Do you know a narcissist? If you think of your everyday acquaintances (熟人), who springs to mind as being a possible narcissist? Your housemate, who is too selfish and lazy to do her own washing up? Your sister, who has never left the house without full make-up on? Your partner, who cheated on you? But are these people actually narcissists? Well, maybe—but having these traits in isolation (孤立) doesn’t tell us much.
True “narcissism”is actually Narcissistic Personality Disorder(NPD), a real, diagnosable personality disorder, and there is a precise range of very specific behaviours that result from having it. A narcissist might be taking credit for other people’s work, using their partner as a domestic slave, and using their children as a way to gain admiration from others.
NPD is fundamentally a condition of low empathy (共情), where the person has a very limited ability to step into another person’s shoes and feel their pain or joy. This means that narcissists re late to people on a very different level to an empathic person. Essentially, they cannot deeply care about you, other than in the context of what you can do for them.
Confusingly, narcissists are usually able to pretend empathy. Actually, you may be able to see narcissists exploit people for their own gain. The narcissist you know may be taking advantage of different people for different things. Narcissists see people merely as objects, and their exploitation of others often tips into psychological abuse.
NPD is partly genetic, but it mostly results from how, as children, the person adapted to a difficult upbringing. As a child, the narcissist developed coping strategies which became “wired in”. At the core of every single narcissist is a feeling of low self-esteem (自尊) and shame. But these are feelings which a narcissist cannot bear, so they construct a false character that they hold up to the outside world to hide behind.
1. Who might be safely considered a narcissist?A.A saleswoman who is casual about her clothing. |
B.A colleague who submits a team’s work as his own. |
C.A good friend who tells you a white lie occasionally. |
D.A group member who is isolated from other members. |
A.Relating to people on different levels. | B.Taking advantage of people’s mercy. |
C.Showing sympathy for others. | D.Pressing ill beliefs on others. |
A.NPD is most likely to develop among new-born babies. |
B.Narcissists may be expert in covering their genuine feelings. |
C.Narcissists can deeply care about others if they feel respected. |
D.Narcissists withdraw from the outside world to seek inner value. |
A.An online fitness log. | B.A practical science paper. |
C.A professional health magazine. | D.A social psychology research. |
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【推荐1】Space settlement is widely debated. Some argue living in space is unrealistic and that we should concentrate on improving life on Earth instead of potentially ruining another planet.
Taking living on Mars as an example, some scientists think it is a fantasy. To make it, Mars needs to first be warmed to closer to Earth’s average temperature, which will take about 100 years. Then the planet must be made to produce oxygen, which will take 100,000 years or more. A 2018 NASA study concluded that, based on the levels of CO2 found on Mars, the above plan is not practical. If a solution were found and conducted, a project of that magnitude would cost billions, perhaps trillions(万亿).
Besides, humans have made a mess of Earth. If humans are able to change an uninhabitable planet in space into an appealing home for humans, surely we have the capability to fix the problems we’ve created on Earth. John Traphagan, Professor at the University of Texas, argued, “We need to stop holding the belief of human exceptionalism and start seeing humans as part of a collection of species. As long as we bring it with us to other worlds, we will repeat the same mistakes.”
However, others argue humans have a moral obligation to save our species from extinction, and space settlement is one way of doing so. According to some philosophies, humans are the only beings capable of morality, and, thus, preserving our species is the most morally pressing. Space settlement gives humankind the opportunity to significantly raise the chances of survival by providing access to the solar system’s resources, and increasing knowledge of space and Earth.
Space settlement is the next logical(合理的)step in human growth. Humans are not a species to stand still. Jeff Bezos, who traveled to space in 2021, stated, “The solar system can easily support a trillion humans. And if we had a trillion humans, we would have a thousand Einsteins and a thousand Mozarts and unlimited, for all practical purposes.”
1. What information does paragraph 2 deliver?A.Solutions to living on Mars have been found. |
B.The 2018 NASA study agreed to live on Mars. |
C.Some scientists regard living on Mars unrealistic. |
D.The temperature on Mars is suitable for habitation. |
A.The mess. | B.The capability. |
C.The belief. | D.A collection of species. |
A.More human geniuses. | B.Rich knowledge. |
C.More diverse species. | D.Unlimited wealth. |
A.Doubtful. | B.Objective. | C.Worried. | D.Positive. |
【推荐2】We have been taught from a young age that red means stop and green means go. So why were these colors chosen for traffic lights? And what’s the history behind the colors?
To trace the connection between the colors and traffic lights,we have to travel back in time to the earliest railroad signals (信号灯) developed in the 1830s. Those first railroad signals were the forerunner of our modern stoplights. Like modern traffic controls,they contained three lights:one for stop,one for caution (警告),and one for go. The original color system was different from our modern system,though. Red meant stop,green meant caution,and white meant go.
The choice of red for stop was fairly obvious,since red — the color of blood — has been associated with danger for thousands of years, long before cars were even around. Scientifically speaking,red is the color with the longest wavelength which means that as it travels,it gets spread less in different directions than other colors,so it can be seen from a greater distance.
