How to save a friendship
Friends are like stars. Even if you don’t see them, you know they are there. And while a shooting star is a beautiful thing to observe, a dying friendship is one of the most painful things to experience. However, if you believe that it is worth trying to save it, then it is worth it. So if you are still moved by a friendship that has given you priceless moments and treasured memories, at least try to save it. While problems are unavoidable, if both of you see the value in saving what you have, focusing on fixing things may just be effective, and your connection may even come through this test stronger than before.
The moment you realize that the two of you have started growing apart, do something about it. Waiting will only bring about an unavoidable permanency of the loss of your friendship. Be prepared to be the one who makes the first steps; your friend may be laboring under the belief that it is something you have done to harm the friendship, so you shouldn’t wait around for them to solve things.
As life changes around us, friendship change too. However, changes in your life don’t mean that your life has to destroy your friendship. Talking openly about the changes is important, as well as accepting that the two of you have changed but still have space, love and respect for one another in your lives. If your friend has distanced himself or herself from you because of changes in your lives, take the chance to show that while life has changed, the importance of your friendship has not.
Make sure your friend has talked and listened, and both of you have looked for ways to reach compromises(和解)on the things that have weakened your friendship and set the relationship back on track. If you mean as much to this person as they mean to you, you will have at least made some progress in the right direction through mutual(彼此的)compromises in the end.
Once you have worked through the challenges facing your friendship and come to a shared solution, show your friend how much they mean to you. Start creating new memories and precious moments that will make the unpleasant page in your common history look insignificant and never worth mentioning again.
How to save a friendship | |
Introduction | ● A dying friendship makes you feel ● Try to save the friendship that ● The connection between you and your friends will |
Take | ● On realizing your relationship with your friend is not as ● Don’t wait for others’ actions but be |
Know Your differences | ● Changes in life don’t ● Prove to your friend that your friendship is still important if your friend has kept you at a |
Reach a compromise | Mutual compromises on things that have weakened your friendship help |
Move forward | New memories and precious moments after the challenges help to turn the unpleasant page in your common history. |
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【推荐1】As fall approaches, like many of us who either follow an academic calendar for our work or have children in school, I’m preparing for a significant change in my schedule. As I anticipate more demands on my time, I reflect on how to maintain some sense of balance in my life.
First of all, it is sensible to think small. We often feel like our values-based actions need to take a significant amount of time.
As we know, life is messy and ever-changing. It’s also important to pay attention while we are doing the actions that matter to us. It can be easy to think of the areas we aren’t engaged in.
One more thing that needs to be added is the fact that no matter how much attention we bring to balancing our lives, we will unavoidably fall out of balance again.
A.Don’t take it too much to heart |
B.We may put meaningful actions together. |
C.However, we don’t notice what we are doing. |
D.Balancing our lives requires planning and action. |
E.I often underestimate how long it takes me to do a task. |
F.Hence, I can do what matters to me across many areas of my life. |
G.Even small numbers of values-based actions can be meaningful, though. |
【推荐2】Focus, or concentration, is a skill that can be taught.
If this sounds a little strange to you, you could try another strategy. Why not make lists. Make a list for the things you need to accomplish for the morning, another for the afternoon, and finally, another list for the evening.
Another way to improve your focus is to take breaks. If you are working in an office, you are allowed coffee breaks. Use this time wisely. Don’t spend it with your co-workers beside the coffee machine talking about problems in the office. Your breaks should be as quiet as possible.
The reason why we lose focus so easily is because we have too much on our minds.
A.It will also not stress you out. |
B.Read a book, take a walk, or visit a park. |
C.Other mind exercises you can do is internalizing. |
D.So there are some exercises you can do to improve your focus. |
E.Of course, it could also be because you are bored with nothing to do. |
F.Study your lists carefully and see where you can move things around. |
G.Find your capacity to work, and try not to go away to far from it on a daily basis. |
【推荐3】Creativity is all about finding new ways of solving problems. If you’ve ever wanted to increase your creativity, these tips can help.
Devote yourself to creativity
The first step to increase creativity is to devote yourself to developing your creative abilities. Do not put off your efforts.
Become an expert
Explore multiple solutions
The next time you meet a problem, try looking for a variety of solutions. Instead of simply going with the first idea you have, take the time to think of other possible ways to solve the problem.
Take risks
When it comes to building your creative skills, you must be willing to take risks to improve your abilities.
Never expect creativity to just happen. Look for new sources of inspiration that will give you fresh ideas and motivate you to get unique answers to questions. Read a book, visit a museum, listen to your favorite music or engage in a lively debate with a friend.
