3 . Children model themselves largely on their parents. They do so mainly through identification. Children identify with (“把……和……联系起来”) a parent when they believe they have the qualities and feelings that are_______of that parent. The things parents do and say — and the_______they do and say to them—therefore strongly influence a child's_______.However, parents must consistently behave like the type of_________ they want their child to become.

A parent's actions _______ affect the self-image that a child forms through identification. Children who see mainly positive qualities in their _______will likely learn to see themselves in a positive way. Children who observe chiefly_______qualities in their parents will have difficulty seeing positive qualities in themselves. Children may_________their self-image; however, as they become increasingly _______by peers’ group standards before they reach 13.

Isolated events, even dramatic ones, do not necessarily have a permanent __________on a child's behavior. Children interpret such events according to their established attitudes and previous training. Children who know they are loved can, ________, accept the divorce of their parent's or a parents early ________.But if children feel unloved; they may interpret such events as a sign of rejection or punishment.

In the same way, all children are not influenced ________by toys and games, reading matter, and television programs. ________in the case of a dramatic change in family relations, the ________of an activity or experience depends on how the child interprets it.

My mother entered a nursing home (疗养院) as her Alzheimer’s disease got worse. I    1    (smile) as I tried to explain to a Chinese friend that many Americans really care about their aging parents.But parents often enjoy    2    (live) by themselves and may refuse help.Of course this is different from most Chinese parents who want to    3    (stay) with their adult children in the future.

After living    4    China for over 30 years, I came to appreciate (欣赏) the Chinese people’s care for their aging    5    (parent). Every morning when the sun would warm up the little park near my home, I saw a man-maybe the son-walk with his    6     (mother) who obviously had suffered a stroke (中风). He supported her weak body and walked    7    (slow) with her as she dragged one foot behind her. I couldn’t    8    (tell) if they were talking as I watched them through my window, but it was a picture of love between mother and son.

I don’t know what care is better for aging parents, but in    9    (me) opinion, I have lacked (缺乏) enough respect for the elderly. I have learned more from the Chinese about what    10    (true) love is.

Yours,

Li Hua