1 . Parents have problems with their children. Every mother or every father wonders about something like “Why is this so? What can and should I do about it?”Strictly, what are these things that we parents call problems with regard to our children?
To a parent, a problem is some action, habit, or attitude that he doesn't expect, or he doesn't approve of, and that he tries to change but finds that he can't. So，whether it is dawdling (游手好闲) or any other everyday behavior in children，the parent calls it a“problem”. In reality, of course, parents and child specialists don't always agree on what is or isn't a“problem”But this disagreement doesn't make much difference to the anxious parent who feels so sure that he faces a problem.
I think common problems of young children can be grouped into four general categories: habit, management, expectation and adjustment. So, what are they really about? Four common types of problems: 1) Habit or training problems -those that have to do with establishing the fundamental habits of the children. 2) Child management problems -related to managing or controlling the child, directing his self-interest, and trying to get him to live agreeably and socially with other people around him. 3) Expectation problems -those that dealt with the child's learning to fulfill certain expectations. Some of these expectations arise in the parents' view of the child; some arise in the child's own thinking as he looks at the world and his place in it. 4) Adjustment problems—related to the child's sense of security and his emotional adjustment.
Why do these problems arise then? Partly, they arise out of the child's growing up, out of his need to be trained to fit into a world that just wasn't designed especially to meet his wishes. Partly, it is because the parent expects certain things from the child and figures that the child isn't meeting those expectations.
But no matter what causes the problem, it is most probably true that the parent's anxiety and distress are almost sure to increase the problem. For a child is something like a mirror, his behavior reflects the parent's concern about that behavior. That's why it is so important for us to understand why the child behaves as he does. Understanding is the first step in trying to manage a "problem". If you understand, you lose some of your anxiety. If you lose some of your anxiety, the child can relax and improve his behavior.
1. This passage was mainly written for______.
| A．teachers | B．children |
| C．parents | D．specialists |
2. Which of the following statements is NOT true according to the passage?
| A．Dealing with children's problems needs a calm mind |
| B．Parents and child specialists differ on the definition of a problem. |
| C．Parents sometimes find it difficult to solve the problems of their children. |
| D．Children are usually anxious to solve their problems with the help of their parents. |
3. If a mother has trouble helping her son get along well with others, it means she meets______.
| A．habit or training problems | B．child management problems |
| C．expectation problems | D．adjustment problems |
4. Which of the following is a reason why problems of children arise?
| A．Children haven't received proper treatment at school. |
| B．Parents don't know how to help their children. |
| C．Children haven't achieved their aims while growing up. |
| D．Parents have expected too little on their children. |
5. The author wrote this passage mainly to ______.
| A．introduce some children's problems and how to solve them |
| B．advise readers to understand children's problems |
| C．offer readers some ways to deal with children's problems |
| D．tell readers how to tell different children's problems |
