【推荐1】How to show up for teens when big emotions arise

Being a teenager is hard. Every day holds the possibility of emotional highs and lows, and parents don’t always know how to be supportive. Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, says instead of jumping into problem-solving mode, parents can learn to ride the wave of emotional management with their teens.     1    :

●When a teen is experiencing low self-esteem, Damour says comfort doesn’t work nearly as well as we would like.     2    . Try saying, “You know that’s not true, but it must feel awful to feel that way.”

●Talking about emotions is good, but there can be a tipping point (引爆点) when talking too much about feelings. In this case, Damour suggests comforting and then shifting a teen who’s overprocessing their emotions into a healthy distraction.     3    .

●For the teen who doesn’t talk about their feelings,     4    . Listening to music, playing sports and making art are healthy ways for teens to work through emotions that don’t involve having a discussion. 

●    5    . But Damour notes that when a teen’s feelings are out of control and they’re using destructive behaviors to cope, it’s time to step in and give more support or seek professional help.

A．Worse still, it brings more conflicts

B．Here are some of Damour’s takeaways

C．Avoiding contact with them is a possible option

D．Instead, Damour suggests empathizing how the teen feels

E．Suggest doing an activity they enjoy and revisit the issue the next day

F．Damour reminds parents of healthy non-verbal ways to process emotions

G．Your teens deserve encouraging when their emotions are handled in a healthy way

【推荐2】Fifteen years ago, I took a summer vacation in Lecce in southern Italy. After climbing up a hill for a panoramic(全景的) view of the blue sea, white buildings and green olive trees, I paused to catch my breath and then positioned myself to take the best photo of this panorama.

Unfortunately, just as I took out my camera, a woman approached from behind, and planted herself right in front of my view. Like me, this woman was here to stop, sigh and appreciate the view.

Patient as I was, after about 15 minutes, my camera scanning the sun and reviewing the shot I would eventually take, I grew frustrated. Was it too much to ask her to move so I could take just one picture of the landscape? Sure, I could have asked her, but something prevented me from doing so. She seemed so content in her observation. I didn’t want to mess with that.

Another 15 minutes passed and I grew bored. The woman was still there. I decided to take the photo anyway. And now when I look at it, I think her presence in the photo is what makes the image interesting. The landscape, beautiful on its own, somehow comes to life and breathes because this woman is engaging with it.

This photo, with the unique beauty that unfolded before me and that woman who “ruined” it, now hangs on a wall in my bedroom. What would she think if she knew that her figure is captured(捕捉) and frozen on some stranger’s bedroom wall? A bedroom, after all, is a very private space, in which some woman I don’t even know has been immortalized(使……永存). In some ways, she lives in my house.

Perhaps we all live in each others’ space. Perhaps this is what photos are for: to remind us that we all appreciate beauty, that we all share a common desire for pleasure, for connection, for something that is greater than us.

That photo is a reminder, a captured moment, an unspoken conversation between two women, separated only by a thin square of glass.

1. What happened when the author was about to take a photo?

A．Her camera stopped working.

B．A woman blocked her view.

C．Someone asked her to leave

D．A friend approached from behind.

2. According to the author, the woman was probably_______.

A．enjoying herself

B．losing her patience

C．waiting for the sunset

D．thinking about her past

3. In the author’s opinion, what makes the photo so alive?

A．The rich color of the landscape.

B．The perfect positioning of the camera.

C．The woman’s existence in the photo.

D．The soft sunlight that summer day.

4. The photo on the bedroom wall enables the author to better understand ________.

A．the need to be close to nature

B．the importance of private space

C．the joy of the vacation in Italy

D．the shared passion for beauty

5. The passage can be seen as the author’s reflections upon _______.

A．a particular life experience

B．the pleasure of traveling

C．the art of photography

D．a lost friendship

【推荐3】I had not hugged a friend or a family member for more than two years until recently when my sister flew in for a brief visit. For safety, we met outside. Despite the wintry weather, her hug warmed me from the inside out. It’s strange, but only now do I truly realize how much I’ve missed embracing loved ones.

