People disagree about meaningful and small matters on a daily basis. Sometimes you know if you speak your mind you will upset someone. However, you often must express your opinion even if you know others will disagree. By choosing your words carefully you can avoid a long-term offense(冒犯) .
“Ask people about their perspective (观点). Before being honest about how you feel, it’s important to know their perspective. This gives you a chance to show genuine interest and have a conversation.
·Put yourself in their shoes. One of the simplest ways to avoid hurting feelings is to imagine how they will respond to your statements.
·
·Be polite in your responses. Whenever you try to avoid hurting others it is best to speak with kindness. Simple acts of kindness can make a big difference. They convey respect and show that you value the other person. This situation isn’t all about you speaking your mind.
·Express your perspective as opinion, not fact. This shows you value their perspective, even if you know the facts back you up. If they have an open mind, facts will change their perspective. If they do not have an open mind, facts will feel like personal attacks.
A.They have a right to be incorrect. |
B.It’s about them feeling valued. |
C.Control your words and body language. |
D.If they said that to you, would you be upset? |
E.Listening to others’ opinion is a very powerful way. |
F.Use facts and try to avoid letting your emotions run high. |
G.This may also give you opportunities to speak up and be honest. |
相似题推荐
【推荐1】An allowance (零用钱)is an important tool for teaching kids how to budget, save and make their own decisions.Children remember and learn from mistakes when their own dollars are lost or spent foolishly.
How large an allowance is proper? Experts say there is not right amount.Actual amounts differ from area to area, and from family to family.To set a right amount of allowance for your child, work up a weekly budget- Allow for entertainment expenditure such as movies and snacks.' Next, include everyday expenses such as lunch money, bus fare, and school supplies.“If you make the child responsible for these 4 bills',” says Josephine Swanson, a consumer (消费者)specialist,“he or she will learn to budget for necessary expenditure.”
Finally, add some extra money to make saving possible.If you can, keep your child's allowance in line with that of his or her friends.A child whose purchasing (购买)power falls away below his or her friends' can feel left out.
It can be hard, but avoid excusing your children when they make a mistake with their allowance.When Brooke Stephens was ten and growing up in Jacksonville, her mother gave her $5 a week, 1 - 75 of which was for bus fare and lunch.“If you lose your money,”Brooke's mother told her,“you walk home.”One week the girl spent all her allowance in a candy store; then she called home for a ride.“ Mom made me walk home, ” recalled Stephens,now a financial (财务)planner in Brooklyn.“At first I was angry.But I finally realized that she was trying to teach me an important lesson.”
Experts advise that an allowance should not be tied directly to a child's daily chores.Kids should help around the house not because they get paid for it but because they share responsibilities as members of a family.You might, however, pay a child for doing extra jobs at home.That can develop his or her initiative (主动性).
1. What is the passage mainly about?A.How to work up a budget. |
B.How to teach children to save money. |
C.How to teach children to manage money matters. |
D.How Lo develop the initiative of teenage children. |
A.The act of spending money. |
B.An organized journey. |
C.Belief about the future. |
D.Something extremely expensive. |
A.More than the amount of the kid's fellows. |
B.Not less than the amount of the kid's fellows. |
C.Almost equal amount with kids in other areas. |
D.Almost equal amount with kids in other schools. |
A.To show Brooke's parents are both too mean. |
B.To suggest parents be strict on kids' allowance. |
C.To question the opinions of the experts. |
D.To explain why allowance is necessary for kids. |
【推荐2】Do you feel like you’re always dealing with problems when it comes to work, relationships, health, or finances? Are you tired of feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and like your problems never seem to go away?
Manage Your Time Wisely
Make the most of your 24 hours without feeling like you’re in a never-ending race against the clock. In order to take control of your time and use it wisely, you need to start prioritizing your tasks. Determine what needs your immediate attention and what can wait.
Develop a Solution-focused Mindset
Practice Assertiveness (果断)
Being assertive means having the courage to speak your truth, share your opinions, and defend your needs while equally valuing the perspectives and needs of others.
Adopt a Comprehensive Approach to Wellness
Look at your well-being from a 360 perspective: mind, body, and spirit.
A.Acknowledge the problem. |
B.Lengthen your working hours. |
C.Life throws challenges as well as opportunities to you. |
D.It’s recognized that these elements are interconnected. |
E.This habit encourages open and honest communication. |
F.Identify activities that consume time but deliver low value. |
G.Most people underestimate how much power they have to fix problems. |
【推荐3】In our modern world, high pressure of work and life has led to the practice of social distancing, creating feelings of stress and isolation in many of us. Some people have been hit particularly hard, including the elderly, parents occupied with work and child care, and students who have lots of homework.
New research suggests that volunteers aren’t just helping the communities.
Why does volunteering support our mental health? Firstly, volunteering appears to be really rewarding-when we help others, we tend to experience what researchers call a “warm glow. ” Secondly, volunteering is likely to help boost our sense of social connection, which is particularly true for older adults.
