1 . When you set a foot outside of your door to drop trash, go to a social event or go for a walk, thoughts like “I hope I don’t see anyone I know” or “please don’t talk to me” may run through your mind. I’ve also said such things to myself. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is to talk with someone, especially someone new.
Why do we go out of our ways to avoid people? Do we think meeting new people is a waste of time? Or are we just lazy, thinking that meeting someone new really is a trouble?
Communication is the key to life. We have been told that many times. Take the past generations, like our parents, for example. They seem to take full advantage of that whole “communication” idea because they grew up talking face to face while Generation-Y grew up staring at screens. We spend hours of our days sitting on Facebook. We send messages to our friends and think about all of the things we want to say to certain people that we don’t have the courage to do in reality.
Nowadays, we are so caught up in our little circle of friends—our comfort zone. We love it that they laugh at our jokes, understand our feelings and can read our minds. Most importantly, they know when we want to be alone. They just get us.
Holding a conversation with someone new means agreeing with things that you don’t really believe and being someone you think they want you to be—it is, as I said before, a trouble. It takes up so much energy, and at some point or another, it is too tiring.
But meeting new people is important. Life is too short, so meet all the people you can meet, make the effort to go out and laugh. Remember, every “hello” leads to a smile—and a smile is worth a lot.
1. What do we learn about the author?A.He likes to meet someone new. | B.He feels stressed out lately. |
C.He’s active in attending social events. | D.He used to be afraid of talking to others. |
A.They rely on the Internet to socialize. | B.They are less confident in themselves. |
C.They have difficulty in communicating. | D.They are unwilling to make new friends. |
A.They think it troublesome. | B.They are busy with their study. |
C.They fear to disappoint their friends. | D.They want to do meaningful work. |
A.To stress the importance of friends. |
B.To give tips on how to meet new people. |
C.To encourage people to meet new people. |
D.To display the disadvantages of Generation-Y. |
2 . A study by a team of Nanyang Technological University, Singapore (NTU Singapore) psychologists has found a link between extraverts (外向的人) and their word choices. The finding highlights the need for stronger linguistic indicators to be developed for use in online personality prediction tools, which are being rapidly adopted by companies to improve digital marketing strategies.
Today, marketing companies use predictive algorithms (算法) to help them forecast what consumers want based on their online behaviors. For example, an extravert consumer might be attracted to marketing messages that match their personality, and retail brands could then choose to target such consumers by using more extraverted and creative language to advertise their products. However, personality prediction tools available today that are used by marketing firms are not entirely accurate due to a lack of theoretically sound designs. This may lead to a weakness affecting the performance of the machine learning algorithms. This begs the question—how should we create robust and accurate personality predictions?
The study found a correlation between extraverts and their tendency to use certain categories of words. The results showed a small strength of relationship between extraversion and the use of “positive emotion words” and “social process words.”
Positive emotion words are defined as words that describe a pleasant emotional state, such as “love”, ”happy”, or “blessed”, or that indicate positivity or optimism, such as “beautiful” or “nice”. Social process words include words containing personal pronouns except “I”, and words showing social intentions, such as “meet”, “share” and “talk”.
Moving forward, the NTU research team will investigate the relationship between extraversion and other word categories. They hope their work will provide clarity on the types of words that can help guide the development of more accurate machine learning tools for personality prediction.
1. We learn from the passage the findings of the study can be used to help ______.A.observe consumers’ behavior |
B.forecast the need of companies |
C.create practical personality predictions |
D.find correlation between extraverts and ads |
A.Renewable. | B.Forceful. | C.Doubtful. | D.Variable. |
A.Dispute. | B.Interaction. | C.Disaster. | D.Loneliness. |
A.The direction of future research. |
B.The theoretical basis of the study. |
C.The strength of business strategies. |
D.The development of machine learning tools. |
How often do you say “thank you” to someone? Expressing we respect the persons we are grateful to can make our relationship
Expressing gratitude shows we care for the person who receives the gratitude. When we say “thank you” to another, we often respond with
In addition to serving as a response to a good deed, it is clear that sharing in feelings of kindness in our relationship
Expressing gratitude
Expressing gratitude makes us feel happy,
On my first job as a sports editor for the Montpelier Leader Enterprise (MLE), I didn’t get a lot of fan mail, so my attention was caught by letter on my desk one morning.
When I opened it, I read: “Sweet piece of writing on the Tigers. Keep up the good work.” It was signed by Don Wolfe, the sports editor. Because I was a teenager, his words couldn’t have been more inspiring. I kept it in my drawer until it got old. Whenever I doubted I had the right stuff to be a writer, I would reread Don’s note and walk on air again.
