A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.
Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.
Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.
“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”
The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.
In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.
But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.
Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I'll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”
Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One heeds to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”
When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.
1. Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.
| A．they don’t care about their own interests and feelings |
| B．they don’t know they will regret afterwards |
| C．they have already been used to saying “yes” |
| D．they care more about others’ affection |
| A．people need a lot of practice to say “no” |
| B．people should say “yes” to keep the peace |
| C．saying “no” means losing a job |
| D．people have the right to be liked |
| A．Just say you can’t help him. |
| B．Say sorry to him. |
| C．Refuse him clearly. |
| D．Talk to the other person to find a mutual way. |
| A．Say yes to him. |
| B．Repeat your reason for his acceptance |
| C．Just go away |
| D．Say no to him |
| A．You Need Courage To Say “No” |
| B．“Yes” More Than “No”C Anyone Has The Right To Say “No” |
| C．It’s Hard To Say “No” |
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【推荐1】Ma Yan is not really a writer. But this 15-year-old girl has written a book that has moved many people around the world. “Ma Yan’s Diary” tells us about Ma’s life. She lives in a poor village called Zhangjiashu in Tongxin, Ningxia, and she has no money to go to school. But she is brave and has a strong desire to go to school.
Her mother gave her diary to a French reporter, Pierre Haski when he went to Zhangjisshu in 2001. Now, it has been published in France Italy, Germany, Japan and China.
Ma is now a Junior Three student at Yuwang Middle School in Tongxin. Before this, she had to leave school twice. When she had to stop going to school the first time, her mum told her there was no money for her to go to school. She worked for 21 days and saved 13 yuan. With this money, she went back to school. The second time, her family told her she had to leave school but her two brothers could stay.
“I want to study,” Ma wrote in her diary. “Why can boys study but girls can’t? It would be wonderful if I could stay at school forever.”
Ma loves school so much because she wants to have a better life.
“My parents work hard in the fields but they are still poor. They have no knowledge. Most girls in my village leave school early and get married young. I don’t want that kind of life,” Ma said.
After her story became known, many French student sent money to her. Ma’s dream is the same as ever. She hopes to go to Tsinghua University and become a reporter. “Then , I can find poor kids like me and help them, ” she said.
1. Which of the following can describe Ma Yan’s character（性格）best?| A．Brave. | B．Pretty. |
| C．Lucky. | D．Poor. |
| A．Germany | B．Britain |
| C．Japan | D．France |
| A．Her mother gave her enough money to publish the book. |
| B．She wrote about the poor life in her village. |
| C．She is very good at writing. |
| D．Her diary was read by a French reporter. |
| A．She had to help her mother do some housework. |
| B．Her brothers studied better than she did. |
| C．Girls were not equally treated（平等对待）in their village. |
| D．She didn’t study hard. |
| A．teach her parents knowledge |
| B．get more money for her study in Tsinghua University |
| C．become more famous |
| D．get more knowledge to change her own life |
【推荐2】There is an upside to feeling angry. According to research, anger is more helpful at motivating people to overcome obstacles and meet goals than a neutral emotional state.
Being relentlessly positive and leaning on happy platitudes (陈词滥调), also known as “toxic positivity," can harm us. Most positivity lingo (行话) lacks minor difference, compassion and curiosity and it comes in the form of blanket statements that tell someone how to feel. The truth is that we are born with all the emotions and we evolved to experience negative emotions, including anger.
Unpack your anger
The first step is to recognize that you're angry. Ask yourself: What am I feeling right now? What is this about?
Set a healthy goal
When anger surfaces, it is important to remember your overall goal. Expressing anger and having a confrontational discussion can improve the relationship, provided that your goal is to strengthen the relationship, express your needs or come to a compromise.
Learn to harness anger at work
Finally, be cautious about releasing
Finding an outlet can feelgood.
| A．Embrace your anger |
| B．Dismiss your positivity |
| C．But it doesn't generally produce solutions. |
| D．We get angry when we feel there's an obstacle that is impeding us. |
| E．In the workplace, you can channel angry energy to achieve performance related goals. |
| F．It's actually a life that's balanced by a mix of emotions that seems to be more satisfying and positive long-term. |
| G．But if you mainly care about being right and winning the argument, then that could lead you to be aggressive with them in away that is harmful. |
【推荐3】How to Stop Being Angry?
When you are angry, you make ill-considered decisions that you will probably regret. What can be done to control anger and prevent it from ruining our lives? Here are some ways you can try.