A.Instead of stressing its mental advantages |
B.To get a sense of how large the benefits are |
C.They also experience improvement in their mental health |
D.Volunteering can be a way to benefit our whole well-being |
E.Thirdly, people who started to volunteer became happier over time |
F.Finally, volunteering can help build professional skills and leadership |
G.Against this backdrop, many people turn to volunteering to make a difference |
In order to fit in and make friends in a new school, Amanda observed how her classmates behaved and interacted with each other. Gradually, she perfectly adopted the mannerisms of the classmates around her, laughing at their jokes, nodding in agreement with their opinions, hiding herself into someone she thought others wanted her to be. We’ve all done these. This is social masking, the process of holding back or hiding our natural way of interacting with others so we can feel accepted.
In a world that often tells us to just be ourselves, you might wonder why many of us rely on social masking. “Social masking happens because we as a species want to be included,” says psychologist Dipti Tait. “It’s a tribal (群体的) thing of being together rather than being on our own. We all have certain masks to protect ourselves from exposure and difference.” While masking can help us deal with social situations, it can also come with negative consequences. Hiding our behaviours and interests constantly can lead to a strong feeling of separation, disconnection, and internal conflict. As a result, we may experience a heightened and increased possibility of developing depression as westruggle to understand social situations and signs that others take for granted.
Fortunately, a mask is not our own skin. We may feel extremely tired after social engagements and want to spend time alone in order to feel like ourselves. “The goal is to feel safe enough to remove the mask,” says Tait. “It’s crucial for individuals to receive acceptance and support for who they are, rather than feeling like they need to hide their true selves in order to fit in.”
1. What is social masking?2. Why do many of us rely on social masking?
3. Please decide which part is false in the following statement, then underline it and explain why.
When people struggle to understand social situations that others consider normal, they will feel less depressed.
4. In addition to masking, what else can you do to fit in when you are in a new environment? (In about 40 words)
【推荐2】Everyone has to deal with people they disagree with at times. Here are some ways to help you make it.
Stay calm and objective. It can be hard not to personalize something. Oftentimes when talking over disagreements, you may have the urge to win an argument.
Listen to others patiently. Do not interrupt when someone else is speaking. Truly listen to what another person says and try to understand them while you’re listening.
Change the subject. You would especially want to change the subject when dealing with a disagreement in the workplace. Actually, you can do it in any situation.
Look for agreement.
A.Avoid negative body language. |
B.It doesn’t help resolve disagreements. |
C.Try to understand other people’s real meanings. |
D.However, body language can be unconscious as well. |
E.You can also ask them not to cut in when it’s your turn. |
F.For example, some coworkers may bring up a sensitive topic. |
G.Even someone whose opinions are different from yours may share certain core values. |
【推荐3】To dozens of kindergartners in Southwest China's Chongqing Municipality, it was as if Italian cook Franco Bergamino was performing a “magic show.” He was greeted by waves of oohs and ahhs as the kids watched him magically turn dough, egg, sugar and fruit into artwork.
The scene was part of the activities of the 2021 World Week of Italian Cuisine's Chongqing station. The sixth edition of the World Week of Italian Cuisine was held in late November in several cities across China. The event aimed to fully present the Italian cooking tradition and bring a real Italian taste.
“This year's event stressed tradition and sustainability(可持续性). Both are also the Italian diet spirit,which is to use simple ingredients to make nutritious diet,” said Guido Bilancini, Consul General of Italy in Chongqing. More than 17 restaurants, bars, hotels and supermarkets in southwestern Chinese cities including Chongqing, Chengdu and Guiyang participated in this year's event.
Salvatore Portoghese owns a Western-style restaurant in Chongqing. “What I've been trying to do is to bring diners in Chongqing a real taste of my hometown,” said Portoghese. He is devoted to combining local ingredients with traditional Italian cuisine. At this year's food week, he used jam made of locally-grown pumpkins to replace the traditional ketchup(番茄酱)to make a Burrata Cheese pizza, a typical Italian food.
The Mediterranean-style diet, emphasizing plenty of fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains and healthy fats, is catching on among Chinese food lovers. Even in the southwestern region where local cuisine is noted for distinctive spicy and pungent flavors and abundant use of oil and seasonings, a Mediterranean-style diet is favored by many youngsters pursuing a healthier lifestyle.
“Food is about connection and sharing. We believe the holding of such an event can help China and Italy explore more cooperation opportunities in areas where common interests lie,” said Bilancini.
1. Why does the writer mention the “magic show” in the first paragraph?A.To show off the Italian chefs. | B.To introduce the Italian food week. |
C.To attract more children to Italian food. | D.To stress the importance of healthy diet. |
A.Developing various new food. | B.Bringing Italian food to the world. |
C.Making healthy food with simple materials. | D.Absorbing all cooking methods worldwide. |
A.Unique taste. | B.Rich nutrition. | C.Affordable price. | D.Attractive appearance. |
A.The food week will be held worldwide. | B.Italian traditional food is well received. |
C.Food week will help China and Italy cooperate more. | D.Cooks should explore their cooking skills regularly. |