1 . No one is born a winner. People make themselves into winners by their own _______ .

I learned this lesson from a(n) _______ many years ago. I took the head _______ job at a school in Baxley, Georgia. It was a small school with a weak football program.

It was a tradition for the school’s old team to play against the _______ team at the end of spring practice. The old team had no coach, and they didn’t even practice to _______ the game. Being the coach of the new team, I was excited because I knew we were going to win, but to my disappointment we were defeated. I couldn’t _______ I had got into such a situation. Thinking hard about it, I came to _______ that my team might not be the number one team in Georgia, but they were _______ me. I had to change my _______ about their ability and potential.

I started doing anything I could to help them build a little __________ . Most importantly, I began to treat them like __________ . That summer, when the other teams enjoyed their __________ , we met every day and __________ passing and kicking the football.

Six months after suffering our __________ on the spring practice field, we won our first game and our second, and continued to __________ . Finally, we faced the number one team in the state. I felt that it would be a __________ for us even if we lost the game. But that wasn’t what happened. My boys beat the best team in Georgia, giving me one of the greatest __________ of my life!

From the experience I learned a lot about how the attitude of the leader can __________ the members of a team. Instead of seeing my boys as losers, I pushed and __________ them. I helped them to see themselves __________ , and they built themselves into winners.

Winners are made, but not born.

2 . In Eric Carle’s book, the hungry caterpillar (毛毛虫) eventually becomes a beautiful butterfly. It can enjoy a rather ________ role — one that’s more colourful and less stressful. I see butterflies as a symbol for ________. For humans, however, it’s not easy to make that ________. It can feel scary to leave the ________ things behind. And there are ________ related to moving to new settings and taking on different challenges.

For me ________ my job meant that my pay dropped significantly. I accepted some training and invested( 投资 ) time in networking. It was scary but exciting because I was ________ my career. Like a butterfly, I started to dip in and out of new things. I didn’t want to be ________ at ground level anymore. I had a much wider viewpoint. As the next stage of my career began, I was full of ________ to run projects of my own. Suddenly I was working in an exciting industry. The new environment ________ me. I could make full use of my experiences and strengths. But sometimes ________ making changes is also a choice; it can cause others to make choices for you, often not to your ________.

In my experience, if you spend your life ________ a butterfly, it’s pretty hard to catch it. Instead, if you go to places where there is a good chance that your gifts are ________ for that situation and you just sit there, a butterfly will ________ come and sit on your shoulder.

3 . I’ve noticed that conversations with my children have started to turn into something I don’t like. It could be my _______. I don’t always _______ before I open my mouth. For example, my kids would call to tell me about something that’s been _______ them. As soon as they’re finished, I go into mom mode.

“You should...”, “You need to consider...”, “If I were you, I’d...” “Mom!”

The tone is full of _______ and annoyance.

When I get one of my adult kids on the phone, I become a(n) _______ on everything, which I’m obviously not. I want to be part of their lives and _______ them from making mistakes that seem so obvious to me.

I’m hardly _______ in this. Over lunch the other day, a friend told me that her son _______ listened to anything she said. “It’s like talking to a wall!” I know that feeling well. But I’m learning slowly that talking at is not the same as talking with.

Giving advice to children can be full of problems. Though we may see ourselves _______ the wisdom of our years, they see something else. They see a ________ parent who hasn’t accepted the fact that they’re adults with their own thoughts and feelings. They’re not ________ any tips. They may not even want a(n) ________ solution to a difficult problem. What they’re hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and ________ them no matter what.

Because of this, I’ve given myself the ________ of becoming a better parent by being a better listener. It’s not an easy task for parents like me but I’m ________.

5 . One of the most inspiring quotes(名言) I ever heard was by Brian Tracy. He said: “The_________between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people_________many more times than unsuccessful people.”

I deeply understood the _________ of the quote soon after my first book was published.

I was living in Atlanta at the time and ___________ my first signing sale for my new book at the phoenix and Dragon, the largest bookstore in the city. Although a nice sign was placed outside the room ___________ images of both me and my book, The 9 Insights of the Wealthy Soul, not a single customer entered the room. _________ each minute passed, I became increasingly _________.

At 6:25 pm, just before the store’s _________, I began to get myself ready to leave. At that moment, just when I couldn’t fell any _________, a middle-aged couple walked into the room. I managed to ____________ my emotions and introduced myself and my book.

The couple turned the pages each other, and the husband ____________ to his wife. She then told me, “I think we’ll get the book.”

Despite the impulse (冲动) to jump ____________, and hold their hands to thank them for being my __________ readers, I realized the woman was trying to say something else.

“The __________ we’re buying it is that our son died two years ago,” she said. “Maybe your book will help us ____________ it .”

At that moment, I knew if I never sold a copy of the book, my four years of __________ had been meaningless.

Although I would have many more challenging years ____________ my book became a bestseller, this couple’s story was all the __________ I needed at that point to keep me __________.

Thanks to them, I would realize that the greatest of lives are made all in the same way : One challenge ... one challenge ... one difficulty ... one step ... and one small ____________ at a time.

6 . The first day of school we were challenged to get to know a new classmate.I_______around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.I found a little _______lady with a warm smile.

