A sense of humor is something highly valued. A person who has a great sense of humor is often considered to be happy and socially confident. However, humor is a double-edged sword. Sometimes it can damage self-respect and annoy others.
People who use bonding humor tell jokes and generally lighten the mood. They're thought to be good at reducing the tension in uncomfortable situations. They often make fun of their common experiences, and sometimes they may even laugh off their own misfortunes. The basic message they deliver is: We're all alike, we find the same things funny, and we're all in this together.
Put-down humor, on the other hand, is an aggressive type of humor used to criticize others through teasing. When it's aimed against politicians, as it often is, it's extremely funny and mostly harmless. But in the real world, it may have a harmful effect. An example of such humor is telling friends an embarrassing story about another friend. When challenged about their teasing, the put-down jokers might claim that they are "just kidding," thus allowing themselves to avoid responsibility. This type of humor, though considered by some people to be socially acceptable, may hurt the feelings of the one being teased and thus have a bad effect on personal relationships.
Finally, in hate-me humor, the joker is the target of the joke for the amusement of others. This type of humor was used by comedians John Belushi and Chris Farley—both of whom suffered for their success in show business. A small amount of such humor is charming, but routinely offering oneself up to be embarrassed destroys one's self-esteem, and fosters depression and anxiety.
So it seems that being funny isn't necessarily an indicator of good social skills and well-being. In certain cases, it may actually have a negative effect on interpersonal relationships.
1. In bonding humor, people create a relaxing atmosphere by ________.| A．joking about experiences they share |
| B．showing their personal relationships |
| C．teasing experiences of their friends |
| D．laughing at other's misfortunes |
| A．Comedians. | B．Jokers. |
| C．Politicians. | D．Actors. |
| A．humor can be classified into three kinds |
| B．humor has its bright side and dark side |
| C．humor deserves to be studied |
| D．humor is highly valued |
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【推荐1】New York, London, Paris and other big cities are exciting places to live in. There are many interesting things to see and to do. You can go to different kinds of museums, plays and films. You can also buy things from all over the world.
But there are serious problems in big cities, too. The cost of living is high, and there are too many people in some places of big cities. Every year many people move to the cities to find jobs, to study at good schools and to receive good medical care. But sometimes these people can not find work or a good place to live in. Also, it is hard to keep the cities safe and clean.
Some people enjoy living in big cities, others do not. Before people move to a big city, they should think about the problems of living there.
1. Which is the best title this passage?| A．Big Cities | B．New York, London and Paris |
| C．Exciting Places To Live In | D．Serious Problems in Big Cities |
| A．go to different kinds of museums |
| B．see all kinds of plays and films |
| C．buy things from all over the world |
| D．A, B and C |
| A．Big cities are not safe and clean enough. |
| B．People can easily find a good place to live in big cities. |
| C．Living in big cities doesn’t cost a lot. |
| D．All people like to live in big cities. |
| A．to move to big cities |
| B．not to move to big cities |
| C．not to move to a big city without considering the problems there |
| D．not to think so much about the problems before they move to a big city |
| A．New York and London are big cities, and so is Paris. |
| B．Big cities are better than small cities. |
| C．Big cities are exciting places to live in. |
| D．Big cities have a lot of serious problems. |
【推荐2】5 habits that are guaranteed to put you in a good mood
Keep fresh flowers around the house.
Go grocery shopping weekly.
An empty stomach is the biggest bad-mood catalyst. But if your kitchen is filled with healthy, yummy snacks, you can easily avoid a low-blood-suger-impulse buy that makes you feel yucky. The best way to stay stocked?
Set aside an hour a day just for you.
Set tiny, daily goals and cross them off.
There’s no better feeling than checking something off your to-do list.
