It’s common for parents to feel emotional when the moment comes for their child to leave home and go to university. Even parents who don’t speak about the event are likely to feel a sense of sadness because it’s the end of an era when you and your family were at the centre of your child's world. As a parent you’ll probably continue to support your child in different ways, but the main job of raising your child is over. It's a huge change for everyone involved.
There are a few things that you can do to make the transition easier. Plan carefully for your child's departure and think about how you can help. Many parents take their child to university for the first time. If you decide to do that, be ready to feel a real wrench when the time comes to say goodbye. Your child will probably be as nervous as you are about the moment when you finally say goodbye – but that might not show!
Be positive and cheerful about the choice your child has made to continue studying, and plan to leave once you’ve unpacked the car and looked around your child’s new living accommodations. If you can, you’ll make things easier on your child and yourself.
The more you’ve invested in being a parent, the more you'll feel a sense of loss, so the sadness you feel now is a sign that you've been a good mom or dad. Remind yourself that parenting is all about raising an independent and confident child who functions well without you. If your child quickly settles and starts enjoying himself, you should congratulate yourself.
It’s also only fair to allow yourself some time to grieve (悲痛). Don't expect to pick yourself up and move on straight away. But you may decide to find a hobby or sport to fill your extra time. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to learn a new language, go to yoga classes or take up swimming. You may decide to spend more time with close friends, who are likely to be feeling the absence of your child as well.
Agree on the best approach to staying in touch before your child leaves, and stick to your agreement. Try not to panic if your child doesn’t respond immediately -- remember, they’re starting a new and busy life.
1. Why do parents feel sad when their child leaves home for college?A.Because the absence of their child makes them feel lonely. |
B.Because their children will start a new life in college. |
C.Because it means the end of love between parents and their child. |
D.Because they are no longer the main focus of their children’s life. |
A.sorrow | B.regret |
C.anger | D.love |
A.Supporting your child in different ways all the time. |
B.Preparing your child to stand on their own feet in the future. |
C.Congratulating yourself when your child goes to college. |
D.Investing as much as possible in the growth of your child. |
A.Spend more time with close friends. |
B.Learn a new language, go to yoga classes or take up swimming. |
C.Keep grieving for their leaving. |
D.Find a hobby or sport to fill your extra time. |
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【推荐1】Today we will explore effective and ineffective ways to study for tests. You might learn that some study habits you used in the past might not be the best methods.
Rereading and highlighting (划重点) are common strategies that you will see in schools around the world. Students look at information they have already read in an effort to remember what is important. Students often combine (结合) rereading with highlighting. They underline important information in what they read.
Both rereading and highlighting are ineffective study tools. While better than not studying at all, they are not as useful as other habits. For example, with rereading, it’s maybe not that effective because you are not trying to actively get the information back. With rereading, what is going to happen is that it is going to feel like you already know the information because you’ve already read it. So, you have this sense of fluency that is leading you to think “OK, yes, I know the information.”
The problem with highlighting is that students have a false sense of understanding-similar to when they reread information. Also, there is a second problem that comes with highlighting. Students aren’t always aware of what the most important information is. So it’s possible that they are maybe highlighting details that aren’t as important as the higher level concepts.
So what should you do if rereading and highlighting are not the best ways to study for a test? One idea is to test yourself. Simple flashcards and practice exams can be helpful when you want to make sure that you have learned something.
Another strategy is to practice remembering the new information over time, instead of doing everything all at once. Regardless of which strategy you choose, you should know that effective learning takes time and it takes effort.
The next time you have a test coming, try to plan for the big day so that you can give yourself time to develop different study habits. And remember, rereading and highlighting are better than not studying at all, but there are better methods out there!
1. What does paragraph 3 mainly talk about?A.What to reread before tests. |
B.Why rereading is not a useful study habit. |
C.How to actively get the information back. |
D.How to combine rereading with highlighting. |
A.Putting all your efforts into it. | B.Doing exercises every day. |
C.Doing self-examinations. | D.Making sure to learn something. |
A.They are better than nothing. | B.They will lead to failure. |
C.They will be replaced | D.They are useless and harmful. |
A.No Pains, No Gains |
B.Avoid Ineffective Study Methods |
C.Take Measurevs Only When in Urgency |
D.Advantages of Common Review Methods |
【推荐2】You're growing up. That means you're probably experiencing lots of changes,all at once. Your body is changing. It might even seem as if your entire self is changing. It can be confusing and even scary.
