Naturally, you like things to go well. However, you know that your plans and aspirations don’t always turn out as you’d hoped. That’s because there are numerous factors and unforeseen events that are completely beyond your control. However, not achieving the expected results can upset you. In fact, when demand demands too much of you, you can have a really bad time.

If you’re too demanding with yourself, you’ll be aware of your failures and that you’re unable to achieve what you set out to do. This makes you feel bad. In fact, you blame and punish yourself and feel crushed inside.

This is often caused by imagined situations that don’t even exist. For this reason, you must accept that mistakes are part of everyday life and that not everything will always turn out as you expected.

It makes you uncompromising (不妥协的). This kind of attitude doesn’t lead to anything good. Because you can’t ask anyone for more than they’re capable of giving, nor should you expect others to be what you want them to be.

Too much demand generates stress and anxiety. If you’re self-demanding you constantly seek perfection. Consequently, when you don’t achieve it you feel dissatisfied. This is a poisonous emotion that leads to unhappiness. The origin of this intransigence (disharmony) is generally associated with a problem of self-esteem. In other words, you don’t accept yourself as you are. First, you must learn to respect and love yourself as you are, with all your plus and minus points.

In order to stop demand from becoming a problem, your priorities and aspirations will have to change. Instead of chasing perfection, you need to be aware of your own limitations as well as those of others.

Being a demanding person doesn’t have to become something negative if you know how to manage it and set boundaries for yourself. As a matter of fact, demand can help you achieve goals and meet challenges. This improves your self-esteem. However, you must be aware that, even if you put all your efforts into doing things right, you won’t always get the expected results. Indeed, life isn’t perfect and neither are you.

【推荐2】How to Be a Good Friend

Being a good friend isn’t always easy. As the years pass, some people will stay by your side, but many won’t. And you’ll realize that each friendship you keep is priceless. Of course, to have a good friend, you should remember the following tips:

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Don’t make a promise that you can’t keep. Nobody’s perfect, and it’s okay if you skip out on a promise occasionally, but don’t make it a regular thing.

Be dependable.

Your friend will need you for support, especially in hard times.     2    

Apologize when you’ve made a mistake.

If you want your friends to trust you, then you can’t act like you’re perfect.     3     Though your friends won’t be happy that you made a mistake, they’ll be very pleased if you admit it instead of just pretending that nothing is wrong.

Be honest.

If you want to be a good friend and to have people trust you, then you have to be honest about your feelings and about how you feel about your friendship. If you’re honest about how you feel, that will make your friends more likely to open up to you.     4    

Be loyal.

    5     Just do it as you’d expect your friend to do for you. Don’t discuss your friend behind his or her back, and don’t n spread rumors.