we got to the car-park, I thanked him and he went away. I did not get his name and may not even recognize him now. Did he purposely stop for me? I’ll never know.
So how did I pay it back? I was at home when I noticed two Indian construction workers walking in the heavy rain. They were probably on their way to the working place near my home. I went out and passed them an umbrella. They were completely surprised by my action, and I told them they should take and keep it. They were very grateful to me, probably wondered why a stranger was offering such kindness. I was so relaxed and happy that day.
1. The author went to the hotel to .A.book rooms for her friends | B.avoid being caught in the rain |
C.find a place to park her car | D.have lunch with her friends |
A.was frightened by the man | B.asked the man for his umbrella |
C.refused the man, s help but failed | D.was escorted to her house by the man |
A.By giving them some money. |
B.By offering them an umbrella. |
C.By preparing a nice lunch for them. |
D.By driving them to the construction site. |
A.Pass on the Kindness |
B.My Sweet Memory on a Rainy Day |
C.My Pleasant Experience at a Hotel |
D.How to Help People in Need |
【推荐2】Though to forgive is a virtue, no one regards it as an easy thing. If you are deeply hurt by someone, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your hate. However, forgiveness is possible, and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health. According to a recent research, people who forgive show less sadness, anger and stress and more hopefulness.
Never wait for an apology. Many times the person who hurt you does not intend to apologize. They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way.
Calm yourself.
Take the control away from your offender. Rethinking about your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself.
A.Why do you have to forgive? |
B.How should you start to forgive? |
C.Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. |
D.Try to see things from your offender’s angle. |
E.For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge. |
F.To make your anger die away, try a simple stress management technique. |
G.If you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time. |
【推荐3】Four reasons why you should move to a big city
We've all had the dream. We've needed a fresh start. While it may not be the best idea to jump into the car with nothing more than a suitcase, the experience of staying in an entirely new setting can teach you lessons you'd never learn any other way.
Find yourself-When you're in a major city, you're not going to run into the same people everyday unless you plan on it. Nobody will bring up that time you tripped on your way into the post office.
Grow up fast-Nothing forces you to grow up fast quite like living in a big city. Even with so many people around, there will be moments when you feel so lonely. But you will get hard-earned success and satisfaction.
Opportunity - Everyone focuses on the competitive nature of big cities, but there are also opportunities that you never would have access to in a small town.
Broaden your horizons-lf there are many foreigners in your town, it may be time to open yourself up to more languages, cultures, and food. And you ll be in a place with access to so many different ideas and values.
A.You can leave your past where it belongs |
B.When everyday tasks become challenging |
C.More people, more professions, more businesses |
D.It will expand your knowledge and understanding |
E.Moving to a major city helps you achieve success rapidly |
F.While moving to the next small town may not expand your worldview |
G.You made it through with nothing but yourself, your voice, and your determination |