【推荐1】I don’t know what your dream is. I don’t care how disappointing it might be as you’re working toward that dream.     1    . Some of you already know that it’s hard. It’s hard to change your life. In the process of achieving your dreams, you are going to suffer a lot of disappointment, failure and pain.

There will be moments when you are going to doubt yourself.     2    . For those of you who have experienced some hardships, don’t give up your dreams. The tough times are going to come, but they will not stay, they will come to pass.

    3    . You dream and then follow it up with a list of all the reasons why the dream is unachievable. You fill your life with excuses and “I can’t”. Things like these are the true limits you experience in life and they are what you create or what you allow others to lay upon you.

Dreaming is the easy part.     4    . Recognize that a dream is a journey. On the simplest level, it takes commitment, time and courage. But rarely is something great easily realized. Dreaming is recognizing the potential for greatness and seeking it in all areas of your life. Believe in your dreams and your ability to accomplish them. I’m here to challenge you to reach for your dreams.     5    . If you can dream it you can do it!

【推荐3】How can a foreigner obtain a Chinese driving license?

China's Law on Road Traffic Safety says that foreigners must have a Chinese license to drive a vehicle in China.    1    , and they have also completed the training and examination on road safety and related areas.

    2    , he can apply for a Chinese license at the foreign affairs office of the traffic management area of the local public security bureau.    3    :

●A health certificate from a medical institution at the county level or higher. An officer from a foreign embassy or consulate and a representative of an international organization in China may follow the principle of diplomatic equivalence principle as required.

●    4    . For example: a passport, and a copy, and official proof of residence and accommodation in the form of a residence permit on the passport or a certificate of accommodation registration from the local police station.

●    5    ,a copy with a Chinese translation must be submitted.

【推荐1】The shower, I find, is the best place to cry. The water covers the sound of my sadness, while washing away any evidence of my pain. I shower after the kids have gone to bed; it’s the only time I can be alone. I always did my best to protect my two children from my tears. If I needed to cry, I cried by myself.

Yet, I encourage my two boys to cry. My 7-year-old prides himself on never crying at school. “Oh, but you must cry,” I insist. “Crying’s good. It gets the sadness out. Never hold back your tears.” But then I did just that. What might it do to them to see their mother upset?

Then my father died, and there was no way I could schedule my grief and keep my feelings inside. The realization that my dad was actually gone hit me with an intensity that was impossible to cover up.

To my surprise, my boys didn’t seem too alarmed. They found me hiding in the bedroom one afternoon, weeping. “It’s OK, mommies get sad too,” I told them, smiling through my tears.

“Don’t be sad, Mommy. Grandad’s coming back as a baby,” my 7-year-old said, his tiny arm stretched across my shoulders. “Think about love,” he went on. “Think about all the people who love you.”

I realized that in hiding my pain, I was only denying what it means to be human. I felt as if I had led my sons to believe that “negative” emotions are only a concept, and not something they should possess. It’s one thing to tell my children it’s OK to cry. It’s another to show them how it’s done.

We owe that to our children, according to social researcher Brene Brown. During her TED talk The Power of Vulnerability, Brown said, “it’s imperative that we should let ourselves be seen – deeply seen”. “Our job is not to protect our children, to keep them perfect,” said Brown. “Our job is to look and say, ‘You’re imperfect, and you’re made for struggles, but you are worthy of love and belonging’.”

【推荐3】Many people avoid apologizing because admitting to wrongdoing makes them uncomfortable. “We like to view ourselves as good people-as kind and considerate,” says Ryan Fehr, a professor at the University of Washington. “Apologies force us to admit to ourselves that we don't always live up to our own standards. We might also fear that the victim won't accept our apology, further damaging our positive sense of self. For these reasons, an apology can be very difficult to give.”

For many, apologizing is stressful, awkward and uncomfortable. But a heartfelt apology has positive effects. It can improve your mental health, repair damaged relationships and promote self-esteem. “Apology acts as a signal of one's moral character,” Fehr says.

Researchers at Ohio State University have determined that effective apologies have five elements: expressing regret, explaining what went wrong, acknowledging responsibility, offering to repair the situation and requesting forgiveness. All five aren't necessary every time. “The more of those elements were included, the more likely the apology was seen as convincing,” says Roy Lewicki, the lead study author. “Acknowledgement of responsibility turned out to be the most important piece, followed by an explanation of why it happened and declaration of regret.”

“Sometimes, an immediate apology is called for,” says Antony Manstead, a psychology professor at Cardiff University. “But if the other party is angry at your wrongdoing, it may be more effective to wait, because their anger may stop them accepting an apology. Some research suggests that a delay increases an apology's effectiveness because it conveys that the wrongdoer has had time to reflect on. his/her misdeeds,” says Mara Olekalns, a professor of management at Melbourne Business School. “The best time to apologize is when one feels ready to sincerely apologize,” says Etienne Mullet, research director of the Ethics and Work Laboratory at the Institute of Advanced Studies. “There is nothing worse in these situations than insincere apologies.”