Other people may have their own ideas about our lives. We can value their advice, but we don’t have to take it to heart.
Our parents have dreams for us. They want us to do well in school and to do whatever is necessary to reach our highest potential (潜力). Later in life, friends may try to set us up with their ideas of the perfect partner or the perfect job. People close to us may have ideas about how we should live our lives, ideas that usually come from love and the desire for us to be happy. Other times, they come from a place of need within them whether it is a parent who wants us to live out his or her dreams or a friend who wants us to play a good role. Whatever the case, we can appreciate and consider those people’s advice, but ultimately we must follow our own guidance.
There may come a time when all the suggestions can become overbearing (专横的). We may feel that the people we love don’t agree on our judgment, which can hurt our feelings. It can affect the choices we make for our lives by making us doubt ourselves before we’ve had a chance to decide what we want. We can tell our loved ones how much we appreciate their thoughts and ideas, but that we need to live our own lives and make our own decisions. We can explain that they need to let us learn from our own experiences. When they see that we are happy with our lives and the path we are taking to reach our goals, they can make sure that all we need them to do is to share in our joy.
1. People close to us often tell us ideas to show their ________.A.power | B.concern | C.potential | D.happiness |
A.determined | B.frightened | C.doubtful | D.grateful |
A.Tell them our choices directly. |
B.Let them experience our ways of life. |
C.Share our own experiences with them. |
D.Let them know we should make our own decisions. |
A.Appreciating Suggestions | B.Avoiding Making Suggestions |
C.Accepting Suggestions | D.Offering Suggestions |
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For the first time in my life, I'm making a really good income, and so is my husband. We could be saving a lot more, but instead we spend it on fun vacations and nice clothing. I went from a ten-year-old Japanese car to a Tesla, and a thrift-store(二手店)handbag to a super-nice one from France. I feel like 've become a new person I don't recognize. How can I go back to being someone who's fine with thrift-store items, instead of this one with a perfect house filed with nice things that don't matter?
I understand why you miss your old life. It feels good to live simply and to work toward larger financial goals. The problem, it seems, is that you never really imagined the life you'd lead once you actually had money to spare.
I doubt you may also be feeling a little bit lonely. Studies have found that transitioning to a higher socioeconomic class can make you lonely because it moves people away from familiar social circles and into unfamiliar ones.
It's also tough to talk about-having big money isn't exactly a “problem", nor a situation that most people can relate to.
I suggest an exercise: Write down everything you spend your money on, every day, for a couple of weeks. Then look at your list and focus on the things that felt worthwhile and satisfying. In doing this exercise, you'll probably find that spending money on experiences, especially ones that strengthen your relationships, makes you happier than buying items.
It sounds like you feel sorry. That's normal. I don't mean that you should feel bad about having money. Instead, it's good to be aware that you've been lucky-plenty of people never get to see the fruits of their work in the same way that you have. Amanda Clayman, a financial adviser, recommends gratitude exercises. "When you focus more on what you have, it helps you stay focused on what's important to you, instead of what you're missing," she says.
While your new life may seem unrecognizable, that doesn't mean you've lost the goal and drive that got you there—you just need to learn to redirect them.
1. Why does the woman write to Charlotte?A.She dreamed of buying expensive things. |
B.She felt uncomfortable with a thrift store. |
C.She doesn't feel great after becoming rich. |
D.She has changed beyond recognition. |
A.Her small social circles. |
B.Her new financial position. |
C.Her not-so-good relationship with new friends. |
D.Her family's move to an unfamiliar place. |
A.To let her see what is meaningful to her. |
B.To encourage her to be a careful person. |
C.To remind her to value her hard-earned money. |
D.To make her spend money improving her relationships. |
A.Reflect on her behavior. |
B.Appreciate what she has. |
C.Work towards a more specific goal. |
D.Understand those not as successful as her. |
【推荐2】When it comes to friends, I desire those who will share my happiness with me. When I was in the eighth grade, I had a friend. We were shy and “too serious” about our studies when it was becoming fashionable with our classmates to learn acceptable social behaviors. We said little at school, but she would come to my house and we would sit down with pencils and paper, and one of us would say: “Let’s start with a train whistle today.” We would sit quietly together and write separate poems or stories that grew out of a train whistle. Then we would read them aloud. At the end of that school year, we, too, were changed into social creatures and the stories and poems stopped.
When I lived for a time in London, I had a friend. He was in despair (失望) and I was in despair. But our friendship was based on the idea in each of us that we would be sorry later if we did not explore this great city because we had felt bad at the time. We met every Sunday for five weeks and found many excellent things. We walked until our despairs disappeared and then we parted. We gave London to each other.