A.Look for inspiration. |
B.Brainstorm new ideas. |
C.Find time each day to develop your skills. |
D.Although your efforts may not lead to success every time |
E.Since one way to solve problems is by learning from creative people |
F.One of the best ways to develop creativity is to become an expert in this area. |
G.This simple activity is a great way to build problem-solving and creative thinking skills. |
【推荐1】Having friends may well keep you healthier and help you deal with stress better. Some studies show that people with close friends have a greater ability to fight disease than people who are alone.
Make friendship a priority(优先). Find the time to be with friends even if it means letting the lawn(草坪)go unremoved or the dishes unwashed for a while. When you can’t get together, use the phone to keep in touch.
Open up to close friends. Keeping a deep friendship needs a level of “heartfelt” intimacy (亲密). Don’t be afraid to express your inner fears and disappointments. Listen to your friends when they have problems, but offer your advice only when it is wanted. Help raise friends’ confidence when they are shaken by a job loss, or other such events.
Have different friends for different activities, such as going to the movies, singing in a choir (合唱团), and joining in a club.
Don’t wait for a friend to ask you for help. When a friend is sick, offer to go to the store or drive his/her children to their after-school activities.
Never take a friendship for granted. Like a good marriage, friendship needs care and patience. Become a joiner. Find a group that matches your interests.
Talk to strangers. Conversations started in museums, laundry rooms, or bookstores can lead to firm friendship.
Enroll in an adult-education lesson. A classroom is an ideal place to meet others with similar interests.
1. People with close friends have a ______ ability to fight diseases than people who are alone.A.less | B.greater |
C.poorer | D.little |
A.only when they want it | B.only when they are happy |
C.at any moment | D.only when you are glad |
A.Make friendship a priority | B.Open up to close friends |
C.Never take a friendship for granted | D.All the above |
A.join | B.give | C.get | D.catch |
【推荐2】Tim was walking home from school one day when he noticed a boy ahead of him. He had tripped (绊倒) and dropped all of the books he was carrying along with some clothes, a baseball bat and a glove.
Tim knelt down and helped the boy pick up the things. Since they were going the same way, he offered to carry some things for the boy.
As they walked, Tim knew that the boy’s name was Sam. He loved video games, baseball and history, but he was having trouble with some of his subjects.
They arrived at Sam’s home first. Tim was invited in for a Coke and to watch some television. The afternoon passed pleasantly with some laughs and talk. Then Tim went home.
They continued to see each other at school and had lunch together once or twice a week.
Three days before they finished high school, Sam asked Tim if they could talk. Sam reminded Tim of the day years ago when they had first met. “Did you ever wonder why I was carrying so many things home that day?’’ asked Sam. “You see, I took away all my things from school. I had stored away some of my mother’s sleeping pills. I was going home to kill myself. But after we spent some time talking and laughing, I realized that if I had died, I would have missed so many good times. So you see, Tim, when you picked up those books that day, you did a lot more.
A.didn’t notice that | B.helped him pick up the things |
C.carried all the things for him | D.went away quickly |
A.Tim and Sam were brothers. | B.Tim and Sam were in the same school. |
C.Sam was good at all of his subjects. | D.Sam finally killed himself. |
A.playing video games | B.drinking some Coke |
C.having a pleasant talk | D.watching TV |
A.hoped to go on holiday together | B.wanted to kill himself again |
C.hoped to have lunch together | D.wanted to tell him his story |
A.You saved my life. | B.I should die. |
C.You did a good job. | D.You helped me a lot. |
1. Be an honest person with them. Don’t hide things from them, and don’t lie. Don’t be afraid to say things that aren’t flattering about yourself. Getting them to trust you is the most important thing in any relationship. If there is no trust, there’s nothing there.
2. Make sure you give them respect. Now, respect isn’t just simply treating them nicely.
3. Make sure you are encouraging to your partners. Always be willing to help them and give them honesty and positive things at the time
4. Make sure you have a good sense of humor with them. Laughter is the key to happiness. Laugh a lot with them, and joke with them
5. Make sure the communication is good. This usually goes along with trust, so always communicate how you feel even if it’s something that upsets you.
A.There is a lot more to it. |
B.Show them your personality. |
C.Instead of screaming, talk to them. |
D.Laughter keeps the relationship strong and lasting. |
E.So please be honest and they’ll learn to open up to you. |
F.Don’t expect too much in a relationship. |
G.Your partners should be able to count on you when necessary. |