She said，“Hi! I’m Rose.I’m 87 years old.Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and heartily_______，“Of course!”“Why are you in college at such a young，innocent age?”I asked.She_______replied，“I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, have children，and then travel around.”“No，_______，”I asked.I was curious why she _______this challenge at this age.“I always _______having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.We became instant friends.

_______，Rose became a campus icon(偶像)and she easily made friends wherever she went.She loved to dress up and she enjoyed the_______from the other students.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.I’ll never forget what she________us.“We do not stop playing because we are old;we grow old________we stop playing.Here are the secrets to staying ________.You have to laugh and find ________every day.You’ve got to have a dream.When you lose your dreams，you die.________ we have many people like this walking around!”she said.“There is a huge ________ between growing older and growing up.Anybody can grow older.That doesn’t ________ any talent or ability，”she added.“But growing up requires ________ the opportunity in change，having no   ________.The elderly usually don’t regret what they did, but regret things they did not do.”

One week after graduation that year，Rose died peacefully in her sleep.She taught us ________   that it’s never too ________ to be all you can possibly be.

8 . One weekend, a woman headed for her hotel room carrying a bucketful of coins she won at a slot machine. As she was about to walk into the ________ she noticed two men already aboard.

Both were ________ and one of them was a very, very big figure. She first thought: “They are going to ________ me.” Then she comforted herself: “They looked nice.”

But fear seized her. She stood and stared at the two, anxious and ashamed. She hoped they didn’t ________ her mind. Surely they realized her hesitation about ________ them. With an effort of will she picked up one foot and ________ the elevator, turning her back to them.

Seconds passed. The elevator didn’t move. Panic ________ her.

“I’m about to be robbed!” her heart ________ .

“Hit the floor”, one of them said. Her sweats poured... Without delay, she threw out her arms and ________ on the carpet, the bucket of coins flying upwards. A ________ of coins rained down on her.

“Take my money and ________ me,” she prayed. One of them said ________: “Ma’am, if you’ll just tell us what floor you’re going to, we’ll ________ the button.” He couldn’t help laughing.

________, she struggled to her feet. “I asked my man to hit the button for our floor. I didn’t mean for you to hit the floor.” He bit his ________, having a hard time not laughing.

She was too ________ to speak. She wanted to make an apology, but words ________ her.

They helped gather up the coins and refill her ________. When the elevator arrived at her floor, she slid to the room, hearing them laughing.

The next morning a bunch of roses were delivered to her room. Attached to the roses was a card ________: “Thanks for the best ________ we’ve had in years.” It was signed, Eddie Murphy & Michael Jordan.

9 . My parents and I never really saw eye to eye on anything. When I was young it was just the ________ stuff — the length of my skirt or the movies I wanted to watch. ________ , as I got older, I found that there was a lot more that we didn’t ________ — my choice of friends or what I wanted to study at university.

I went to university in another city at 17. ________ home has totally broadened my outlook (看法) on the world and has changed my opinions on lots of ________ . I’ve encountered many amazing people with different experiences. My circle of friends includes people with ________ beliefs, values, cultures and different ways of approaching life. But the great thing is that we respect each other’s ________. I’ve learnt to question what I’ve been taught and not always agree just because that is what “everybody else” ________ .

When I went home to visit my parents the first couple of times, I found it really hard to ________ . I found it hard to deal with not being able to ________ my opinions as freely as I did when I was away from home. It was really upsetting. I used to get angry that my parents weren’t in ________ of my opinions. Now, I gradually realize that ________ I want my parents to respect what I say, I have to ________ their views. While it is ________ , once I make an effort to respect their values, it is not a ________ to get along with my parents.

10 . When my father was getting ready for work, our house was ruled by _________ and words. He used to come downstairs to _________ .

The morning paper lay beside his plate. He always read the “Deaths” first, and then he knocked _________ on the table. One of my sisters brought his bread, already _________ for him. Usually he said nothing,   _________ once I heard him say, “I love you very much, Edith. I would love _________ if you buttered my bread on both sides.” He read the paper all through breakfast.

Two knocks on the table meant “I am ready for my tea.” If a single knock followed, that meant, “More _________ , please.”

_________ a breakfast he said, “Boots.” The paper was spread (展开) for him over the _________ of an arm chair. Yesterday’s paper was put on the chair for his feet, and his boots were brought to him,   __________ cleaned. He read standing at the same time putting on his boots. With one boot __________ he said, “Bus.” At that point one of the girls went outside to the garden gate and __________ there. Her job was to __________ a bus when it came. It came __________ sometimes and it had to wait for my father. “Overcoat, hat.” One of my sisters had already brushed his overcoat. Now she held it __________ for him. __________ girl came with his hat, nicely brushed. “Handkerchief, pipe (烟斗).” They were brought and put, with his tobacco (烟草), into his pocket. He looked out of the window and said __________ “Walking stick” or “Umbrella”. It was handed to him. Ready now, he was __________ reading the paper. He didn’t put it down __________ he heard the shout “Bus coming!” Then he kissed my mother and went out. The girls breathed freely.

How lucky a man was to have a wife and five __________ .