1 . What do you do when you receive an invitation to an event that you do not want to attend or that you cannot attend due to your busy schedule? In that case, we simply can’t act on everything our heart feels.
Respond in a timely manner.
It’s OK to say you’re sorry that you can’t make an event, but it’s better to redefine it as a positive. Rather than apologizing, say how happy you are that they invited you and that while you can’t make it this time, you look forward to getting together with them in the future.
Don’t say “maybe”.
Procrastinating (拖延) by saying “maybe” usually means it’s a no.
Don’t try to control the other person’s feelings.
There’s the assumption that we can decline without hurting anyone else’s feelings, but we can’t ensure the other person’s experience. They may feel sad or disappointed when you decline,. but that’s OK.
A.Focus on the positive. |
B.Be honest but not too honest. |
C.Don’t leave the host hanging. |
D.It’s fine to decline via digital means. |
E.Most people will understand that life just gets busy. |
F.So just go ahead and say no if that’s really what you mean. |
G.Instead, we should learn how to politely say “no” to an invitation. |
2 . Kindness May Keep You Healthy
If you are driving in the United States, you may see a common bumper (汽车保险杠) sticker on passing vehicles that reads:
However, being kind is not just emotionally beneficial. Lyubomirsky studied a group of people with the disease Multiple Sclerosis (多发性硬化).
“The basic reason why people are kind,” Oliver Curry, explained, the research director at Kind-lab that is a non-profit organization, “is that we are social animals. Kindness is as much a part of us as our anger, grief or desire.”
A.Perform random acts of kindness |
B.Acts of kindness are very powerful |
C.In other words, we are designed to be kind. |
D.She found that they felt better physically when helping others. |
E.Research shows that doing kind things can make us feel better |
F.He found that being kind makes people feel better emotionally, |
G.Other research has shown that many people prize kindness above other values |
3 . Your neighbors are probably the first line of defense in case of any problematic situation.
The first step is introducing yourself when you move to a new neighborhood or when a newcomer moves in. Leave them a note under their door to introduce yourself.
Be respectful of your neighbors. It’s in poor taste to have regular insensitive parties at your place causing disturbances. Before your party, it’s good practice to notify your neighbors. Besides, avoid chatting them up for hours on end, which may be inconvenient, especially if you don’t know their schedules.
As Emma Seppälä put it, “social connectedness generates a positive feedback loop (圈) of social, emotional and physical well-being.” It feels so easy to just stay home without having to engage with your neighbors but connecting with them is worth the effort.
A.Remember every small gesture counts. |
B.A crisis is a test of communication skills. |
C.It can actually boost your mood in the long run. |
D.Slipping it in their mailbox further solidifies friendship. |
E.It’s essential to ensure you maintain decent relationships with them. |
F.Alternatively, you can give them a gift while making yourself known to them. |
G.Only by establishing healthy boundaries will you achieve peaceful coexistence. |
4 . How To Stop Bein g A People Pleaser
As a recovering people pleaser, I spent much of my life keeping others happy. Breaking this habit meant stepping on a few toes. However, I’ve become a happier person as a result. Here are some tips I used to stop being a people pleaser.
Identify your priorities. Take a moment to think about why you are trying to learn how to stop being a people pleaser.
Just say “no”. One reason why people pleasers say “yes” to everything is that they fear disappointing others.
Accept yourself. Many people pleasers are insecure about who they are.
Remember that you cannot please everyone. No matter what you do there will always be someone who is unhappy with your choices.
