At a time when we are all experiencing an extraordinary level of stress, science offers a simple and effective way to improve our own emotional (情感的)health.
To help yourself,
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University, studied a concept called “felt obligation (义务),” which
As it turned out, the people who had higher levels of “felt obligation” - meaning they were the type of people to sacrifice for others - dealt
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Scientists asked 200 people to reconnect with an old friend by email or by phone. Many people
According to the study, people like to text because they can have more control. They can think about their message before they send it, and they won't be cut off or interrupted while messaging.
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3 . Teenagers are especially likely to suffer loneliness. Here are some suggestions for speeding a recovery from loneliness.
Reach out to others, but start small. A smile and a friendly greeting for the student behind you in line at the cafeteria won’t make you best friends.
Find a safe place to make connections. If going to the school dance makes you feel like you just don’t belong, try joining a specialinterest group. Maybe it’s the drama club or the marching band.
Find other ways of making connections. Lonely people hunger for acceptance and friendship. Sometimes feeling accepted and liked comes more easily when you do something for others.
You get what you expect, so expect the best. If you expect others to be friendly, you will behave in similar ways.
A.But it will make you both feel pretty good. |
B.So consider becoming a volunteer. |
C.Some teens aren’t so adaptable, however. |
D.Encourage people to be friendlier to you. |
E.Choose the right people. |
F.For most young people, loneliness is only temporary. |
G.Look for a group that allows you to join in gradually and cheerfully. |
4 . How to Help Others in Your Community (社区)
Helping others in your community is a great way to spread joy to others and get the most out of life.
You can choose to become a volunteer. Volunteering is great way to help others out in your community. Look around for a homeless shelter or soup kitchen and spend some time there doing whatever needs to be done.
You can choose to redirect gifts.
You can stop to help. There are many cases where you can stop to give a helping hand. If you see people on the street struggling to carry all their groceries, stop to help
A.Usually they are grateful to accept your help. |
B.You can choose to donate to important causes. |
C.There are a number of chances you can take advantage of. |
D.You can help your neighbors without spending much money. |
E.Donate the gifts you receive to poor children in your community. |
F.Not only will this help others, but also you will gain certain benefit. |
G.Instead of getting new gifts every birthday, have your friends and family help others. |
5 . In the tenth grade,I began working for free at a vet’s that was run by a friend of my parents.I wanted to get experience for what I thought would be my future job.However,on one particular Saturday morning I learnt something perhaps more important.
The hospital was in the middle of one of the poorer sections of the city and some people could only pay for the most basic treatments.On this Saturday,a man and his young son,who was probably about 7 years old,walked in with a small cat in a cardboard box.There was something wrong with the cat’s left eye.But the man could not afford to pay for the cost of the medicine.He kept quiet for a while,and then he asked where the nearest animal shelter was.Hearing this,his son cried and started to argue with him.All of a sudden,an older woman who was sitting in the waiting room stood up,walked up to the counter,and told the man that she would pay for the cost.The man thanked her and the son got to keep a healthy cat.
I always thought it was the right thing to help out a needy person,but I only saw people do acts of kindness on TV or in the movies.What the woman did made me believe that these things do happen in real life,and quite often.
Now,when I can’t decide whether to help someone who is in need,I think of this woman,and then I have the courage to step up to the plate sometimes other people follow.
1. We can infer that a vet’s is most probably a hospital for .A.kids | B.the poor |
C.animals | D.women |
A.To help his parents’ friend with his work. |
B.To make some pocket money. |
C.To learn more about society. |
D.To gain some work experience. |
A.Give it up. |
B.Take it home without treatment. |
C.Give it to the woman. |
D.Give it to someone on the street. |
6 . Getting to know other people is a typical activity in our daily lives. Even if you're good with people,there are likely times when you're stuck for something more to say and start wondering what topic to bring up next.
Talk about the other person.
The biggest secret to being a good conversationalist is simply allowing the other people to talk about themselves. Why?
Ask about work.
This one can be a little tricky because the conversation could end up sounding like a job interview. Still, if you can handle it carefully and keep it short and sweet, it can lead to an interesting discussion.
This is where it starts to get more personal. It’s up to you to carry on the conversation using these questions in a proper way. Do you play or follow any sports? What do you like to read? What kind of music do you like?
Ask about their travels.
Ask the person where they’ve been. Even if they have never left their hometown, they will likely be happy to talk about where they want to go. If you had a chance to move to any other country, which one would it be and why?
Know what to avoid.
You know the old rule: never talk about religion, politics, money, family problems, or women’s age with people you don’t know well.
A.Where did you go on your last vacation? |
B.Ask them what has happened in their life. |
C.Find out about their interests and hobbies. |
D.The risk of saying something rude is too high. |
E.Then how to come up with good conversation topics? |
F.It’s a subject they probably know well and feel comfortable with. |
G.You can't expect miracles to happen in the conversation with someone. |