【推荐1】How to Start a Garden

Having a garden at home adds color and life to your yard and also rewards you with fresh fruits, veggies, and herbs.    1    We’ll cover what you need to start a successful garden and give you the step-by-step guide to getting your plants in the ground.

Choose a location that gets direct sunlight.

Pick a well-draining spot that gets at least 6 hours of direct sunlight. Try to avoid parts of your yard that have puddles (水坑) after it rains.    2    It also helps to choose a garden spot that’s mostly level and open, so you don’t have to work around trees or shrubs.

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Plan on growing veggies or herbs you like to eat. You want to be able to enjoy your harvest! Some of the easiest veggies to grow include tomatoes, potatoes, beans, cucumbers, leafy greens, lettuce, and squash. Radishes, spinach, and carrots are also easy plants that grow really quickly.

Get the basic tools and supplies you need.

Buy a shovel, rake, and hose or watering can. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you’re shopping for garden supplies—there are so many tools!    4     At a minimum, you’ll need a shovel for digging, a rake for leveling the soil, and a hose or watering can for watering your plants.    5    

【推荐2】People-pleasing behavior can lead to mental and physical health problems such as fear of rejection, anger, headaches or high blood pressure. It can result in weak boundaries, problems with decision-making, low self-worth, dependency, and low competence.     1    . You can achieve it by consistently integrating the following strategies in life.

·Practice being alone.

Learn to love your own company. Trust that people will not abandon you, even if you don’t drop everything for them.     2    . That means that people will still be there for you even if you have not searched for ways to do something to please them. Practice this by going to a movie or restaurant alone.

·Make a decision by yourself.

Map out your options without gathering input from others or overthinking. Remind yourself that you don’t have to please everyone with your decisions, just yourself.     3    . If someone else has an opinion, it’s their responsibility to state it, not your responsibility to mind read.

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If you’re a people-pleaser, you may find it hard to decline because you feel it comes across as cruel or uncaring. But it absolutely does not have to. Confident and mindful communication is more honest and can be done in a firm yet respectful way. Try statements like: “I would really love to be able to help you, but unfortunately, I’m already committed to something else.”

·Turn to internal appreciation.

Remind yourself about your positive qualities instead of waiting for others to notice. Reflect on your day and give yourself positive feedback or do something nice for yourself. People-pleasers look to the outside world for approval.     5    .