You need to change your attitude. Accept sometimes things do go wrong and that people are not always lovely.
It is beneficial to stop trying to manage your anger. Anger management used to be promoted as a way of dealing with anger, but all that happens is that the anger is suppressed.
Don’t take the easy way when you get angry. We all want to throw something, hit something (or even someone) , or scream when angry. A reaction like that is the easy way. By learning control, you can become a much calmer, less volatile person. You must recognize anger is something you can control.
| A．Don’t dismiss anger as a bad emotion. |
| B．You need to learn not to respond at all. |
| C．This applies to work, day-to-day life, and relationships. |
| D．A much better way of facing up to anger is to identify the root cause. |
| E．Realizing that no one is perfect is a good start to avoiding getting angry. |
| F．They both used that anger to motivate themselves to fight for their rights. |
| G．That control will come once you identify what is at the root of your anger. |
“We thought that each generation would be better off than its predecessors (前辈),” said Professor Nick Bosanquet of Imperial College London, one of its authors. “But young people today have more duties and it is much more difficult for them to raise their incomes and create wealth. This really is a very big issue for the country.”
According to the report, today’s youth don’t have enough confidence and ability to build on the economic foundations created by post-war baby boomers (生育高峰期出生的人) . Because they are in debt, they are also reluctant to take risks. Levels of entrepreneurship (企业家精神) among Britain’s youth are lower than in America, Australia, New Zealand and Ireland and have fallen over the past decade. Many choose the jobs which offer a good amount of money after they retire. Others have to take any job that is available to try to pay off their debts.
“I borrowed a lot of money from the bank to pay for my education at university, which is the biggest chain around my neck now,” said Phil Grech, 22, from Cumbria, who has a degree in maths from the University of Reading. “I’m only doing a temporary job at the moment to pay the mounting bills. I haven’t really thought about the long term. Many people think that when you leave university you can get a good job, but it’s no longer like that.”
While older generations enjoyed higher education funded by taxpayers, young people today face university tuition fees and a decreasing “return” in the salary advantage they will get from their degrees.
1. What is the text mainly about?
| A．Britain’s gilded youth. |
| B．The “Ipod” generation in Britain. |
| C．The challenges faced by the British today. |
| D．The career choices Britain’s youth have. |
| A．Low income. |
| B．The debt. |
| C．Not having a good college degree. |
| D．Not having job opportunities. |
| A．doesn’t have much determination |
| B．doesn’t want to have a full-time job |
| C．lives a harder life than the older generations |
| D．hasn’t realized the importance of saving money |
| A．Unwilling. | B．Foolish. |
| C．Quick. | D．Sorry. |
【推荐2】Kids have a lot on their minds. Dealing with school, family, activities, and all of the other big parts of life is hard enough. The recent rise in Omicron cases in the US is causing more stress on them. It can be difficult to think of how to cheer themselves up.
Connect with people you love. Reaching out to friends and family can make a huge difference.
Talk to a trusted adult. If you’re feeling down. Dr. Murthy suggests confiding (倾诉)in a trusted adult.
Help others.
| A．Take care of your body |
| B．Regular exercise helps body building |
| C．It is a good chance to speak out how you feel |
| D．This might be a family member, a teacher or a doctor |
| E．You don’t have to discuss anything sad with your loved ones |
| F．Service is one of the best ways to get out of sadness and loneliness |
| G．Vivek Murthy, the country’s top doctor, offers some advice for this purpose |
Scientists say that gravitational(重力的)force makes the world turn, but some people say that love makes
Love may connect people all over the world, but what would the world be without generosity? Whether after a national disaster, or a school fund-raiser, one thing is certain--it is better to give than to receive. Generosity is found everywhere and whether it's a large or small act, it makes a difference. Most of all, being generous is not something you need any qualifications for, but no matter what you do, it can make a difference, Sometimes, though, it takes effort to be generous, which leads us to perseverance.
Founding a country, riding a bike, or finishing an essay, these are all finished with perseverance. Perseverance is the one thing that can help us achieve whatever we want. It is what helps scientists to discover cures for diseases, and athletes to become champions. You may fail, but every time you make a mistake, that's one less to make the next time.
There is an infinite(无穷的)number of things we value, but without love, generosity and perseverance, we just don't think that our life or the world would be the way it is.
