There have been a few times in my life when I felt very lonely. I particularly remember my loneliness when I moved to New York City. I had a couple of friends in the city, still, it was a time in my life when I needed to put forth some effort to form more meaningful relationships. But the more I went out to parties, the more disconnected and lonely I felt. Feeling lonely in a room full of people, or in my case, a whole city packed with people everywhere, was the loneliest I have ever felt.
So, rather than trying a new way to make friends, I was more likely to ignore phone calls from friends, and I looked at social invitations and opportunities to meet new people as drudgery. Looking back on this period of loneliness, I wonder at the way I isolated myself instead of reaching out to those who were willing to keep me company and offer friendship.
What I have learned from my own experience and the experience of many of my friends is that more often than not, those who feel lonely choose isolation. Indeed many of my own friends describe avoiding social life as a way of dealing with feelings of loneliness.
This behavior is somewhat common, and new research takes a big step towards explaining this behavior. According to leading experts on the loneliness, Stephanie and John Cacioppo, there is an evolutionary explanation for this tendency to isolate when we are feeling lonely. By monitoring lonely people’s brainwaves, they found that lonely people tend to respond negatively to social life. “Loneliness causes some brain-related changes that put us into a socially nervous mode,” Dr. Christian Jarrett explains.
Making ourselves aware of this evolutionary natural tendency could actually be the first step in fighting loneliness. Once we know that we are more sensitive to negativity during lonely spells, we can focus our energy on resisting the desire to put up walls.
1. What happened to the author after she moved to New York City?A.She had no friends there. | B.She lacked confidence there. |
C.She needed opportunities for parties. | D.She felt lonely even with people present. |
A.By refusing to go out to meet others. | B.By looking for solutions on the Internet. |
C.By trying various methods to make friends. | D.By doing some drudgery to forget her problem. |
A.Lonely people tend to disgust social life. |
B.People respond negatively to lonely people. |
C.Loneliness can do great harm to people’s health. |
D.Loneliness can be caused by a socially nervous mode. |
A.We shouldn’t be influenced by negativity. |
B.We shouldn’t choose isolation when we feel lonely. |
C.We should make friends based on scientific findings. |
D.We should spend more time with friends than relatives. |
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【推荐1】Scientists have long known that a crow (乌鸦)native to New Caledonia is able to use tools. The birds use them to remove food from deep holes. Now, American researchers have discovered a second species of crow with the same ability. They reported on their experiments with Alala crows, which are from the Hawaiian Islands.
In the experiment, the researchers placed pieces of food in holes inside the wood. The holes were too deep for the crows to reach with their beaks(鸟喙). But, by using small pieces of wood held in their beaks, Alala crows quickly got the food. They used small objects as tools, sometimes changing them by shortening too-long sticks. They also made tools from plant materials.
“The crows use their beaks as people use thumbs on their hands. Tool use is rare in the animal kingdom. ” said Chritian Rutz of University of St. Andrews. “Current evidence strongly suggests that tool use is part of the species’ natural behavioral pattern(行为模式). These birds had no special training in the study, yet most of them were skilled at handling stick tools. ”
Bird experts claim finding out that the crows use tools is important discovery. “It makes us rethink how to look at the whole tool-use idea now and encourages us to go out and look for things that we may have ignored before. ”
All the Alala crows left in the world live in Hawaii. There were less than 20 Alalas left in the late 1990s when scientists decided to bring them into a protected area. Now, it is reported that there are over 100 birds living there. Scientists plan to release a small number of the birds back into the wild later.