Why green and white were chosen for the other signals remains a bit of a mystery. It’s possible that the two colors were chosen because how they contrasted (反差) with red. This system of color-coded signals remained in place (仍然有效) for several decades until it became clear that using white for go could cause serious problems. Around 1914,a train signal’s red lights broke down,causing it to appear white. As a train approached the signal,it was supposed to stop,but the driver believed the white meant go. The result was a terrible train crash. After that,the color for go was eventually changed to green.
To provide the most contrast between red and green,yellow was then chosen as the new color for caution,because it can be seen well at all times of the day. After cars were invented and went into mass production,a similar signaling system was needed to control the flow of traffic. When traffic lights were put up,it became standard for them as well.
1. How does the author describe the original traffic lights?A.By listing an example. | B.By offering a suggestion. |
C.By making a comparison. | D.By showing the importance. |
A.It is the easiest to recognize all day long. |
B.It reminds people of accidents and danger. |
C.It spreads fastest in all directions in the air. |
D.It has proved the least harmless to our eyes. |
A.The driver’s tiredness. | B.The train’s high speed. |
C.The travel system’s shortcoming. | D.The white light’s failing to work. |
A.How did the present traffic lights form? |
B.Why was the first traffic system invented? |
C.Why did white disappear from the traffic lights? |
D.How did an accident change the traffic systems? |
【推荐3】In many adults, learning and thinking begin to decline (衰退) as early as age 30 and become worse in their mid-60s, which is shown in tests of cognitive(认知的) abilities.
These changes are often considered as the result of normal aging. But they may instead show something more like the “summer slide” that some schoolchildren experience in study process during summer break. After formal education and job training end, many adults experience years of reduced chances of learning.
However, a three-month study Rachel Wu and her partners designed suggests that this decline can be addressed. In this study, they provided an encouraging learning environment for 24 older adults between 58 and 86 years of age. Before and after, they tested the cognitive abilities. The older adults signed up for at least three classes that met weekly to learn new skills, such as drawing, iPad using and Spanish-language learning. During this period, the adults’ cognitive scores for memory improved greatly, and their cognitive abilities after one year were similar to those of adults 50 years younger.
The team is still investigating why their cognitive scores continued to climb after the program’s end, but one possibility is that the experience encouraged these adults to continue learning and practice new skills. To be clear, the researchers do not think that formal education is the only or most important way to support learning. Their idea is to instead create encouraging environments for older adults, so they can increase both real-world skills and cognitive abilities over the long term.
“Use it or lose it,” the saying goes. Let’s change the conversation about adults from avoiding loss and decline, or keeping what people have, to learning and growing.
1. What leads to the decline in cognitive abilities?A.Age-related diseases. | B.Slower processing speed. |
C.Too many holiday breaks. | D.Fewer learning experiences. |
A.By doing surveys. | B.By arranging interviews. |
C.By searching documents. | D.By making comparisons. |
A.Learning contributes to physical improvement. |
B.Taking classes is key to cognitive development. |
C.Positive learning environments should be created. |
D.Older adults need to practice their language skills. |
A.Unclear. | B.Supportive. | C.Doubtful. | D.Worried. |
【推荐1】Imagine you have made plans with a new friend to talk on the phone. You called, but there was no answer—and you didn't get a call back. What happened? Perhaps she got held up by caring for her children or an important task. Perhaps she didn't want to meet but didn't take the time to call off. Or maybe she had a busy week and simply forgot to write down your meeting time. Or it was possible that you called the wrong number.
In social situations like these, our minds can offer a variety of explanations, ranging from ones that are kind to ones that put the blame on the other party. Psychologists refer to this as our attributional style. Past research has found that individuals with a hostile attributional style— that is, who tend to think others' action is a result of bad intentions— tend to be less satisfied with their relationships.
According to a new study in the Journal of Happiness Studies, they're also generally less happy. That means that all those little assumptions we're making about other people might be something we can work on to improve our well-being.
In the study, 707 participants from the United States, Poland, and Japan were asked to analyze situations like the one above. Participants then rated the situation on three factors: how much they thought the other person acted purposely, how much blame they put on them, and how angry they were, as a measure of hostile attributions. They also filled out a questionnaire about the degree they considered themselves a happy person.
The researchers found that people who gave others the benefit of the doubt all the time were happy, compared to the participants who always blamed others. People who only sometimes gave others the benefit of the doubt were also happier.
The researchers can't say for sure whether seeing people as unfriendly directly lowers our happiness, or whether unhappy people are just more likely to make hostile attributions in the first place. However, this study does suggest the possibility that giving people the benefit of the doubt can improve our relationships and our well-being.
Dorota Jasielska, assistant professor at the Maria Grzegorzewska University in Warsaw and lead author of the paper, suggests that we start by developing positive and trusting social relationships. When we find ourselves surrounded by warmth and support, it can help us to see the social world in a more positive light. If you feel lonely, volunteering or joining friendly welcoming organizations can be a good way to broaden your social circle.