A.Learn to set healthy boundaries. |
B.Don’t mix up your boundaries with others’. |
C.Who are the people that you feel the need to please? |
D.Spend some time learning to love yourself for who you are. |
E.So why bother trying to please everyone if it isn’t possible? |
F.But saying “no” is the best way to take care of your own needs. |
G.That is why the more you seek security, the less of it you have. |
5 . Being a social butterfly just might change your brain: In people with a large network of friends and excellent social skills, certain brain regions are bigger and
The research suggests a
To investigate these brain
The researchers also tested whether the size of a person’s social network was connected with
The researchers couldn’t say whether social interaction
A.better | B.more directly | C.less closely | D.worse |
A.conflict | B.similarity | C.link | D.contrast |
A.tell | B.show | C.ask | D.find |
A.intentions | B.preferences | C.behaviors | D.habits |
A.structures | B.highlights | C.differences | D.origins |
A.academic difficulties | B.social interactions | C.personal problems | D.career advances |
A.removed | B.adapted | C.replaced | D.enlarged |
A.joyful | B.familiar | C.inspirational | D.distinct |
A.Networked | B.Remote | C.Respective | D.Functional |
A.positions | B.changes | C.roles | D.compositions |
A.However | B.Again | C.Therefore | D.Rather |
A.urban | B.smooth | C.twisty | D.country |
A.minimized | B.drove | C.eliminated | D.demonstrated |
A.assumed | B.rejected | C.concluded | D.announced |
A.causality | B.feasibility | C.productivity | D.effectiveness |
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7 . “Whenever I am in a group of people, I feel like everyone knows what to say except me. When I try to join in, I get anxious and have a struggle
Individuals experiencing this type of social
Fitting into groups of people requires
Some individuals are like chameleon (变色龙) in that they
A.reading | B.pronouncing | C.grasping | D.writing |
A.exposed | B.caged | C.perceived | D.judged |
A.remoteness | B.discomfort | C.event | D.reality |
A.transparent | B.rigid | C.urgent | D.disappointed |
A.insisting on | B.breaking with | C.sticking up | D.talking over |
A.critical | B.effective | C.contradictory | D.tentative |
A.contribution | B.requirement | C.assignment | D.socialization |
A.patience | B.honesty | C.curiosity | D.agreement |
A.sacrifice | B.claim | C.examine | D.present |
A.hobbies | B.approaches | C.views | D.promises |
A.naturally | B.partly | C.vaguely | D.merely |
A.explain | B.support | C.help | D.adapt |
A.conclusion | B.awareness | C.decision | D.point |
A.rewarded | B.removed | C.disconnected | D.connected |
A.resist | B.allow | C.miss | D.undergo |
8 . How to Deal with a Colleague who Keeps Challenging Your Views
It can be difficult to develop an environment of teamwork when you continually run up against a colleague who challenges your views.
If a co-worker habitually challenges your ideas in a group discussion in a confrontational manner, don’t engage him or get into an argument. Pause for a moment, look the colleague in the eye.
There’s a time and place for everything, including professional disagreements. If a colleague interrupts you or talks over you in an effort to contradict your point or insert (插入) his own opinion, gently remind him that you still have the floor. If the colleague is challenging something you say before you have a chance to address the point, note that as well.
Agree to respect each other.If a particular colleague has a long history of disagreeing with you, you might be able to anticipate his arguments or objections. Prepare rebuttals to address anything your colleague might throw at you.
A.Hold your ground. |
B.Ask for peace-making. |
C.This will help you support your own arguments. |
D.And ask him in a calm voice to repeat what he said. |
E.Here are the ways to deal with colleagues of this kind. |
F.Just find ways to make peace and communicate with your colleague. |
G.The bottom line is, colleagues are not going to agree with each other all the time. |
Shyness is avoiding human contact, often because of a feeling of not being as good as others and fear of taking risks. Shyness is a force
On the basis of research that he
Shyness makes it difficult
10 . Do you have a hard time saying“no”? If “yes” rules your life and “no” doesn’t exist, here are some tips for you to say “no” without feeling bad.
Switch out “no” for “later”If you’re just starting out, you don’t have to jump straight to “no”.
Sometimes, invites or requests happen naturally and in person, requiring an answer immediately.
Offering an excuse may seem polite to decline a request, but it sets you up for an awkward situation. No matter what excuse you offer, people who are determined to get you to say “yes” will come up with a way to reel (卷轴) you in.
If the person asking you for something is someone who you want to maintain a positive relationship with, you can decrease the impact of your “no” by offering an alternative.
A.Don’t offer an explanation |
B.Don’t say “yes” to others easily |
C.Saying “no”at once can be tough |
D.But noisy places with many people aren’t your choices |
E.So it would be useful to rehearse your “no” in advance |
F.Being frank with people by saying “no” doesn’t mean rude |
G.The goal is to find a common ground and reach an agreement |