One evening, author Neil’s son was angry. Neil had said one of those things that parents say, like “isn’t it time you were in bed.” His son looked up at him, angry and said, “I wish I didn’t have a dad! I wish I had … a goldfish!” That conversation gave birth to Neil’s book, “The Day I Swapped My Dad for Two Goldfish”. The book is a funny adventure of a son searching for the dad he swapped.
Whether they realize it or not, fathers play an important role in their children’s development. Roland Warren, Director of the National Fatherhood Initiative, says that, “The shape of their dads has a role in the kids’ soul.” I agree. We live in the best of times and the worst of times for fatherhood. We live in the best of times because fathers who are engaged in their child’s life spend more time than fathers of any previous generation. We live in the worst of times because there are still millions of children who continue to miss the regular presence of Dad.
What difference does a dad make? Are they really that important? For the most part, studies have proved clearly that fathers, whether they live with their children or not, matter in the lives of their children. When fathers are present, they provide economic support for their children and caregiving responsibilities. Well-fathered children are shown to be more emotionally intelligent and socially successful as adults. When fathers are absent, their absence may negatively influence children’s academic achievement, general behavioural adjustment and anger management, especially in males.
Yet just being physically present isn’t enough to be a great father. It is important that a dad be warm and emotionally available to his child. Author and researcher, John Gottman, describes this kind of father as an “emotion coaching father”. Emotion coaches are parents who listen to their children’s feelings, see the sharing of feelings as an opportunity for intimacy(亲密). It is not just the mere presence of fathers that matters, but how they are present. Most children long for and need a loving, devoted and responsible father.
1. The author introduces his topic by ______.A.presenting the results of studies | B.telling a story |
C.making a comparison | D.interviewing some experts |
A.Today’s fathers don’t care about their children’s emotions. |
B.Lots of children’s fathers have to work every day. |
C.Lots of children’s fathers are absent from their lives. |
D.Today’s fathers don’t have care giving responsibilities. |
A.lose control of anger | B.obtain high academic achievement |
C.have low emotional intelligence | D.have good social skills |
A.gives economic support to his child | B.shares his child’s emotions |
C.tries to change his child’s emotions | D.is always available to his child |
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【推荐1】Family traditions are things that families do together regularly.
Family traditions create good feelings and special moments to remember. They are fun things to do.
Family traditions help teens a lot when they are trying to figure out who they are, which job teenagers often do. A family encourages a teen to be a part of it and its traditions provide a strong base for teens to stand on.
A.Family traditions give teens a sense of security. |
B.Family traditions help parents inform their children of the family’s values. |
C.These things can be enjoyable activities or a certain food that a family likes |
D.Family traditions give every member of the family a strong sense of belonging. |
E.Enjoying them together as a family will create positive feelings in each member. |
F.Old family traditions are important but easily forgotten in today’s society. |
G.It’s very important when they’re looking for their sense of self. |
【推荐2】On numerous drives with my mom through my childhood, she would suddenly pull over the car to examine a flower by the side of the road or rescue a beetle from danger while I, in my late teens and early twenties, sat impatiently in the car.
Though Mother's Day follows Earth Day, for me, they have always been related to each other. My mom has been ''green'' since she became concerned about the environment. Part of this habit was born of thrift(节俭). Like her mother and her grandmother before her, mom saves glass jars, empty cheese containers and reuses her plastic bags.
Mom creates a kind of harmonious relationship with wildlife in her yard. She knows to pick the apples on her trees a little early to avoid the bears and that if she leaves the bird feeders out at night, it is likely that they will be knocked down by a family of raccoons(浣熊). Spiders that make their way into the house and are caught in juice glasses will be set loose in the garden.
I try to teach my children that looking out for the environment starts with being aware of the environment. On busy streets, we look for dandelions(蒲公英)to fly in the wind; we say hello to neighborhood cats and pick up plastic cups and paper bags. This teaching comes easily, I realize, because I was taught so well by example. Mom didn’t need to lecture; she didn't need to beat a drum to change the world. She simply slowed down enough to enjoy living in it and with that joy came mercy and an instinct(直觉)for protection.
I am slowing down and it isn't because of the weight of my nearly forty years on the planet, it is just out of my concern for the planet itself. I've begun to save glass jars and reuse packing envelopes. I pause in my daily tasks to watch the squirrels race each other in the trees above my house.
Last summer, I planted tomatoes in my yard. With the heat of August around me, I enjoyed my tomatoes while sitting on my low wall. I immediately wanted to share with my mom.
1. Why does the author say Earth Day is connected with Mother's Day?A.Because Mother's Day falls shortly after Earth Day. |
B.To stress that all the older women are environmentalists. |
C.To stress how much her mother cares about the environment. |
D.Because her mother asks her to be kind to nature on Mother’s Day. |
A.Picking dandelions on busy streets. | B.Rescuing a beetle from some danger. |
C.Setting a caught spider free in the garden. | D.Saving glass jars and empty cheese containers. |
A.the author's mother is very impatient with her children |
B.The author's mother knows how to live in harmony with nature |
C.the author's mother knows how to keep the wildlife off her yard |
D.the author's mother used to lecture her to protect the environment |
A.doubtful—critical—positive | B.approving—doubtful—negative |
C.understanding—critical—approving | D.negative—understanding—approving |
【推荐3】Anger often makes us uncomfortable. When you find your anger too uncomfortable to process, please let it go. But remember to create a healthy anger in your children is to practice creating a healthy anger in yourself. Once you're better at experiencing anger and expressing it in a healthy way, you'll be able to model a good style of anger for your kids.