I grew up through war in my hometown of Sarajevo, Bosnia, and every moment was full of danger. On one peaceful morning, I had begged my mom to let me go outside after spending weeks indoors. She finally agreed. I was outside for only 10 minutes when I was caught in an explosion. I ran to my neighbor’s house for safety and hung my arms around her neck just as my legs collapsed underneath me.

Thankfully, I made a full physical recovery, but the emotional scars never left me. Years later there was another explosion near my house. I was safely inside, but my father had left to buy a loaf of bread. He had only just missed the explosion. When he came back inside, I gave him the biggest hug imaginable. I was caked in tears as I held him tight.

That same night my parents managed to arrange my escape from our war-torn city. I was 16 and came to America on my own. A generous host family took me in. They had a large dog called Oscar. Over the next several months, I secretly struggled with feeling homesick and worried about my family back home. Despite managing quite well at school, I couldn’t express my feelings. The only way I shared how I felt was by giving Oscar a big hug.

It is yet another sad aspect of our pandemic(疾病大流行的) lives that hugging a stranger is the last thing on our minds. For many of us, even hugging a relative or a friend comes with stress and anxiety over risks and precautions. As I look back on my past, I count myself truly lucky to have been held, shielded and encouraged at some of the most key moments of my life by the power of a hug.

1. What is the passage mainly about?

A．Experience of war.	B．Love for family.
C．Impact of pandemic.	D．Power of embracing.

2. How did the author feel when she hugged her father?

A．Frightened.

B．Ashamed.

C．Relieved.

D．Astonished.

3. What can we learn about the author from the passage?

A．She had her arms hurt in an explosion.

B．She missed her family very much while in America.

C．She couldn’t catch up with her classmates at school.

D．She recovered quickly from the wounds of the war.

4. What does the underlined word “shielded” mean in Paragraph 5?

A．Protected.

B．Persuaded.

C．Covered.

D．Understood.

【推荐1】Your beliefs are very powerful and have the power to create or to destroy your life. In most cases, whatever you believe is what you will become. If you believe that you are a loser, that you never get a breakthrough in life, and that you can’t accomplish(succeed in doing) anything, these things will be your reality. Believe that you are unlimited, that you can do anything you hope to do and when you do, your accomplishments will know no bounds. You control your beliefs, and that is how you finally control your life. This is a very important point. So how do you develop beliefs that will empower you?
Many of our beliefs come from our environment, the world we live in on a daily basis. If your environment is   limiting your beliefs, then work very hard on changing it. If you are constantly around people who are negative and limiting, find other people to hang out with and get around positive, successful people.
Beliefs also come from past experiences. That is why it is so important to experience success on a regular basis. Set small achievable goals, and then try your best to reach them. “I will finish this project by early afternoon.” “I will make six calls on the phone in the next hour.” “I will exercise 20 minutes tonight.” When you start to experience success, then you start to believe in success, and that leads to more and bigger successes.
Beliefs come from knowledge. The more you learn, the more things you will possibly know.
Always take the advantage of opportunities to learn something new. It will bring new possibilities into your beliefs and your life.
Most importantly, you can develop new beliefs by setting and visualizing(设想) goals for
your life. Define your goals clearly. Then in your mind, see yourself achieving them in all of their sensory details. Mentally live the experience, see the sights, hear the sounds, smell the aroma, and feel the feelings. The beliefs formed in this way will lead you to their reality.
1. In the author’s opinion, your life depends on                    .

A．your environment where you live

B．your experiences

C．your knowledge and opportunities

D．your beliefs

2. Which of the following statements is true?

A．You should try your best to help the negative people around you.

B．You should try to achieve small success to believe in success first.

C．The more knowledge you learn, the more you will control your life.

D．You should stick to your own beliefs without changing.

3. According to the passage, what is the most important about your beliefs?

A．To imagine your success with your senses.

B．To make efforts to achieve them.

