1 . Tricks To Becoming A Patient Person
Here’s a riddle: What do traffic jams, long lines and waiting for a vacation to start all have in common? There is one answer.
In the Digital Age, we’re used to having what we need immediately and right at our fingertips. However, research suggests that if we practiced patience, we’d be a whole lot better off. Here are several tricks.
●Practice gratitude (感激)
Thankfulness has a lot of benefits: Research shows it makes us happier, less stressed and even more optimistic.
● Make yourself wait
Instant gratification (满足) may seem like the most “feel good” option at the time, but psychology research suggests waiting for things actually makes us happier in the long run. And the only way for us to get into the habit of waiting is to practice.
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So many of us have the belief that being comfortable is the only state we will tolerate, and when we experience something outside of our comfort zone, we get impatient about the circumstances. You should learn to say to yourself, “
A.Find your causes |
B.Start with small tasks |
C.Accept the uncomfortable |
D.All this adds up to a state of hurry |
E.It can also help us practice more patience |
F.This is merely uncomfortable, not intolerable |
G.They’re all situations where we could use a little extra patience |
2 . Self-esteem is the ruling view you have of yourself. This includes your beliefs about your inner qualities and how you think others see you.
People with healthy self-esteem don't need to boast about themselves to others. People with low self-esteem may tell you how much everyone loves them, what a great job they do at work, and how amazing they are at pretty everything under the sun even though they really wonder if it's true. People may see them as obnoxious or “full of themselves”.
If you're starting to think you may have low self-esteem, you can work on the way you talk to yourself. When you turn off negative self-talk, you can open the floor to positive reinforcements and access the courage to show different sides of yourself. It isn't going to feel good at first, though. Keep going until it becomes less and less and maybe even a few awkward laughs in the mirror may help.
However, in serious cases of low or even non-existent self-esteem, you may want to call in a professional or a specialist. Good mental health is important, and professionals doing psychotherapy do not pass judgement or give corrections.
A.Self-esteem is not always rooted in reality, though. |
B.You have the power to shape a new self-perception. |
C.This encourages you to speak openly without worry. |
D.The real test of character is whether they can learn from their mistakes. |
E.Self-esteem refers to a person's overall sense of his or her value or worth. |
F.People with a healthy level of self-esteem present themselves with a casual confidence. |
G.With some practice and persistence, you will win this internal struggle to see your self-worth. |
3 . One of the cores of emotional intelligence is self-regulation, an important skill in the workplace. Like any skill, mastery of emotional self-control requires intentionality and practice.
Pause to Mentally Distance
When you notice your typical physiological experiences associated with strong negative emotion, what should you do? Mentally step out of your immediate experience. Asking yourself any question, or imagining what you might look like to others right now, will do the trick. At that point, although still physiologically keyed up, you will be able to ask yourself, “What is the best course of action right now?” or “What advice would I give someone else who is in my shoes?”
Take Control of Your Self-Talk
We’re frequently unaware of how much self-chatter is going on in the background of our minds. Such self-talk might not be in fully articulated (铰接式的) words or phrases, but instead little flashes of thought. Becoming aware of your self-talk can be difficult. Why is this an important skill to develop?
Seek Support from Partners
Ask others you trust to help you recognize when your emotions seem to be getting the best of you.
Cultivate (培养) Curiosity
Our brains are wired to draw conclusions and form judgments at lightning speed, and those are frequently the cause of our negative emotions.
A.They are comfortable with all emotions |
B.Those judgments are not necessarily accurate |
C.Doing so provides you with choices as to how to act |
D.Explain your developmental goals and sincerely ask for help |
E.Stay focused on coming up with an answer and following through on it |
F.Because it is those background beliefs that fuel our emotional responses |
G.Here are four ways you can develop greater emotional self-management |
That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son. The father
“My days are really busy and I don ‘t pay a lot of attention to you,”
5 . Perhaps you’ve stopped doing what you want because you’re afraid of what others think of you. You feel that you must do what they expect and that you must meet their expectations, otherwise you’ll lose their approval.
Think about yourself, about what you really like and are interested in. You must lead your life independently.
By surrounding yourself with people who think like you, you’ll realize that you don’t feel judged. Then, you’ll start doing what you really want.
To overcome your fear of what others think and of their non-approval, you should start talking about your plans, For instance, you might want to tell a handful of friends about your wishes and dreams.
It’s unavoidable that not everything will be plain sailing, and you’ll find obstacles along your way.
