1 . It’s common to assume that friendships just happen or develop automatically, but that isn’t always the case. While certain people do “click”, and there’s even some support for friendship at first sight, or “friendship chemistry” all relationships require time, effort, and follow-up.
●Stay true to your word and follow through on any promises made.
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●Gradually share pieces of important or personal information. The process of self-disclosure is how we build trust in relationships. That said, when pursuing a new friendship, don’t want to go overboard and spill your deepest, darkest secrets right away. Start small with stories or insights into your thoughts and feelings.
●Finally, make sure you’re both putting equal effort into the friendship. Good friendships are characterized by reciprocity (互惠) and equality. Close friends don’t keep score, and things tend to balance out overtime, but it helps to work toward and establish a balance early on.
| A．We only have so much to give |
| B．Make time for shared experiences |
| C．Above all, be kind to and patient with yourself |
| D．And be sure to show an interest in the other person |
| E．If you say you will call or offer to arrange plans, do so |
| F．There is no one-size-fits-all approach to making friends |
| G．Start small by greeting a familiar face and build from there |
2 . For lots of kids, toddlerhood (幼儿期) is an important time for friendship. Studies show that the earlier kids learn to form positive relationships, the better they are at relating to others as teenagers and adults. Playing together also helps these kids practice social behaviors, such as kindness, sharing, and cooperation.
Even so, how quickly your child develops into a social creature may also depend on his temperament(性格). Some toddler s are very social, but others are shy. In addition, the way that toddlers demonstrate that they like other children is markedly different from what adults think of as expressions of friendship. Research at Ohio State University in Columbus found that a toddler’s way of saying “I like you” during play is likely to come in the form of copying a friend’s behavior.
This seemingly unusual way of demonstrating fondness can result in unpleasant behavior. Regardless of how much they like a playmate, they may still grab his toys, refuse to share, and get bossy. But experts say that this is a normal and necessary part of friendship for kids this age. Through play experiences, toddlers learn social rules. That’s why it’s so important to take an active role in your toddler’s social encounters by setting limits and offering frequent reminders of what they are. When you establish these guidelines, explain the reasons behind them.
Begin by helping your child learn sympathy (“Ben is crying. What’s making him so sad?”), then suggest how he could resolve the problem (“Maybe he would feel better if you let him play the ball.”). When your child shares or shows empathy(同理心) toward a friend, praise him (“Ben stopped crying! You made him feel better.”).
Another way to encourage healthy social interaction is by encouraging kids to use words- not fists-to express how they feel. It’s also important to be mindful of how your child’s personality affects playtime. Kids are easy to get angry when they’re sleepy or hungry, so schedule playtime when they’re refreshed.
1. What does it indicate when toddlers copy their playmates’ behavior?| A．They are interested in acting. | B．They are shy with the strangers. |
| C．They are fond of their playmates. | D．They are tired of playing games. |
| A．Design games for them. | B．Find them suitable playmates. |
| C．Play together with them. | D．Help them understand social rules. |
| A．Giving examples. | B．Explaining concepts. |
| C．Providing evidence. | D．Making comparisons. |
| A．How Children Adapt to Changes | B．How to Be a Role Model for Children |
| C．How Your Baby Learns to Love | D．How to Communicate with Your Kid |
3 . I was at a new school in a new state and needed something solid to stand on: a place to feel grounded. I also needed to do laundry, so I walked to a nearby self-service laundry and stuffed a machine with my clothes. As I struggled to close the washer door, the woman working behind the counter told me to give it a good hit with my hand. The washer did its job, yet even after an hour, the dryer seemed to have barely warmed my clothes. I left, having decided to air-dry them on my car in the August heat.
A month later, I learned her name was Sandy, which she told me after I’d helped her stop a washing machine from moving across the floor. I was grading poems at a table when one of the washers broke loose and skipped an inch into the air. I jumped to the machine and held on while she unplugged it. The next week, Sandy told me dryer No. 8 was the fastest.
It went on like this. I’d do laundry once a week, usually Thursday or Friday. Sandy worked Tuesday through Saturday and we’d talk small while I folded clothes. She told me about her son and his grades, as well as the new dog they’d just adopted. She was fascinated that I was studying poetry. She teased (开玩笑) that it was harder making a living as a poet than as a laundry attendant. Even then I knew she was probably right.
I began to recognize others there: workers taking breaks by the door, a mother and her baby, and even some delivery drivers. But Sandy was the center of my community. For nearly three years and almost every week, I’d do laundry and talk with her. We checked on each other, expecting the other to be there. We asked where the other had gone when we missed a week. There was a note of concern for the other’s absence, a note of joy at their return.
I’d found a place to stand on solid ground.
