Nowadays, we live in a strict and judgmental world where people are quick to point out the faults of others and yet seem to ignore their own ones. Some misguided souls believe they have a moral duty to help you be a better person telling you what a failure you really are.
If you’re the one placing criticism upon others, please stop. Make a conscious decision, rather than focus on the negative aspect of a person’s performance or attitudes, and you can offer helpful suggestions. If I’m painting a living room and making a mess in doing so, I’d have any husband say to me, “This is a tough job. Can I offer a suggestion that might make it easier for you?” rather than have him point out what a careless painter I am.
If you’re on the receiving end of criticism, the “OK” response is a perfect solution. When someone comments negatively on a task you’re doing, the natural response is to defend and attack. However, this approach is rarely effective as it puts both parties on the defensive. It diffuses a potentially explosive situation. It’s important to keep calm and listen without feeling, to be an objective observer. There is much that one can learn from a negative review. You can ask yourself: Could I have done better, and been more thoughtful? Did I give 100% of myself to the task at hand? Is there any truth in what the other person says? If so, how can I improve?
In any event, one should remember the saying, “Stop judging and you will not be judged. Stop condemning (指责) and you will not be condemned.” One can learn to be “OK” with criticism and not allow it to negatively impact his or her relationship with the other party. Let it go and that will be “OK”.
1. What does the author want to show through the example in Paragraph 2?A.Praise is more important than criticism. | B.It’s hard to avoid making mistakes. |
C.We ought to accept others’ criticism. | D.Pointing out a fault needs a skill. |
A.Paying no attention to it. | B.Learning something from it. |
C.Making excuses for your mistakes. | D.Defending and attacking sometimes. |
A.spreads | B.improves | C.reduces | D.conveys |
A.Is criticism really necessary? | B.What can you learn from criticism? |
C.What’s the best way to voice criticism? | D.How to criticize and reply to criticism? |
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【推荐1】Think of your energy as a limited resource, like money in an account and follow these tips to increase your energy and live a happier, healthier, more productive life.
Eat nourishing (有营养的) food. A balanced diet high in fruits and vegetables, lean protein, low-fat dairy and whole grains is what you need for optimal energy.
Sleep seven to eight hours a night.
Keep company with good people.
Think good thoughts for others. Maintaining a compassionate mindset is another way to conserve energy. One example of practicing this way of thinking is called kind attention. For example, try to make eye contact with a stranger and smile, while thinking“I wish you well.”
A.Do something meaningful each day. |
B.After all, you really are what you eat to some extent. |
C.This positive act can, instead, keep you from judging that person. |
D.Take note of the times when your energy levels tend to be the highest. |
E.Getting more sleep seems to be a healthy habit many people need to improve on. |
F.Maximize the amount of time that you spend with people you enjoy being around. |
G.Exercise helps your body to work more efficiently during other physical activities. |
【推荐2】If you think your vocabulary is weak, a little effort every day over six to nine months can go a long way in improving it. Here are some tips for increasing your vocabulary.
Make it a habit to read a new book every week. It is not surprising that those who read a lot of books develop good vocabulary.
Watching English movies and television shows. It is important for improving English and learning new English words. It’s an interesting way to add the number of your vocabulary.
Use vocabulary cards. Vocabulary cards are used by students who are trying to learn many words in a short time. You can make your own cards by writing the word on one side and the meaning on the other side of a piece of paper.
Use the Internet. The Internet is an unlimited (无限制的) resource for reading material.
A.You can consider becoming a member of the local library. |
B.Flash cards are a convenient tool to use to learn new words in your free time. |
C.You cannot learn English well without enough vocabulary. |
D.Pick up a topic of your choice and search for articles about it. |
E.You should develop your own way of learning vocabulary. |
F.Besides, by doing this you can learn the correct pronunciation as well. |
G.Read the newspaper every day. |
【推荐3】Photography for me has always been a key. It opens up doors, gives me an excuse to travel with more purpose, and lets me see behind the scenes.
What is my advice to beginners? I didn’t study photography; I’m not formally trained;
Do I have a good camera? Yes, but some people still think that the photos I post from my phone were taken on that camera, so don’t confuse a good device with being a good photographer.
