Self-Improvement
Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities and stress, but the right focus goes a long way towards ensuring you become a better person.
Forgiving yourself and others can help you improve relationships. To be a better person, it’s important to have a go at forgiving any hatreds you’re holding. Allow yourself time to forgive your past mistakes and recognize what they’ve taught you.
Everyone has flaws, but you can concentrate on improving yours. Notice how your behavior and attitude affect others. Are people generally happy or sad around you?
Answering these questions and analyzing your interactions with them can help you discover and perfect your weaknesses.
Imagine what someone’s been through can give you a new perspective. Empathy is one of the first steps to being a better person because it builds your compassion. Not only does cultivating empathy help you be more sensitive toward other people, but it also helps you form lasting relationships and feel less isolated.
| A．Do friends come to you for help or advice? |
| B．Then, forgive those who have hurt you in the past. |
| C．Are people around you talented in improving themselves? |
| D．Learning from one’s mistakes is a step to forgiving oneself. |
| E．Positive aspirations can give you something to thrive for. |
| F．Being empathic helps you gain a friend while challenging your perspective. |
| G．There’s something you can do every day to better yourself in different ways. |
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【推荐1】How to Turn Your Dreams into a Reality
Do you have dreams, visions or plans about things you’d love to have or achieve? Of course you do! We all do. Unfortunately, dreaming is the easy part.
Turn your dream into a goal.
When you have a goal, you have a true target. For a greater chance of success, your plan should have a deadline and it must be measurable.
Prioritize (优先化) your goal daily.
Difficult goals can rarely be achieved alone; you’re likely to need some help and guidance. Look at the list you made and see what you already have in your life that could help you on your path.
Track your progress.
Measure your progress each day. Use old fashioned paper and pencil or take advantage of the latest smartphone app.
| A．Read and write your goal each day. |
| B．Make a list of negative associations. |
| C．Classify (将……分类) your available resources. |
| D．Tracking is critical to making continued progress. |
| E．Turning those dreams into a reality is the challenge. |
| F．It has been said that dreams are goals without a deadline. |
| G．So make a list of all the negative stuff that slip into your mind. |
【推荐2】How to Be a Good Listener
Nowadays, listening is becoming more and more important in communication, especially when your friends talk to you about their problems.
Don’t give advice. I’ve mentioned this many times already, but it's important because unsolicited (未经允许的) advice can actually create stress. It’s common to want to immediately give advice and “fix” your friends’ problems. Unless it’s specifically requested, don’t. While you're trying to help, what would work for you might not work for your friends.
Trust the process.
Let things even out over time. With all this focus on your friends’ problems, it might be difficult not to focus equal time on your own.
| A．Stay present. |
| B．Be serious and sincere. |
| C．Advice comes out naturally. |
| D．However, many people fail to listen to others properly. |
| E．It might feel a little scary to listen to feelings before diving into solutions. |
| F．Relax in the knowledge that your friends will be good listeners if you need help. |
| G．Unless asking directly for advice, your friends may just want to feel heard and understood. |
【推荐3】I am a cognitive behavioral hypnotherapist (认知行为治疗师). I started my practice from sleep disorders, and soon came to realize how strongly loneliness was linked with poor sleep. I’ve focused on my skills and understanding of loneliness in order to know how I could best serve my patients.
Loneliness is an emotion. We probably all experience it at some point, but loneliness is very complicated and unique to each of us. There’s a big difference between loneliness and solitude (独处). Being alone is a choice, while feeling lonely isn’t something we force ourselves. You want to be around people, but something is making you feel unwanted or empty, so you’re not having the meaningful connection you seek.
When you’re feeling lonely over a long period of time, it becomes a chronic (慢性的) problem. It can finally turn into a mental and physical health problem, and can be a symptom or cause of depression. It can affect self-respect. You might turn to food and not feel like exercising, as chronic loneliness is linked to increased risk of high blood pressure, obesity and even dementia (痴呆).
To manage loneliness, you need to accept it. Loneliness is one of the most common feelings people have. Don’t brush it under the carpet, as that doesn’t help solve the problem. Seek joy in little things, like smelling a flower or a walk in nature. Celebrate each small achievement. When you decide to change things and seek a connection in with others, consider ale-minded group. A patient of mine joined a sewing group and it was very successful.
The best way to help somebody who is lonely is to sensitively ask how they are and what they’re doing, and listen to the answer in a non-judgmental way. If you want to invite them to do something with you, do it. If they say no, don’t be discouraged from asking again. They might need time before feeling ready to say yes.
1. Why does the author focus on loneliness?| A．To do research on patients’ sleep disorders. |
| B．To find out the true reason for loneliness. |
| C．To provide better service for patients. |
| D．To help poor sleepers gain a better sleep. |
| A．Accepting loneliness is the only cure. |
| B．Hiding loneliness turns out to be unwise. |
| C．Joining a sewing group proves successful. |
| D．Meeting people with common interests won’t help. |
| A．Invite him later again though he has refused. |
| B．Leave him alone for fear of disturbing him. |
| C．Tell him right from wrong after listening to him carefully. |
| D．Ask about his conditions publicly when noticing him in a bad mood. |
| A．Loneliness is a choice that people can choose by themselves. |
| B．Loneliness is a factor that can influence your self-reflection. |
| C．Loneliness is a serious problem that can cause dementia directly. |
| D．Loneliness is a complicated emotion that people may all experience. |