C．To learn as much knowledge as possible.

D．To try to experience success regularly.

4. Which of the following best shows the structure of the passage?

A．	B．
C．	D．

【推荐3】A star athlete at the college where I work recently stopped by my office. After committing a few unforced errors during a weekend match, she suffered severely by self-criticism.

This student, like many I teach, strongly believes she should be able to control the outcomes of her life by virtue of her hard work. In her mind, “Nothing can stop me but myself”. So when these students fall short of what they imagine they should accomplish, they are filled with self-blame, reasoning, “If my accomplishments are mine to control, my failures must be entirely my faults, too”, which makes it extremely difficult for them to move on.

We often owe young adults struggling with failure to their parents’ overprotection of them from discomfort. But there is another factor at play: a message transmitted by indulging (纵容的) parents who have falsely promised them that they can achieve anything if they are willing to work for it. However, the cruel reality of life is that you can do everything in your power — and still fail. Then what should be done to help?

Psychologists Luthar and Kumar urge parents and teachers to spend time helping students find purpose, or goals they genuinely love to pursue and that make an impact on the world, which may help them gain greater life satisfaction and become more psychologically mature. Besides, instead of allowing our kids to beat themselves up when things don’t go their way, we might all question a culture where one is considered lazy without full devotion. The point is to remind them that life has a way of sucker-punching (出其不意) us when we least expect it. It’s often the people who learn to say “stuff happens” who get up the fastest.

1. What does the underlined phrase “by virtue of” in paragraph 2 mean?

A．in addition to

B．in spite of

C．by means of

D．for fear of

2. The author believes that young adults find it hard to struggle with failure because __________.

A．they are not taught how to deal with difficulties

B．they are short of the ability to handle failure

C．they are under the protection of their parents

D．they are misled by their parents’ false message

3. What did psychologists Luthar and Kumar urge parents and teachers to do?

A．To teach students how to avoid faults.

B．To lead students to set their truly loved goals.

C．To help students to discover a path to success.

D．To allow kids to blame themselves.

4. What can be inferred from the passage?

A．Students don’t care about failure at all.

B．Students are sure to succeed if they try their best.

C．Students should bear all the failures on their own.

D．Students with positive attitudes can move on more easily.

【推荐1】Positive thinkers admit when they feel frustrated or depressed,they don't ignore it.But they don't blame themselves either.    1    They counter（反击）them with more positive ones.

So how do you stay positive,maintain motivated and sustain healthy behaviors?Here are some tips:

Look for a good role model.There is always someone who seems to be doing just what you want to be doing. Maybe they've scheduled exercise into their workday and switched from coffee to green tea.    2    Ask them how they keep healthy and follow their footsteps.

    3    Take a minute to give yourself an ego boost（自我吹捧）.Repeat some motivational words out loud to yourself.Negative talk such as "I can't do it." "I'm fat." is dangerous for your well-being and healthy goals.Try to avoid the negative self—talk before it harms you.Remind yourself that you deserve happiness and can make positive changes.

Get support.Tell your friends and family about your healthy habits.It helps to have an encouraging network.

Reward yourself.    4    Take a nice bath,get a massage,and enjoy a new DVD or CD.

Have a plan.Making a plan to exercise or eat healthy lunches with a friend can mean the difference of sticking with your goals or falling off rack.If you've planned for an activity,you'll like stick with it.You may even find that writing down your goals and steps to achieve them can help you stay on track.Take it day by day or week by week.    5    

A．Try some positive self-talk and avoid negative talk.

B．Stay with your parents and relatives and you can avoid frustration or depression.

C．Treat yourself to something for your healthy efforts.

D．They try to understand the negative thoughts and feelings,instead.

E．Learn from a successful friend,family member or colleague.

F．The process of writing down your personal action plan is a good way to watch your progress or failures.

G．.Believe in yourself and do as others do.