A.Let the story guide you. |
B.I have virtually no art experience. |
C.Like anything, photography requires practice. |
D.Photography becomes an incredible drive to explore. |
E.Some of my favorite photographers just use their phone. |
F.It also helps to slip out of awkward small talk at parties. |
G.I feel deeply connected with whatever is captured through my camera lens. |
【推荐1】When I was so small that my head barely touched the windowsill, we lived in the ever-green forests of Vermont. Our home was far, far away from any town or city, but that was the way we liked it.
Some winters, it got so cold that the river would freeze, which was unusual for water like that, water which ran so fast and deep. It felt as though time had stopped near the river, and so it had decided to become solid, settling in to wait for spring. We liked to skate on that river, my grandfather and I, even though the ice was uneven and his brown leather skates was so old.
One night, in the most frigid winter my young mind could recall, long after I should have been asleep, I caught my grandfather sneaking out of the front door, his ancient leather skates in his hands. He looked sheepish when he saw me, like I had caught him doing something silly, but I was so young that I thought no adult could ever do wrong. Especially not my grandfather, because he was the model of wisdom in my eyes.
“Grandpa, where are you going?” I asked.
“Skating on the river.”
“Why would you go out now? We did that yesterday morning.”
He looked a little thoughtful, and then he said: “It’s just that when you go out there, on the coldest, stillest night of the year, and you lie on your back on the thick, bubbled river ice, you can hear them.”
“Hear who?”
“The fish. Trapped there under the ice. You can hear them singing their water y winter song. And if you hold your breath, you can almost hear the stars singing in harmony.”
1. What does the underlined word “sheepish” probably mean in Paragraph 3?A.Calm. | B.Quiet. | C.Frightened. | D.Embarrassed. |
A.To breathe some fresh air in the forest. |
B.To enjoy the charm of a peaceful night. |
C.To catch the fish trapped under the ice. |
D.To perfect his skating skills by practice. |
A.I admired my grandfather for his wisdom. |
B.My grandfather likes to singing with stars |
C.Skating on the uneven ice is our favourite sport. |
D.A fast-flowing river has never frozen in midwinter. |
A.To describe the joy of fisting in the wild. |
B.To highlight how embracing nature can purify us. |
C.To explain why skating is such an appealing sport. |
D.To record the good relationship with his grandfather. |
【推荐2】Do you really know who you are? This is not a trick question but rather an honest understanding into the inner workings of each one of us. We usually share with our friends a piece of who we are, the piece that we want them to like or connect with. However, there is a secret, a hidden piece that doesn’t want to be noticed by others.
Our personal inner beliefs play a vital role in the way we think, act and live. They set us up to accept a belief and then it is the belief that separates our personal story. There are numerous people who have taken on the pain and suffering of their parents. Some have devoted their lives to living with lack; that is lack of love because they saw what they thought was love while in the crib(婴儿床) and it frightened them. Subconsciously(潜意识地) they made great efforts in their lives to avoid a similar experience.
Each one of us carries around with us our inner beliefs. If one of your beliefs is one that causes you to hold back from getting the perfect job or blocking love to come to you, that belief is a negative belief and one that needs to be dealt with if you are seeking a life of joy, contentment and personal success, whether it is emotional, spiritual, financial or physical.
Do not let your blocked or frozen emotions guide the way you want to lead your life. Now it is your time to finally become victorious over those past situations that have upset you during your entire life and become the winner you were born to be.
1. What is the author’s purpose with a question at the beginning?A.To explain who we are really. |
B.To introduce the main topic. |
C.To show the author’s opinion. |
D.To persuade people to share inner beliefs. |
A.shape us |
B.block love to come |
C.shouldn’t be hidden |
D.make us sad and painful |
A.The love to come. |
B.The negative belief. |
C.The past painful experience. |
D.The life of joy, contentment and personal success. |
A.Sharing our inner beliefs with others. |
B.Ignoring blocked or frozen emotions. |
C.Dealing with our negative inner beliefs wisely. |
D.Having a deep understanding of our inner beliefs. |
【推荐3】It may be the holiday season, but the spirit of peace and good will has not infected the streets of Los Angeles. More drivers seem to be rolling through stop signs and running red lights than ever before. Everyone seems to be in a terrible hurry.
