With numbers of books and courses helping us develop self-discipline(自律), it seems quite obvious that self-discipline is highly valued. However, this may overstate the importance of being self-disciplined and make people worried. People with such worries are likely to push themselves harder and harder. Once their energy is burned out or their willpower breaks down, they will feel upset.
In fact, being self-disciplined isn’t about leading a restrictive(约束的)lifestyle. Although it seems to be usually connected with self-control and willpower, it still has to be based on respect for one’s own free will and effective methods. Some people are caught in a “self-discipline trap(陷阱)” where they always work hard, and mistakes, failure and laziness are not allowed. Is this really the way we can improve ourselves, or is it a way to make things worse? Even though staying self-disciplined is beneficial for self-improvement, it’s never something everyone must do in life.
How can we avoid being over self-restrained? Here are some ideas.
Follow your own energy flow and limit. Going against it may produce unpleasant results. For example, sleeping for five hours and then forcing yourself to get up for a morning run. The harm caused by not getting enough sleep may outweigh the good brought by running.
Follow your own heart. Information on the Internet has created a hidden competitive environment where many good examples lead the trends(潮流). People who see these are more likely to follow. Listen to your own voice instead of others. Think and decide whether it is what you truly want.
Change your goals and expectations. Some who are over self-restrained may set unrealistic goals and expectations. They may never stop until it’s perfect, even though nothing could really be perfect. For example, losing 10 pounds in a week. It then easily goes into an unhealthy cycle where they always set goals but never reach them.
Work smart instead of working hard. We might all have ever been stuck in a situation where, no matter how much effort we’ve made, the progress is slow. Have you found better ways to do it instead of just trying harder? For example, if I have a goal of learning 20 new words each day, I might follow the Forgetting Curve(遗忘曲线)to do it more effectively.
1. What is Paragraph 2 mainly about?A.The meaning of self-discipline. | B.The ways to develop self-discipline. |
C.The effects of being self-disciplined. | D.The reason for being self-disciplined. |
A.consider other people’s advice | B.follow good examples on the Internet |
C.set up achievable goals and expectations | D.raise our energy limit to get good results |
A.To stress the value of working hard. |
B.To explain how effort influences progress. |
C.To suggest a good way of learning a language. |
D.To show the importance of finding effective methods. |
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We’ve all felt confused before. The feeling of not knowing what the answers or solutions are can make us feel useless, stupid, and cause us to worry.
People are often likely to think the person who has all of the answers is smarter than the one who asks a lot of questions. As a result, people often try to hide their confusion in different ways. People sometimes act as if they have the answers. At other times, people make guesses or create an answer even if they know it isn’t right.
But confusion might actually be a good thing. When we jump to an answer, we don’t have time to explore (探索) the thing we’re confused about. Instead of paying no attention to your confusion, accepting it and taking the opportunity to think about what’s confusing can benefit our learning. In fact, scientific studies show that confusion actually leads to deeper understanding. A 2004 study explored six moods that people feel while learning, including upset, bored, and confused. They found that students who spent more of the lesson confused learned the most. In another study, scientists tried to confuse students by giving them contradicting (矛盾的) information. Students who expressed confusion during the lesson did better on the final test. Not knowing the answer to a problem gives us space to look at different ways to solve it. The feeling of confusion also encourages us to look more deeply into the problem. In the end, this helps us understand the topic on a deeper level.
Confusion is also important for learning your identity (身份). People find out their identity in two steps. The first step is exploration, where you try out different groups and values and see what fits. The next step is commitment, when you decide firmly (坚定地) about some parts of your identity. You make up your mind that you will act in a way that fits your identity. Exploring your identity can feel very confusing. But a study found, that people who do the most exploring about who they are have better outcomes such as higher self- confidence and self-esteem (自尊) later in life.
So, instead of trying to hide your confusion, try a new method, ask for help, or research different ways to deal with the problem to work through your confusion.
1. Why does a person try to hide his confusion?A.Because he wants others to make good judgement on him. |
B.Because he has good ability to guess and create an answer. |
C.Because hiding his confusion helps him work out a solution. |
D.Because telling others his confusion will make them confused. |
A.Good understanding leads to less confusion. |
B.Confusion can have helpful effect on learning. |
C.Digging deeply into a problem may cause confusion. |
D.Confusion prevents the development of self-confidence. |
A.promise | B.imagination | C.challenge | D.argument |
A.To call on readers to study confusion on a deeper level. |
B.To tell readers about the research results on confusion. |
C.To explain to readers it’s normal to feel confused. |
D.To encourage readers to clear up their confusion. |
【推荐2】Online eating shows or Mukbang, comes from South Korea, is well-known all over the world.