1. Why did the author leave with his wet clothes?| A．He liked the August heat better. | B．He had to go back to the meeting. |
| C．He wanted to show off his new car. | D．He didn’t think the dryer worked well. |
| A．She was warm-hearted. | B．She needed a volunteer. |
| C．She wanted to thank him. | D．She was sorry for the mess. |
| A．It was harder to fulfill. | B．It was really fascinating. |
| C．It was badly-paid work. | D．It needed a lot of effort. |
| A．He formed a close friendship with Sandy. |
| B．He made a lot of friends in college. |
| C．He expected Sandy to do laundry for him. |
| D．He often wrote to Sandy after graduation. |
1. What is wrong with the woman?
| A．She had no friend. | B．She felt sad. | C．She quarreled with the man. |
| A．Help to make up. |
| B．Apologize to the woman. |
| C．Make friends with the woman. |
| A．She still hates Lucy. |
| B．She agrees to apologize to Lucy right away. |
| C．She is satisfied with the man’s suggestion. |
5 . I just had two lovely conversations with my long-term friends. First, I was pleased to have an
Over the next few years Bryan would
One day I saw the light on my phone
Most dictionaries
| A．unknown | B．unplanned | C．unpleasant | D．unfair |
| A．liked | B．envied | C．met | D．adored |
| A．refused | B．hesitated | C．prepared | D．reported |
| A．kindness | B．praise | C．promise | D．courage |
| A．end | B．table | C．principle | D．start |
| A．promote | B．notice | C．visit | D．attract |
| A．straight | B．somehow | C．even | D．together |
| A．frequently | B．gratefully | C．secretly | D．nervously |
| A．taxis | B．cars | C．buses | D．houses |
| A．stored | B．cleared | C．shared | D．obtained |
| A．flashing | B．balancing | C．mixing | D．changing |
| A．leader | B．friend | C．brother | D．colleague |
| A．hides | B．works | C．rests | D．lives |
| A．factory | B．school | C．city | D．country |
| A．houses | B．minds | C．hearts | D．burdens |
| A．busy | B．patient | C．regretful | D．tired |
| A．success | B．talk | C．practice | D．show |
| A．lies | B．works | C．differs | D．matters |
| A．require | B．state | C．contain | D．commit |
| A．beyond | B．against | C．within | D．above |
6 . The act of making and being a friend is as simple as it is difficult. Here area few tips to help you make new friends as well as to take better care of the friendships you already have.
Remember that people will like you more than you think they will.
Invest in activities that you love. Ask anyone about how to make friends and they will most likely tell you to try a new hobby. It might sound empty, but it works.
Be present. The planet is warming, and there’s so much good television out there to watch. We get it. But if you want to keep your friendships, you have to show up for them.
| A．So don’t listen to it |
| B．Accept the awkwardness |
| C．Do the things you’re enthusiastic about |
| D．You don’t have to be interested in just one thing |
| E．You have to listen and notice things about your friend |
| F．We have a few tips for being present and engaged with your friends |
| G．Actually, this advice is based on a well-known theory and some field research |
7 . Daniel Gill has been helping to open young minds as a teacher. He has always been a champion for civil rights because he grew up
In the 1950s, 9-year-old Daniel was
Daniel
Since he became a teacher, he has been keeping a (n)
Daniel says that students tend to
At a recent festival he mentioned a book idea called “No More Chairs” to publishers, hoping to take his
Daniel’s story is powerful, and it is a (n)
| A．causing | B．tracking | C．promoting | D．witnessing |
| A．forced | B．invited | C．shown | D．sent |
| A．took off | B．looked around | C．gave in | D．turned up |
| A．friends | B．teachers | C．parents | D．relatives |
| A．go away | B．sit down | C．pass by | D．come in |
| A．tickets | B．chairs | C．dishes | D．rooms |
| A．volunteered | B．managed | C．agreed | D．happened |
| A．admitted | B．hesitated | C．refused | D．failed |
| A．actually | B．eventually | C．slightly | D．occasionally |
| A．free | B．confident | C．welcome | D．reliable |
| A．chance | B．advice | C．idea | D．feeling |
| A．empty | B．old | C．valuable | D．comfortable |
| A．prepares | B．reviews | C．teaches | D．assesses |
| A．challenge | B．reason | C．news | D．course |
| A．search | B．communicate | C．respond | D．learn |
| A．home | B．classroom | C．party | D．office |
| A．message | B．schedule | C．level | D．measure |
| A．friendlier | B．larger | C．healthier | D．younger |
| A．honor | B．phenomenon | C．reminder | D．promise |
| A．quiet | B．active | C．equal | D．competitive |
8 . Saying farewell to someone you love, even for a night, can be difficult, much less saying goodbye for a lifetime or forever in death. Juliet bid Romeo adieu (再见) for the evening with the words, “Parting is such sweet sorrow.” Sweet sorrow is an oxymoron. But this seeming contradiction is true in the context of relationships.