【推荐2】“Love your neighbor as yourself" is a saying familiar to most of us. It means that you must have the ability to love and accept yourself in order to form and keep satisfying relationship with others. Self-esteem means accepting yourself for who you really are, and believing that you are indeed a worthwhile person who is deserving of love and respect from others.
Self-esteem is our sense of how good we feel about ourselves. It is based on our judgment of ourselves, not on other people's assessment, but simply on our own. Our self-esteem is not dependent on our talent. Some very ordinary people feel very good about themselves, while other extraordinarily high achievers hold low opinions of themselves.
Self-esteem is the primary key to long-term stress management. Why? The first three sources of stress are: predictable life event, unexpected changes and build-up of daily stresses. These are much easier to handle when we believe in ourselves. A positive, healthy self-esteem gives us the “hardiness” (强健) to deal with the difficulties of life, and to see them as challenges to be met, rather than threats to be feared.
The fourth category of stress is entirely the result of a low self-esteem. It is the category of stress that is most common and tiring over the long run. This kind of stress cannot be overcome, or even changed, until the self-esteem problems that cause it are corrected.
Learning to love yourself for who you are is the key to overcoming stress. Self-esteem comes from the self, and cannot be promoted by others. A person who feels that his self-esteem comes from the approval of those around him or her is bound to self-destruct (自毁). One cannot keep the level of “performance” required to please everyone else, especially if that performance disagrees with who you are and is simply a ____that makes you popular with the world. When the applause is gone, there is nothing left.
Only those who can feel the strength of knowing who they are and those who can feel good about that will survive the stresses of life. Self-esteem is the basis of contentment and positive living.
1. What is the key to overcoming stress according to the passage?

A．Removing yourself from stressful situation.

B．Learning to love yourself for who you are.

C．Facing the stress and dealing with it.

D．Getting help from friends.

2. What does the underlined word "facade" (in Para 5) mean?

A．A false appearance.	B．A big worry.
C．A wrong action.	D．A strange feeling.

3. The passage is written to ______.

A．tell people how to overcome stress

B．help people form good relationship with others

C．show the importance of feeling good about yourself

D．provide the different methods to get a clear view of yourself

【推荐3】Thanksgiving Day was near. One day, the first-grade teacher, Miss White, let her students draw a picture of something for which they were thankful.

Most students would celebrate the holiday with turkey and other traditional foods of the season. These, the teacher thought, would be the subjects of most of her students’ art. Miss White was right. But Douglas made a different kind of picture. When he was asked to draw a picture of something for which he was thankful, he drew a hand. Nothing else. Just an empty hand. His picture brought imagination to his classmates. Whose hand could it be? One child guessed it was the hand of a farmer, because farmers raised turkeys. Another suggested it was a police officer’s hand, because the police protected and cared for people.

While the children were discussing with each other, Miss White stood at Douglas’ desk, bent down, and asked him whose hand it was. The little boy looked up and whispered, “It’s yours, Miss White.” What Douglas had said reminded Miss White of the time she had taken his hand and walked with him here and there. How often had she said, “Take my hand, Douglas, we’ll go outside.” Or, “Let me show you how to hold your pencil.” Or, “Let’s do this together.” Douglas was most thankful for his teacher’s hand. With tears in her eyes, Miss White went on with her work.

The story speaks of more than thankfulness. It says something about teachers teaching, parents parenting, friends showing friendship, and how much Miss White’s hand means to Douglas. He might not always say thanks, but he’ll remember the hand that Miss White reaches out.

1. What kind of picture did Miss White ask her students to draw?

A．A picture which expressed their love to their parents.

B．A picture which showed their favorite traditional foods.

C．A picture that could show their thankfulness for something.

D．A picture that could be given to their friends as a gift.

2. It can be known from the passage that ________.

A．most students drew some kinds of foods just as Miss White expected

B．Douglas’ family was poor and he couldn’t afford a turkey or other foods

C．Miss White often gave Douglas pencils to encourage him to draw

D．Douglas didn’t know how to draw a turkey and other traditional foods

3. Which word can best describe Miss White when she saw Douglas’ picture?

A．Angry.

