1 . Out of all the relationships we have in our lifetime, the one with our parents is the most important. When you think about it, no other relationship is like the one we have with our mom and dad: when we’re young, our parents care for us; when our parents are old, we care for them. But in the middle of this long bond, there usually comes a time when it seems like our parents are our biggest enemies: when we’re teenagers.
As kids, we love nothing more than spending as much time as we can with our parents.
As US psychologist Lisa Damour wrote recently, “Many parents of teenagers long for the days when their preteen laughed at their jokes and happily came along on errands.” So, why is it that as we begin to enter adulthood, we feel so different about the two people who brought us into the world? “Teenagers are going through a very stressful time in their lives: they want to please us, but they also want to break away,” US psychologist Michele Borba said. Borba’s second point is perhaps the biggest reason why our attitude toward our parents changes as we grow older.
We’re no longer kids, and as young adults, we try to be as independent as possible. We soon start to put our friends before our parents. Before we know it, things at home are completely different. But rather than pushing our parents away, we should pay attention to their advice instead of ignoring it.
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Although sometimes it may seem impossible to follow everything our parents tell us, there’s one thing we should remember - respect is something that works two ways:
It means that instead of not following our parents’ wishes, we should show how mature we are by trusting their wisdom. Indeed, as the girl pointed out, “
A.Friendship is the most important thing to me. |
B.Family is the most important thing to me. |
C.But as we approach our teenage years, it seems like everything our parents do is just annoying. |
D.In our mid-to-late teenage years, this is when we start to discover who we really are. |
E.Friends are great, but they’ll come and go. |
F.If we show respect to others, it will be shown back to us. |
G.With time passing by, we want to stay with our friends for long. |
2 . Conflict (冲突) between teenagers and parents happens for a lot of reasons. Sometimes conflict happens between teenagers and parents just because conflict happens between human beings anyway. Humans have different needs, different feelings, different opinions about what they want, and the relationship with people can be really difficult. However, teenagers can cause further conflict because of the hormonal (生理的) changes that are happening and the stage of life that they're in.
Teenagers and parents have different understanding about rules and at times they find it difficult to look into the future. So parents and teenagers will often experience conflict about many things, do chores, homework, whether teenagers speak respectfully or not and about what they're allowed to do.
Before we think about rule boundaries (界线) for teenagers, we need to make sure that we have a really good relationship base. There's no point saying “From now on, you have to listen to me”: if you don't have a positive relationship with your teenager. We need to go back and make sure there is some degree of shared respect, and some degree of positive communication and enjoyment being together. you do that first, it means that rule boundaries are a lot easier to set up.
Often we're dealing with conflict on the fly. This is not the right time to be dealing with it. We really want parents and teenagers to sit down and think about the kinds of things that may happen in the house before the problems come. The more detailed your rule boundaries are for teenagers, the more likely it is that they are going to follow them. So this means we don't have rule boundaries like “Have the bathroom cleaned”. It needs to be “The floors mopped, nothing on the countertop and the mirrors cleaned by ten o'clock every Saturday”: Rule boundaries need to be written down, and set out ahead of time so the teenager knows exactly what's expected.
1. What's important to set up a rule boundary easily for teenagers?A.Being strict from the start. | B.Developing a good relationship with them first. |
