1 . 听下面一段较长对话,回答以下小题。
1. What is the woman?A.She is a trainer. | B.She is a leader. | C.She is a hostess. |
A.By keeping a promise. | B.By looking for truth. | C.By making fewer mistakes. |
A.Expecting too much. | B.Taking small steps. | C.Communicating poorly. |
A.Build deep friendships. |
B.Take relationships seriously. |
C.Put a high value on feelings. |
2 . Bad judgments are meant to feed our own personal ego (自我意识) and put others down, which is not the healthiest thing to do. Here are five reasons why you should stop it now.
You start finding faults in everyone. Judging quickly moves on to more private areas of your life.
Judging becomes a habit. If you judge people, sooner or later, it becomes a habit, and you start judging everyone around you for the tiniest of things.
People begin to distrust you. If you pass judgments about other people in front of your audience, you will lose their trust. As they will begin to feel that if you can judge others in front of them, you can talk about them behind their back.
Judgment is a sign of unhappiness. If you are 100% happy with who you are, you are a lot less likely to feel the need to judge others. If you are self-assured, you will not feel the need to cast a downward glance at others.
A.You are viewed positively by people. |
B.You start taking yourself too seriously. |
C.Hence, seeing others positively shows we are positive people. |
D.You judge their clothing, actions, success, values, and everything. |
E.Likewise, you also judge because you feel you are better than others. |
F.You start judging your close ones; friends, family members, partner, etc. |
G.And no one wants to make friends with someone often talking unkindly about others. |
3 . Every day, as I took long walks through North Vancouver, I would think about the potential joys of a physically closer network. Wouldn’t it be great to have someone who could join me at a moment’s notice? How good would it be to have more non-scheduled hangs instead of ones that had to be planned weeks in advance?
This doesn’t have to be just a dream. Although technology is making it easier to maintain long-distance connections, nothing can replace seeing friends in person. Researchers have found that happiness spreads “like an emotional contagion (传染)”, especially among those who live close together.
Friends who live in the same city could decide to move within walking distance of one another — the same neighborhood, block, or even apartment building. Doing so would likely involve a lot of effort, but the resulting community could pay emotional dividends for years. Doing so would make it easier to support one another materially and emotionally.
Moving close to your friends requires some masterminding. Cities can make doing so easier by ending single-family zoning codes and encouraging a variety of housing types in neighborhoods. But even without official policies, people can make it work on their own. Sam Unger, 32, a food scientist and a friend of mine, has created a chosen family like this in Montreal, where about 15 of her friends live within walking distance of one another. When someone moves away, they try to transfer (移交) their lease (租约) to other friends. And when pals based elsewhere in the city are looking to move, Unger will try selling them on the positives of her neighborhood and sometimes even look for housing for them. “It’s funny,” she told me. “The other day, I bought a fire extinguisher, and she’s like, ‘Oh, well, I have one. You could just call me if you had a fire, and I’d be right over with it.’”
1. What kind of lifestyle does the author prefer?A.Alone. | B.Modern. | C.Scheduled | D.Free. |
A.Needs. | B.Benefits. | C.States | D.Effects. |
A.To tell Sam Unger has a talent in business. |
B.To prove people can move closer on their own. |
C.To show how important the official policies are. |
D.To suggest how one can get on well with others. |
A.Live Closer to Your Friends |
B.The Internet Brings People Closer |
C.A Way to Maintain Relationships |
D.Technology Harms Friendships |
4 . Recently, a topic featuring “Graduates avoid sending resumes out of social anxiety disorder” received many comments on Sina Weibo. It seems that social anxiety disorder, also known as social phobia (恐惧症), is affecting many people’s lives. Over 80% of university students who took part in a survey tended to avoid social interaction due to an assumed social phobia.
For those who have a social phobia, everyday social situations cause strong fear beyond their control because they fear being watched or judged negatively by others.
Having a social phobia can mean physical symptoms like blushing (脸红), upset stomach, or having trouble catching your breath. The good news is that it is treatable.
I used to be so shy that I avoided greeting people I knew by pretending to scroll (滚屏) on my phone or turning in another direction.
A.After all, they are not making you any better. |
B.Understand it’s perfectly fine to make mistakes. |
C.Here are some tips for overcoming a fear of social interaction. |
D.But is avoiding social interaction equal to having a social phobia? |
E.However, my attitude began to change when I met a senior journalist. |
F.But if you only feel a bit uncomfortable, it might mean you are just shy. |
G.Shy people avoid socializing because they take others’ opinions seriously. |
5 . Boundaries are personal guidelines that define what is and isn’t okay in your interpersonal relationships. As everyone has different needs and comfort levels, they may appear different for each person. Having healthy boundaries may provide such benefits as avoiding burnout, boosting self-esteem and maintaining personal space.
Once you have identified your boundaries, it is important to communicate them effectively.
When learning how to set healthy boundaries, it is essential to learn how to say “no”. Saying “yes” to everything can lead to stress, burnout, and frustration. It is important to understand what you consider acceptable and unacceptable, setting limits that reflect those standards.
