1 . How does it feel when someone listens to you without interrupting (打断) or giving their opinion ? This is called active listening.
What is active listening ?
Active listening means trying to understand how someone feels by listening carefully to what they’re saying and by paying attention to their body language.
Annie , aged 11, explains what it means to her. “When my friend tells me something important, I listen to what they’re trying to say. I can tell by the tone (语气) of their voice and the look on their face if they’re sad or happy.
How is active listening good for me ?
Listening closely to someone without interrupting or giving your own opinion shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying , even if you don’ t agree.
Listen carefully to what your friend is saying, and avoid jumping in with your own thoughts and feelings. If you get the urge (强烈的欲望) to talk , make a listening sign like nodding your head instead. Ask questions or say things that need more than a yes or no answer, like “Tell me more”.
A.How can I become an active listener? |
B.Why is listening important to me? |
C.This makes me feel like I understand them better. |
D.Instead, you’re focusing on what’s going on around you. |
E.Try watching how they’re feeling in their face and body too. |
F.This helps to avoid mistakes and arguments and can strengthen friendships. |
G.It is a great way to understand other people’s feelings and build trust between friends. |
2 . Small talk. Chitchat. These are the short conversations we have at parties, while we wait in line at the store, at family events or work.
Many people find these small conversations about random topics difficult. Some people say they hate it.
Chitchat can also increase your feeling of understanding, or empathy, toward people you know but not well. Chatting with a colleague about their child may help you to understand more of their life outside the office.
A.However, small talk is important. |
B.And small talk may make us happier. |
C.But they only want to talk about cats. |
D.Others say small talk is a waste of time. |
E.This could help build healthy work relationships. |
F.However, some people are not good at small talk. |
G.Sometimes we make small talk with people we already know but not well. |
Once there lived a rich man
In the centre of the main road into the town, he placed
“Who put this stone in the centre of the road?” said the old man, but he did not try to remove the stone. Instead, with some difficulty he passed around the stone and continued on his way.
Then he began to move the stone. He pushed and pulled with all his
4 . How can teenagers keep themselves from suffering from loneliness? Here are some suggestions for speeding a recovery from loneliness.
Find a safe place to make connections. If going to the dancing party makes you feel like you just don’t belong, try joining a special-interest group.
Find other ways of making connections. Lonely people hunger for friendship. Sometimes feeling accepted and liked comes more easily when you do something for others rather than wait for them to make you feel better.
You get what you expect, so expect the best. If you expect others to be friendly, you will behave in proper ways that encourage people to be friendlier to you. Loneliness won’t last long.
A.Choose the right people. |
B.So consider becoming a volunteer. |
C.Reach out to others but start small. |
D.It can be hard work to be positive towards others. |
E.Maybe it is the drama club or the marching band. |
F.This harmful attitude can continue into adulthood. |
G.But starting the first step of positive expectations can make all the difference. |
5 . About 72% of Americans use social media, where it’s common to make new friends, build relationships, or share photos of your daily life.
Social media allows people to connect in ways that wouldn’t otherwise be possible, and can often expand (扩展) people’s social circles, says Kathryn Moore, Ph. D., a psychologist at Providence Saint John’s Child and Family Development Center in Santa Monica. On social media, you can connect with those people in similar situations and share worries, fears, and celebrations, Moore says. According to her research, up to 64% of teens report they have made a new friend online, for example, and 83% of teens report that social media makes them feel more connected with their friends.
Social media can negatively impact relationships when you start comparing yourself to other people, including your friends, just based on their social media, Moore says. For example, some may fear their lives aren’t as good as their friends’ and take friendships away because they feel they’re not good enough. Problems with self-esteem (自尊) can also appear when posting about some relationships on social media, but not all of them. “People might feel left out that they’re not as important if they’re not being shared on social media,” Moore says. Cyberbullying (网络霸凌) can also negatively impact relationships, whether you are receiving mean comments or sending them to someone else.
In order to grow a relationship that started online you should show the real you. To deepen a relationship that started on social media, Moore suggests talking on the phone or meeting in person. This allows for more fluid (流畅的) conversations, where you can communicate in real time. Remember that the people who you meet online can become an important part of your life.
“If a relationship created through online resources is treated with respect and consideration, it can be a great way to meet someone you might never have had the chance to meet,” says Don Grant, Ph. D., chairman of the American Psychological Association’s Device Management & Intelligence Committee.
1. What can we say about social media according to Moore’s research?A.It has become the most important way for teens to make friends. |
B.It prevents people from making friends in real life. |
C.It can help teens to develop real relationships. |
D.It makes teens feel more lonely and lost. |
A.Social media may influence relationships in a bad way. |
B.Building relationships online is not a piece of cake. |
C.Relationship online makes people less connected. |
D.Social media increases the risk of cyberbullying. |
A.It leads people to lose chances to meet face to face. |
B.It is more respectable than the relationship in real life. |
C.It can be meaningful if dealt with properly. |
D.It can be developed in an informal way. |
A. | B. |
C. | D. |
6 . The Internet has opened up a whole new online world for us to meet, chat and go where we’ve never been before.
But just as in face to face communication, there are some rules of behavior that should be followed when on line.
For anything you’re about to send: ask yourself, “Would I say this to the person’s face?” if the answer is no, rewrite and reread.
If someone in the chat room is rude to you, your instinct (本能) is to fire back in the same manner. But try not to do so.
