Serendipity (缘分) can be a profound source of those moments that make life meaningful and turn the unexpected from a potential threat into a source of opportunity.
Set serendipity bridges.
Whenever you communicate with someone, cast a few bridges: concrete examples of your current interests, hobbies and vocation. This maximizes the chance that you and the other person “coincidentally” find out common ground and shared passions, triggering serendipity.
Imagine meeting a new person at a dinner party. Many of us might ask the unpleasant “So what do you do?” This tends to put the other person into a box that is hard to get out of. Positioning ourselves for smart luck means asking more open-ended questions, such as “What did you find most interesting about such-and-such?” or “What do you enjoy doing?” Such questions open up conversations that might lead to intriguing outcomes.
Reflect on incidences when serendipity could have happened, but did not.
Perhaps you spilled coffee over someone, sensed some sort of connection, but did not start a conversation? Perhaps you were sitting in a meeting, had an unexpected idea, but did not raise it?
Write down three things you would do if you had no limits and you couldn’t fail.
| A．What are you afraid of? |
| B．Change the way you ask questions. |
| C．What was it that held you back? |
| D．Avoid the unpleasant questions. |
| E．So, what new skills do you need to seize it? |
| F．It also helps you identify what brings you together and what sets you apart. |
| G．Write down the reasons why you think you cannot vary the situation. |
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The following are simple ways that can be used to deal with stress.
Be Gentle with Yourself
There are times when you are not fair to yourself. Often you are harder on yourself than you are of other people. If you can learn to accept yourself just the way you are, especially unconditionally, this would reduce the pressure you apply to yourself.
Exercise
Go for a walk. Go to the shops. You can join a local walk, swim or jog team. If you are tired out from doing housework and haven`t left your workstation, have a stretch. Change your environment for an hour or so.
Stop Comparing Yourself with Others
Often you don`t realize that a great deal of unhappiness is caused by constant comparisons you make. You says, “if only I had a big house like she was…”, “if only my husband were as rich as hers…” The comparison is endless. The only comparison that counts is the comparison between where you were and where you are now . By all means, admire others, congratulate them and be proud of their achievements, but remind yourself that only you can decide the standard（标准） you want to set for yourself.
Talk the Stress Out
Sometimes it helps to share or talk about your stress to close friends or family members. The other person`s active listening can help.
1. The passage is mainly about________.
| A．doing exercise is good for you health |
| B．how to deal with stress in life |
| C．comparing yourself with others is wrong |
| D．how to lead a happy life in daily life |
| A．make comparisons with others constantly |
| B．remind yourself that you`re unhappy |
| C．compare with yourself instead of others |
| D．set the standard of happiness |
| A．Comparing with others makes us happy. |
| B．Too much stress is bad for our health |
| C．Others put much pressure on us. |
| D．Talking out our stress might dangerous |
【推荐2】Hu Yaohui, a schoolgirl in Zhejiang province, didn’t want to speak or eat for a week.
Hu is not the only one who faces stress. According to a recent survey conducted by Wuhan University of Hubei province, about 70 percent of the 2,000 students to take the college and high school entrance exams feel under pressure.
Stress is a normal physical response (反应) to things that make people feel worried or break their balance of life in some way.
Stress isn’t always bad. Sometimes, people’s stress is important during emergency situations, such as when a driver has to stop his car to stop an accident.
However, too much or long-term stress gives people a stress overload (负荷过多).
Another good way to deal with stress is to ask parents or friends for help. Everyone has stress. For many people, stress is so common that it has become a way of life.
| A．Students with stress overloads should learn how to deal with it. |
| B．Don’t be too shy to tell others that you are having a hard time. |
| C．Sometimes, stress can also help people do their best while preparing for a big exam. |
| D．People with stress overloads may have problems concentrating on things. |
| E．The most helpful way to deal with stress is to learn how to manage the stress. |
| F．However, all of the students tried their best to get good grades on the exam. |
| G．She kept worrying about her scores on the exam. |
【推荐3】Positive thinkers don’t only live happier lives, and have better health but they are also more likely to reach their goals.
●Stay around positive people.
Have you ever felt bad for no reason just because you were around someone who was feeling bad?
●Reduce the stress in your life.
Stress isn’t only harmful to your life but it can also change your opinion of the world.
●Train your mental muscles.
The more you think positively,the more likely your brain structure is going to change and the more naturally positive thoughts will come to you.
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Read about the stories of successful people and watch movies that promote positive thinking. Whenever you get exposed to positive media your mind gets trained to think positively and as a result you will become a positive thinker. Avoid negative media at all costs for they can do the opposite to you.
| A．Learn from successful people. |
| B．Get exposed to positive media. |
| C．The opposite also happens with negative thinking. |
| D．Start right now to train your mind on positive thinking. |
| E．People infect each other with their emotions and beliefs. |
| F．The more stressed you become, the more likely you are to worry. |
| G．Negative thinking ruins people’s lives and prevents them from succeeding. |
【推荐1】We've all been blamed (责备) wrongly sometimes in our lives. How do we deal with it? Not with anger, hurt and tears, but in a collected way…
●If you are wrongly blamed, let others know of the true state of things at once. Do it calmly and clearly — if you lose your temper, people will stop listening or become defensive.