B．Disappointed.

C．Proud.

D．Surprised.

4. Why did Douglas draw a picture of his teacher’s hand?

A．Because Miss White’s hand was the most beautiful hand he had ever seen.

B．Because he thought Miss White had given him a lot of care and help with her hand.

C．Because he wanted Miss White to take his hand when they went out for activities.

D．Because he was good at drawing hands and was asked to draw one by his teacher.

5. The author tells the story to tell us ________.

A．it is not easy to be a good teacher

B．why to express your thankfulness

C．kindness will be remembered

D．the best way to get along with your teacher

【推荐1】Foxes and farmers have never got on well. These small dog-like animals have long been accused of killing farm animals. They are officially classified as harmful and farmers try to keep their numbers down by shooting or poisoning them.
Famers can also call on the services of their local hunt to control the fox population. Hunting consists of running after a fox across the countryside, with a group of specially trained dogs, followed by men and women riding horses. When the dogs eventually catch the fox, the kill it or a hunter shoots it.
People who take part in hunting think of it as a sport. They wear a special uniform of red coats and white trousers, and follow strict rules of behavior. But owning a horse and hunting regularly are expensive, so most hunters are wealthy.
It is estimated that up to 100,000 people watch or take part in fox-hunting. But over the last couple of decades the number of people who are against fox-hunting, because they think it is   brutal(残暴的), has risen sharply. Nowadays it is rare for a hunt to pass off without some kind of conflict between hunters and hunt opponents (阻止者). Sometimes these incidents lead to violence, but mostly opponents discourage the hunt by misleading riders and disturbing the trail of the fox's smell, which the dogs follow.
Noisy conflicts between hunters and opponents have become so common that they are almost as much a part of hunting as running after foxes itself. But this year supporters of fox-hunting face a much bigger threat to their sport. A Labour Party member of Parliament(英国议会), Mike Foster, is trying to get Parliament to approve a new law which will make the hunting of wild   animals with dogs illegal. If the law is passed, wild animals like foxes will be protected under the ban in Britain.
1. Wealthy people in Britain have been hunting foxes to ______.

A．benefit the farmers	B．get entertainment
C．show off their wealth	D．limit the fox population

2. The opponents of fox-hunting often discourage the game by ______.

A．using violence

B．taking legal action

C．seeking help from farmers

D．confusing the fox hunters

3. A new law may be passed by the British Parliament to ______.

A．protect wild animals like foxes

B．control fox-hunting on a large scale

C．prohibit farmers from hunting foxes

D．standardize the behavior of fox-hunting

4. What can be inferred from this passage?

A．Limiting the fox population is unnecessary at all.

B．Killing foxes with poison is not allowed by the law.

C．Hunting foxes with dogs is considered cruel and violent.

D．Fox-hunting causes conflicts between hunters and farmers.

【推荐2】I once had a friend that was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and the news that he might only live up to six months was a great shock to him, his family, and his friends．However, in spite of the serious illness, he was initially（开始） determined to look into all available treatments that might cure or extend his life．I think that when you find yourself in such situations, you tend to look up every possible way for hope of saving your life．
As months went on and his health grew worse, I noticed an unexpected change in attitude that came over him．He had also been a happy person with a cheerful personality, but rather than give in to discouragement and self-pity, he took comfort in God and humanity（人性）．His talks focused on others rather than himself, and he spoke of the afterlife as something he was prepared for, believing that his concerned ancestors, including his mother and father, were there waiting for him．
During the last few months, weeks, and days of his life, he was kindly cared for by family, friends, his loving wife, who looked after both his physical and emotional needs, and workers from a local hospice （安养院） came to the home to regulate（调节） his medication （药）and provide any other needed support．He didn't complain about his fate, and he willingly allowed others to serve him．
Indeed, one might think why God allows death and suffering in our world, but for me, such experiences taught me to value family more and kindness for others．You often can't learn these important attributes（属性）in the lap of luxury（处在优裕舒适的环境中）, and perhaps, such an experience is the greatest and final gift the illness can give those left behind．
1. Which word can best describe the man's initial reaction as soon as he was diagnosed with cancer?