Growing up means that you can do more,learn more,and start to make your mark on the world. In order for that to happen, your body produces chemicals called hormones that help both body and mind grow. Hormone levels change constantly,rising and falling.
Because of the way your brain develops,it is somewhat ruled by emotions now and through your teen years. As a result, growing up can seem like an emotional roller coaster!
●Take care of yourself. If you eat right,sleep enough,and get good exercise,your brain will be much more able to deal with the stress.
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●Practice relaxing your body and deep breathing when you wake up and when you go to bed.
A.Find a peaceful time to relax. |
B.But the truth is,it happens to every teen. |
C.Work out regularly to keep physically fit. |
D.This changing is needed for your body's development. |
E.It will help you fall asleep—and start the morning right. |
F.Here are a few things you can do to make the ride smoother. |
G.Usually,these feelings settle down when you realize what is going on. |
【推荐3】While there are numerous tools to help you determine your strengths, try starting with these questions. Be as honest, clear, and objective as possible.
What are your top three qualities or strengths?
What do you do every day? Most people tend to spend time on the things they like to do rather than the things they don’t like.
What is one mistake you keep repeating? Albert Einstein is known to have described insanity (精神错乱) as doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. Are you caught in the insanity trap? For me, it was making bread. For years I tried to get my dough (面团) to rise into a nice cottony loaf.
A.Every time I created a hard rock |
B.The first step is to ask for advice |
C.What do you like to talk about |
D.What do other people say about you |
E.You’ll find a lot of qualities are repeated |
F.The truth is we don’t have to be good at everything |
G.It’s often the struggle between the two that causes problems, not the activities |
【推荐1】According to figures released by the Office for National Statistics (ONS), the U.K. has about 7.8 million families with dependent children, of which 3.7 million have just one child, compared to 3 million with two and 1.1 million with three children or more. The number of families today with just one dependent child is now 47 percent and will likely rise to more than 50 percent in a decade. As the ONS confirms, “It appears that families are getting smaller.”
One obvious reason for this could be that women are putting off having children until they have established careers when they are bound to be less fertile. But it could just as well be a matter of choice. Parents must consider the rising cost of living, combined with economic uncertainty and an increasingly difficult job market. And this trend may continue growing as having an only child becomes more normal, which seems to be the mood on the mothers’ online forum Mumsnet, where one member announced that she “just wanted to start a positive thread about how fab it is to have an only child”.
She had received 231 replies, overwhelmingly in the same upbeat spirit. Parents of only children insist there are plenty of benefits. Nicola Kelly, a writer and lecturer who grew up as an only child and is now a married mother of one, says her 15-year-old son seems more grown-up in many ways than his contemporaries.
Not all products of single-child families are as keen to repeat the experience. In a moving recent account journalist Janice Turner wrote about her own keenness to “squeeze out two sons just 22 months apart” as a reaction to her only-child upbringing.
She was placed on a pedestal by her doting parents, whom she punished with a “brattish, willful” rejection of everything they stood for. Desperate for a close friend she was repeatedly shattered by rejection and refers to her childhood as being “misery”.
Writer and clinician Dr. Dorothy Rowe, a member of the British Psychological Society, says that we all interpret events in our own individual way and there are some children who no matter what their circumstances feel slighted, while other children see the advantages of their situation.
However, the one part of life that is unlikely to get any easier for only children is when they grow up and find themselves looking after their own parents as they become older.
1. The passage is written with the purpose of ___________________.A.illustrating the strength and weakness of having an only child |
B.guiding people to look at the same issue from different perspectives |
C.analyzing the reasons why having an only child becomes popular |
D.presenting us with different opinions about having an only child |
A.Nearly half of families intend to have just one child. |
B.Some people fail to recognize the advantage of having an only child. |
C.All people don’t stand for the idea of having an only child. |
D.People brought up in an only child family resist downsizing the family. |
A.it’s necessary for us to look at the event from our own angle |
B.journalist Janice Turner experienced a miserable childhood |
C.she has a positive attitude towards Janice Turner’s reaction |
D.some are unable to make an objective assessment of their conditions |
【推荐2】The world of work is changing. Are people ready for the new job outlook? A survey of 15- year-olds across 41 countries by the OECD(经合组织) has found that teenagers may have unrealistic expectations about the kind of work that will be available.