A.There is no need to think about what you want. |
B.You don’t have to change your circle of friends. |
C.Your life belongs to you, as well as your actions. |
D.By talking to them, you’ll be able to organize your plans and ideas. |
E.If this is the case, it’s time to start working on your self-esteem (自尊). |
F.You must do what you want without being affected by what others think. |
G.However, you must trust in yourself and seek the necessary strength to move forward. |
Steven walked slowly to the bus,
7 . Winter goes and summer comes. The tides
And how will I master these emotions so that each day will be
With this new knowledge I will make
A.advance | B.disappear | C.exist | D.fall |
A.native | B.colleague | C.supporter | D.part |
A.jokes | B.secrets | C.experiences | D.awards |
A.break in | B.wake up | C.take off | D.give out |
A.constantly | B.temporarily | C.casually | D.elegantly |
A.appear | B.blow | C.fade | D.spread |
A.anxious | B.natural | C.additional | D.productive |
A.sow | B.grow | C.separate | D.shelter |
A.fold | B.follow | C.carry | D.load |
A.react | B.review | C.recite | D.repeat |
A.obtains | B.regards | C.allows | D.observes |
A.chosen | B.seized | C.received | D.witnessed |
A.self-awareness | B.self-control | C.self-esteem | D.self-pity |
A.behind the scene | B.on the bottom line | C.at the end of the rope | D.out of sight |
A.insignificant | B.improper | C.impolite | D.unconscious |
A.concrete | B.inadequate | C.abstract | D.unmatched |
A.use | B.fun | C.sure | D.sense |
A.view | B.meeting | C.experiment | D.idiom |
A.limited | B.reserved | C.prepared | D.afraid |
A.salesman | B.player | C.architect | D.designer |
8 . Understanding Your Feelings Helps You Name And Tame (驯服) Them
We all experience various feelings all the time. Some of them feel great, some feel unpleasant, and it’s helpful to be able to recognize and understand how you’re feeling so you know how to deal with it.
To deal with your feelings you need to recognize what they are.
You can understand a difficult feeling and help yourselfto handle it.
A.Experts call this “name it to tame it” . |
B.How can you deal with different feelings? |
C.Perhaps you have the thought, “It’s not fair” . |
D.Feelings are how people experience emotions. |
E.First of all, notice what’s going on with your body. |
F.They are shown through various body movements, to begin with. |
G.Feelings are sometimes labelled as good or bad but that isn’t helpful. |
9 . How We Talk about Fear Matters
Lately, there seems to be plenty to fear in the world. How we talk about what we fear might offer clues to how we perceive that emotion socially and culturally.
Get the root of fear.
Figure out the emotional meaning of fear.
Whether emotions are viewed positively or negatively varies from culture to culture.
Find out a fearful pattern.
In looking at such patterns across the major language families, researchers found that the word “fear” was often associated with anxiety, envy and grief in Indo-European languages. But in Austronesian languages, “fear” more often was associated with surprise.
How we talk about fear changes how we react to it. When we talk about what frightens us, it may be useful to disrupt associated meanings. In addition, how our language categorizes an emotion seems to impact whether we perceive those emotions negatively or positively.
In conclusion, fear is something that can be changed by cultural and linguistic experience.
A.Talk more about fears |
B.Change our perception of fear |
C.The word fear has a long history in English |
D.There seemed a fearful pattern across the major language families |
E.This is based on what people have learned to associate with emotion words |
F.It opens the door to potential ways to change how we talk about and react to it |
G.This makes speakers of the latter languages associate this emotion with a less negative sense |
10 . Expressive writing or journaling is one way to help you heal from trauma (创伤).
Why does a writing intervention work?
However, for most people, the thought of acknowledging emotions and admitting that there’s something wrong with us is difficult. This is because expressing emotions can bring up feelings of guilt and shame.
If you’re interested in trying out writing as a tool for healing, start your writing by setting a timer for ten minutes.
A.Despite that, expressive writing remains an accessible tool. |
B.Of course, expressive writing is hardly a panacea (灵丹妙药). |
C.Also, seeking help for emotional stress is often seen as a sign of weakness. |
D.It may seem abnormal that writing about negative experiences has a positive effect. |
E.Once you have a better handle on your problems, you can move forward and get on with life. |
F.It is writing from your heart and mind and about the emotion associated with a certain event. |
G.Let your mind go to the detailed, specific moments to get to the feelings and truth of your experience. |