【推荐1】It is well known that humans need meaningful social connection.     1     The stronger our relationships are, the more likely we are to live better. So how do we deepen friendships in our lives?

Shower them with affection. We often think of affection as love we show in romantic relationships. But affection is more than holding hands and kissing.     2     There are many ways you can show love to your friends. Tell them how much they mean to you. Remind them you are grateful to know them. These simple acts provide security in the relationship.

    3     Being generous with your friends is an easy way to develop your friendships. If you’re a gym rat, you could help your friend train for a coming race they have. Or if your friend is applying for a university, you can use your research and analysis skills to put together a presentation for them.

Share your joys, struggles and even guilt. Think about how good it feels to tell a friend you secretly like a boring TV show and hear them respond “me too!”     4     Many people hold the view that it can be scary to be open with our feelings. It can come with the risk of shame or rejection. But people are less likely to reject you for being weak than you think.

Don’t hide your disagreements. It’s hard to deal with conflict in friendships. People often see them as something that should be fun and lighthearted, so they ignore problems when they arise.     5     It might be painful at first, but it shows you want to be honest with them, and that you want to make your relationship better.

【推荐3】Tricks to Achieve Personal Development

Stoicism is a school of Greek philosophy (哲学), founded in the 3^rd century B.C., and popular throughout the Roman and Greek world until the 3^rd century A.D. In modern days, it’s often used by people to help with their personal development.    1    .

Recognize what you can change and be meaningful in your actions

Stoicism encourages you to let go of what you cannot control.    2    . When you recognize the things you can change and are strategic in how you do it, it’s more likely that you’ll feel satisfied and less stressed overall.

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One of the most common things kids say is “that’s not fair!” So you need to find out why it’s not fair. If the reasons are out of your control, you shouldn’t waste much energy trying to fight what’s unfair. Once you accept the things you can’t control, life will be less disappointing.

Be critical (批判的) of your own thoughts

Stoicism asks you to consider whether your thinking is actually real. In fact, you often tell yourselves a lot of things during a day, many of which aren’t true or helpful. This can sound like “I’ll never meet someone” or “I did a terrible job at my meeting and now my team hate me.”    4    .

Write it down and act on it

    5    . Getting into the habit of writing anything down that feels meaningful, inspiring, or helpful will push you to realize these thoughts.” In addition, the act of writing things down can help you realize what you really want in life, which may promote inner happiness.

【推荐3】Using money earned (挣得) from her first part-time job, Sofi Cruz from Conway, South Carolina, brought one of her classmates to tears (眼泪) with a wonderful gift in the new school year. Sofi says her friend Jahiem has always been that one student who does all of his work perfectly and never misses school, always helping teachers in class, and always being a happy human being.

Jahiem had said that he needed new shoes and Sofi said she had been wanting to get him something special for a while. So one day, Sofi pulled her newly earned money together and bought a pair of shoes for her best classmate.

She surprised Jahiem in class one day ,approaching(走近) his desk slowly with a bag.“I’ve known you for a very long time -since third grade. And you are very special to me, Sofi told Jahiem.

“You are a very good friend to me. And, since I got a job, I’ve been thinking about getting something special for somebody, and this is for you,”she said, handing him the bag. Jahiem opened the bag and found a shoebox with new shoes inside. She also gave him a pair of socks to go with his new shoes.

The unexpected act of kindness completely moved Jahiem. He began crying, resting his head on the shoebox in disbelief. Sofi walked around his desk and gave him a hug(拥抱). Another classmate helped record the moment.

“Seeing him crying was very emotional( 激动的), ”Sofi wrote in a Facebook post that has since been shared 1,800 times.“I am so thankful to know that giving Jahiem those shoes made him so happy and allowed me to realize that giving someone something so special can be life-changing.

After drying his tears of happiness,Jahiem proudly sported his brand-new shoes, gifted to him with love.