Another important strategy is to have open and direct communication. Instead of letting your anxieties get worse, Jasielska explains, it may be better to simply talk to people about their confusing behavior.
So the next time a friend calls off plans or forgets to text back, consider giving them the benefit of the doubt and waiting to hear their side of things before jumping to conclusions. Assuming others have good intentions— particularly the people we already know and love—will make the world seem like a friendlier place.
1. What does the author want to do by giving the example in Paragraph 1?A.To introduce the topic of the text. | B.To give some background information. |
C.To present findings of recent research. | D.To provide answers to a difficult problem. |
A.To judge others' actions negatively. | B.To be unwilling to trust others' words. |
C.To try hard to control others' behavior. | D.To blame others for their own mistakes. |
A.Ways to have effective communication. | B.Importance of making friends in daily life |
C.Methods for improving our social relationship. | D.Advice on dealing with confusing social behavior |
A.We should find common interests with others. | B.We should forgive others for their mistakes. |
C.We should judge others in a positive light | D.We should be kind and friendly to others. |
What in the world, Harold wonders, do they have to talk about?
Betty shrugs, Talk? We’re friends.
Researching this result called friendship, psychologist Lillian Rubin spent two years interviewing more than two hundred women and men. No matter what their age, their job, their sex, the results were completely clear: women have more friendships than men, and the difference in the content and the quality of those friendships is “marked and unmistakable”.
More than two-thirds of the single men Rubin interviewed would not name a best friend. Those who could were likely to name a woman. Yet three-quarters of the single women had no problem naming a best friend, and almost always it was a woman. More married men than women named their wife/husband as a best friend, most trusted person, or the one they would turn to in time of emotional distress (感情危机). “Most women,” says Rubin, “identified at least one, usually more, trusted friends to whom they could turn in a trouble moment, and they spoke openly about the importance of these relationships in their lives.”
“In general,” writes Rubin in her new book, “women’s friendships with each other rest on shared emotions and support, but men’s relationships are marked by shared activities.” For the most part, Rubin says, interactions (交往) between men are emotionally controlled—a good fit with the social requirements of “manly behavior”.
“Even when a man is said to be a best friend,” Rubin writes, “the two share little about their innermost feelings. However, a woman’s closest female friend might be the first to tell her to leave a failing marriage; it wasn’t unusual to hear a man say he didn’t know his friend’s marriage was in serious trouble until he appeared one night asking if he could sleep on a sofa.”
1. What old Harold cannot understand or explain is the fact that __________.
A.he is treated as an outsider rather than a husband |
B.women have so much to share |
C.women show little interest in ballgames |
D.he finds his wife difficult to talk to |
A.a male friend | B.a female friend |
C.her parents | D.her husband |
A.Ending his marriage without good reason. |
B.Spending too much time with his friends. |
C.Complaining about his marriage trouble. |
D.Going out to ballgames too often. |
A.Men keep their innermost feelings to themselves. |
B.Women are more serious than men about marriage. |
C.Men often take sudden action to end their marriage. |
D.Women depend on others in making decisions. |
【推荐3】Many people have difficulty in getting up in the morning. This might be called laziness, but Dr. Kleitman has a new explanation. He has proved that everyone has a daily energy cycle.
During the hours when you work, you may say that you’re “hot”. That’s true. The time of day when you feel most energetic is when your cycle of body temperature is at its peak (顶峰). For some people the peak comes during the morning. For others it comes in the afternoon or evening. No one has discovered why this is so, but it leads to such familiar words as: “Get up, John! You’ll be late for work again!” The possible explanation for the trouble is that John is at his temperature-and-energy peak in the evening. Much family quarrelling ends when husbands and wives realize what these energy cycles mean, and which cycle each member of the family has.
You can’t change your energy cycle, but you can learn to make your life fit it better. Habit can help, Dr. Kleitman believes. Maybe you’re sleepy in the evening but feel you must stay up late anyway. If so, staying up later than you want to may counteract your cycle in some way. If our energy is low in the morning but you have an important job to do early in the day, rise before your usual hour. This won’t change your cycle, but you’ll get up steam and work better at your low point.
Get off to a slow start which saves your energy. Get up with a comfortable yawn and stretch. Sit on the edge of the bed for a minute before putting your feet on the floor. Avoid the troublesome search for clean clothes by laying them out the night before.
1. Dr. Kleitman explains that a person is difficult to get up in the morning probably because ofA.his own laziness |
B.his own energy cycle |
C.his own habit |
D.his bad rest at night |
A.in the morning |
B.in the evening |
C.in the afternoon |
D.at different hours |
A.The life. |
B.The good habit. |
C.The energy cycle. |
D.The change. |
A.do your work at the energy peak |
B.manage to control your temper |
C.work at the bottom of energy cycle |
D.manage to keep you clean all day |