“Jennifer, do you hike? It’s about three miles in total,” one of the women asked. Three miles. I wasn’t sure how long that was, partly because I didn’t actually hike. I was somewhat familiar with the area where they planned to go, but our family had just moved from Oregon to Arizona. I wondered if hiking could be much different from walking.
After this relocation for my husband’s career, making friends was not as simple for me as it was for him. He came to the community for a full-time position at a busy university. I was enormously grateful for the ease of the transition (过渡) for my family, but nervous for myself. I wondered if and when I would also feel a sense of belonging. So, when I received a hiking invitation from the women I wanted to befriend, I accepted it.
The next day, when I arrived at the appointed place a little earlier, another three women had been standing there waiting.
“Hey, Jennifer, I’m glad you came to hike,” the woman said cheerfully and hugged me. I was already sweaty. She offered me a lightweight backpack for my water and had brought me an extra bottled water. When the others joined us, we started walking to the park. We naturally broke into two groups of two and walked rapidly along the sidewalk to the base of the mountain in North Glendale. I was a little out of breath before we even started going uphill.
“So, where did you hike in Oregon?” another woman asked.
“Well, uh, I mainly walked a lot. We lived in the suburbs, so we were in a neighborhood in southwest Portland with sidewalks, and…”
Again, the woman saved me by saying, “There are all kinds of hikes around here. Hey, let’s do this one today…” And she led us on a path that I guess was about three miles. I later learned it was one of the easier paths. We hiked and talked about our families, jobs, and dogs. We shared concerns about our kids in school with sports, grades, or significant others.
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That day, I became a hiker and learned more about my new friends.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________I still hike with my “hiking friends” and they gave me lots of thoughts.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________2 . It’s common to assume that friendships just happen or develop automatically, but that isn’t always the case. While certain people do “click”, and there’s even some support for friendship at first sight, or “friendship chemistry” all relationships require time, effort, and follow-up.
●Stay true to your word and follow through on any promises made.
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●Gradually share pieces of important or personal information. The process of self-disclosure is how we build trust in relationships. That said, when pursuing a new friendship, don’t want to go overboard and spill your deepest, darkest secrets right away. Start small with stories or insights into your thoughts and feelings.
●Finally, make sure you’re both putting equal effort into the friendship. Good friendships are characterized by reciprocity (互惠) and equality. Close friends don’t keep score, and things tend to balance out overtime, but it helps to work toward and establish a balance early on.
| A．We only have so much to give |
| B．Make time for shared experiences |
| C．Above all, be kind to and patient with yourself |
| D．And be sure to show an interest in the other person |
| E．If you say you will call or offer to arrange plans, do so |
| F．There is no one-size-fits-all approach to making friends |
| G．Start small by greeting a familiar face and build from there |
3 . Have you ever had to wait in line at a store and found yourself avoiding eye contact, whether with employees or other customers? You may hope it is easier to meet new people or feel at ease at a party.
●Stop worrying about the outcome.
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Remember that being true to yourself is more important than what strangers think. Who you are is no less important than who anyone else is. Every person has their own story and journey, and yours is just as important as anyone else’s.
●Don’t share too much too quickly.
It can sometimes be easy to share a little too much information about yourself, especially if you are excited or anxious when engaging with strangers.
| A．Share your important stories. |
| B．This helps to advance your friendship. |
| C．Don’t care what strangers may think of you. |
| D．So be proud of yourself and be honest with yourself. |
| E．Learning to talk to strangers can be challenging but fun. |
| F．But oversharing information may lead to an uncomfortable situation. |
| G．A conversation is a common way to start a relationship with strangers. |
4 . When friendships fall apart, it can feel like it’s impossible to repair them.
Start by calling or writing a note to communicate one message: “Our friendship is valuable to me, and I miss you. Is there any way to settle what stands between us?” This simple step is a way to open the doors to reconciliation (和解). Set the ground to see if your friend is willing to seek solutions as well.
Forgive as best you can.
It’s tough to let go if you’ve been wronged. Feeling the need for revenge (报复) is natural. However, the problem with revenge is that it could become a bad cycle. How can you stop this? By forgiving.
Find out the problem.
Finding out what went wrong is important. Don’t pretend there is no problem.
Rebuild respect.
The final step is to rebuild respect.
| A．Say sorry honestly. |
| B．It puts an end to all. |
| C．Make meaningful contact. |
| D．Get to the bottom of it together and move forward. |
| E．Some broken friendships may just remain that way. |
| F．If hurt, think about your friend’s most admirable qualities. |
| G．Repaired relationships give us new ideas on our experiences. |
5 . For lots of kids, toddlerhood (幼儿期) is an important time for friendship. Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing together also helps these kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation.
Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament(性格). Some toddler s are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler’s way of saying “I like you” during play is likely to come in the form of copying a friend’s behavior.
This seemingly unusual way of demonstrating fondness can result in unpleasant behavior. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules. That’s why it’s so important to take an active role in your toddler’s social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them.
Begin by helping your child learn sympathy (“Ben is crying. What’s making him so sad?”), then suggest how he could resolve the problem (“Maybe he would feel better if you let him play the ball.”). When your child shares or shows empathy(同理心) toward a friend, praise him (“Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.”).
Another way to encourage healthy social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words- not fists-to express how they feel. It’s also important to be mindful of how your child’s personality affects playtime. Kids are easy to get angry when they’re sleepy or hungry, so schedule playtime when they’re refreshed.
1. What does it indicate when toddlers copy their playmates’ behavior?| A．They are interested in acting. | B．They are shy with the strangers. |
| C．They are fond of their playmates. | D．They are tired of playing games. |
| A．Design games for them. | B．Find them suitable playmates. |
| C．Play together with them. | D．Help them understand social rules. |
| A．Giving examples. | B．Explaining concepts. |
| C．Providing evidence. | D．Making comparisons. |
| A．How Children Adapt to Changes | B．How to Be a Role Model for Children |
| C．How Your Baby Learns to Love | D．How to Communicate with Your Kid |
That day, the weather was very hot, and I was very nervous, unable to keep still and think calmly. My friend John and I were discussing a problem. Everything was going well. However, in the middle of our discussion happened an unexpected incident — he made ink from his pen on my new notebook by accident. I was very angry and I said to him, “Why did you do that?” As I spoke, I deliberately spilled the ink from my pen onto his book. “You, you did it on purpose,” he said loudly. At that moment, he was very angry. His face was red with anger, his eyebrows were almost raised, his forehead was wrinkled (皱起) more and more tight, and his mouth was wide open. Suddenly, he pushed my things on the table to the floor. When I saw him do this, I was so annoyed with him that I pushed his to the floor, and angrily said to him, “We are no longer friends!” “Well, it’s you who break off the friendship!” The friend shouted like a lion. I immediately took my things and left.
From that day on, every time I met him, I would take another way to avoid him. Though he seemed to want to say something, I didn’t wait for him to say anything, and ran away like an arrow.
Since that incident, I had been reflecting (反思) on myself, feeling that I had done something wrong, but I didn’t have enough courage to apologize to him. I knew that he didn’t mean to make ink from his pen on the book that time, but I exactly did. I shouldn’t have made his book wet in ink by design. I hated myself all the time. I was angry with myself.
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One day, I suddenly heard that John was going to study in another school.
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I was so happy that tears of joy welled up in my eyes.
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7 . Thirteen-year-old Kaylee has a lot of friends — 532, actually, if you count up her online friends. And she spends a lot of time with them.
But is it possible that Kaylee’s online friendships could be making her lonely? That’s what some experts believe. Connecting online is a great way to stay in touch, they say. However, some experts worry that many kids are so busy connecting online that they might be missing out on true friendships.
Could this be true? During your parents’ childhoods, connecting with friends usually meant spending time with them in the flesh. Kids played Scrabble around a table, not Words With Friends on their phones. When friends missed each other, they picked up the telephone. Friends might even write letters to each other.
Today, most communication takes place online. A typical teen sends 2,000 texts a month and spends more than 44 hours per week in front of a screen. Much of this time is spent on social media platforms (平台).
In fact, in many ways, online communication can make friendships stronger, “There’s definitely a positive influence. Kids can stay in constant contact, which means they can share more of their feelings with each other,” says Katie Davis, co-author of The App Generation.
Other experts, however, warn that too much online communication can get in the way of forming deep friendships. “If we are constantly checking in with our virtual words, we will have little time for our real-world friendships.” says Larry Rosen, a professor at California State University. Rosen also worries that today’s kids might mistake the “friends” on the social media for true friends in life. However, in tough times, you don’t need someone to like your picture or share your blogs. You need someone who will keep your secrets and hold your hand. You would like to talk face to face.
1. What is the purpose of the first paragraph?| A．To summarize the text. | B．To tell about true friends. |
| C．To bring up a discussion. | D．To encourage online friendship. |
| A．In person. | B．In advance. | C．In any case. | D．In full measure. |
| A．Worried. | B．Positive. | C．Confused. | D．Unconcerned. |
| A．It’s wise to turn to friends online. |
| B．It’s easier to develop friendships in reality. |
| C．Social media help people stay closely connected. |
| D．Teenagers need focus on real-world friendships. |
8 . I was at a new school in a new state and needed something solid to stand on: a place to feel grounded. I also needed to do laundry, so I walked to a nearby self-service laundry and stuffed a machine with my clothes. As I struggled to close the washer door, the woman working behind the counter told me to give it a good hit with my hand. The washer did its job, yet even after an hour, the dryer seemed to have barely warmed my clothes. I left, having decided to air-dry them on my car in the August heat.