For almost four years I have had a remarkable friend. We write long letters in which we often discover our strangest selves. Each of us appears, sometimes in a funny way, in the other’s dreams. She and I agree that, at certain times, we seem to be parts of the same mind. In my most interesting moments, I often think: “Yes, I must tell...” We have never met.
It is such comforting companions I wish to keep. One bright hour with their kind is worth more to me than the lifetime services of a psychologist (心理学家), who will only fill up the healing (愈合的) silence necessary to those darkest moments in which I would rather be my own best friend.
1. In the eighth grade, what the author did before developing proper social behavior was ________.A.become serious about her study | B.go to her friend’s house regularly |
C.learn from her classmates at school | D.share poems and stories with her friend |
A.our exploration of London was a memorable gift to both of us |
B.we were unwilling to tear ourselves away from London |
C.our unpleasant feelings about London disappeared |
D.we parted with each other in London |
A.call each other regularly | B.have similar personalities |
C.enjoy writing to each other | D.dream of meeting each other |
A.ask for professional help | B.be left alone |
C.stay with her best friend | D.break the silence |
【推荐3】Ranjan and Sumer were good friends. They went to the same school and were in the same class.
Ranjan was not strong. He could not play football or other games with boys of his age. All that he did was to watch Sumer and other boys play. He usually went with them to the playground. When they ran off to play, he would sit under a tree and read storybooks. Books became his best friends. The reading made him successful in all the exams. He always stood first in the class.
Sumer was tall and athletic. He spent most of his time running, swimming or riding bicycles. He was an extremely good player in every game. He was a member of the school’s football team and cricket team. The PE teacher thought he would make it big in the game when he grew up.
One day, the two friends went for a walk. Ranjan got tired soon.
“I have no strength. What is the use of all this knowledge, if I am not healthy? I would give away all my knowledge if I could be half as healthy and strong as you,” said Ranjan.
Sumer was surprised and replied, “So you are not happy with yourself too? I always wished I could have done as well as you did in the studies. I even thought I could have given away my sporting skills for better grades in those exams.”
The two friends looked at each other and cried out at the same time, “The grass looks greener on the other side of the hill.”
1. What did Ranjan usually do when he went to the playground with Sumer?A.He read his favorite books. | B.He played with his friend. |
C.He studied for the exams. | D.He took care of the clothes. |
A.Sumer was very strong. | B.Sumer was good at playing football. |
C.Sumer loved sports so much. | D.Sumer spent all his time playing sports. |
A.Ranjan was proud of his knowledge. |
B.Sumer was unhappy with his studies. |
C.Sumer could do as well as Ranjan did in the studies. |
D.Ranjan and Sumer decided to learn from each other. |
A.Practice makes perfect. |
B.Nobody knows his own strong points. |
C.Grass usually appears greener in faraway places. |
D.We always want something better and feel unhappy. |
I’m writing to complain about the service offered by your company.
I told your service department on November 21 that my washing machine needed repairing, Your service engineers have since been here four times—on December 1l, December 19, December 25 and January 5.The problem was found out on the first visit and the wrong parts were brought by different engineers on the two next visits.The correct part was fitted by the first engineer on the fourth visit.
In short, my complaints are:
a.I had to wait three weeks for an engineer to call and nearly two months for the machine to be repaired.
b.The engineers who called on December 19 and December 25 had been given wrong information by the company, which made me take two half days off unnecessarily.
c.The first and fourth visits lasted a total of thirty minutes.But in the invoice (发票), I have to pay for four visits of four hours’ work.I will not be paying the invoice for their mistakes and I do hope to receive your answers to these complaints.
Yours,
Robert White
1. Robert’s main purpose in writing to the company is to tell the company ________.A.how its service department is operating |
B.how its different engineers came for the repair |
C.that two of the engineers didn’t give him any help |
D.that he refuses to pay the company for their mistakes |
A.it took him three weeks to have the machine repaired |
B.it took him nearly sixty days to get his machine repaired |
C.it had been almost two months before the first engineer came |
D.it took the engineer 3 weeks to find out something wrong with the machine. |
A.three hours’ work | B.half an hour’s work |
C.an hour’s work | D.four hours’ work |
【推荐2】Some people will do just about anything to save money. And I am one of them. Take my family’s last vacation or example. It was my six-year-old son’s winter break from school, and we were heading home from Fort Lauderdale after a weeklong trip. The flight was overbooked, and Delta, the airline, offered us $400 per person in credits to give up our seats and leave the next day. I had meetings in New York, so I had to get back. But that didn’t mean my husband and my son couldn’t stay. I took my nine-month-old and took off for home.
The next day, my husband and son were offered more credits to take an even later flight. Yes, I encouraged - okay, ordered them to wait it out at the airport, to “earn” more Delta Dollars. Our total take: $1,600. Not bad, huh?