A.Honesty and respect play an essential key role in the process. |
B.Initially, you are supposed to identify your personal boundaries. |
C.When you feel that someone has crossed your boundaries, remind them. |
D.Therefore, setting healthy boundaries is of vital importance in social activities. |
E.Keep saying “no” to things you disapprove of helps to understand yourself better. |
F.This contributes to finding possible solutions to issues regarding boundary-setting. |
G.Pick up the conversation unless there appears another argument needed to be settled. |
6 . Your neighbors are probably the first line of defense in case of any problematic situation.
The first step is introducing yourself when you move to a new neighborhood or when a newcomer moves in. Leave them a note under their door to introduce yourself.
Be respectful of your neighbors. It’s in poor taste to have regular insensitive parties at your place causing disturbances. Before your party, it’s good practice to notify your neighbors. Besides, avoid chatting them up for hours on end, which may be inconvenient, especially if you don’t know their schedules.
As Emma Seppälä put it, “social connectedness generates a positive feedback loop (圈) of social, emotional and physical well-being.” It feels so easy to just stay home without having to engage with your neighbors but connecting with them is worth the effort.
A.Remember every small gesture counts. |
B.A crisis is a test of communication skills. |
C.It can actually boost your mood in the long run. |
D.Slipping it in their mailbox further solidifies friendship. |
E.It’s essential to ensure you maintain decent relationships with them. |
F.Alternatively, you can give them a gift while making yourself known to them. |
G.Only by establishing healthy boundaries will you achieve peaceful coexistence. |
7 . Meeting people is the first step to make friends.
Make small talk even if you don’t feel like it
Small talk can make people feel false and meaningless.
When you talk to someone new and realize that you have similar interests, the conversation usually goes from stiff (生硬的) to fun and interesting. Therefore, make it a habit to find out if you have any mutual interests or something in common. You can do this by mentioning things that interest you and seeing how they answer.
Don’t write people off until you know them
Don’t judge people too quickly. Try not to think that they are shallow (肤浅的), boring, or that you have nothing to talk about. If everyone seems uninterested, it might be because you have been in small talk.
Make people like being around you
When you try to make people like you, it will become easier for you to make friends.
A.But it does have a purpose. |
B.Help people get to know you. |
C.Being used to talking to people is important. |
D.Figure out what you might have in common. |
E.If you only make small talk, everyone will sound shallow. |
F.But how do you actually become friends with someone? |
G.When you make sure that people like being around you, they will like you. |
8 . How To Stop Bein g A People Pleaser
As a recovering people pleaser, I spent much of my life keeping others happy. Breaking this habit meant stepping on a few toes. However, I’ve become a happier person as a result. Here are some tips I used to stop being a people pleaser.
Identify your priorities. Take a moment to think about why you are trying to learn how to stop being a people pleaser.
Just say “no”. One reason why people pleasers say “yes” to everything is that they fear disappointing others.
Accept yourself. Many people pleasers are insecure about who they are.
Remember that you cannot please everyone. No matter what you do there will always be someone who is unhappy with your choices.
A.Learn to set healthy boundaries. |
B.Don’t mix up your boundaries with others’. |
C.Who are the people that you feel the need to please? |
D.Spend some time learning to love yourself for who you are. |
E.So why bother trying to please everyone if it isn’t possible? |
F.But saying “no” is the best way to take care of your own needs. |
G.That is why the more you seek security, the less of it you have. |
9 . Five Tips to Develop Leadership Qualities
●Know about yourself to develop your self-awareness. A good leader is in tune not only with their team members but with themselves as well.
●Learn as much as you can about your field.
●Find a consultant who can teach you new skills. There’s always room to grow, even if you’re in a top leadership position.
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●Go into things with a positive mindset. Positivity is great for boosting your team’s morale (士气), increasing productivity, and forming healthy relationships between team members. Discouraging gossip (流言蜚语) amongst team members can go a long way towards creating a more positive environment.
A.Learn how to manage conflicts. |
B.Take every opportunity to increase your knowledge. |
C.Reach out to others you admire who have strong leadership skills. |
D.Let others know you disapprove of gossip if they try to bring it up. |
E.It’s wrong to think that spreading gossip will help make you stand out. |
F.Being a consultant requires special skills and a desire to constantly learn. |
G.Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses to figure out what kind of leader you are. |
10 . Have you ever struggled to understand how someone else feels? Building up your empathy (同理心) skills helps you connect with your friends.
What is empathy?
Empathy is a kind of capability that lets you step into someone else’s shoes and then figure out how they are feeling. For instance, if you can see your friend is upset after losing a football match and you support them by telling them some warm and motivating words, you are showing empathy. Miranda McKeamey set up an organization called EmpathyLab that builds empathy through reading.
Scientists say empathy isn’t something you are born with, it’s a skill you can acquire through learning. One way you can do this is by active listening. When someone is talking to you, listen closely and respond in a way that shows you understand their situations and emotions thoroughly. Reading, advocated by EmpathyLab, is also a great way to boost empathy, since stories can take you inside someone else’s mind and show you the world through their eves and emotions.
Put empathy into action.
A.How can you have more empathy? |
B.Who need empathy most in daily life? |
C.Besides, it also spreads kindness and inspires them to do the same. |
D.To find out more conducts you can do, log in EmpathyLab.UK.com. |
E.Only by putting empathy into action can you relate to others’ bad lives. |
F.She believes even small, supportive actions can have a positive impact. |
G.Miranda recommends going into the thick of people’s lives to show empathy. |