Many hosts of such shows become popular for their ability to eat lots of food. But these shows have also received criticism (批评) for their waste (浪费) of food. While some hosts can eat so much food, but some maybe fake it. They show eating a lot of food in front of camera, but actually later threw it away.
To stop it, many video and live streaming platform Douyin, Kuaishou and Bilibili, have stopped showing food waste, and promoted (宣传) messages to “stop food waste and eat reasonably." In June 2020, the United Nations warned that the world is facing the worst food shortage in 50 years. About a third of the world's food — 1.3 billion tons — is wasted every year. In China alone, 50 million tons of food becomes rubbish every year, according to Beijing News.
Recently, campaigns (活动) against food waste have been further promoted. In August, President Xi Jinping stressed the need for having safe food and stopping food waste. According to China Daily, a large number of restaurants have taken actions to control food waste. In Wuhan, restaurants ask customers to take the "N-1 mode". For example, a group of 10 diners should only order enough for nine people at first. More food is only brought to the table if they really need it.
In addition, a nationwide "Clean Your Plate" campaign has been started online Users of Weibo are encouraged to share photos or videos of empty plates after finishing their meals.
1. Hosts are welcomed by people because ________.A.they are too hungry |
B.they can eat very special food |
C.they can eat quite a lot of food |
A.坚 持 | B.伪 造 | C.赞 扬 |
A.food waste | B.unusual abilities | C."Clean Your Plate" |
A.10 people can only order food for 9 in restaurants in China. |
B.People must take photos or videos to show their empty plates in Weibo. |
C.Many people around the world may not have enough food according to the UN. |
A.eat less and do more |
B.eat more healthy food |
C.put an end to food waste |
【推荐3】There is an old Chinese proverb that states “One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade,” and this is how it should be with mothers and daughters. ① The relationship can be similar to friendship. However, the mother and daughter relationship has special characteristics that make it different from a friendship. These characteristics include a hierarchy(等级) of responsibilities and unconditional love, which preclude mothers and daughters from being best friends.
Marina, 27 years old, said, “I love spending time with my mom, but I wouldn’t consider her my best friend. Best friends don’t pay for your wedding. Best friends don’t remind you how they carried you in their body and gave you life! ② Best friend don’t tell you how wise they are because they have been alive at least 20 years longer than you.” This doesn’t mean that the mother and daughter relationship can’t be very close and satisfying.
While some adult relationships are still troubled, many find them to be extremely rewarding. This generation of mothers and adult daughters has a lot in common, which increases the likelihood of shared companionship. Mothers and daughters have always shared the common experience of being homemakers, responsible for maintaining and passing on family values and traditions. ③ Today contemporary mothers and daughters also share the experience of the workforce and technology, which may bring them even closer together.
Best friends may or may not continue to be best friends, but for better or worse, the mother and daughter relationship is permanent, even if for some unlucky reason they aren’t speaking. The mother and child relationship is closer than any other. ④ There is not an equal relationship. Daughters should not feel responsible for their mother’s emotional well-being. It isn’t that they don’t care deeply about their mothers. It’s just that they shouldn’t be burdened with their mother’s well-being.
The mother and daughter relationship is a relationship that is not replaceable by any other. Mothers never stop being mothers, which includes frequently wanting to protect their daughters and often feeling responsible for their happiness. Mothers always “trump(胜过)” friends.
1. What do we know from the text?A.The mother and daughter relationship can be replaced by a best friend. |
B.A mother’s love brings her and her daughter a close friendship. |
C.The mother and daughter relationship goes beyond best friends’ friendship. |
D.Marina has a troubled relationship with her mother. |
A.① | B.② | C.③ | D.④ |
A.By listing numbers. | B.By giving explanations. |
C.By using sayings. | D.By giving examples. |
A.How to Be a Good Mother and Daughter? | B.Who Is a Mother’s Best Friend? |
C.Mothers or Friends? | D.Can a Mother Be a Daughter’s Best Friend? |
【推荐1】Everyone feels lonely (感到孤独的) sometimes. But first, you should (应该) try to find out what makes you feel lonely.
Coming to a new place can make you feel lonely. When you come to a new place, you may be afraid to talk with others and then you may feel lonely. Sometimes your parents or teachers don’t let you do things your friends can do. They think these things may not be good for you. You may feel lonely at this time. When special people leave you, you may feel lonely. They can be your family or friends. You may not want to talk with others after they leave.
