One of the most common emotions we all feel while pursuing a goal is frustration. How do you deal     1     frustration? Before I get into that, let me make sure we are on the same page in terms of the definition.

Frustration is     2     (simple) a feeling of being stuck or overwhelmed. Either way, it’s a situation     3     makes us feel like we don’t have enough resources to move forward. What causes this feeling     4     (be) that things don’t work out as we planned. So how should we deal with frustration?

We deal with it by picking our battles. If the thing     5     (cause) you to feel frustrated is something you can’t change, you should focus on something else. Besides focusing on what you can change, you need to slow down and break everything into bit sized pieces. In other     6     (word), take the issue, figure out what’s the main reason it didn’t work out as you planned     7     focus on fixing the outcome by taking action on things you can control.

By taking these two simple steps, you can save     8     (you) a lot of energy on things you have no control over. When you pursue any goal, you will surely hit some road blocks. When this     9     (happen), it will be frustrating, but if you focus on solving the issue and getting past the setback, you will be one step     10     (close) to achieving your goal.

It is bad for your health to get angry in life, but how can you control your anger? Here are some ways to deal with it.

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If you expect too much and can't get it, you will be disappointed. So change what you want and need, and you are less likely to become angry.

Think of the other person—try and understand his or her position.

Why are they behaving like that? How would you feel if you were in their shoes? Can you agree to their reasons for being angry? Once you see things from their point of view, your anger many be replaced by concern (关心).

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When you get angry, take a deep breath and stop the thoughts that are making you angry. Think of something happy instead, something you like and enjoy. Your anger will gradually become less.

Surround yourself with positive people.

The more people around you show that they are calm and happy, the calmer and happier you become too.

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Imagine doing something terrible to the person who is annoying you and change your anger into your imagination. Then you are free to act calmly and reasonably on the surface.