It may seem shocking, but there was a time when you didn’t have a cell phone, or a computer, everything was fine. Disconnecting from the invisible world that is constantly pulling you in for an hour or two a day will help you feel more present, and help you focus on what is truly important.
| A．Go radio silent. |
| B．Make a schedule and stick to it. |
| C．Pick a day of the week that you always go and build it into your schedule. |
| D．Listening to a favorite or familiar song can instantly transport you to another type of mood. |
| E．When you have no time to yourself, you can feel like you’re trapped between other people’s needs. |
| F．It’s a small thing, but a house with fresh blooms just had a way of making the space and your mood active and happy. |
| G．Give yourself some easy wins by making daily checklists and delightfully knocking them off one by one. |
【推荐3】Getting a cut or a color in a salon can be a transformative experience. When you like what your hairstylist does, it can make you feel refreshed and even build your confidence.
More gentle language may help you express yourself.
I hate it. This is not my style at all. Who would ever want their hair to look like this?! While those may be the thoughts running through your mind, they aren’t helpful. Instead, try to be as specific as you can. For example, “The tone is a little ashy for me,” or “
After getting specific about what it is you don’t like, try making suggestions on what could improve it.
| A．Get specific |
| B．Speak out directly |
| C．But sometimes a bad haircut happens |
| D．It’s too short to style it the way I imagined |
| E．No one expects you to have the full answer |
| F．Think about the reason behind your bad haircut |
| G．Tell your stylist you are unsure how you feel about the cut |
【推荐1】You may have grown up living with sisters and brothers, or this may be your first time sharing your living space with someone else. Having a roommate surely has its challenges.
However, it can also be a great part of your college experience. Follow these tips to make sure you and your roommate keep things pleasant and supportive throughout the year.
Be clear from the beginning.
Maybe you hate it when someone interrupts you when you are sleeping every morning. Maybe you need ten minutes to yourself before talking to anyone after you wake up.
This may seem simple, but it's probably one of the biggest reasons why roommates experience conflicts. Don't you think he'll mind if you borrow his shoes for a quick soccer game? For all you know, you just stepped over an uncrossable line. Don't borrow, use, or take anything without getting permission first.
Be open to change.
You should expect to learn and grow and change during your time at school.
Follow the Golden Rule.
| A．Respect your roommate's things. |
| B．Let your roommate know about your preferences. |
| C．Treat your roommate like you'd like to be treated. |
| D．Living with a roommate is really a wonderful thing. |
| E．You should correct your bad habits first. |
| F．And the same should happen to your roommate, if all goes well. |
【推荐2】The friends we meet in school teach us how to share. When we grow older, our friends teach us how to take responsibility (责任). As we continue into our 40s and beyond, we learn to weather the ups and downs in life.
The people we bring into our lives as friends will show us how to forgive (原谅), laugh, and make conversation.
One of the most overlooked advantages of friendship is that it helps keep our minds and bodies strong.
Friends don’t completely cure (治愈) loneliness but they do help us during lonely times. Having a lifelong friend lets us know that some friendships won’t last forever but each one brings something special. We learn more about ourselves and how important it is to have someone, just one person, who knows and understands you.
| A．We should value those painful times. |
| B．Some friends share a different worldview. |
| C．This is the key to coming out of loneliness. |
| D．We don’t just talk with others but learn from them. |
| E．Once again, friends provide a sounding board and place for us to grow. |
| F．In fact, it’s as important to our physical health as eating well and keeping fit. |
| G．That means we’re happier when we choose to spend time with happy people. |
【推荐3】Friendships can bring joy or sorrow.
Broken promises(违背承诺)
Friends are important for our physical and health but these relationships aren’t always smooth sailing.
Feeling left out
There’s no worse feeling than when you check Facebook Monday morning to find out that your friends went on a weekend getaway without you. Scott Christnelly, a therapist, says, “I encourage clients to express their feelings about it but also not to jump to conclusions.” Then find someone else to talk to-maybe a family member, or a close friend (not one who went on the trip)-to explain how you feel.
| A．Experiencing envy |
| B．Friend breakups can be just as painful as a romantic broke |
| C．Since there’s no rule book on what to do when things get tense or go south |
| D．But while it may be painful |
| E．In fact, it’s common to experience some serious hurt from your friends |
| F．Stopping to feel jealous of them |
| G．Maybe through that conversation, you can brainstorm how you will respond |
