2 . How many times have you found yourself in conversations with friends, family members or loved ones and discovered that you had completely tuned out to what they were saying? How much of our attention are we truly giving to the people who are supposed to be important to us?
According to research cited by Wright State University, while most people believe they are good listeners who don’t need to improve their listening skills, the average person only listens at about 25 percent efficiency.
So why aren’t we better listeners? As a society, we may be growing more narcissistic (自我陶醉的). A 2007 study found a rise in self-centeredness and narcissism among college students. If we, as a culture, are becoming more self-centered, how can we, as individuals, work to become more caring and compassionate communicators?
We can begin by changing our attitudes toward conversations. As Stephen R. Covey wrote in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand but to reply.” A dialogue is an opportunity to learn, to see things from a new perspective, to open your eyes to new information and possibilities. Yet, too often we engage in conversation as if it’s a debate. We speak to hear our own voices — our own pre-existing opinions. In doing so, we tend to space out when spoken to. We wait, perhaps even patiently or politely, for the other person to finish, so we can say something we feel is of value.
Playwright Wilson Mizner said, “A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.” Listening doesn’t just expand our knowledge on an intellectual level; it enables us to have a more personal, in-depth understanding of our closest friends. Relationships are truly enriched by an equal back-and-forth exchange in communication. When these dynamics become more one-sided, we tend to lose interest and create distance in our friendships, with less trust established, less honesty exchanged.
Thankfully, we can all improve our listening skills. Maybe we aren’t as good a listener as we believe. Do we tend to focus too much on ourselves — both in positive and negative ways? Do we get distracted by an inner coach, rather than living in the moment and really engaging in what’s being said? As we learn to quiet that inner voice in our minds, we can start to open ourselves up to others, becoming better listeners, thinkers, lovers and friends.
1. What is the author’s purpose in showing the social phenomena in Paragraph 1?
A.To show most people are confident about their listening skills. |
B.To express his concerns about people’s lack of attention when talking. |
C.To introduce the fact that people have low efficiency of listening in life. |
D.To provide some information about how people behave in conversation. |
2. Why does the author cite the research data from the year 2007?
A.To prove college students have become more self-cenfered and narcissistic over time. |
B.To show the belief in people’s listening skills is outdated and needs to be updated. |
C.To provide an example of how society’s narcissism affects personal relationships. |
D.To support the argument that society is becoming more self-centered and narcissistic. |
3. Based on the views of Stephen R. Covey and Wilson Mizner, which of the following statements is true?
A.People should listen to learn and see things from a new perspective. |
B.A good listener is popular but does not necessarily know everything. |
C.Most people listen with the intention to understand, not to reply. |
D.We should speak to hear our own voices and pre-existing opinions. |
4. What does the underline phrase “space out” in Paragraph 4mean?
A.Become focused. | B.Feel confused. |
C.Be absent-minded. | D.Remain anxious. |
5. Which of the following titles best captures the main idea?
A.The Decline of Listening in Modern Society |
B.Improving Listening Skills for Better Relationships |
C.The Impact of Narcissism on Social Communication |
D.Why We Should Listen More and Speak Less |