1 . “Anxiety.” The very word invites discomfort. Its effects—shortness of breath, pounding heart, muscle tension—are outright upsetting. But, as a clinician, I find that we tend to miss out on many valuable opportunities presented by this human emotion. In and of itself, anxiety is not deadly, nor is it a disease. Quite the contrary: it is an indicator of brain and sensory health. Once we accept that it is a normal, though uncomfortable, part of life, we can use it to help us.
We all know working out at the gym is hard. By nature, a “good workout” is uncomfortable, since it involves pushing our physical strength past what we can easily do. The sweet spot of exercise is always a somewhat challenging experience. Similarly, if you want to be emotionally stronger, you need to face some tension. For example, one effective treatment for fear is exposure therapy (疗法), which involves gradually encountering things that make one anxious, reducing fear over time.
Humans are social creatures. When my patients learn to open up to their partners about their anxieties, they almost always report a greater sense of emotional closeness. Also, as international relationship expert Sue Johnson teaches, when we express our need for connection during challenging moments (e.g., “I’m having a hard time right now and could really use your support”), it creates greater connection and turns our anxiety into love.
From time to time, we find ourselves at the end of our rope. Our responsibilities pile up, our resources break down, and we feel uncomfortably anxious—what we’re experiencing is called stress. Simply put, the demands placed upon us outweigh our available resources, just like a set of scales (天平) going out of balance. Focusing on work and pretending everything is OK only leads to disastrous results. Medical treatment for stress may function for a while, but it tends to make things worse in the long run. The only solution to deal with stress is to do the mathematics to balance the scales.
1. What does the author say about anxiety?| A．It is an invitation to diseases. |
| B．It indicates stable mental health. |
| C．It costs us many valuable chances. |
| D．It is a natural emotional expression. |
| A．To prove how exercise influences emotions. |
| B．To suggest an effective way to challenge limits. |
| C．To explain how anxiety builds emotional strength. |
| D．To show a positive connection between mind and body. |
| A．The key to closeness is partners’ support. |
| B．Sharing anxieties improves relationships. |
| C．Humans are defined by their social nature. |
| D．Expressing feelings keeps us off anxieties. |
| A．Devote more energy to our work. |
| B．Increase resources available to us. |
| C．Seek professional medical treatment. |
| D．Master advanced mathematical skills. |
2 . It’s nice to feel like a hero or to be the centre of attention every once in a while. Walking barefoot down the worm road, cheered on by the villagers of Bradstone, one would have thought that I should feel full of pride and joy. Those feelings might have been nice, except for this one tiny fact: I had no idea where I was heading, even when I heard my name being shouted out upon entering the village.
Earlier, after painfully recovering consciousness beside the road, the only important things I could remember were my name, Jonathan Grey, and a horribly uncomfortable feeling that I had forgotten something which could result in life or death. So I had followed the road. Shortly I noticed that I had somehow also lost track of my shoes.
I had ended up in Bradstone. Many villagers hurried over and screamed my name. One older woman particularly threw her arms around my waist. “ You made it! I knew you were special,” she cried, “My baby is finally home! ” At a loss for words, with no idea what to do, the best I could offer the crying woman was to put my arms around her, too. When she settled down, she pulled back to look at me properly. “How are you? Really? Oh, you will have to report to Mr. Fredrick first… ”
I was not sure how to answer the woman’s — my mother’s? — questions, so I decided to be honest. “I’m sorry, but I’m not sure who Mr. Freddrick is, or what I must report to him. ”
My mother took a deep breath, then took my hand to lead me into the house. “ Your father will be home soon, so get settled in. I’ll be outside if you need me. ” Taking one last look around, my mother let out a sigh. For the time being, home this would have to be. Breathing deeply, I gathered my courage and mentally prepared myself for what was now my new life.