Why is everyone in such a hurry? Where are they rushing to?
I think perhaps the answer lies in answering this question: What does that round of parties and meeting and mad rushing from place to place allow all of us to avoid confronting? T think the answer is clear- ourselves.
There is an experiment where subjects had to choose between being alone with themselves and their thoughts for approximately 15 minutes and receiving electric shocks. The majority chose the shocks-a reflection of how painful, frightening,threatening,confusing,boring(!),you name it... we find being alone with just ourselves and our thoughts.
Our desire not to be with our innermost thoughts is so great that we create and find distractions. In the car, we can make phone calls or listen to music. We live in a world of endless opportunities for distraction.
I understand the desire. Life is hard. Growing is a painfully slow process. To keep moving requires determination and strength - and giving up seems so much easier (as do those electric shocks!) We may win some battles, but the war is never over. Sometimes we are just too tired to fight and just need that music or that book to relax. I just instinctively(本能地)tun on the radio when I get in the car; I don't even give the quiet a moment to sink in.
But it's time for a reality check; otherwise we slip into an avoidance mode. It's challenging. But let's make a change. Instead of rushing from house to car to meeting to groceries to... let's take a moment to stop and think before each activity. What do I want to achieve now? And what is the best way to do that? Maybe I could think of ways to grow.
1. Why does the author mention drivers on the streets of Los Angeles?A.To describe a strong holiday atmosphere. |
B.To present a unique social situation in America. |
C.To raise his question on why people are in a rush. |
D.To show that it's time to improve road safety in America. |
A.They found the innermost thoughts great. |
B.They enjoyed being alone with themselves. |
C.They refused painful and threatening distractions. |
D.They wanted to find opportunities for distraction. |
A.They should be more courageous. |
B.Their attitude to life was unexpected. |
C.Their behavior was understandable. |
D.They should refuse to take part in the experiment |
A.Fighting distractions. |
B.Being with ourselves. |
C.Reviewing our mistakes. |
D.Rushing from place to place |
【推荐1】Aging is often mentioned in relation to smart homes. Technology can help older people stay independent and safe, and avoid the difficult transition to institutional care. Cox Communications display their new smart home in which every device is “smart”. A strong internet connection is central to their product, and the company also provides a network for other service providers.
The smart home is not only controlled far away, this home — called Home Life — also features direct connections to family members and health professionals. For example, a person can perform their physiotherapy (物理疗法) far away from home with online live guidance from a physiotherapist. Or, their relatives who live in another state can pop in and out through their smartphone or tablet, so the loved ones are always there if required.
This super smart home also includes a smart pill container, a smart pot to water your plants, and motion sensors for indoors and outdoors which are useful for fall detection, as well as an automatic barcode scanner (条码扫描仪) linked to the home trash can so that the packaging gets scanned when it is thrown and the consumed items are added to the user’s shopping list.
In a modern smart home, many activities that are important to independent living can be monitored, and assistance is provided on an as-needed basis. If something is out of place — for example, a person has an accidental fall or doesn’t take their medicine — family can be informed immediately. However, the person living in the smart home maintains his or her autonomy and sense of independence.
1. What is the advantage of Home Life?A.Efficiency in shopping. | B.Remote access to physicians. |
C.Safety protection of home from danger. | D.Kids’ development of independence. |
A.take an order | B.stand out | C.turn up | D.leave a message |
A.Seniors forgetting the medicine. | B.Teenagers being late for school. |
C.Rooms being locked for privacy. | D.Wet floors causing people to fall. |
A.A Family-friendly Remote Control | B.Smart Home Benefiting the Seniors |
C.Aging Resolved in the Community | D.Seniors’ Home-based Online Connection |
【推荐2】Laugh is infectious. The sound of roaring laughter is far more infectious than any cough or yawn. When laughter is shared, it unites people together and increases happiness and understanding. In addition to “the domino effect” of joy and amusement, laughter also produces healthy physical changes in the body. Humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, improve your energy, reduce pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.