●If you don't find a sympathetic ear, find a person who will hear you out — a teacher, a parent, a friend, or a brother or sister who believes in you.
●If you've been in trouble before, it may be easy for people to doubt you. So win your respect back in their eyes by behaving with honesty.
●If what you are blamed for is something unimportant, sometimes it's better to smile it off.
●If you've been blamed for something serious, it's important to put your side of the story forward quickly and truthfully.
Just remember:
▲Respect your friends' secret if you don't want to be wrongly blamed for making them known.
▲Don't blame others without first getting proof of their wrong doing.
▲Putting the blame on someone else for what you have done wrong is weakness. Admit your mistake quickly.
▲If someone else is wrongly blamed, stand up for that person.
▲Don't pass the responsibility to others.
1. What’s the passage mainly about?| A．Tips on how to make an apology. |
| B．Ideas on how to get along with others. |
| C．Information on how to argue with others. |
| D．Advice on what to do when blamed wrongly. |
| A．is willing to learn the truth | B．looks down upon others |
| C．is impatient when listening | D．likes listening to sad stories |
| A．Fight back with anger. |
| B．Don't care much about it. |
| C．Explain yourself to others at once. |
| D．Don’t believe in others any more. |
【推荐2】If you’re a procrastinator(拖延的人), you’re familiar with the pain and stress that goes hand in hand with leaving things to the last minute. Even if you want to accomplish or finish a task, you’re likely having trouble getting started in the first place!
Change your mind. Stop punishing yourself for procrastinating. The more stressed out you are, the harder it’ll be to get your work done. Don’t be angry with yourself. Just move on and focus on what you’ve got to do instead.
Avoid a long disorganized to-do list. This is just setting yourself up for failure. Instead, create subcategories like “Home”, “Work”, “Family”, and “Fun” and just try to cross off a few entries from each list every day.
Do most important task for 15 minutes. Instead of thinking about the total number of hours you’re about to work for, just start. Tell yourself you’ve only got to do it for 15 minutes.
| A．Break tasks down into small pieces. |
| B．Never think about the past experiences. |
| C．Guilt and regret are negative emotions. |
| D．However, there is always some time when you can’t pull through. |
| E．If 15 minutes still sounds too frightening, do something for just 3 minutes. |
| F．Thus, you’ll be able to get started on the smallest piece and go forward from there. |
| G．Hopefully, there are several strategies that can help you stop procrastinating right now. |
【推荐3】Video chat is now the go-to outlet for many social distancers longing for social interaction. But having a successful fete isn't only a question of hopping on camera with friends and kicking off. Social grace is a big part of a successful virtual party — and etiquette doesn't go out the door just because you're in your pajamas in front of a camera.
Introduce everyone to the group
Gone are the days during which you can introduce yourself to new people at your leisure. Instead, the second you click 'Join Meeting', you're pushed in front of potentially dozens of faces staring straight at you.
This is particularly problematic if not everyone on the call knows each other — Zoom itself recommends short ice-breaking sessions for everyone to introduce themselves on meetings.
"I like to use the wait room," says Tamiko Zablith, founder of Minding Manners International. "For security reasons, it means outsiders don't come crashing into your meeting. But also, you can let people come in one at a time, and then you can take that time to introduce them to the group as well."
Learn the art of the pause
Another wildly confusing thing about Zoom parties: everyone has to talk one at a time. There's no chance for small groups to organically form, for joking talk to fill a room, or for guests to talk at the same time. The whole group, no matter how large, can only listen to one person at a time.
That's why putting pauses in your speech is critical, especially since low internet speeds or weird audio may mean it's easy for someone to talk over someone else, drowning out what they have to say to the group.
"If the internet is a bit unreliable, you have those unstable signals. If I keep rambling, and the other person starts, there's that delay," says Zablith. "Work those pauses into your conversation."
Know when to change backgrounds
Using Zoom's backgrounds can actually be a courtesy to eliminate distractions behind you.
Hiding those dirty dishes or pizza boxes, or obscuring other members of the household coming and going, eliminates distractions and makes the other people feel like they're getting your full attention.
"Wouldn't it be better if that distraction just wasn't there?" Zablith says, pointing to the advantage of virtual backgrounds being able to hide anything unsightly behind you. For others, virtual backgrounds also provide a sense of comfort or normalcy to the audience.
1. According to the passage, which of the following is considered impolite?| A．To introduce everyone individually to the group. |
| B．To use virtual backgrounds to avoid distraction. |
| C．To put several pauses in your online speech. |
| D．To keep silent when joining in the meeting. |
| A．Internet speed matters little in Zoom parties |
| B．the wait room makes it easy to introduce everybody |
| C．for some, real room background has a comforting effect |
| D．pauses in speaker's conversation may delay the conference |
| A．To attract more people to use Zoom. |
| B．To explain how to maintain social manners. |
| C．To offer guidance on Zoom social etiquette. |
| D．To compare online meetings with offline ones. |