1. What can we know about Jonathan?| A．He enjoyed the welcome he received. | B．The villagers were very sorry for him. |
| C．He had never been the centre of attention. | D．The villagers knew who he was. |
| A．He felt relieved. | B．He was in pain. |
| C．He forgot his name. | D．He regained his memories. |
| A．He would not let her go. | B．He recognized his mother. |
| C．He didn’t know how to reply. | D．He was glad to have found her. |
| A．He tried to make his mother pleased. |
| B．He was worried about meeting his father. |
| C．He was uncertain if he had the courage for a new life. |
| D．He decided to temporarily accept the present situation. |
3 . What’s the difference between shame and guilt?These are emotions that we often mix up, but it turns out they’re quite different. When people feel shame, they feel bad about themselves: “I’m a bad person for having done this.” When people feel guilt, they feel bad not about the self, but about a specific behavior: “I did a bad thing.” And it’s a subtle distinction, but it turns out that it leads to very different motivations.
When people feel shame about “Who I am because I did a bad thing, I’m a horrible person,” there’s a sense of shrinking and being small, a sense of worthlessness and powerlessness. And when people feel shame, they want to hide. They want to sink into the floor and disappear. They minimize. They often blame other people. But what they don’t do, typically, is try to make things better.
When people feel guilt about a specific behavior —“I feel bad that I did that” — they’re focused on the behavior and the effects on other people, and that seems to push people in a much more constructive direction. People who feel guilt about a behavior without feeling shame about themselves are more likely to apologize, in some way, try to repair the harm that was done.
I think that just knowing the difference between the two is not enough, if you can identify when you feel shame and sort of do some double-checking, you know, “Is it really fair for me to feel like a bad person because I lost my temper with my kids today? Does that mean I’m a horrible parent? Or am I generally a good parent, but this was a bad day, and I did a bad thing and let me address that, reconnect with my child and think about ways to avoid that going forward,” instead of falling into shame, shame, shame. I think shame is such a selfish emotion. It’s all about me. It’s not about the person that I hurt. It’s, “Me, me, me, me, I’m a horrible person,” which takes the focus off of the person you’ve harmed.
1. What are shame and guilt thought of?| A．They are easy to figure out. | B．They lead to different behavior. |
| C．They are called bad emotions. | D．They are seen confusing things. |
| A．They dare to face anything. | B．They refuse to make things better. |
| C．They feel bad about specific behavior. | D．They tend to blame themselves. |
| A．Results of feeling guilt. | B．Ways of feeling guilt. |
| C．Causes of feeling guilt. | D．Reflections of feeling guilt. |
| A．Favorable. | B．Tolerant. | C．Against. | D．Unclear. |
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2.为什么感激他/她；
3.如何感恩。
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5 . Growing up, I understood one thing about my dad: He knew everything. I asked him questions and he gave me
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Then, this past summer, my dad said that he once spent a summer in college building boats. “You did?” I asked. I thought I knew everything about my dad. However, I never knew this. I
A few weeks later, I called my parents. Dad answered. “Hi, sweetie. Here’s Mom.,” he said.
| A．reminders | B．reports | C．responses | D．reasons |
| A．rent | B．view | C．use | D．fix |
| A．knew | B．needed | C．missed | D．saw |
| A．knowledge | B．resource | C．freedom | D．character |
| A．arrangement | B．meeting | C．performance | D．conversation |
| A．explanation | B．tension | C．silence | D．exchange |
| A．certainly | B．usually | C．hardly | D．particularly |
| A．acquired | B．shared | C．gathered | D．stressed |
| A．proved | B．complained | C．guessed | D．realized |
| A．shame | B．doubt | C．shock | D．pity |
| A．Lucky | B．Eager | C．Ready | D．Happy |
| A．aimed at | B．got through | C．stuck to | D．ended up |
| A．normal | B．long | C．personal | D．serious |
| A．advance | B．opportunity | C．beginning | D．agreement |
| A．learn | B．want | C．promise | D．prepare |