1. The underlined word “it” in the second paragraph refers to “ ______ ”.
| A．the world | B．gravitational force |
| C．value | D．experience |
| A．you needn't make efforts |
| B．you should be qualified |
| C．you should give all you have |
| D．you will find it good to give |
| A．Perseverance is the only thing that can help us to achieve success. |
| B．People don't understand the life they are experiencing at all. |
| C．We can find love in complete strangers sometimes, |
| D．What the world is like depends on gravity and love. |
| A．Success and Failure. | B．Three Values. |
| C．Endless Love. | D．Life full of Hope. |
First of all, successful people never blame someone or something outside of themselves for their failure to move ahead. They realize that their future lies in their own hands. They understand that they can’t control things in life, such as nature, the past and other people. At the same time, they are well aware that they can control their own thoughts and actions. They take responsibility for their life.
Perhaps what most separates successful people from others is that they live life “on purpose” --- they are doing what they believe they are put here to do. In their opinion, having a purpose in their life is the most important element that enables them to deal with things around them. They hold the view that when they live their life “on purpose”, their main concern is to do the job right. They live what they do. People want to do business with them because of their commitment. To live their life “on purpose”, successful people find a cause they believe in and create a business around it.
Besides, they never give up easily. Once they have set up goals in their life, they are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. To achievers always bear in mind what they don’t have forever. Rather than see this as negative or depressing, they would use the knowledge to spur themselves on and go after what they want energetically and passionately.
So keep in mind what successful people always hold to be true so that you will have a clear idea of what you should do to be successful in life.
1. According to the passage, to be successful, ______.
| A．you should set up a realistic goal |
| B．you should know your strengths and weaknesses |
| C．you shouldn’t blame others for your failure |
| D．you shouldn’t waste time |
| A．Taking responsibility for their life. |
| B．Never giving up easily. |
| C．Having a goal in life. |
| D．Controlling things in life. |
| A．interest | B．equip | C．depend | D．inspire |
| A．explain the exact meaning of success |
| B．share the key to success with readers |
| C．tell his experience of achieving success |
| D．encourage readers to learn from failure |
My mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times．She had to know who our friends were and what we were doing．We had to wear clean clothes every day．Other kids always wore their clothes for days． We reached the height of disgrace （耻辱） because she made our clothes herself, just to save money．
The worst is yet to come．We had to be in bed by 9:00 each night and up at 7:45 the next morning．So while my friends slept, my mother actually had the courage to break Child Labor Law．She made us work I
believed she lay awake all night thinking up mean things to do to us．Through the years, our friends' report cards had beautiful colors on them, black for passing, red for failing．My mother, however, would only be satisfied with black marks．None of us was allowed the pleasure of being a dropout （辍学者）．
She forced us to grow up into educated and honest adults．Using this as a background, I'm now trying to bring up my three children．I'm filled with pride when my children think I am mean because now I thank God every day for giving me the meanest mother in the world．
1. From the passage we can learn that the writer's mother was____．
| A．not generous at all | B．very cruel to her children |
| C．very mean with money matters | D．very strict with her children |
| A．Eating differently from other kids． | B．Letting mother know where they were． |
| C．Going to bed early and getting up early． | D．Wearing clean clothes made by mother． |
| A．the writer's family lived a miserable life |
| B．all the other kids studied better than the writer |
| C．Mother was punished for breaking the Labor Law |
| D．the writer worked hard and usually got good grades in studies |
| A．The writer is very thankful to her mother． |
| B．The writer has a deep hatred for her mother． |
| C．Mother practiced economy in running her home． |
| D．The writer is strict with her children when bringing them up． |
| A．humorous | B．hateful | C．ridiculous | D．impatient |
【推荐3】Why do some people enjoy more health and happiness than others? It seems that they are able to realize their dreams rapidly. The good news is that you can be one of those people.
Make themselves available to success. Happy people are great goal setters.
Don’t use the word luck. When you look at an exceptionally happy person, you may say, “They are so lucky.” But a conversation with them will reveal that luck is not in their vocabulary. Instead, they believe that passion and persistence equals great results.
Walk out of their comfort zone and seek risk often.
Realize there is more to life than being happy. Happy people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about happiness.
| A．Try to be more patient. |
| B．Don’t try to make you win over with debates. |
| C．They live in the moment and enjoy the ups and downs of life. |
| D．I know this is true from personal experience. |
| E．They work toward their goals daily and see opportunities in everything. |
| F．Happy people have learned that settling in any area of life will hold them back. |
| G．Happiness is available, especially when you understand what happiness is. |
“I learned the language and am now fluent, but perhaps what’s more important was how much I learned about cultures, people, and myself. I learned this from the viewpoint of an active member of the community and my host family, not from the tourist’s point of view,” says Andrew, who studied in Poitiers, France.