Some kids deal with anger by creating a "false self": a child who is perfect for their parents. People who have developed a false self are often passive aggressive and seem shallow because they've hid away all the feelings with depth and character.
How do we keep kids from creating false selves? We need to raise them in an environment where it's safe to express feelings. Once you feel more comfortable with your own anger, you can teach your children why anger is a helpful emotion. When your kid expresses anger, help them examine what it is that has made them angry. Why did it make them angry? How did it do that? Then, you can teach them that while emotions are never wrong and are always valid, our expressions of our emotions are within our control.
People who are afraid of their own anger will never learn how to listen to what their anger is trying to tell them. Instead of teaching our kids that their anger is wrong, that "happy families" are never angry, or that all feelings of anger lead to violence and fear, we can teach our children that anger is OK. Anger is natural, it is normal, and it can be experienced and expressed in a healthy way.
1. What is the main idea of the first paragraph?A.Anger makes us uncomfortable. |
B.Anger is difficult to deal with. |
C.Parents often lose their temper at home. |
D.Parents should model a good anger style. |
A.Polite and optimistic. |
B.Perfect and helpful. |
C.Negative and indirect. |
D.Rude and dishonest. |
A.To give tips to create healthier anger. |
B.To suggest ways to avoid anger. |
C.To show the harm anger does to kids. |
D.To stress the importance of expressing anger. |
A.Food& Recipes |
B.Psychology & Health |
C.Life & Entertainment |
D.School& Education |
【推荐1】I spent time at my father’s house and mountain cabin this weekend, both of which have plug -in electric kettles. I enjoyed how quickly they boiled water, plus it’s kind of nice to not have to run across the house to stop the unbearable scream of the whistle( 哨 声 ) , My father was shocked that I didn’t own one, but I explained that I value the classic design of my Revere Ware kettle and I enjoy boiling water on the stove for my tea.
However, I’m nothing if not practical. I have a gas stove and the price of natural gas has been coming up, which isn’t ending any time soon. We’re not as bad as Europe, where people are removing their beloved stoves due to skyrocketing gas prices, but it’s certainly worth considering the cost of gas vs. electricity. The gas company is rolling out a 25% rate increase, which made me dive down this rabbit hole.
It’s not easy to compare gas to electric costs, as an electric kettle uses 1. 5 kilowatts to boil water and it takes 6428 British therm units (BTUs)to boil water using a standard gas stove. Of course, the gas company uses “therms”, and there are 1. 00024e-5 therms in one BTU. 1 kWh=0. 0341296 therms and I pay 14.47e/kWh for electricity and 61. 458≠/therm for gas. So you can see why you almost need an advanced mathematics degree to puzzle out the cost of heating a kettle on the gas stove vs. a plug-in electric. Of course you also have to consider that you’re not actually boiling water for a full hour
I never got even close to a point where I could do the math, but I did come to the conclusion that I could stop mindlessly filling the entire kettle when I’m having just a single cup of tea. Plus my low-tech kettle was produced without planned obsolescence( 过 时 )and should last for a very long time. No additional purchases necessary.
1. What does the author think of her father’s electric kettles?A.They cause annoying noise | B.They are inconvenient to use |
C.They are classic in design. | D.They lose some traditional flavor |
A.Hold a negative attitude to life. | B.Consider moving somewhere else |
C.Get into an awkward situation. | D.Study how to escape like a rabbit |
A.To stress an advanced math degree is rewarding |
B.To show it’s hard to make an economical choice |
C.To prove the gas company has overcharged users |
D.To explain the author is a price-sensitive consumer |
A.Keep using it. | B.Upgrade it. | C.Replace it. | D.Sell it |
1. Teenagers have opinions about everything and they aren’t shy about sharing them. So allow them to make more decisions. For example, let them decide when and where to study, what to wear, what sports team to join. However, keep in mind that some decisions can’t be discussed or changed. Parents need to set limits that protect their children’ health and safety.
2. There’s something happy about the family sitting together around the dinner table. The evening meal is often the time of the day when the family can sit together in one place and talk with each other. So make dinner a family affair. You can use the chance to share the news of the day and make weekend plans.
3. You can tell your children that you, too, sometimes feel angry or unhappy, which shows your children that you’re not just a parent—you’re a human. Not only will your children feel closer to you, but he or she may feel safe enough to disclose uncomfortable things or feelings.
4. They maybe make some wrong choices sometimes. But if they’re over 18, give them the chance to deal with problems on their own. After all, didn’t you want the same from your parents when you were their age?
5. Don’t read her diary, eavesdrop (偷听) on his phone conversations, or upset her with questions. Remember that they are humans and have their own privacy (隐私) just like you. If you think they have some problems, point it out directly, using five little words: “Can we talk about it?” For example, you can use the words such as “I’ve smelled smoke when you walk into the room several times now.
【推荐3】In a world full of parenting advice, i’s easy to get trapped in the latest discipline strategy or the trending hot topics.
A family motto is not just pretty words on a page. It is a meaningful, value-packed statement or series of statements that set your family apart from everyone else.
Most parents have a vague (模糊的) idea of what they'd like to teach their children, and when they try to teach or discipline their kids, the messages come out ...vague! You know certain things are important, but in the moment, you forget or lose sight of the big picture.
A.A family motto is a new trend. |
B.It is also not some house rules or expectations. |
C.Use this motto to stay focused on what you want to stress. |
D.Writing a family motto helps clarify your values and goals. |
E.Of course, a family motto won't solve all your parenting dilemmas. |
F.Brainstorm ideas, values, goals or characteristics that are important to you. |
G.These competing messages may cause you to forget your own parenting goals. |