A month later, I learned her name was Sandy, which she told me after I’d helped her stop a washing machine from moving across the floor. I was grading poems at a table when one of the washers broke loose and skipped an inch into the air. I jumped to the machine and held on while she unplugged it. The next week, Sandy told me dryer No. 8 was the fastest.
It went on like this. I’d do laundry once a week, usually Thursday or Friday. Sandy worked Tuesday through Saturday and we’d talk small while I folded clothes. She told me about her son and his grades, as well as the new dog they’d just adopted. She was fascinated that I was studying poetry. She teased (开玩笑) that it was harder making a living as a poet than as a laundry attendant. Even then I knew she was probably right.
I began to recognize others there: workers taking breaks by the door, a mother and her baby, and even some delivery drivers. But Sandy was the center of my community. For nearly three years and almost every week, I’d do laundry and talk with her. We checked on each other, expecting the other to be there. We asked where the other had gone when we missed a week. There was a note of concern for the other’s absence, a note of joy at their return.
I’d found a place to stand on solid ground.
1. Why did the author leave with his wet clothes?| A．He liked the August heat better. | B．He had to go back to the meeting. |
| C．He wanted to show off his new car. | D．He didn’t think the dryer worked well. |
| A．She was warm-hearted. | B．She needed a volunteer. |
| C．She wanted to thank him. | D．She was sorry for the mess. |
| A．It was harder to fulfill. | B．It was really fascinating. |
| C．It was badly-paid work. | D．It needed a lot of effort. |
| A．He formed a close friendship with Sandy. |
| B．He made a lot of friends in college. |
| C．He expected Sandy to do laundry for him. |
| D．He often wrote to Sandy after graduation. |
9 . We have most friends at the age of 26, after having spent the first quarter of our lives building up our friendship circle, new research has shown.
The research into friendship shows that our social circle peaks (达到高峰) at 26 years and 7 months, at which we typically have five close friends. Women are the most popular at 25 years and 10 months, while men hitting the highest friendship point a little later at 27 years and 3 months.
The research, by Forever Friends, shows that about a third of. adults meet their closest friends while at school, with about a fifth saying they meet them at work.
Social networks such as Facebook and Twitter now also play a major role in building new friendship. The research points out that 25 to 34-year-olds make 22 friends via (通过) Facebook compared to 18 to 24-year-olds who make 12, and 35 to 44-year-olds who make just 4.
Forever Friends’ relationship coach Sam Owen says, “It is no coincidence (巧合) that over a third of us meet our best friends at school. It is a key time in our lives when friendship is growing through sharing notes, giving gifts, seeing each other regularly and laughing a lot. As adults we can often forget how powerful these small things are and how the little things can make a difference.”
Later in life we find ourselves losing friends. Over half of us lose friendship through a moving, while 36% say that over time they grow apart from close pals. Having children also causes 19% to drift away from childhood friends.
With growing pressure being put on friendship these days, it’s important to make time for our friendship.
1. How many friends may a 21-year-old college student make via Facebook?| A．4. | B．5. | C．12. | D．22. |
| A．Friendship is not easy to keep. |
| B．School time is important for building friendship. |
| C．How important making friends is. |
| D．How to keep friendship at work. |
| A．Make sense of. | B．Make up with. |
| C．Feel sorry for. | D．Lose contact with. |
| A．A newspaper. | B．A travel guidebook. |
| C．A nature magazine. | D．A storybook. |
10 . It is well known that humans need meaningful social connection.
Shower them with affection. We often think of affection as love we show in romantic relationships. But affection is more than holding hands and kissing.
Share your joys, struggles and even guilt. Think about how good it feels to tell a friend you secretly like a boring TV show and hear them respond “me too!”
Don’t hide your disagreements. It’s hard to deal with conflict in friendships. People often see them as something that should be fun and lighthearted, so they ignore problems when they arise.
| A．Tell them how much you value them. |
| B．Value them with your skills and talents. |
| C．It’s about communicating love and appreciation. |
| D．In fact, it’s linked to our mental and physical health. |
| E．It means they accept us for who we are, the good and the bad. |
| F．People feel hurt when someone doesn’t keep their private information. |
| G．But dealing with conflict in a healthy way can deepen your friendships. |
