1 . If you’ve ever been in a cheerful mood, then met up with a bad-tempered friend, you’ll know how infectious emotions can be. Before you know it, you realize that you’re feeling down too.
You might wonder who wins out—if you’re feeling happy and your friend is feeling sad, do you yield to their sadness or do they catch your happiness? Part of the answer is likely depending on their and your levels of expressiveness and receptiveness.
If and when you encounter an opposite emotion to your own, the experience will likely vary depending on how invested you are in that other person or people.
A.Happily, it can work the other way around too. |
B.This is especially true when we’re interacting with someone we care about. |
C.Everyone varies in how emotionally expressive and impressionable they are. |
D.That isn’t to say that facial expressions are the only way for emotions to spread. |
E.These processes have to do with effective communication and mutual understanding. |
F.If you care about them, you’ll be more motivated to shift emotionally to match their state. |
G.People exposed to more negative posts are more likely to post something negative themselves. |
2 . One summer night, a boy felt himself lifted from bed by his father. Dazed with sleep, he saw stars flashing across the heavens. “What is it?” the child whispered. “Shooting stars. They come every year in August.” Decades have passed, but I remember that night still, because I was the fortunate boy whose father believed a new experience was more important than an unbroken night’s sleep.
Some parents like my father have the gift of opening doors for their children. This art of adding dimensions to a child brings the reward: the marvelous moment when the spark bursts into a flame that will burn brightly on its own one day. At a Golf Association tournament, a ten-year-old girl played creditably. “How long have you been interested in golf?” someone asked. “I got it for my ninth birthday,” she said.“ Your father gave you a set of clubs?” “No,” she said, “he gave me golf.”
I have a friend, a psychiatrist, who says there are two types of people: those who think of life as a privilege and those who think of it as a problem. The first type is enthusiastic and energetic. The other type is suspicious and self-centered. And he adds, “Tell me about your childhood and I can tell you which type you are likely to be.”
The real purpose, then, of trying to open doors for children is to build eager and outgoing attitudes, which is the most valuable legacy we can pass on to the next generation. But why don’t we work harder at it? Probably because sometimes we don’t have the awareness or the selflessness or the energy. And yet, for those of us who care what becomes of our children, the challenge is always there but the opportunities also come repeatedly. Many years have passed since that night. And next year, when August comes with its shooting stars, my son will be seven.
1. Why does the author mention the girl in Paragraph 2?A.To show parental impact on children’s passion. |
B.To suggest hobbies always start from the small. |
C.To highlight the importance of diverse experiences. |
D.To prove true passion usually arises from the reward. |
A.Setting an example for. | B.Broadening the horizons of. |
C.Providing attentive care for. | D.Narrowing the possibilities of. |
A.Stability in upbringing builds confidence. |
B.Parenting styles requires professional guidance. |
C.Childhood experience determines adult happiness. |
D.One’s personality is related to childhood experiences. |
A.The author is always addicted to shooting stars. |
B.It is a once-in-a-lifetime chance to motivate kids. |
C.The author will go to see shooting stars with his son. |
D.It is impossible to unlock kids’ potential without eagerness. |
3 . The older I get, the more I understand how my teachers have transformed my life.
On a recent Sunday afternoon, I went to see Mr. C at Roxbury Park in Beverly Hills. His love of life has not dimmed despite the fact that his legs no longer work like they used to. He visited some of his former students while he was in town. At Beverly Hills High School, Mr. C taught ancient history, coached football and golf, and risked his life teaching driver’s training on Saturday mornings from 1964 to 1988. The gray and hobbled students lined up one after another to thank their favorite teacher. One called him a rock star. Another was grateful for helping him when he couldn’t say so. It was a beautiful tribute, especially in these times of catastrophic teacher shortages.
Spending that Sunday in the park with Mr. C was nothing short of magic. It was a reminder of all that is promising and possible in public education, including a teacher whose rare emotional honesty could be appreciated and honored decades later. It also brought to mind Maya Angelou’s saying “People will forget what you said and did, but never forget how you make them feel.” He made me and others in the park feel heard and seen.
Mr. C changed my perception of myself. Rather than seeing myself as a loser cheerleader who couldn’t compete with the smart kids, I realized how much I loved learning. His history class was so interesting. In his classes about the Persians, Greeks, and Romans, extra credits can be earned for creativity. During earthquake drills, we counted on Mr. C to scream his head off in mock terror.
