【推荐1】Some people think if you are happy, you are blind to reality. But when we research it, happiness actually raises every single business and educational outcome for the brain. How did we miss this? Why do we have these social misunderstandings about happiness? Because we assumed you were average. When we study people, scientists are often interested in what the average is.

Many people think happiness is genetic. That’s only half the story, because the average person does not fight their genes. When we stop studying the average and begin researching positive outliers —people who are above average for a positive aspect like optimism or intelligence —a wildly different picture appears. Our daily decisions and habits have a huge impact upon both our levels of happiness and success.

Scientifically, happiness is a choice. It is a choice about where your single processor brain will devote its limited resources as you process the world. If you scan for the negative first, your brain really has no resources left over to see the things you are grateful for or the meaning embedded(嵌入) in your work. But if you scan the world for the positive, you start to acquire an amazing advantage.

I wrote the cover story for the Harvard Business Review magazine on “Happiness Leads to Profits.” Based on my article called “Positive Intelligence” and my research in The Happiness Advantage, I summarized our researched conclusion: the single greatest advantage in the modern economy is a happy and busy workforce.

A decade of research in the business world proves that happiness raises nearly every business and educational outcome: increasing sales by 37%, productivity by 31%, and accuracy on tasks by 19%, as well as a number of health and quality-of-life improvements.

【推荐2】My husband and I recently went to Disney World with our three children. We had a wonderful time. Besides, I experienced something that left a deep impression on me.

Our children were excited about the attraction where children could drive the cars. They were so delighted that I decided to stand beside the track to get pictures of everyone as they drove past on the track.

As I waited for them to drive by, I noticed a car with a father and his son who was about 7 years old. They rolled down the hill at the beginning, but suddenly the car stopped. The young driver looked nervous, “I can't do it.” His father quietly said, “Yes, you can.”

“No. I can't！”

“Yes, you can, son.”

The little guy was almost in tears, “I can't！” With deep patience, the father said, “Son, you can do this. I'm going to help you.” A moment later, with the father helping his son, the two went smoothly (顺利地) on their way down the track.

The scene brought tears to my eyes and it reminded (使想起) me of my dear father. Just like that little boy's dad, my father used to say the same words to me. Every time things got hard or when I experienced setbacks along the way, he would say, “Michelle, you can do this. I'm going to help you.”

Time and time again the words greatly encouraged me on the journey. I'm aware that I can't do things under my own power, but the words “Yes, you can” come beside me and give me wisdom and strength. As I benefited (受益) a lot from them, I often tell my children never to say “I can't” easily when they meet something difficult.

【推荐3】In my generation, most people assume (假设) a lot. We assume that after getting a driver’s license, we should see a brand new car sitting in our driveway. We assume that the latest iPhone product should be in our hands as soon as something goes wrong with our old one. We also assume that college, being as expensive as it is, should be given. However, what we don’t realize is that all of these things are very special privileges (特权).

New cars, the latest technology and college fees are something that most people have in the place where I live. I’m not necessarily complaining about this. I live in a very fortunate area, and I try to remind myself of that every day.

Getting nice things is great, but sometimes, the competition that rules our lives gets too fierce. When someone else gets something great, you begin to think, “Why can’t I have that?” When everyone around you goes to college, you think that one day you will obviously do the same, because who doesn’t?

Even now, having almost done with my first year of college, I constantly see people who forget why we’re here, and how lucky we are to be on this campus. All of the distractions can surely keep you from doing your best, and they can easily make you forget your real purpose at college. The parties, friends, events, and overall social life can move you into a never-ending whirlpool (旋涡) of not doing schoolwork. Having fun is a part of life, but balance is the key when it comes to college.

Appreciation nowadays is slowly changing into a distant thought. We constantly forget how lucky we are to have the things and the life that we live. Surely, who doesn’t dream of a new car waiting for them, or that brand new iPhone that you see in all of the commercials? But wanting something is different from expecting it. Setting yourself up with an “ I should get this” attitude will only push appreciation further away.

Appreciate what you have, but don’t expect what you don’t have. Say thank you to those who help and support you, and realize that whoever you are, you’re lucky in a great way.