Later, when I got to know him, I learned that Don made a habit of writing a quick, encouraging note to people in all walks of life. “when I made others feel good about themselves,” he told me, “I feel good, too.”
Over the years, I’ve tried to copy Don and write uplifting words, in a world too often cold and unresponsive, such notes bring warmth.
Why are positive note writers in such short supply? My guess is that people who shy away from the practice are too self-conscious. They are afraid they will be misunderstood. Also, writing takes time; it is far easier to pick up the phone. The drawback(缺点) of phone calls, of course, is that they do not last. And it sounds insincere on the phone. A note attaches more importance to our well-wishing. It is a matter of record, and our words can be read more than once, savored (品味) and treasured, and they bring strength and love to us.
Today I sent а warm letter to my old boss. I don’t know if it will make his day, but it made mine. As my friend Don Wolfe said, “Making others feel good about themselves makes me feel good too.”
1. What does the underlined part “walk on air” in Paragraph 2 probably mean? (No more than 5 words)2. According to the author, why aren’t people willing to write letters? (No more than 15 words)
3. Why did the author write to his old boss? (No more than 15 words)
4. What’s the text mainly about? (No more than 10 words)
5. Have you ever been encouraged by someone? And how? (No more than 20 words)
5 . Teens who have good, supportive relationships with their teachers enjoy better health as adults, according to research published by an American research center.
“This research suggests that improving students’ relationships with teachers could have positive and long-lasting effects beyond just academic success,” said Jinho Kim, a professor at Korea University and author of the study. “It could also bring about health implications in the long run.” Previous research has suggested that teens’ social relationships might be linked to health outcomes in adulthood. However, it is not clear whether the link between teen relationships and lifetime health is causal (因果的) — it could be that other factors, such as different family backgrounds, might contribute to both relationship problems in adolescence and to poor health in adulthood. Also, most research has focused on teens’ relationships with their peers (同龄人), rather than on their relationships with teachers.
To explore those questions further, Kim analyzed data on nearly 20, 000 participants from the Add Health study, a national study in the U. S. that followed participants from seventh grade into early adulthood. The participant pool included more than 3, 400 pairs of siblings (兄弟姐妹). As teens, participants answered questions, like “How often have you had trouble getting along with other students and your teachers?” As adults, participants were asked about their physical and mental health.
Kim found that participants who had reported better relationships with both their peers and teachers in middle and high school also reported better physical and mental health in their mid-20s. However, when he controlled for family background by looking at pairs of siblings together, only the link between good teacher relationships and adult health remained significant.
The results suggest teacher relationships are more important than previously realized and that schools should invest in training teachers on how to build warm and supportive relationships with their students. “This is not something that most teachers receive much training in,” Kim said, “but it should be.”
1. What does the underlined word “implications” in Paragraph 2 refer to?A.Recipes. | B.Habits. | C.Risks. | D.Benefits. |
A.Poor health in adolescence. | B.Teens’ relationships with their peers. |
C.Limitations of the previous research. | D.Factors affecting health in adulthood. |
A.Positive student-teacher relationship helps students’ adult health. |
B.Good family background promises long-term adult health. |
C.Healthy peer relationships leads to students’ academic success. |
D.Good adult health depends on teens’ good teachers. |
A.A medical report. | B.A health magazine. | C.A term paper. | D.A family survey. |
6 . Building Your Children’s Social Skills
Parents should help build their children’s social skills, which will affect their relationships now and in the future. To start with, tell them that learning social skills is as important as mastering a language or riding a bicycle.
1. Set an example
2. Encourage sharing and taking turns
The foundation to almost all pre-school relationships is sharing and taking turns.
3. Practice social skills
Practice social skills with your child through interaction.
4. Give them opportunities to play
5.
Guide your child how to deal with an issue as a response to problems with social skills. When your child reports a problem with another child to you, ask questions about possible reasons for the other child’s behavior. By understanding why a peer acts in a certain way, your child can come up with ways to respond.
A.Teach problem solving |
B.Communicate with others |
C.Model the ways you want to see your child behaving. |
D.Encourage your child to share and take turns whenever possible. |
E.This is the best way to let a child know what your expectations are. |
F.Provide a reward by playing a game when your child behaves well. |
G.Provide chances for your child to play with other children from an early age. |
7 . Getting along with people can be tough.
Accept human nature.
Humans make mistakes. People aren’t always nice. They also have all of the problems that you have in your life.