It is not polite to ask others personal questions such as their age, sex and marital status. Unless you know the person very well, and you are both comfortable with sharing personal information, don’t ask such questions.
A.It’s natural that there are some people who speak rudely or make mistakes online. |
B.Repeat the process till you feel sure that you’d feel comfortable saying the words to the person’s face. |
C.Everyone was new to the network once. |
D.The basic rule is simple: treat others in the same way you would want to be treated. |
E.When you send short messages to a person online, you must say something beautiful to hear. |
F.You should either ignore the person, or use your chat software to block their messages. |
G.If you do decide to tell someone about a mistake, point it out politely. |
7 . We will all probably know both some introverts (内向的人)and extroverts (外向的人)in life, and yet we can gain a wrong impression about both types of people. For example, some introverts can be extremely confident and they can be able people. However, some extroverts aren’t as confident as they'd like to appear to be and often try to hide their true identities behind a false appearance.
Shyness can affect both introverts and extroverts and anybody else too. It can be very debilitating (使衰弱的)and, if severe, can have a huge negative influence upon our ability to form meaningful relationships and it can also affect our careers or jobs.
A lot of people feel shy because they have low self-respect and feel unworthy when comparing themselves to others. They find it difficult to communicate with others whom they don't know. In that case, one of the best ways of overcoming the shyness is to focus the attention on the other person instead. Shy people can try changing people's focus on someone else, so that they don't need to talk about themselves too much.
If you recognize that you are shy and see that as a lion in the way of enjoying your life. you should first overcome it by accepting that it's causing a problem for you. Trying getting into conversations with strangers is helpful. Shy people are challenging themselves and over- coming their shyness. In this way, shy people can get their own self-respect. Each time they do it, this will be repeated until they feel confident enough.
Like any negative thought, determination can also help you beat shyness and having a positive attitude is the key to overcoming the shyness.
1. What does the author intend to tell us in paragraph 2?A.The difference between introverts and extroverts. |
B.The relationship between ability and shyness. |
C.The harmful effects of shyness. |
D.The cause of shyness. |
A.They are afraid of learning from others. |
B.They are often made fun of. |
C.They are short of confidence. |
D.They have to talk too much. |
A.Do sports as much as they can. |
B.Listen to the voice in their heart. |
C.Have a good talk with their parents. |
D.Keep a strong belief in supporting themselves. |
A.How to Overcome Shyness |
B.Tips of Expressing Shyness |
C.How to Understand Introverts |
D.Tips of Talking with Extroverts |
When someone has
So when someone has hurt you, cool down first. Take a couple of breaths and think of something
Next, keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean
9 . Lizzy Brown, a 42-year-old mother of three from East Riding, Yorkshire, was diagnosed with cancer when she was 14 years old. Ms Brown received the diagnosis having woken up frightened on her 14th birthday. She was admitted to a hospital in Cambridge in 1989, where she was told that she shouldn’t expect to survive into adulthood.
While being monitored (监护) at the hospital, Ms Brown was looked after by a kind nurse called Debbie Bye. Ms Brown has never forgotten the good care that Ms Bye provided during her time of need. “My prognosis (预断) was very poor,”' Ms Brown said. “I wasn’t expected to live more than five years, but now I’m 42 with three children and there’s not a wheelchair in sight. She might have thought she was doing her job but it went above and beyond that. I remember watching Debbie work and being so inspired by the way that she did things. She showed me that children are children no matter what is wrong with them and she treated us all the same.”
The childhood cancer survivor always wondered what had happened to the nurse over the years,which is why she decided to put a call out on Twitter. Ms Brown tweeted an appeal to find Ms Bye, with her tweet being shared more than 1,000 times. Her action proved successful, as the two women were eventually able to make contact (取得联系) thanks to the power of social media.
“To be there when Lizzy was given her prognosis was something I will never forget,’’ said Ms Bye, who has since retired (退休) from hospital work and now works part-time in a school. “She was a teenager in denial and over the years I have often wondered what happened to her and came to the only conclusion I could and thought she had passed away. I am blown away.”
1. What do we know about Ms Bye?A.She is in poor health now. |
B.She still works in the same hospital. |
C.She forgot about Lizzy Brown’s situation. |
D.She once worked whole-heartedly as a nurse. |
A.She turned to the Internet. |
B.She visited quite a few places. |
C.She asked many relatives for help. |
D.She made a public appeal in local papers. |
A.scared | B.excited | C.pitiful | D.nervous |
A.To report a moving reunion. |
B.To warn us of the danger of cancer. |
C.To show us how to live a healthy life. |
D.To give advice on how to treat nurses. |
10 . It is not so difficult to make friends after you move to a new neighborhood. As long as you are open and friendly, you will be able to make new friends after you move to a new area.
Smile and say hello to any neighbors you see. Smile to your neighbors from day 1.
Go for walks around your new neighborhood.
Throw a housewarming party at your new place. Parties are one of the quickest ways to enlarge your social circle. Have a small gathering at your new apartment and invite your neighbors over to get to know them.
A.Ask some difficult questions. |
B.Ask neighbors questions about the neighborhood. |
C.Giving a friendly "hello" to them is also a good idea? |
D.But first of all, you need to get to know your neighbors. |
E.This will give you more chances to meet your neighbors. |
F.However, you can improve your relationship in many ways. |
G.You can invite them in person if you have already talked with them. |