As humans, we’re meant to be social creatures. In fact, being socially connected is key to our mental and emotional health.
People aren’t thinking about you—at least not to the degree that you think.
You don’t have to be perfect to be liked. In fact, our imperfections can be pleasant.
It’s okay to make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes; it’s part of being human.
Overcoming social fear requires practice. Don’t expect to become socially comfortable without putting in the time. That said, you can start small. Take baby steps towards being more confident and social, and then build on those successes.
A.So give yourself a break when you mess up. |
B.Most people are caught up in their own lives. |
C.The good news is that you can learn from them. |
D.People are much more confident than you think. |
E.Even our weaknesses can bring us closer to others. |
F.Many other people feel just as awkward and nervous as you do. |
G.Yet many of us are shy and feel awkward around unfamiliar people. |
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【推荐1】Test taking can be difficult, and many people have problems taking tests even if they studied well. Test taking skills are developed over time, but having good study habits and always attending class benefit the test taker. There are several tips for becoming a better test taker, but it’s best to do what is most helpful for you.
Take any practice exams available for the test.
Go to study tables and review classes that are typically offered before major college exams.
Go into the exam feeling prepared. During the test, make sure to pace yourself and not to think about the time limit. Read each question twice. If you’re stuck on a question or problem for more than five minutes, move on to the next question.
Ask questions if you’re not sure about how a question is worded or if you’re having any other difficulty understanding the question. As long as you’re not directly asking for the answer, some explanation from professors will help to guarantee you answer correctly. Finally, go through your answers if you finish early.
A.Make sure to come back to the question later. |
B.Review the entire test to double-check for errors. |
C.Ask your professors if they have time to help you. |
D.Make sure your notes are carefully made in notebooks. |
E.Study all your notes and learning guides before the test. |
F.Inform your professor if you can’t make it to a review session. |
G.Some professors may let you take much practice before the exams. |
【推荐2】How to develop self-discipline (自律)
Face the reality
It’s easy for us to make excuses for ourselves or show ourselves in a better way than our actual situation.
Set clear goals
We have to keep in mind where we want to go and what we want to finish. If we don’t set clear goals, we’ll float around like feathers in the wind. Then show these goals where you will see them every day.
No one likes to sleep in more than I do. I am entirely a night owl (夜猫子). However, when I’m in the habit of getting up early, I am much more disciplined and productive. Getting up early doesn’t give us the ability to create miracles, but it does help us start our day’s work in a focused way.
Do the small things
Keep track of your progress
It’s pointless to have goals if you aren’t measuring whether or not you are moving toward them. Like I said, I need to update my spreadsheet every day. When I don’t track my progress, I stop doing things I need to do and become lazy. It’s easy to lack discipline when you lose focus on where you’re going.
A.Get up early |
B.But if we want to change |
C.And when I breathe deeply |
D.I ended up in bed for six weeks |
E.We all want big changes to happen quickly |
F.Several years ago, I wanted to lose 20 pounds |
G.Keeping track helps you stay in the right direction |
【推荐3】Do you want to be excited about your day? Do you want to go through your day with enthusiasm?
Have something to be grateful for.
You can’t be excited about your day if you are complaining. You need to build an attitude of gratitude. To build it, find something to be grateful for and fill your mind with it.
You could start with something simple that you might take for granted, such as living in peace or being healthy.
Have something to look forward to.
What is the answer in your case? Having a cause that matters to you will help you a lot here.
Manage your energy.
While the two points above can help you start your day with enthusiasm, they might not be enough to sustain (支撑) you throughout the day. For this, you need to manage your energy.
A.This includes both your physical and mental energy. |
B.After that, you should expect yourself to learn new things. |
C.If you want to be enthusiastic, you should try to be grateful. |
D.It will give you a sense of purpose as you go through your day. |
E.While I still have a lot to improve, I’m often excited about my day. |
F.Next, you should have something to look forward to during your day. |
G.In addition, focus on the positive side of things, even for seemingly bad things that happened. |