1 . Have you ever been in mid-conversation with someone, when you look over and find them standing in the same position as you or holding the same facial expression? It may seem like they have consciously copied you, but it is much more likely that it is the chameleon (变色龙) effect at play.
The chameleon effect is the unconscious imitation of another person’s gestures or behavior. Just as a chameleon attempts to match any environment’s colors, people acquire the behavior of others to bring them closer together and help make their interactions smooth.
The chameleon effect was confirmed in an experiment by psychologists John Bargh and Tanya Chartrand in 1999. The part of their experiment included 78 people, who each spoke with an experimenter. During the test, Bargh and Chartrand studied whether participants would copy the actions of someone they hadn’t met before, like moving the foot and touching the face. The second part measured the impact that copying someone has on the person being imitated.
In the first stage, participants increased their face touching by 20% and their foot movement by 50% while in conversation about a photograph with the experimenter. The individuals weren’t aware of what they were being studied for, and the photograph was used to catch their attention to insure unconscious acts. The second stage involved half of the participants being copied, and then rating the likability of the experimenter. The results, showed that those who were imitated scored the experimenter higher. It has shown that when someone copies our behavior, we develop more positive feelings about them. These interactions could be a person unconsciously willing to be liked, and forming a moment of connection.
The main reasons behind humans’ imitation are positive. However, when people carry this chameleon effect to the extreme, they can lose their sense of self. Those who change their entire personalities in different groups often go undetected. But more common signs of the chameleon effect are easier to notice. Next time you are in a social gathering, take a look around and you might just see some chameleons for yourself.
1. Why do people imitate others’ behavior?A.To show admiration for others. | B.To adapt to the surroundings. |
C.To establish a connection with others. | D.To attract others’ attention. |
A.By directing their attention to a photo. | B.By keeping an eye on their actions. |
C.By telling them the purpose of the study. | D.By evaluating the impacts of imitation. |
A.People tend to like those who imitate their behavior. |
B.Too much of the chameleon effect can be beneficial. |
C.People imitating others are not easy to be detected. |
D.The copied movements help people to feel relaxed. |
A.Students adopt teachers’ accents for fun after class. |
B.People change their habits to please others on purpose. |
C.A comedian copies a celebrity vividly on stage. |
D.A husband and his wife share similar behaviors over time. |
2 . Kindness and kids just seem to go hand in hand. But 62% of more than 2, 600 participants in the NBC News State of Kindness Poll believe that today’s kids are less kind than those in the past. Women (66%) feel about this kindness fall more strongly than men (58%). Most of the participants who feel that way (77%) thank parents caused the seeming lack of kindness among today’s children, with a few thinking that society, schools, or friends caused it.
At the same time, Americans say they don’t put kindness first when it comes to teaching kids values. Among all participants, honesty is taught more than kindness as well as other things like courage, leadership and storing work ethic (道德). But the younger generation—those aged 18~24—think highly of kindness rules. They choose kindness by 10% over honesty as the most important quality to teach kids.
The question of whether kindness is learned or taught—or somewhere in between—causes different opinions. According to the study, Americans have different opinions on whether kindness in something one is born with or needs to be learned and nurtured over time. Slightly more than half (52%) of the participants believe that all of us are born with the ability to show kindness, while 48% believe kindness must be developed.
Parenthood (父母身份) makes a difference to your thoughts on the causes of kindness. Those without kids (56%) are more likely to think that people are born to be kind, while 50% of the participants with kids think kindness is developed.
Also, 51% of dads and 54% of men with no kids believe kindness is something time is born with. Slightly more than half of the moms say kindness must be learned, while 48% believe it is what one is born with.
1. What do participants aged 18~24 consider the most important for kids?A.Honesty. | B.Leadership. | C.Kindness. | D.Courage. |
A.kept | B.developed | C.replaced | D.protected |
A.48% | B.51% | C.52% | D.54% |
A.Causes of today’s kids being less kind. |
B.The important qualities of today’s kids. |
C.Different people’s opinion’s on kindness. |
D.Findings of research on today’s kids’ kindness. |
3 . Most of us associate awe (敬畏) with something rare and beautiful: nature, music or a spiritual experience. But people can waken awe too, and not just public heroes. Research shows that we can be awed by our nearest and dearest — the people sitting next to us on the couch, chatting on the other end of the phone, looking back at us over Zoom.