People are all very different: that’s what makes life interesting. And just like people are all different, the world is also very complex. Every situation is different, always. Just because someone doesn’t make the choice that you would make or just because they take a less efficient or smart path to get where they’re going doesn’t make them wrong.
Practice forgiveness.
Do something together.
A.Think about what your words really say. |
B.Respect that there are lots of valid choices. |
C.The following are some suggestions that can help you in some way. |
D.Everyone is dealing with their own set of problems. |
E.Doing things together is a great way to bond with people and make friends. |
F.Forgive people when they do make mistakes. |
G.Even when someone’s making you mad, thank them for their effort to help or their suggestions. |
8 . In the days before air conditioning, a wife and her husband were visiting her parents in a small town. As they were relaxing one day, the wife’s father suggested that they all drive to Abilene for dinner. The son-in-law dreaded the hot drive to a town 53 miles away, but said OK to avoid being a rude guest. The wife and mother-in-law both said it sounded good, so they went off.
Having the not very good food and returning home hot and sweaty, the mother-in-law said they would never have taken the terrible trip if it had been up to her. The son-in-law said that he chose to agree because the others wanted to go. Finally, the father-in-law said he only suggested it because he thought the younger couple might be bored at home.
This story happened to Jerry B. Harvey who later became a university professor. In 1974 he told it in an article entitled, “The Abilene Paradox (悖论): The Management of Agreement”, which shows that sometimes a consensus (一致) of opinion may not lead to achieving the desired result. The Abilene paradox sounds like groupthink. But in fact, groupthink members are voting according to their conscience (是非感) while Abilene “paradoxers” are not.
Going along to get along arises from a desire to avoid conflict and unwillingness to be seen as the “spoiler” who criticizes ideas and plans that others favor. The choice to go against one’s conscience to please the group produces cognitive dissonance (认识失调), and could involve personal risk to relationships or career or both.
The only way for either groupthink or the Abilene paradox in planning or decision-making situations is to avoid agreeing publicly with something you disagree with privately. You can’t control what others in the group do, but at least you can speak up, “I’ll go if everyone else wants to, but I’d be just happy to stay here and relax”.
1. What do we know about the son-in-law?A.He was good at pleasing others. | B.He didn’t want to take the trip. |
C.He behaved badly during the visit. | D.He was treated as an honored guest. |
A.She helped the family make a decision. | B.She suggested taking some food along. |
C.She had an argument with her family. | D.She made a complaint about the trip. |
A.It is difficult to make a balance. |
B.It is impossible to avoid a conflict. |
C.It is unnecessary to satisfy everyone. |
D.It is impolite to blame a person publicly. |
A.A man should find right ways to relax. |
B.A man should consider others’ ideas deeply. |
C.A man should actively participate in group discussions. |
D.A man should express himself directly in decision-making. |
9 . A study published by Whillans and her colleagues found that 48 percent of college freshmen in their second term at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver believed that their friends had made more friends than they had since school began. Thirty-one percent felt the opposite.
“Since social activities, like eating or studying with others, tend to happen in cafes and libraries where they are easily seen, students might overestimate (高估) how much their friends are socializing because they don’t see them eating and studying alone,” says Frances Chen, the study’s senior author and a professor in the UBC psychology department.
A second, smaller study they published at the same time shows that feeling left out made the students pretty unhappy. “This was surprising”, Whillans says, “because many high-achieving people—the ones most likely going to college—believe they’re better equipped than their peers (同龄人) to handle challenges. But when peers appear to be doing better socially, that can contribute to feelings that there’s something wrong with us.”
While this study did not look specially at the influence of social media, other studies have shown that the way people use social tools to present only the good side makes others feel lonely and separated. “Social media always gives us the idea that other people are more social than us,” Whillans says. “We often fail to communicate when we fail, and that might be bad for us and also for our social network.” In the new study, first-year students in the sample of more than 1,000 students reported having 3.63 close friends on average at UBC, but they believed their friends had 4. 15 close friends.
1. What did Whillans’ first study find?A.Less college freshmen feel lonely. |
B.Less college freshmen don’t like entering college. |
C.More students believe their friends are more sociable. |
D.More students think their friends’ school begins later. |
A.It is out of control. |
B.It may be more common than thought. |
C.Many students can handle it. |
D.It leads to more social activities. |
A.students like being left alone |
B.students don’t like going to college |
C.students feel upset about being missed out |
D.students believe they’re better off than their friends |
A.Uninterested. | B.Negative. | C.Supportive. | D.Hopeful. |
1. What is the relationship between the speakers?
A.Husband and wife. | B.Brother and sister. | C.Co-workers. |
A.Tea. | B.Milk. | C.Coffee. |