1 . Over the years working as a psychologist, I have found that the following habits seem to be the most important for developing a happier, healthier mind,

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By nature, most of us are critical of our emotions—especially the difficult ones: You feel anxious and afraid and then immediately criticize yourself for being weak. Though something feels bad, it doesn’t mean it is bad.     2     When your muscles are painful after a good workout, your pain is a sign of growth and health. Sometimes pain is helpful. By avoiding it or trying to get rid of it, you could be making things worse on yourself.
Be realistic with your expectations.

When you create an expectation in your head—which is really just you imagining the thing you want to be true—it relieves some of that anxiety and uncertainty for the time being. But in reality, your expectations are merely fictions in your own mind.

Expectations have their place.     3     If you want a calmer and more peaceful mind, get into the habit of checking on your expectations regularly and make sure they aren’t too far outside of reality.

Practice compassion (同情) in your self-talk.

    4    When you’re too negative and particular about yourself, you turn normal embarrassment into intense shame; everyday depression into anger; ordinary sadness into desperation. If you want to start being kinder toward yourself, follow The Other Golden Rule:     5     The next time you feel bad, imagine that a good friend felt the same way and came to you for support and advice... What would you say to them?

A．Acknowledge your emotions.

B．Try to avoid painful emotions.

C．Negative self-talk worsens your emotions.

D．In much of life, pain is actually a good thing.

E．Treat yourself like you would treat a good friend.

F．But they may run wild and cause negative effects if ignored.

G．They teach your brain that your emotions are bad and dangerous.

2 . Growing up, I understood one thing about my dad: He knew everything. I asked him questions and he gave me _________. When I moved out on my own, I usually called him when something broke and I needed to know how to _________ it.

But then, eventually, I _________ him less. I got married, and my husband had the _________ I was short of. I didn’t know when it happened, but our _________ when I called developed into six words. Me: “Hi, Dad.” Him: “Hi, sweetie. Here’s Mom.” There would be a(n) _________ if my mum wasn’t at home. I _________ loved my dad, but I wondered at times if maybe he had already _________ everything I needed to know.

Then, this past summer, my dad said that he once spent a summer in college building boats. “You did?” I asked. I thought I knew everything about my dad. However, I never knew this. I _________ that in the past 40 years, I had focused on myself only. I felt a deep sense of __________.

A few weeks later, I called my parents. Dad answered. “Hi, sweetie. Here’s Mom.,” he said.

__________ to know more about him, I said, “Wait, Dad. How are you?” We __________ talking about a new battery he’d bought for his boat. To anyone else, it would sound like a __________ conversation between a dad and his daughter. But to me, it was novel and a new __________. I spent the first part of my life needing to talk to my dad. Now I talk to him because I __________ to.

1.

A．reminders

B．reports

C．responses

D．reasons

2.

A．rent

B．view

C．use

D．fix

3.

A．knew

B．needed

C．missed

D．saw

4.

A．knowledge

B．resource

C．freedom

D．character

5.

A．arrangement

B．meeting

C．performance

D．conversation

6.

A．explanation

B．tension

C．silence

D．exchange

7.

A．certainly

B．usually

C．hardly

D．particularly

8.

A．acquired

B．shared

C．gathered

D．stressed

9.

A．proved

B．complained

C．guessed

D．realized

10.

A．shame

B．doubt

C．shock

D．pity

11.

A．Lucky

B．Eager

C．Ready

D．Happy

12.

A．aimed at

B．got through

C．stuck to

D．ended up

13.

A．normal

B．long

C．personal

D．serious

14.

A．advance

B．opportunity

C．beginning

D．agreement

15.

A．learn

B．want

C．promise

D．prepare