Feeling lonely for a long time can make you feel very depressed. If you feel sad all the time, it will not be good for your health. So you should try to know how to solve (解决) it when you feel lonely. Here are some ways to help you.
First, learn to change (改变) yourself. When you come to a new place, just go to talk with others actively (积极地). When your family or friends leave you, you can make some new friends. Second, learn to talk with your parents and teachers. Tell them how you feel, and listen to what they say. After you talk with them, you may find a good way to deal with the problem.
I do hope everyone will not feel lonely!
1. How many things may make us feel lonely according to the writer?A.Two. | B.Three. | C.Four. | D.Five. |
A.Sad. | B.Happy. | C.Relaxed. | D.Busy. |
A.Make new friends when old friends leave you. |
B.Talk with others actively when you go to a new place. |
C.Feeling lonely for a long time is not good for your health. |
D.Work hard when you can’t do things your friends can do. |
A.When you feel happy, try to find ways to make others feel happy, too. |
B.When you feel lonely, try to change yourself and make more friends. |
C.Try to find out what makes you feel lonely and know how to solve it. |
D.Try to find out a good way to deal with the problems when you feel lonely. |
【推荐2】If you are going to apply for a job, be prepared for the kinds of interviews you can expect. One type of interviews is the telephone interview. Here are some tips for telephone interviews:
________. Before the interview, guess and write down the questions you might be asked. Practice the answers orally until you are satisfied with yourself. The questions can be about your working experiences, skills and achievements.
Keep your notes handy. Have any key information next to the phone, including your notes about the company and the questions you have prepared for. Then you can easily get the information you need. In this way, you will sound more prepared.
Avoid salary topics. When you are asked how much money you would expect, it’s not wise if you give no response. But it’s not right to give an exact number at once. Try to be open to discussion, so you’d better say something like, “If this is the right job for me, I believe we can come to an agreement on salary.”
Push for a face-to-face meeting. At the end of the interview, don’t forget to sell yourself. You can say something like, “I am very interested in your company. If possible I’d be really happy to see some of your managers. I am free either Tuesday afternoon or Wednesday morning. Which would be better for you?”
Try to rearrange surprise interviews. If you receive an interview call without any expectation, you can politely ask them to arrange another time for the interview, so you can be better prepared. Try something like, “I am sorry but I can’t do it right now. Can I call you back tomorrow after work, at 6 p.m.?”
After the telephone interview, only a few are left for face-to-face interview, so get prepared and good luck!
1. The article is about ________.A.how to apply for a job | B.how to make a telephone call |
C.how to deal with a telephone interview | D.how to take telephone messages |
A.Make a self-introduction | B.Practice working skills |
C.Write down the answers | D.Predict the questions |
A.easy to get | B.easy to recognize | C.easy to hold | D.easy to understand |
A.I am expecting a salary of $5000 month. | B.My salary requirements can be discussed. |
C.May I not answer your question? | D.I don’t mind at all. |
A.not answer the call | B.ask someone else to answer it |
C.ask for another interview | D.start your interview at once |
In your last letter, your asked me how to love to your parents. Here is my advice.
※Make a picture for them. Whether with pencils or paints, it will be a treasure(财富) to them forever.
※Write a letter to them. Take your time to put your thoughts in
※keep your room clean! Though it’s a kind of the chore, it shows mom and dad that care.
※Cook them a dinner! It can be some rice , some cheese or some hot dogs; it can give them a break.
※tell them that you love them very often. Your love can make them feel warm and proud.
※Never tell a lie(谎言) to them. Probably the biggest way to show them you love them is, never to lie. This shows them that you not only love them, but also believe in and respect(尊重) them.
※Create time to be with them. Watch a film with your mom once in a while, or go to a sports match with your dad once in a while just to show them how much you care and want to close with them.
※If you do something wrong, apologize(道歉) and explain it! They will know you are sorry. You could do something for them to show you want to make it up to them. Just saying sorry can really show how much you love them.
Yours ,
Agony Aunt
1. The underlined word “it” refers to “__________”
A.the picture | B.the letter |
C.the room | D.the treasure |
A.Studying for a test |
B.Drawing a picture |
C.Cooking a dinner |
D.Telling your love to your parents |
A.Believe in them | B.Respecting them |
C.Making friends with them | D.Never telling a lie |
A.show you want to be close with her |
B.make her feel proud |
C.cost her a lot of money |
D.make both of you healthy |
A.don’t love them |
B.go to a sports match with your dad |
C.do a wrong event |
D.say you are sorry to them |