Now some people may think I’m a bad mother and not such a great wife either. But as a big-time bargain hunter, I know the value of a dollar. And these days, a good deal is something few of us can afford to pass up.
I’ve made a living looking for the best deals and exposing the worst tricks. I have been the consumer reporter of NBC’s Today Show for over a decade. I have written a couple of books including one titled Tricks of the Trade: A Consumer Survival Guide. And I really do what I believe in.
I tell you this because there is no shame in getting your money’s worth. I’m also tightfisted when it comes to shoes, clothes for my children, and expensive restaurants. But I wouldn’t hesitate to spend on a good haircut. It keeps longer, and it’s the first thing people notice. And I will also spend on a classic piece of furniture. Quality lasts.
1. Why did Delta give the author’s family credits?A.They had early bookings. | B.They took a later flight. |
C.Their flight had been delayed. | D.Their flight had been cancelled. |
A.She rarely misses a good deal. | B.She seldom makes a compromise. |
C.She is very strict with her children. | D.She is interested in cheap products. |
A.She’s a housewife. | B.She’s a writer. |
C.She’s a media person. | D.She’s a business woman. |
A.How to expose bad tricks. | B.How to reserve airline seats. |
C.How to make a business deal. | D.How to spend money wisely. |
【推荐3】Back in 1975, economists planned rising life expectancy (预期寿命) against countries’ wealth, and concluded that wealth itself increases longevity. It seemed self- evident: everything people need to be healthy--from food to medical care- costs money.
But it soon proved that the data didn't always fit that theory. Economic booms didn’t always mean longer lives. In addition, for reasons that weren’t clear, a given gain in gross domestic product (GDP) caused increasingly higher gains in life expectancy over time, as though it was becoming cheaper to add years of life. Moreover, in the 1980s researchers found gains in learning were associated with greater increases in life expectancy than gains in wealth were. Finally, the more educated people in any country tend to live longer than their less educated fellow citizens. But such people also tend to be wealthier, so it has been difficult to make out which factor is increasing lifespan.
Wolfgang Lutz and his colleagues have now done that by collecting average data on GDP per person,lifespan, and years of education from 174 countries, dating from 1970 to 2010. They found that, just as in 1975, wealth associated with longevity. But the association between longevity and years of schooling was closer, with a direct relationship that did not change over time, the way wealth does.
Lutz argues that because schooling happens many years before a person has attained their life expectancy, this association reflects cause: better education drives longer life. It also leads to more wealth, which is why wealth and longevity are also associated. But what is important, says Lutz, is that wealth does not seem to be longevity, as experts thought- in fact, education is driving both of them.
He thinks this is because education permanently improves a person’s cognitive abilities, allowing better planning and self-control throughout the rest of their life. This idea is supported by the fact that people who are more intelligent appear to live longer.
1. Which of the following best describes economists ’conclusion in 1975?A.Lifespan could be increased by wealth. |
B.Economic growth didn’t always mean longer life. |
C.Education influenced longevity more than wealth did. |
D.A given growth in GDP caused higher gains in longevity. |
A.Wealth and longevity did not have any association. |
B.Longevity and education were more closely associated. |
C.Differences in wealth predicted differences in longevity. |
D.Relationship between education and longevity changed over time. |
A.It enables people to have better planning and self-control. |
B.It always leads to a longer but not necessarily richer life. |
C.It improves people’s imaginative and innovative abilities. |
D.It helps people acquire time-managing and learning habits. |
A.Wealth influences longevity. |
B.Education influences longevity. |
C.Wealth has nothing to do with longevity. |
D.The relationship between education and wealth. |
My husband lived a poor life in Italy. He applied to go to America, but there was a limit in number and he was rejected. He was accepted by Canada, though, and from Calgary he jumped onto a train to San Francisco. There he stayed —illegally. He became a US citizen when we got married. By then he was a charming European with a Romanian accent and the manners of a prince.
With seven years’ experience in America, a US passport, and two children later, he felt it was safe to visit Romania. He hadn’t seen his mother, two sisters, and two brothers since he was sixteen. We flew to Munich, Germany; picked up the German-made car we had purchased in the States; and drove to Romania via Austria and Hungary. When we reached Bucharest, the capital city of Romania, his family was waiting outside his sister’s house to greet us. After a long time of hugging, kissing, and crying, his family also hugged me, the American wife with two young children. They had great interest in me. Few Americans visited Romania at that time, and most Romanians had little chance to travel. I had brought an English-Romanian dictionary with me and managed to communicate, using only nouns, with no verbs. My Romanian improved, and the family’s stock of English words increased, but mostly I spoke in broken, New York-accented Romanian. The sisters loved their gifts of skirts and purses, the brothers loved the radios, and the children loved the candy. We made side trips to the Black Sea and enjoyed sightseeing in beautiful mountains. Dining at outdoor cafes to the music of violins was fantastic with fancy flavor, but nothing was as special as family dinners.