1. What are the findings of American researchers?A.Alala crows can also use tools. |
B.It’s difficult for birds to look for food. |
C.New Caledonia is home to some crows. |
D.The Hawaiian Islands are full of rare birds. |
A.The holes were very big and wide. |
B.Alala crows could only use short sticks. |
C.Alala crows got the food by working together. |
D.Alala crows would deal with tools if necessary. |
A.Using tools comes naturally to Alala crows. |
B.Using stick tools is not easy for Alala crows. |
C.Alala crows’ beaks look like people’s hands. |
D.Alala crows won’t use tools without being trained. |
A.Move all of them out of Hawaii. | B.Increase the population of them. |
C.Set some of them free in nature. | D.Build more protected areas for them. |
【推荐2】Within your family, are you the “boss”, the “peacemaker”, the “baby” or the “king”?
Firstborn — The “Boss”
First-time parents often have very high expectations for their eldest children.
Middle child — The “Peacemaker”
Typically, parents don’t give middle children as much attention as the firstborn or the youngest.
Youngest child — The “Baby”
By the time the youngest family member is born, most parents have loosened their rules.
Only child — The “King of the Castle”
Life in the family of an only child often revolves around him or her.
A.Thus, they tend to have more freedom. |
B.That often causes them to feel they are ignored. |
C.Early-born children experience a better social environment. |
D.These kids don’t have to share their toys or their parents’ time. |
E.Many researchers believe your position in the family influences your personality. |
F.As a result, these kids are often responsible, organized, bossy, successful achievers. |
G.The relationships between birth order, personality, and behavior confuse many researchers. |
【推荐3】There are various ways in which to read body language so that you can understand how someone is feeling. Reading emotional clues (线索)is one of them.
Crying is considered to be caused by an explosion of emotion in most cultures. Often times crying is considered a sign of sadness, but crying can also be an expression of happiness. Crying can also come about through laughter and humor. Thus, when judging crying, you'll need to look for other signs to determine the meaning of the crying. Crying can also be forced in order to gain sympathy or to cheat others. This practice is known as " crocodile tears" , an expression that draws on the wrong idea that crocodiles" cry" when catching prey(猎物).
Signs of threat include v-shaped eye brows, wide eyes, and an open or down-turned mouth. In a similar way, arm tightly crossed over the other is a common sign that the person is angry and is closing himself off to you.
When people show anxiety, they display increased facial movements, and their mouth made into a thin line. Individuals who are anxious may also play with their hands, unable keep them in one spot. Anxiety can also or have nervous legs. It can be conveyed when people seemingly unconsciously(无意识 地)tap their feet or have nervous legs.
Embarrassment can be expressed by turning the eyes or shifting them away. If someone looks down at the floor a lot, they are probably shy, afraid, or embarrassed. People also tend to look down when they are upset, or trying to hide something emotional. People are often thinking and feeling unpleasant emotions when they are in the process of staring at the ground.
There are also some signs of pride. People show pride by displaying a small smile, holding their head backward, and putting their hands on their hips.
1. In what situation may one have"crocodile tears"?A.When he is sad. | B.When he cheats others. |
C.When he supports others. | D.When he is angry. |
A.Shape his eye brows into a"w". | B.Sigh heavily. |
C.Cross his arms tightly. | D.Open his eyes wide. |
A.Most of them show negative feelings. | B.They usually express positive emotions. |
C.They can be controlled well be humans. | D.They are good for people's health. |
A.How to use body languages? | B.What are body languages? |
C.What expressive emotions we have? | D.How to read emotional clues? |
【推荐1】No matter what your degree is, or where you got it from, graduation is always going to be a time to celebrate your achievements and give yourself a well-deserved praise.
From turning up in special dress to jumping into a fountain (喷泉), graduation traditions around the world are quite different.
Bristol University, UKGraduates at Bristol are unusual in that they don’t wear mortarboards (学位帽) at all, because once, as a story goes, too many mortarboards got thrown from Brunel’s Clifton Suspension Bridge, and it was thought to be dangerous.
Kanazawa College of Art, JapanAt the graduation ceremony of this Japanese art school you can wear anything you want, which drives media (媒体) crazy. The yearly ceremony has become so famous that journalists turn up each year to see what the students are wearing.