Often, interpersonal awe is a response to life’s big, sweeping changes, such as witnessing a baby’s first steps.
Though we can’t make someone else behave in a way that’s awesome, we can prepare ourselves to notice it when they do and boost the emotion’s positive effects.
Question your assumptions. Do you believe your partner is insensitive or your sibling is selfish? There may be a little truth to that, but it’s never the whole tale.
Name awe when you see it. Speaking out “Wow, that was awesome!” is a simple way to help you identify and remember a special experience. Savor (品味) it in the moment and then tell others about it. This will reinforce your positive emotions.
A.Thank the person who awed you. |
B.And recall it or write about it later. |
C.Psychologists call this interpersonal awe. |
D.It’s easy to forget that it can be awesome too. |
E.But interpersonal awe does happen in smaller moments. |
F.Here’s why you should recognize those moments of interpersonal awe. |
G.The story you tell yourself gets in the way of catching people at their best. |
4 . My family moved into a newly constructed home in Calgary 10 years ago. That year was full of promise. We
As the snow
He started knocking on doors and
That afternoon marked the first of many weekend Neighbor Days. Kids
I moved out for university four years ago, having learned to
There’s a saying: you must be a good neighbor to have good neighbors. My dad wasn’t thinking much about building those benches. He just wanted a place to sit on a Saturday afternoon. A place to bring the
A.tore | B.waved | C.laughed | D.aimed |
A.many | B.little | C.more | D.less |
A.froze | B.blocked | C.melted | D.accumulated |
A.balance | B.reason | C.identity | D.theory |
A.imagining | B.watched | C.searching | D.designing |
A.retelling | B.reshaping | C.reshaking | D.recalling |
A.Painting | B.Repair | C.Destruction | D.Construction |
A.at hand | B.under control | C.with care | D.in charge |
A.All | B.None | C.Both | D.Neither |
A.raced | B.arranged | C.interrupted | D.recorded |
A.Performances | B.Conversations | C.Conflicts | D.Demonstrations |
A.broke out | B.turned down | C.ended up | D.paid off |
A.helpless | B.selfless | C.costless | D.countless |
A.doubtfully | B.emotionally | C.helplessly | D.curiously |
A.crew | B.colleagues | C.kids | D.community |
5 . It goes without saying that everyone has bad days at work. You hit an unexpected problem with a project you’ve been working on for weeks.
When you’re feeling upset about a problem at work, take a minute to think of someone in your life that you’re grateful to and write a sentence or two on a notepad about what you appreciate.
Picking one of those folks out and reminding yourself of why you’re grateful to them has two benefits.
A.You have a quarrel with your beloved. |
B.In those moments, a little gratitude can help |
C.Here are some reasons to explain these situations. |
D.All of us have people in our lives who fit that bill. |
E.Research shows practicing gratitude can make you happier. |
F.You forget the appointment with a VIP customer and keep him waiting. |
G.For one, it gets you thinking about something positive and lifts your mood |
6 . “Just sign here, sir,” the deliveryman said as he handed Oscar Reyna a package.
