Many people spend more than four hours per day on We Chat, and it is redefining the word “friend.” Does friending someone on social media make him or her your friend in real life?
Robin Dunbar, a professor at Oxford University, found that only 15, of the 150 Facebook friends the average user has, could be counted as actual friends and only five as close friends. We Chat may show a similar pattern.
Those with whom you attended a course together, applied for the same part-time job, went to a party and intended to cooperate but failed take up most of your WeChat friends. In chat records, the only message may be a system notice, “You have accepted somebody’s friend request”. Sometimes when seeing some photos shared on “Moments”, you even need several minutes to think about when you became friends. Also, you may be disturbed by mass messages (群发信息) sent from your unfamiliar “friends”, including requests for voting for their children or friends, links from Pinduoduo.com (a Chinese e-commerce platform that allows users to buy items at lower prices if they purchase in groups) and cookie-cutter (千篇一律的) blessings in holidays.
You would have thought about deleting this type of “friends” and sort out your connections. But actually you did not do that as you were taught that social networking is valuable to one’s success. Besides, it would be really awkward if they found that you have unfriended them already. Then, you keep increasing your “friends” in social media and click “like” on some pictures that you are not really interested. But the fact is that deep emotional connections do not come with the increasing number of your friends in social media.
If the number of your friends reaches 150, maintaining these relationships can be tough to you, and sometimes even will make you anxious. According to Robin Dunbar, 150 is the limit of the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships.
1. What can we learn from Robin Dunbar's finding in Paragraph 2?A.A Facebook user has 250 friends on average. |
B.Most of the social media friends can be actual friends. |
C.Among our social media friends, only a few people matter. |
D.Only 15 people of a person’s Facebook friends can be close friends. |
A.You have deep communication with them. |
B.You benefit a lot from their mass messages. |
C.You just have a nodding acquaintance with them. |
D.You become friends with them in important occasions. |
A.Removing unfamiliar friends in WeChat. |
B.Strengthening ties with your We Chat friends. |
C.Keeping increasing your friends in social media. |
D.Clicking “like” on pictures posted by your friends. |
A.We will be anxious if we make friends online. |
B.We should avoid making any friends in social media. |
C.We should make as many friends as possible in social media. |
D.We have difficulty managing relationships with over 150 people. |
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【推荐1】Criticism is harmful to healthy relationships.
Changing Your Behavior
●Think before you speak.
●Separate the individual from their actions. If you work on separating the person from the action, you may naturally want to criticize less. As you realize you cannot judge a person’s character based on a single choice or decision, you will be unable to call someone out for being rude or disrespectful.
●Focus on positives. Oftentimes, being critical results from how you’re choosing to see a situation. Everyone has shortcomings. However, the vast majority of people have good qualities that outweigh bad ones.
Communicating More Effectively
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●Ask for what you want directly. Inefficient communication often results in heavy criticism.
●Consider the other party’s perspective. If you criticize others too often, you may be shutting out the other person’s point of view. Try to step in another person’s shoes before criticizing and you may get some new and special ideas.
A.Give feedback rather than criticism. |
B.However, there are ways to avoid criticism. |
C.Try to focus on a person’s positive qualities over their negative ones. |
D.If you find yourself making assumptions about a person’s character, stop yourself. |
E.If you’re not telling someone what you want, that person cannot be expected to know. |
F.Criticism should, ideally, be working towards an effective solution to a negative situation. |
G.When you want to dish out criticism, pause and consider whether you really need to say anything. |
【推荐2】People consistently underestimate how much others in their social circle might appreciate an unexpected phone call, text or email just to say hello, and the more surprising the connection, the greater the appreciation, according to a new study.
In the study, researchers from the University of Pittsburgh conducted some experiments involving more than 5, 900 participants. In one experiment, half of the participants were asked to recall the last time they reached out to someone in their social circle after a prolonged (长期的) period of not interacting with them. The rest were asked to recall a similar situation where someone reached out to them. Participants were then asked to indicate on a 7-point scale how much either they or the person they reached out to appreciated. People who recalled reaching out thought the gesture was significantly less appreciated than those who recalled receiving a communication.
In other experiments, participants sent a short note, or a small gift, to someone in their social circle with whom they had not interacted in a while. Similar to the previous experiment, participants who initiated (发起) contact were asked to rate on a 7-point scale the extent to which they thought the recipient would appreciate or feel grateful for the contact. After the notes or gifts were sent, researchers also asked the recipients to rate their appreciation.
Across all experiments, those who initiated the communication significantly underestimated the extent to which recipients would appreciate the act of reaching out. Besides, the researchers found that people receiving the communication placed greater focus than those initiating the communication on the surprise element, and this heightened focus on surprise was associated with higher appreciation. “We also found that people underestimated others’ appreciation to a greater extent when the communication was more surprising, as opposed to part of a regular communication pattern, or the social ties between the two participants were weak,” added lead author Peggy Liu.
Initiating social contact after a prolonged period of disconnection can be daunting because people worry about how such a gesture might be received. But these findings suggest that their hesitations may be unnecessary, as others are likely to appreciate being reached out to more than people think.
1. How did the researchers conduct the experiments?A.By listing arguments. | B.By giving examples. |
C.By making assumptions. | D.By making comparisons. |
A.To rank their appreciation. | B.To make an unexpected call. |
C.To express their thoughts. | D.To do the same experiments. |
A.One receiving a gift of great value. | B.One often contacted by a close friend. |
C.One connected quite unexpectedly. | D.One making regular contacts with others. |
A.Unbearable. | B.Discouraging. | C.Illogical. | D.Immoral. |
【推荐3】In today’s world, it can be challenging to stay motivated and positive. However, one powerful tool that we can use to overcome these challenges is encouragement. Encouragement can make a significant difference in someone’s life.