A．Satisfied．

B．Sad

C．Surprised

D．Concerned．

2. What did the man do after he first learned of his illness?

A．He was operated on immediately．

B．He researched cancer treatments．

C．He retired from his job

D．He felt sad, doing nothing．

3. What was the man's main source of comfort after several months with the disease?

A．His family and friends．	B．The care from others
C．His doctors’ encouragement．	D．His belief in humanity．

4. What did the author learn from his friend’s story?

A．Getting comfort from God．

B．Extending life as possible．

C．Caring for yourself and enjoying luxury．

D．Giving more respect to friends

【推荐3】It’s amazing how we grow from careless kids to responsible teens. What happens in the course that makes us responsible now? It’s the seed that we sow in the beginning which grows and becomes a huge tree. As I sit here, silently thinking about my growth, I wonder over some questions which don’t have an answer but it’s because of such unanswerable situations that life has become a roller coaster ride.
As a kid, I used to read a lot of story books. In one particular book, I read a story of a bird. From then on, that has become an integral (必不可少的) part of my life. It described a male bird which takes a lot of pain to build a nest and the female bird takes shelter in it and nourishes the baby. When the bird learns to fly, the whole family flies off to a different place leaving behind the beautiful nest for other birds to grow their family in it. It made me wonder. How could they so easily sacrifice their house built with so much effort?
One night, when I was deep in sleep, I got this particular dream. I was walking miles on the endless road, totally isolated but lined with beautiful trees on the either side. Fascinated by the greenery, I marched towards it only to end up deeper and deeper into the greenery. I happened to stop upon seeing something. It was a massive, wonderful house. I fell in love with that amazing part of art. Yeah, it was indeed a piece of art with every nook and corner touched artistically and lovingly. I don’t know why I felt that it was done lovingly. Maybe because, things turn out to be beautiful only when we put our love into it — just like the food prepared by mom which tastes more delicious with her love.
I explored the house only to fall more in love with it. There was a sloping roof which matched with the greenery around; the large central open courtyard reminded me of the activities that might have taken place there which felt lively even now when it is completely deserted. The small water body that kept the house cool added to the beauty of the house — of course, it was all dried up now. It’s really wonderful how such things add life to the spaces which otherwise just become structures. Such liveliness and happening turns the house into a home. They say ‘THE HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS’, but now I began to feel it. This is where my heart belongs. This is what I’m destined to do.
When I woke up from the dream, I was clear about everything. I realized where that mile of walk was intending me to lead. I realized what message my dream wanted to convey me. And years later, when finally my turn of choosing my destination came, I simply closed my eyes, held that book in my hand, pressed it against my chest and relived the dream. When I opened my eyes, I was sure what to do. I decided to choose the road — less traveled. Yes, I took up architecture as my profession because this is what I am destined to do. I wanted to do the same thing that the male bird in the story did, to take pain in building a beautiful house and let others stay in it. This is my dream come true and the happiness that I gain now from this profession is indescribable.
1. When the writer read the story of the bird, he probably felt _______.

A．upset

B．confused

C．amazed

D．amused

2. To the writer, “the seed that we sow in the beginning” (Paragraph 1) is _______.

A．the house in his dream	B．his mother’s food
C．the story of the bird	D．his story books

3. Mom’s food always tastes better because _______.

A．mom cooks with her love

B．we are so familiar with mom’s food

C．moms are better cooks than fathers

D．mom is experienced in cooking

4. In the writer’s dream, what part of the house attracted him most?

A．The greenery surrounding the house.

B．The body of water that keeps the house cool

C．The liveliness he sensed around the house.

D．The fact that the house was very large.

5. The above passage is mainly about _______.

A．how the writer finally becomes an honest citizen

B．where the true meaning of responsibility lies

C．what we need to do when we are seeking fortune

D．why the writer takes up architecture as his career