C.Saying"No" to their requirements. | D.Avoiding close talks with them. |
A.Doing some housework. | B.Having a good reading habit. |
C.Cleaning the bathroom. | D.Finishing your homework by five. |
A.In a hurry. | B.On the plane. | C.By oneself. | D.Another day. |
A.Growing Pains | B.Teenage Problems |
C.Parent-Child Conflict and Solutions | D.Knowing the Conflict |
1. What does the woman see?
A.A birthday cake. | B.A photo. | C.A well-prepared party. |
A.She is still healthy. | B.She was born in America. | C.She hates to have birthday parties. |
A.2. | B.3. | C.5. |
4 . When we were growing up, our mother, a single parent of seven kids, always took on two jobs, so it fell to Nina, the oldest, to take care of us. Because of Nina, pop music was an
I think music was
Nina wasn’t much older than me, but she shouldered great
Recalling my childhood, I think things could have been
A.extra | B.external | C.expensive | D.essential |
A.access | B.benefit | C.condition | D.cost |
A.songs | B.gifts | C.bands | D.films |
A.mind | B.suggest | C.remember | D.avoid |
A.promoted | B.broadcast | C.introduced | D.experimented |
A.universal | B.important | C.boring | D.new |
A.teenager | B.nurse | C.friend | D.question |
A.way | B.end | C.future | D.background |
A.listening to | B.waiting for | C.coming for | D.worrying about |
A.story | B.work | C.radio | D.discussion |
A.cases | B.effect | C.attitudes | D.responsibility |
A.need | B.design | C.think | D.create |
A.missed | B.counted | C.shared | D.collected |
A.thus | B.also | C.instead | D.seldom |
A.simple | B.poor | C.familiar | D.wonderful |
A.common | B.natural | C.outstanding | D.interesting |
A.thin | B.humorous | C.ambitious | D.sweet |
A.troubled | B.painful | C.lonely | D.happy |
A.Hearing | B.Learning | C.Changing | D.Producing |
A.hand | B.smile | C.wave | D.wind |
I live in a city where jobs are difficult to get and if you want to find a well-paid job, it will be even harder. Therefore, it is not surprising for you to see many people in our city walk a long way because they can’t even afford an old used car.
It was a cold windy day. I saw one of these people who often have to walk from and to work every day, when I was driving after work. A middle-aged man wearing only a thin overcoat was walking down the road and trying to ask for a ride from the passing cars. Unluckily, there was no driver willing to stop their cars. When I saw two cars in front of me pass him by, I wanted to do the same. But the sight of that poor man remained in my mind for quite a moment. I felt as if a big hand was dragging me and forcing me not to leave. Finally I drew back and gave him a ride.
As I drove along, we had a conversation, during which he told me something about himself and his family. I learnt that the man was doing everything he could to support his family using the limited salary from several part-time jobs. As you could imagine, every coin he earned was going to be used to pay for the house and food.
It was a long drive before we got to his home. All the way, I could feel his hardship and tiredness. But as we came close to the house where he was living, I saw his tired eyes grow bright and the whole body was lit up. His lovely girl was playing in the front yard. Seeing her father was out of the car, she ran to him as quickly as possible, reaching out her two small hands. He held the girl with his two strong hands, laughing and kissing her cheeks. I was lost in that happy moment. I smiled, said goodbye to them, wished them the future happiness and then drove off.
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6 . I was a stay-at-home mother and there never was enough money to go around. So on my mother's birthday, I had no money to
Sitting down to write a few words of good wishes got me to
My mother taught us to be good neighbors by
I put the cookies and the letter on the table in her kitchen. That evening, she called and
Two years later, she passed away. While cleaning out her house, I
But then I got my
It was the original birthday letter. I realized that the letter was the
A.accept | B.prepare | C.need | D.forget |
A.note | B.key | C.number | D.picture |
A.worry | B.doubt | C.cry | D.think |
A.heartfelt | B.mind-changing | C.interesting | D.fresh |
A.asked | B.taught | C.bought | D.required |
A.helping | B.watching | C.praising | D.inviting |
A.game | B.story | C.voice | D.list |
A.thanked | B.questioned | C.surprised | D.refused |
A.party | B.present | C.card | D.cookie |
A.went over | B.put up | C.came across | D.got into |
A.confused | B.excited | C.frightened | D.satisfied |
A.secret | B.place | C.answer | D.fun |
A.saw | B.moved | C.locked | D.opened |
A.dropped | B.noticed | C.chose | D.used |
A.most expensive | B.simplest | C.most meaningful | D.newest |
7 . Our words have the ability to build our loved ones up and guide our communication in the right direction.
Tell the truth gently(和缓地). It might feel like the right thing to hide the truth to avoid hurting your loved ones, but being dishonest breaks trust.
Respect each other's views. Is it more important to be “right” or protect your relationship? Remember there are a lot of “rights," depending on who you are talking to, so avoid getting caught up in right vs. wrong.
Be a good listener.
A.Think before you speak. |
B.Ask directly for what you want. |
C.Instead, learn to respect each other's differences. |
D.But sometimes they can have the opposite results. |
E.When someone is speaking to you, give them your attention. |
F.We practice and pass on healthy communication rules in our family. |
G.However, the truth should always be told in a gentle way and with love. |