The package consisted of a long, narrow box
Oscar was 16 when he first saw the
Oscar
Oscar talked his grandparents into going by Mrs. O'Brien's house on their way home. An elderly woman opened the door. “May I help you?” she asked. “I'd like to return it if it's yours,” Oscar said,
Years later, Oscar was staring at the finely carved handle of the umbrella as he remembered Mrs. O'Brien. It was in perfect condition, considering how
A.strictly | B.carefully | C.obviously | D.curiously |
A.After | B.When | C.Since | D.Although |
A.adapted | B.reserved | C.recognized | D.removed |
A.ordinary | B.unusual | C.simple | D.formal |
A.beauty | B.shape | C.size | D.history |
A.ordered | B.demanded | C.encouraged | D.persuaded |
A.laid | B.found | C.confirmed | D.searched |
A.putting up | B.referring to | C.picking up | D.holding out |
A.as if | B.as long as | C.due to | D.instead of |
A.wide | B.confident | C.confusing | D.shy |
A.patience | B.kindness | C.impression | D.determination |
A.officially | B.naturally | C.exactly | D.probably |
A.old | B.amazing | C.valuable | D.unique |
A.in turn | B.in return | C.in exchange | D.in answer |
A.professional | B.mean | C.selfless | D.wise |
7 . We moved into a new neighborhood in 1990, Andy was pretty much the first person we
Andy would proudly and regularly
But the real
Andy died this month. I will miss him, more than he
A.met | B.recalled | C.thanked | D.admired |
A.treat | B.greet | C.criticize | D.comfort |
A.happiness | B.energy | C.knowledge | D.information |
A.still | B.even | C.ever | D.never |
A.wear | B.exhibit | C.wave | D.hold |
A.Different than | B.More than | C.Because of | D.Instead of |
A.do damage to | B.stare at | C.sit around | D.keep an eye on |
A.produce | B.crafts | C.cakes | D.money |
A.selling | B.feeding | C.walking | D.chasing |
A.health | B.financial | C.political | D.marriage |
A.rubbish | B.smog | C.snow | D.dirt |
A.welfare | B.influence | C.tie | D.faith |
A.prevented | B.separated | C.widened | D.strengthened |
A.interruption | B.performance | C.situation | D.presence |
A.evaluates | B.knows | C.forgets | D.regrets |
8 . Avoid These Mistakes in Your Social Interaction
Breaking into an existing conversation
Timing is everything. If you see two or more people actively engaged in conversation, they’re probably not ready for you to cut in. First, wait for a rest.
Starting talking without having something to say
If someone appears distant or lost in thought, moving into their personal space and saying “hello” is hardly a way to start a conversation. Try asking permission (e.g., “Excuse me, do you mind if I ask you something?”) and make sure you have a fully formed question or comment in mind (e.g., “Are you having a good time?”).
Bringing up controversial(有争议的) topics
If you’re talking to someone new, it’s generally best not to talk about weighty or of-putting topics.
Once you’ve made a connection with each other, keep that connection going by making yourself easy to understand. If you speak different languages, for example, slow your speech and pronounce clearly. If they ask you what you do for work, don’t use a lot of technical expressions.
Talking too much about yourself - or about the other person
It’s often said that people love to talk about themselves, and that asking questions is the secret to good conversations.
A.Being hard to follow |
B.Making too much connection |
C.But that’s not true for everyone |
D.They will lead to a deeper interaction |
E.Then once you have someone’s attention or receive a nonverbal go-ahead |
F.Aim for something simple that you and the other person can observe together |
G.It’s all about creating a comfortable opportunity for the other person to respond |
9 . As workers return to the office, friends meet up and religious services move from online to in person, people are asking the question: to shake hands or not to shake hands? When the coronavirus (新冠病毒) crisis first began, an event planning business in Kansas City began selling “I Shake Hands” stickers.
Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette (礼仪) expert. She said though the country is entering a time similar to the start of the pandemic, when people wanted to know if others were socially distancing before getting close to them, she does not think the handshake will go away because of the pandemic.
At the beginning of the pandemic, some companies offered to create new workplace rules, such as a no-handshake policy. But there was not enough interest for people.
A.You'd better avoid shaking hands. |
B.The handshake has been around for centuries. |
C.The words were meant to make social situations easier. |
D.Anyway, people long for human interaction and human touch. |
E.Etiquette means the rules making up the correct way to behave in society. |
F.He thinks people are overthinking the question of whether to shake hands or not. |
G.It's a really hard greeting to deny as it has been deep-rooted since we were young. |
A.Friends. | B.Boss and employee. | C.Salesman and customer. |