Four of the five most popular choices are traditional professional roles: doctors, teachers, business managers and lawyers. Teenagers cluster around the most popular jobs, with the top ten being chosen by 47% of boys and 53% of girls.
This selection is partly due to wishful thinking on the part of those surveyed. Furthermore, teenagers can hardly be expected to have an in-depth knowledge of labour-market trends. They encounter doctors and teachers in their daily lives. Other popular professions, such as lawyers and police officers, are familiar from films and social media.
Some parts of the OECD survey are disturbing. More boys than girls expect to work in science or engineering. The problem continues in higher education; with the exception of biological and biomedical sciences, degrees in STEM Subjects (science, technology, engineering and maths ) are male-dominated. In America women earn just 35. 5% of undergraduate STEM degrees and 33. 7% of PhDs. Things are even worse in technology. In Britain only one in five computer-science university students is a woman. Women are underrepresented in some important fields of technology; they have only 12% of jobs in cloud computing, for example.
Women play a much bigger role in the health- and social-care sectors. The problem is that some of these jobs are not very well paid. Home-health and personal-care aides had median annual salaries in 2018 of just over 24,000. Some jobs in health care are extremely profitable, of course. But another gender imbalance emerges here: women make up only one-third of American health-care executives. In contrast, they tend to dominate the poorly paid social care workforce.
The biggest problem in the labour market, then, may not be that teenagers are focusing on a few well-known jobs. It could be a mismatch: not enough talented women move into technology and not enough men take jobs in social care. Any economist will recognise this as an inefficient use of resources. Wherever the root of the problem lies---be it the education system, government policy or corporate recruiting practices---it needs to be identified and fixed.
1. Many teenagers would like to choose some traditional jobs because_______.A.they are ready for these jobs |
B.these jobs are better known to them |
C.these jobs live up to their expectations |
D.they think these jobs are available to them |
A.In engineering |
B.In technology. |
C.In health care. |
D.In business. |
A.The mismatch of resources requires improving. |
B.Not enough men and women take jobs in society. |
C.Teenagers have unrealistic expectations about jobs. |
D.It's the education system that causes the problem in the labour market. |
A.Entertainment. | B.Education. |
C.Science. | D.Career. |
【推荐3】Do boys and girls really deal with people in different ways? With Leaper’s help, we carried out some tests that showed us yes.
We offered the kids brightly wrapped (包装) gifts which may be disappointing: socks and a pencil. The girls responded very politely. Courtney said happily, “Just what I need. Socks and a pencil!” Her words made me feel good, while the boys weren’t about to make me feel good. “What?” Raja said, “Socks and a pencil? Rip-off!” Jacob had a similar reaction.
Are boys and girls simply born different?
Susan Witt, at the University of Akron, says boys and girls respond differently in situations like these because we parent them differently.
Witt means parents and society treat kids differently. A famous study called “Baby X” designed by Phyllis Katz tested adults on how they treated babies based on what they thought the gender (性别) was. When adults thought they were holding a girl, they held her gently and gave her dolls. When they thought the baby was a boy, they offered him a football. In the 1970s, some people took this to argue boys and girls were born entirely the same, and they behaved differently only because parents and society taught them to. Now, however, it’s accepted that society and biology both create the difference.
Witt also offered a few tips for the parents of girls: Don’t help them so much. Research shows parents tend to help girls more than boys. This can make girls feel helpless and less confident.
In the case of the boys who were honest in our test, we saw that their parents gave them a lot of freedom to act out. “Maybe too much,” says Witt. Witt said Moms should discourage kids who scream out demands.
Finally, a caution (警告) about generalizing about gender. The differences between individuals are frequently bigger than differences between sexes. In our experiments, some girls did speak their mind, and some boys were very polite.
1. What was the boys’ reaction to the gifts in the test?A.They liked the gifts. |
B.They were very polite. |
C.They responded honestly. |
D.They tried to make others feel good. |
A.tested adults on how they treated babies based on their gender |
B.was designed to prove boys and girls are born different |
C.was designed by Phyllis Katz from the University of Akron |
D.proved that boys and girls are born entirely the same |
A.give them more freedom |
B.offer them more help |
C.control them a little more |
D.make them more confident |
A.The results of the experiments are confusing. |
B.There’s no need to notice the differences between the sexes. |
C.Differences between boys and girls aren’t true for all individuals. |
D.Differences between sexes are more important than those between individuals. |