Improving Your Relationship With Your Parents
Sometimes it seems that getting along with your parents is impossible. However, they are probably the most important persons in your life.
Make time with your parents.
Talk with your parents.
In order to understand your parents better, you have to spend time talking with them. Use this time to learn about their different hobbies, opinions and values, to connect with them on a deeper level.
Listen to them actively.
This may seem obvious, but it is often harder than you think. When you are communicating with your parents, make sure you are listening.
This may be difficult considering your present relationship with your parents, but do your best. You can also talk to them about something at school that you are excited or worried about.
| A．Share your feelings with them |
| B．Your parents won’t always be around |
| C．Ask your parents for help if necessary |
| D．If you can’t get on well with your parents |
| E．You can ask them to tell you about their own childhood |
| F．This will also show your parents that you are interested in them as friends |
| G．This means not cutting in on them, and speaking clearly when responding |
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【推荐1】Personal Development For Teens
Teenagers may face many challenges unique to them. Below are some steps to help you evolve and be a better person in your teens.
Learn new skill
Sometimes, a side-skill you have gained along the way turns out the very thing that creates an opportunity for success.
Try to socialize more
Have a better lifestyle.
Your lifestyle forms your character, and the way you live defines who you are.
Take care of your health
Without health, it is almost impossible to enjoy life to its fullest. Money, grades, or events are replaceable; your health is not. And while it is very important to maintain good physical health, we cannot forget about our mental health.
Embrace positivity
Try to avoid people who ruin everything with negativity and befriend those who give you positive vibes(感应).
Every teenager should be taught and reminded of ways to improve themselves so that they can see a clearer picture of their future.
| A．Grasping new skills is an easy job. |
| B．You need people who make you feel good about life. |
| C．Force yourself to socialize—even if you don’t want to. |
| D．Proper communication is crucial if you want to be a better person. |
| E．Our mind is just as important, and we should give it the same amount of attention. |
| F．Also, when you are in your teens, you hardly know what you want to do with your life. |
| G．When you’re at peace with how you live your days, you can focus on improving yourself. |
【推荐2】Personal Forgiveness
Taking responsibility for mistakes is a positive step, but don’t beat yourself up about them. To err (犯错) is human.
In a journal or on a piece of paper, put the heading “Personal strengths.”
At the top of a second page, put the heading “Acts of kindness.” On this one, list all the positive things you’ve done for others. It might be the time when you helped a friend with their homework, when you did the ironing without being asked, or when you baked cookies after the family had had a tiring day.
You could ask a friend or family member to help add to your list.
It’s something of a cliché (陈词滥调) that most people learn not from their successes but their mistakes. The thing is, it’s true.
| A．A little self-forgiveness also goes a long way. |
| B．Now list all the characteristics you like about yourself. |
| C．They might even like to have a go at doing the exercise. |
| D．It’s just as important to show yourself some forgiveness. |
| E．It doesn’t mean you have to ignore what’s happened or forget it. |
| F．Whatever it is, no matter how small it might seem, write it down. |
| G．Whatever the mistake, remember it isn’t a fixed aspect of your personality. |
【推荐3】Taking good notes is a time-saving skill that will help you to become a better student in several ways.
You will want to take notes during classroom discussions and while reading a textbook or doing research for a report.
●Read the text quickly to find the main facts and ideas in it.
●Carefully read the text and watch for words that can show main points and supporting facts.
●Write your notes in your own words.
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●Note any question or idea you may have about what was said or written.
As you take notes, you may want to use your own shorthand. When you do, be sure that you understand your symbols and that you use them all the time.
| A．Use words, not complete sentences. |
| B．You must write your notes on separate paper. |
| C．There are three practical note-taking methods. |
| D．The following methods may work best for you. |
| E．Otherwise, you may not be able to read your notes later. |
| F．You will also want to develop your own method for taking notes. |
| G．First, the act of writing something down makes it easier for you to understand and remember it. |
【推荐1】Poet William Stafford once said that we are defined more by the detours in life than by the narrow road toward goals. I like this image. But it was quite by accident that I discovered the deep meaning of his words.
For years we made the long drive from our home in Seattle to my parents’ home in Boise in nine hours. We traveled the way most people do: the fastest, shortest, easiest road, especially when I was alone with four noisy, restless kids who hate confinement. Road trips felt risky, so I would drive fast, stopping only when I had to. We would stick to the freeways and arrive tired.
But then Banner, our lamb, was born. He was rejected by his mama days before our planned trip to Boise. That is how I found myself on the road with four kids, a baby lamb and nothing but my everlasting optimism to see me through. We took the country roads out of necessity and had to stop every hour to feed Banner. The kids chased one another and got back in the car breathless and energized, smelling fresh from the cold air.
We explored side roads. Even if we simply looked out of the car windows at baby pigs following their mother, or fish leaping out of the water, it was better than the best ride down the freeway. Here was life. And new horizons.
We eventually arrived at my parents’ doorstep astonishingly fresh and full of stories.
I grew brave with the trip back home and creative with my disciplining technique. On an empty section of road, everyone started quarreling. I stopped the car, ordered all kids out and told them to meet me up ahead. I parked my car half a mile away and read my book in sweet silence.
Some road trips are by necessity fast and straight. But that trip with Banner opened our eyes to a world available to anyone adventurous enough to wander around and made me realize that a detour may uncover the best part of journey — and the best part of yourself.