Laughter is a powerful cure to stress, pain, and disagreement. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh after a quarrel. Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and ready to act.
With so many advantages, the ability to laugh easily and frequently is a great resource for defeating problems, improving your relationships, and supporting both physical and emotional health.
More than just a break from sadness and pain, laughter gives you the courage and strength to find new sources of meaning and hope. Even in the most difficult times, a laugh-or even simply a smile-can go a long way toward making you feel better. And laughter is really infectious-just hearing laughter trains your brain to smile and join in on the fun.
Laughter is your birthright and a natural part of life. Infants begin smiling during the first weeks of life and laugh out loud within months of being born. Even if you did not grow up in a family where laughter was a common sound, you can learn to laugh at any stage of life.
Begin by setting aside special times to seek out humor and laughter, as you might with working out, and build from there. Eventually, you’ll want to add humor and laughter into your life, finding it naturally in everything you do.
1. In the passage, “the domino effect” means ______.A.laughter can bring some unexpected results like cold |
B.physical changes will be influenced without laughter |
C.laughter causes other similar positive changes to happen |
D.the sound of roaring laughter sounds like the sound of falling cards |
A.It makes others regard you as a humorous and attractive person. |
B.People of different languages can communicate by it. |
C.A person takes it more easily than other kinds of medicine. |
D.It wastes no money and it can be reached in any time and any place. |
A.Keep silent and go out of the room slowly. |
B.Give a smile or laugh from the heart. |
C.Play a trick on the other one at once. |
D.Give up one’s opinion and accept the other’s. |
A.Laughter stands for a positive attitude and inspires you. |
B.Laughter strengthens a person’s heart and cures patients. |
C.People should learn to escape from the sad and painful world. |
D.People should often make trips to find chances of laughing. |
A.How to choose courses to equip you with rich knowledge. |
B.How to create chances to make you enjoy the benefit of laugh. |
C.How to make your spare time or after-school activities colorful. |
D.How to become a humorous person to make you like a gentleman. |
“This shows that Chinese women are more used to the Chinese education mode, the report said. Chinese women use their gift of language to gain success.”
However, Chinese mainlanders English proficiency ranked second to last in Asia, despite the great time and effort that many people invest in learning the language, the report said, China’s mainland is ranked the 36th in the index of 54 countries and regions where English is not the native language. That’s down by seven places comparing with that last year. The Chinese mainland belongs to the low-proficiency tier(低水平层次) and is ranked just above Thailand in Asia. This year’s index has increased the weight of listening tests, while decreasing the importance of grammar and vocabulary exams, which partly caused the ranking change, researchers said. Moreover, test-oriented(以考试为目的) and rote-based(死记硬背)learning methods often used in China hurt the language skills of Chinese students, education experts said.
The study compared test scores of more than 1.7 million adults in the 54 countries and regions. Sweden, Denmark and the Netherlands have the best command of English, while Libya has the lowest English proficiency level. European countries generally performed well. But Italy, Spain and Portugal, some of the countries at the heart of the euro zone crisis, are being dragged down by poor English, according to the report. Singapore is 12th, the best in Asia, followed by Malaysia and India, South Korea; at 21st, and Japan, at 22nd, performed disappointingly low despite their focus on education; the report said.
One in every four people frequently uses English at work on China’s mainland, nevertheless nearly 15 percent said they never use English, lower than the world average level, according to the study.
1. What is EF Education?
A.It is a language test organization. |
B.It is an English teaching school. |
C.It is a language training company. |
D.It is an organization studying human. |
A.Cheating. | B.Gift. |
C.Learning by heart. | D.Asking for help. |
A.Chinese mainlanders’ English proficiency ranked second in the index of 54 countries and regions. |
B.Chinese mainlanders’ English proficiency ranked 29th last year. |
C.The Chinese mainland belongs to the mid proficiency tier. |
D.This year’s index has increased the weight of grammar and vocabulary exams. |
A.Denmark > India > Japan > Singapore > Libya |
B.Denmark > Japan > Singapore > India > Libya |
C.India>Japan > Denmark > Singapore > Libya |
D.Denmark > Singapore > India > Japan > Libya |