One of the most significant benefits of encouragement is that it builds strong relationships. Encouragement creates a positive environment where people feel valued and appreciated. When we encourage others, we are showing them that we believe in them and that we care about their well-being.
Another benefit of encouragement is that it creates a chain reaction.
In conclusion, the power of encouragement cannot be overstated. It has the potential to transform lives, build strong relationships, and create a ripple effect of positivity. By being intentional about our words and actions, we can use encouragement to build others up and create a better world.
A.Encouragement can change our moods. |
B.So how can we use encouragement to build others up? |
C.Why should we make every effort to encourage others? |
D.This strengthens the bond between people and promotes trust and loyalty. |
E.When we encourage others, they, in turn, are more likely to encourage others |
F.Let us use the power of encouragement and start building each other up today. |
G.When we encourage others, we give them the motivation and confidence they need to succeed. |
【推荐1】The sunflower, native to North America, is now cultivated worldwide, with Antarctica the only continent where it is not grown.
Today there are over sixty varieties of sunflowers which are used to produce a wide range of products for both human and animal consumption.
Industry uses sunflower oil in the production of paint, soaps, candles and many other products. However, remembering how beautiful the sunflower looks, what gardener wouldn't love to have some of these tall, showy plants to beautify his or her garden?
A.Sunflower oil for cooking is obtained by pressing the seeds. |
B.Many people enjoy the healthy bread produced from sunflower seed flour. |
C.The nutrients in these seeds may reduce your risk of common health problems. |
D.The sunflower follows the sun in its travels across the sky from Dawson until dusk. |
E.The sunflower was also used by Native Americans for a variety of medicinal purposes. |
F.Native people of North America started cultivating the sunflower over 5,000 years ago. |
G.However, the sunflower provided many products which were not used in food applications. |
【推荐2】Where in the classroom do you prefer to sit,and why? Scientists have discovered that seating preference not only shows students’ personalities,but has a great influence on their school performance.Generally speaking,students show different attitudes depending on where they sit. Based on the research, scientists have developed a funnel-like(像漏斗的) model of “learning zones(区域)” to see the relationship between seating and active learning.
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In this model,the mouth of the funnel(A) is the best position for learning. Students in this front area prove to be the most active learners.They show a greater desire(渴求) for learning,which leads them to focus(集中注意力) better and take a more active part than the rest of the class.Those in the neck of the funnel(B) don’t pay the same close attention,but they ask a lot of questions,partly because of the added confidence they feel from being in a safe zone, with others around them. Less desirable is the area “outside the funnel(C,D),” which refers to the side and the back rows,where students take a less active part in classroom activities and find it hard to focus their attention, falling asleep at times.
Studies about learning zones suggest that a change in traditional seating plans can benefit students. In fact, a growing number of teachers have begun less traditional seating plans,such as “U-Type”.There are no side and back areas,so teachers can expect their students to take part in activities more actively and increase student-teacher interaction(互动).
1. According to scientists,students’ learning is greatly influenced by .A.the number of students | B.the time of class |
C.seating positions | D.the size of the classroom |
A.sometimes fall asleep | B.feel safe and confident |
C.seldom ask their teachers questions | D.try to avoid looking directly at the teacher |
A.Area A. | B.Area B. | C.Area C. | D.Area D. |
A.Cause trouble for. | B.Take control of. |
C.Give a warning to. | D.Do good to. |
【推荐3】The term “social distancing” has been at the center of public conversation for a while. But it’s not “social” distance we are trying to promote. It’s physical separation. In fact, preserving social ties — even at a distance — is essential for both mental and physical health. The results of an analytic review done in 2017 indicate that a lack of social support is on a par with smoking cigarettes as a risk factor for health.
Given this fact, how might we best stay connected to others while maintaining physical distance? Would we be better off e-mailing a friend? Making a phone call? Setting up a video chat? In our study, Nick Epley and I tested whether the media through which people interact affects their sense of connection — and how expectations about certain technologies impact the communication media they choose to use.
In our experiment, we asked participants to reconnect with someone that they hadn’t interacted with recently, either through e-mail or over the phone. Participants first made predictions about what it would be like to get in touch if they reached out in these two ways. They generally believed that they’d feel more connected when interacting via the phone than over e-mail. But they also predicted that talking on the phone could be more uncomfortable than sending an e-mail. Although these participants believed that talking encouraged stronger bonds, most of them said they’d rather send an e-mail than call the person up. Fears about awkwardness, it seems, push individuals toward text-based methods for communicating.
In the next part of the experiment, we had participants actually reconnect using one randomly determined mode of communication and then followed up with them after they had done so. We found that people do form meaningfully stronger bonds when interacting over the phone than over e-mail. Importantly, though, there was no difference in the amount of discomfort when reconnecting on the phone.
The next time you think about how best to connect, consider calling or setting up a video chat. Feelings of social connection are preferably facilitated by voice rather than a keyboard.
1. How does the author support his view on the importance of maintaining social ties?A.By stating a deep-rooted tradition. | B.By citing a published report. |
C.By sharing public opinions. | D.By presenting official documents. |
A.How technologies impact means of communication. |
B.How social media choices affect feelings of connection. |
C.Why maintaining social separation is bad for mental health. |
D.Why reconnecting with friends over the phone brings awkwardness. |
A.They changed the research objectives. | B.They provided insights for future studies. |
C.They confirmed researchers’ expectations. | D.They contradicted participants’ predictions partly. |
A.For stronger bonds, talk instead of typing. |
B.Keeping in touch is key to a lasting friendship. |
C.Think before you consider contacting an old friend. |
D.Text-based methods for communication cause discomfort. |