Romania didn’t have many dry cleaners. Most homes had old-fashioned washing machines but no dryers, and it was a hot summer. My husband’s relatives didn’t want to risk dirtying their clothes. Their solution was as simple as it was shocking: the women only wore their bras(胸罩) and slips (衬裙) at dinner table. The men were eating without shirts. They all had jobs, so time was precious. Having dinner without proper clothes was a small inconvenience compared with the effort of washing clothes —at least in my husband’s home, perhaps all across Romania. I, of course, having just met them, ate fully clothed. I washed my clothes by hand and hung them outdoors to dry.
On the last night of our three-week stay, we had a large family dinner. I was tired of washing my clothes. So I pulled my dress over my head and placed it on the chair behind me. All men and women applauded for my action. Even with my poor Romanian, I understood that they were saying, “She’s part of our family now.”
My children were 4 and 5 at the time, but they still have memories of that trip. They know how to say, “Good morning.” and “There are apricots (杏子) on the tree.” I can still say, “Do you speak Romanian?”and “I swim in the Black Sea.” But most of all, I remember sitting at a long dining-room table in my bra, enjoying meatballs with fresh garlic (大蒜).
1. From Para. 1, we learn that ________.
A.a trip to Europe would be dangerous |
B.the mother didn’t want to see her son |
C.Romania might be unsafe at that time |
D.the mother didn’t like to write in pen |
A.experiences | B.application |
C.illegal stay | D.marriage |
A.bought a new German-made car |
B.had little interest in the relatives |
C.used a new language with effort |
D.enjoyed the mountain sights best |
A.The way people dressed . |
B.The way people spoke. |
C.The fantastic violin music. |
D.The fancy food flavor. |
A.she offered gifts to the whole family |
B.she spoke her husband’s language |
C.she washed all the clothes by hand |
D.she had dinner in bra like other ladies |
A.“east and west, home is the best” |
B.“when in Rome do as the Romans do” |
C.“marry a dog and follow the dog forever” |
D.“the course of true love never runs smooth” |
Listening well also requires total concentration upon someone else. An essential part of listening well is the rule known as ‘bracketing’. Bracketing includes the temporary giving up or setting aside of your own prejudices and desires, to experience as far as possible someone else’s world from the inside,
Most of the time we lack this energy. Even though we may feel in our business dealings or social relationships that we are listening well, what we are usually doing is listening selectively. Often we have a prepared list in mind and wonder, as we listen, how we can achieve certain desired results to get the conversation over as quickly as possible or redirected in ways more satisfactory to us. Many of us are far
more interested in talking than in listening, or we simply refuse to listen to what we don’t want to hear.
It wasn’t until toward the end of my doctor career that I have found the knowledge that one is being truly listened to is frequently therapeutic(有疗效的) In about a quarter of the patients I saw, surprising improvement was shown during the first few months of psychotherapy(心理疗法), before any of the roots of problems had been uncovered or explained. There are several reasons for this phenomenon, but chief among them, I believe, was the patient’s sense that he or she was being truly listened to, often for the first time in years, and for some, perhaps for the first time ever.
1. . The phrase “stepping into his or her shoes” in paragraph 2 probably means _______.
A.preparing a topic list first |
B.focusing on one’s own mind |
C.directing the talk to the desired results |
D.experiencing the speaker’s inside world |
A.How to listen well. |
B.What to listen to. |
C.Benefits of listening. |
D.Problems in listening |
A.listen actively |
B.listen purposefully |
C.set aside their prejudices |
D.open up their inner mind |
A.they were taken good care of. |
B.they knew they were truly listened to. |
C.they had partners to talk to. |
D.they knew the roots of problems. |
【推荐3】There’s no doubt that loneliness hurts. Functional MRIs show that the area of the brain triggered by social rejection is the same area that’s triggered by physical pain. To understand why loneliness hurts, let’s take a closer look at friendship through the eyes of two heavyweight philosophers.
In one corner we have Aristotle, who wrote that without friends, there’s no reason to live. The Greek great believed that friendships are based on the virtues of the friend.
So as a sharp counterpunch to Aristotle, let’s turn to the renowned Enlightenment philosopher Immanuel Kant, who said that all people have value regardless of their virtues. Since we view our true friends with this kind of unconditional love and respect, we can assume they view us the same way.
A.This may sound fine at first. |
B.They last through thick and thin. |
C.This tells us why loneliness hurts. |
D.These acts may not make you a lifelong friend. |
E.The more friends you have, the happier you’ll be. |
F.We feel like we’re not accepted by the people around us. |
G.Thus, the cure for loneliness can be found in other people. |