Relationships are based on feelings, emotions, and passion. Deep friendships and loving relationships are measured by the level of emotional attachment. Emotions intensify over time. People spend time with the people they like. The more one person likes another person, the closer the relationship becomes. Each person in the relationship receives an emotional benefit from knowing the other person.
Saying goodbye means separating from the people who make up a significant part of your emotional identity. Separation, even a temporary absence, from the people you have a deep emotional connection with can cause sorrow because you will no longer be able to enjoy their company.
The sweet side of saying goodbye is the emotional fulfillment of being in a close relationship. The time spent together is emotionally rewarding, especially if that person is seen as a soulmate. Humans are social beings. We seek the love and comfort of other people. Loneliness devastates the human condition and leads to sadness. Sad people will do anything they can to find fulfilling relationships. Likewise, happy people will do anything they can to maintain or enhance relationships. Herein lies the essential point of the emotional problem.
The more intense relationships become, the more devastating the emotional loss that is felt upon separation. The exhilaration of relationships cannot be truly measured without experiencing the overwhelming loss of a deep emotional connection.
Enjoy the company of the person you are with as long as you can; knowing the pain you will feel at the end of the relationship is the true measure of the relationship. If it doesn’t hurt to say goodbye, perhaps it wasn’t worth saying hello.
1. Which of the word group can create the same effect as “sweet sorrow”?| A．icy cold | B．clicking sound | C．deafening silence | D．endless speech |
| A．Saying goodbye is unavoidable in our daily life. |
| B．The companion of close friends can lessen sorrow. |
| C．A person’s identity is connected with relationship. |
| D．Separation is the sorrowful part of saying goodbye. |
| A．Making more communication with others. |
| B．Building deep emotional connections with others. |
| C．Comforting friends with love and intense feelings. |
| D．Being a thoughtful person by standing in others’ shoes. |
| A．Sweet sorrow is very common in close relationships. |
| B．The pain of separation is the measure of relationships. |
| C．Human beings are eager to get emotional fulfillment. |
| D．Happiness is meaningless without sadness to compare it. |
9 . Friendship needs care and attention to keep it in good health. Here are five ways to sustain (保持) long-distance friendships.
·Set a regular dateLong-lasting friendships share the characteristic that both sides equally contact (联系) and share with one another. With busy schedules, squeezing in phone calls can be a challenge.
Make sure you have communicated with your friend about how frequently each of you wants to be contacted and what method works best for you both.
Anniversaries and birthdays carry even more weight in long-distance friendships. Although technology might make day-to-day communication possible, extra effort goes a long way on special days. Simply keeping a diary that keeps track of friends’ birthdays and other important dates will make sure nothing slips by you.
·Don’t rely on technology alone| A．Remember important dates |
| B．Compensate by writing letters |
| C．It is also helpful for you to be a friendship keeper |
| D．Try to find a time that works for both of you and stick to it |
| E．Friends need to talk about their preferred methods of communication |
| F．It is easy to have a sense of connectedness through social media |
| G．You may be the friend who left or the one who was left behind |
10 . My freshman year started out predictably stressful for me. I had never made friends
I remember that day when I was having my lunch
You’d never think a simple “hello” could actually change the
Oh gosh, she
Thanks to her little “ hello ” that day and the
| A．easily | B．carefully | C．actively | D．deliberately |
| A．supposed | B．aided | C．persuaded | D．determined |
| A．apart | B．right | C．alone | D．well |
| A．breakthrough | B．impression | C．duty | D．guidance |
| A．shaken | B．broken | C．taken | D．frozen |
| A．rushing | B．shouting | C．smiling | D．approaching |
| A．chance | B．tradition | C．principle | D．course |
| A．harmony | B．gesture | C．friendliness | D．appreciation |
| A．admitted | B．pushed | C．driven | D．headed |
| A．avoid | B．see | C．follow | D．detect |
| A．vividly | B．casually | C．cautiously | D．quickly |
| A．mistook | B．confirmed | C．recalled | D．knew |
| A．please | B．amuse | C．worry | D．scare |
| A．name | B．number | C．hobby | D．identification |
| A．existed | B．occurred | C．changed | D．survived |
| A．hidden | B．ignored | C．built | D．solved |
| A．awkward | B．shocked | C．curious | D．regretful |
| A．energy | B．relief | C．promise | D．courage |
| A．got married to | B．came across | C．dropped by | D．wished for |
| A．describe | B．overlook | C．recognize | D．admire |