Another reason for studying abroad is that you’ll gain self-confidence. Christina studied in Caracas, Venezuela, a city of 10 million people and a huge change from her home town of 35,000! Christina says she learned how to better stand up for herself and her beliefs and to express herself in another language. What could make you more confident than that?
Living away from home can also help you adjust in the transition(过渡) to college and adulthood. Mathew says he returned from studying in Australia with confidence and a real interest in international affairs that made him different from his peers(同龄人). “After having gone abroad in high school, I found the transition to college to be
Most of all, it’s fun while you’re studying in a different learning environment.
1. The passage is mainly about .
| A．the benefits of studying abroad |
| B．living in a foreign country |
| C．the excitement of travel |
| D．learning a language |
| A．Host families. | B．The foreign cultures. |
| C．Places of interest. | D．Community problems. |
| A．change our habits | B．offer us opportunities |
| C．increase our knowledge | D．build our confidence |
| A．something very important | B．something very interesting |
| C．something very easy | D．something very soft |
My parents married on September 14, 1940, after a brief dating. She was nearly 30 and knew it was time to start a family. The handsome well-educated man who came by the office where she worked looked like a good bet. He was attracted by her figure, her blue eyes. The romance didn’t last long.
Seeds of difference grew almost immediately. She liked to travel; he hated the thought. He loved golf; she did not. He was a Republican, she a loyal Democrat. They fought at the bridge table, at the dinner table, over money, over the shortcomings of their parents.
There was a hope that they would change once they retired (退休), and the angry winds did calm somewhat, but what remained changed itself into bright, hard bitterness. “I always thought we’d …” my mother would begin, before making a detailed list of my father’s faults. The complaints were recited so often, I can repeat them by heart today. As he listened, my father would say something angrily in a low voice.
It wasn’t the happiest marriage, but as their 60th anniversary (纪念日) came nearer, my sister and I decided to throw a party. Sixty years was a long time, after all. Why not try to make the best of things? We’d provide the cakes, the balloons, the toasts, and they’d follow one rule: no fighting.
The agreement was honored. We had a wonderful day. When we thought back, we found it was an important celebration, because soon after, things began to change for my parents.
1. Bob married Nancy because of ______.
| A．her nice appearance |
| B．her good education |
| C．her romantic nature |
| D．her position as an office girl |
| A．60 | B．70 | C．80 | D．90 |
| A．Their marriage is a total failure. |
| B．They had different hobbies. |
| C．They had serious money problem. |
| D．They stopped quarrelling after they had children. |
| A．to recall the 60 years’ marriage life of her parents |
| B．to stop the long fighting between her parents |
| C．just to celebrate her parents’ 60th anniversary |
| D．to have a good time for family’s reunion |
| A．Everyday Heroes | B．My Planet |
| C．Turning Point | D．Unforgettable |
At work, I used to say hello to the president of the company and ask him how our business was doing. But I also spoke to the people in the cafe and people who cleaned the buildings, and asked them how their children were doing, for every single person deserves to be accepted, no matter how humble(低微的)they are. I remember that after a few years of passing by the president, I had the courage to ask him for a chat. We had a great talk. At some point, when I asked him how far he thought I could go in his company, he said that if I wanted to, I could get all the way to his seat.
I've become vice-president, but that hasn't changed how I treat people. I speak to people wherever I am. Speaking to people creates a pathway into their world, and it lets them come into mine, too.
The day you speak to someone who has his head down and then see him lift it up and smile, you will realize how powerful it is just to open your mouth and say hello.
1. What is the best title for this passage?
| A．The power of being talkative |
| B．My mother's influence on me |
| C．The power of saying hello |
| D．My way to become vice-president |
| A．the writer didn't like Mr. Lee |
| B．the writer didn't say hello to Mr. Lee on that occasion |
| C．the writer didn't get along well with his mother |
| D．the writer's mother stopped to say hello to everyone she met |
| A．The writer didn't say hello to everyone in the company. |
| B．The writer made a very good impression on the president of the company. |
| C．The president of the company thought the writer was much better than him. |
| D．The president of the company actually didn't like the writer at all. |
| A．is a way to get what he wants |
| B．has become a habit and a way of life |
| C．is a way to show respect for his mother |
| D．is important in making him remembered |
| A．make our world much better |
| B．make people much happier every day |
| C．help people understand each other better |
| D．help people work much better |