New York University, USAfter the graduation ceremony at New York University, students like to cool off by jumping into the New York’s Washington Square Fountain, still wearing their purple graduation dress.
Sun Yat-sen University, ChinaGraduating students, who are dressed in old time clothing, take photos for their graduation at Sun Yat-sen University in Guangzhou, Guangdong Province of China.
1. What does the underlined word “it” in the first paragraph refer to?A.Degree. | B.Dress. | C.Graduation. | D.Achievement. |
A.they drive media crazy |
B.they don’t wear mortarboards at all |
C.they are dressed in old time clothing |
D.they jump down from a famous bridge |
A.Bristol University. | B.New York University. |
C.Kanazawa College of Art. | D.Sun Yat-sen University. |
A.old time clothing | B.fashion clothing |
C.anything they like | D.purple graduation dress |
A.Modern dresses. | B.Great achievements. |
C.University courses. | D.Graduation ceremonies. |
【推荐2】Why is pink or purple a color for girls and blue or brown for boys?
The answer depends largely on cultural values as well as personal experiences. To the Egyptians, green is a color that represents the hope and joy of spring, while for Muslims, it means heaven. Red is a symbol of good luck in many cultures. In China, children are given money in a red envelope to bring good fortune in the New Year. For many nations, blue is a symbol of protection and religious beliefs. Greek people often wear a blue necklace hoping to protect themselves against evils.
People's choice of colors is also influenced by their bodies' reactions(反应)toward them. Green is said to be the most restful color. It has the ability to reduce pain and relax people both mentally and physically. People who work in green environment have been found to have fewer stomachaches.
Red can cause a person's blood pressure to rise and increase people’s appetites(食欲). Many decorators will include different shades of red in the restaurant. Similarly, many commercial websites will have a red“Buy Now” button because red is a color that easily catches a person's eye.
Blue is another calming color. Unlike red, blue can cause people to lose appetite. So if you want to eat less, some people suggest that eating from blue plates can help.
The next time you are deciding on what to wear or what color to decorate your room, think about the color carefully.
1. Why do the Chinese give children the red envelope with money in the New Year?A.It is a symbol of good luck. | B.It looks good. |
C.People have much money. | D.People like giving money. |
A.To relax people physically. |
B.To increase people's appetites. |
C.To encourage people to make a purchase. |
D.To cause a person's blood pressure to rise. |
A.Red. | B.Green. |
C.Blue. | D.Purple. |
A.Colors and Human Beings | B.The Cultural Meaning of Color |
C.Colors and Personal Experiences | D.The Meaning and Function of Color |
【推荐3】Put an ice cube from your fridge into a glass of water. You have a piece of string(线) 10 centimeters long. The problem is to take out that piece of ice with the help of the string. But you must not touch the ice with your fingers.
You may ask your friends to try to do that when you are having dinner together. There is a saltcellar on the table. You must use salt when you carry out this experiment.
First you put the string across the piece of ice. Then put some salt on the ice. Salt makes ice melt(融化). The ice round the string will begin to melt. But when it melts, it will lose heat. The cold ice cube will make the salt water freeze again.
After a minute or two you may raise the piece of string and with it you will raise your piece of ice!
This experiment can be very useful to you. If, for example, there is ice near the door of your house, you must use very much salt to melt all the ice. If you don’t put enough salt, the water will freeze again.
1. We must use _______ when we carry out this experiment.A.fridge | B.some food | C.a table | D.some salt |
A.More than three minutes. | B.Five minutes or so. |
C.Only one minute or two. | D.About ten minutes. |
A.Put the ice cube into the glass of water with the help of the string. |
B.Take out the ice cube in the glass of water with the help of the string. |
C.Take out the ice cube in the glass of water with your fingers. |
D.Put some salt on the ice cube and then put the string across it. |
A.Three. | B.Four. | C.Six. | D.Seven. |