1 . Emotional regulation (情绪管理) is taking any action that changes the intensity of an emotional experience.
Emotions happen fast. We don’t think “now I will be angry” — we just suddenly have fires in our eyes and become extremely angry. So the number one skill in regulating difficult emotions is to pause. Take a breath. Slow down the moment between trigger (触发) and response.
Noticing what you feel
An equally important skill involves the ability to become aware of what you’re feeling. Dr. Judson Brewer, MD Ph. D. recommends practices for becoming more curious about your own physical reactions. In what parts of your body are you noticing feelings? Is your stomach upset? Is your heart racing?
Naming what you feel
After noticing what you feel, the ability to name it can help you get control of what is happening. Ask yourself: What would you call the emotions you’re feeling? Is it anger, sadness, or disappointment?
Accepting the emotion
A.Creating space |
B.Predicting what you feel |
C.It doesn’t mean preventing or avoiding emotions |
D.Emotions come and go so that you barely notice them |
E.Identifying emotions will help you share your feelings with others |
F.Emotions are a normal and natural part of how we respond to situations |
G.Your physical reactions can reflect what you are experiencing emotionally |