1. Why did the author used to take freeways to her parents’ home?| A．It was less tiring. | B．It would be faster and safer. |
| C．Her kids would feel less confined. | D．She felt better with other drivers nearby. |
| A．Freeways are where beauty hides. |
| B．Enjoying the beauty of nature benefits one’s health. |
| C．Getting close to nature adds to the joy of life. |
| D．One should follow side roads to watch wild animals. |
| A．To let them cool down. | B．To play a game with them. |
| C．To feed the kids and lamb. | D．To give herself some time to read. |
| A．Road Trip and Country Life | B．Creativity out of Necessity |
| C．The Road to Bravery | D．Charm of the Detour |
【推荐2】Our “Mommy and Me” time began two years ago. My next-door neighbor and fellow mother, Christie, and I were out in our front yards, watching seven children of age 6 and under ride the bikes up and down. “I wish I could take one of my children out alone,” said Christie.
Then we worked out a plan: When Christie takes one of her children out, I’ll watch her other three. And when she watches two of mine. I’ll take someone out.
The children were extremely quick to accept the idea of “Mommy and Me” time. Christie’s daughter, McKenzie, went first. When she returned, the other children showered her with tons of questions. McKenzie was smiling broadly. Christie looked refreshed and happy. “She’s like a different child when there’s no one else around,” Christie shared with me quickly. With her mother all to herself, McKenzie didn’t have to make an effort to gain attention.
Just as Christie had noticed changes in McKenzie, I also discovered something different in each of my children. For example, I am always surprised when my daughter, who is seldom close to me, holds my hand frequently. My stuttering (口吃的) son, Tom, doesn’t stutter once during our activities since he doesn’t have to struggle for a chance to speak. And another son, Sam, who’s always a follower when around other children shines as a leader during our times together.
The “Mommy and Me” time allows us to be simply alone and away with each child-talking, sharing, and laughing, which has been the biggest gain. Every child deserves to be an only child at least once in a while.
1. What was the author and her neighbor’s plan?| A．To teach their children how to stay alone. |
| B．To change their own children’s bad habits. |
| C．To make a child live in the other home for a long time. |
| D．To help each other spend some time with one child at a time. |
| A．Five. | B．Four. |
| C．Three. | D．Two. |
| A．braver | B．cleverer |
| C．more active | D．more selfless |
| A．Every child needs parents’ full attention. |
| B．Having brothers and sisters is fun. |
| C．It’s tiring to take care of others’ children. |
| D．Parents should look after others’ children. |
【推荐3】Siblings refer to one’s brothers and sisters. We’re attached to siblings as adults far longer than we are as children. Our sibling relationships, in fact, are the longest-lasting family ties we have.
“Paul, my younger brother, and I, kind of annoyed each other when we were kids,” said Anna, an interviewee,“But as adults, we’ve always had each other’s back, especially when dealing with our mother’s health crisis. Paul is the first person I want to talk to when something worries me.”
There’s probably a biological explanation for the close bond of the sibling relationship. Siblings share half their genes, which biologists say should be motivation enough for each other’s devotion.
One thing that can weaken closeness in adulthood is a parent who played favorites in childhood; this sense of hatred can last a lifetime. The simple concept of parental favoritism was enough to shake their relationship.
“What Paul and I are pretty sure is our parents treated us the same when we were growing up. Yet we’re very different people,” Anna said,“Paul is outgoing while I’m shy. Paul is an amateur pianist while I can’t read music or carry a tune. In families with more than one child, every sibling seems to get a label in contrast to every other sibling.”
The very presence of siblings in the household can be an education. When a new baby is born, the older sibling gains social skills by interacting with the younger, and the younger gains cognitively（认知角度地）by imitating the older. They learn from the friction between them, too, as they fight for their parents’attention. Mild conflict between brothers and sisters teaches them how to interact with friends and co-workers for the rest of their lives.
It’s so sad when things between siblings fall apart, which happens when aging parents need care or die — old feelings of contradiction and jealousy erupt all over again. Many families get through their parents’illnesses just fine, establishing networks where the workload is divided pretty much equally. But about 40 percent of the time there is a single primary caregiver who feels like she is not getting any help from her brothers and sisters, which can lead to serious conflicts.
Throughout adulthood, the sibling relationship “is powerful and unchanged,” said Jane Mersky Leder, author of the new e-book The Sibling Connection. Whether we are close to our siblings or distant, she writes, they remain our brothers and sisters — for better or for worse.
So remember the immortal（永恒的）words of folksinger Loudon Wainwright Ⅲ, in a song called Thanksgiving.“On this brilliant occasion, this special family dinner, if I argue with a loved one, please make me...”
1. What can probably encourage hatred among siblings?| A．The aging of their Mom and Dad. | B．The difference between their hobbies. |
| C．The conflict in their daily lives. | D．The unequal treatment from their parents. |
| A．they have common interest | B．their parents force them to |
| C．there exists a genetic factor | D．their parents require them to be |
| A．mild conflict | B．close relationship |
| C．active interaction | D．cognitive imitation |
| A．employ an experienced caregiver | B．take on reasonable burdens |
| C．equally divide the fortune | D．send them straight to hospital |
| A．it’s disappointing to quarrel with siblings |
| B．it’s grateful to have brothers or sisters in life |
| C．Thanksgiving Day is a wonderful occasion |
| D．Thanksgiving Day is a time for brothers or sisters to get together |