It should come as little surprise that I’d value the role of teachers in my life. Both of my parents taught; so did my siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins. I, too, have become a teacher and I try to follow in Mr. C’s footsteps. Some days, I fantasize what it would be like to go on a teacher tour, reaching out to my mentors to express my deep gratitude for all they’ve given me. Seeing Mr. C sparked that fantasy again. When I finally worked up my courage to thank him, knowing a floodgate of tears would open, he said to me with his typical modesty: “You were doing me more good than I was doing you.”
1. What does the underlined word “tribute” mean in Paragraph 2?A.enthusiasm | B.admiration | C.devotion | D.commitment |
A.To make a suggestion. |
B.To introduce a celebrity. |
C.To show respect to an educator. |
D.To interpret the influence of education. |
A.Enjoyable. | B.Intolerant. | C.Incompetent. | D.Patient. |
A.A reunion. | B.A rock star. | C.A surprise. | D.A great teacher. |
4 . “Can we eat this one, Dad?” my four-year-old daughter, Alicia, asks. We’re on one of our Thursday adventures, searching the nearby woods for eatable mushrooms. She’s pointing at a bright-red cap covered with white dots. I pull out my handy mushroom-identification app, which notes that Amanita muscaria, while eatable if prepared properly, is also a known hallucinogen (致幻剂). I have a firm “tell them the truth and be as precise as possible” philosophy and explain what the app says, and that I don’t think our Thursday adventures are ready to get quite that adventurous yet.
Watching your kids learn new skills is extraordinarily rewarding, but I’ve experienced more personal growth than I have at any other point in my life.
Last year, after a winter of practicing skiing on the green tracks for beginners each week, Alicia was french-frying her way down blues and even attempted her first black. That month also witnessed me visiting the mountain more times than in the 15 years combined and I’ve got myself a partner for life.
It’s not all easy—but sometimes that’s the point. Alicia practices the violin every day, and although she enjoys it, even 15 minutes of practice can upset her. The trick, I’ve found, is to let her watch me try to get better at something, too. I start taking piano lessons at 41 years old with the idea that if she sees me struggling as I practice and then improve, she’ll understand that things don’t come easy, even for grown-ups. I know there’s going to be a time when I’ll end up on the sideline cheering her on as she finds her own passions. I’m okay with this, and I’m hoping that by then she’ll carry the joy of practice and knowledge through life.
1. What does the father imply by saying “I’ve got myself a partner for life.”?A.It is rewarding to learn new skills. | B.Skiing has become his lifelong hobby. |
C.He will explore more with his daughter. | D.His daughter will accompany him forever. |
A.To prove it is never too old to learn. | B.To set a good example for his daughter. |
C.To experience the joy of piano practice. | D.To share with his daughter musical knowledge. |
A.Rigid and humorous. | B.Cautious and inspiring. |
C.Creative and thoughtful. | D.Ambitious and patient. |
A.The Thrill of the Skill | B.Practice Makes Perfect |
C.Like Father, Like Daughter | D.The Power of Knowledge |
5 . How to feel more affection for 'very annoying' 14-year-old son
Hi Carolyn: I have two children who are both fundamentally good kids. But one is a very, very cute 10-year-old daughter and the other is a very, very annoying 14-vear-old son. One is cuddly and sweet and funny. The other is only rarely cuddly or sweet, funny but snarky (言辞尖刻的) and seems to adore one thing: contradicting every statement I make.
I know this is normal teenage behavior, but right now. I feel only annoyance toward him. And then I feel guilty, because I think he can sense the difference. What can I do?
–Annoyed
Hi Annoyed: As you know - and as you've sensed in his sensing the difference-he still needs you around and wants your approval. The surly (脾气坏的) stuff isn't everything. There's an interesting person developing in there. The cute-caterpillar (毛毛虫) stage was always going to be temporary. Be the person who sees him grow and transform into a butterfly, and delight in it.
Readers' thoughts:
·Been there. Survived. One action I took: I hugged him every day. Whether I wanted to or not.
—Linda
·Teens want to be seen as adults. Appreciate his desire to be independent and praise him when he is.
—David
·I recently saw a social media post that said: "You think you've got it bad? Some people are 15. "He has to survive being a teenager. Please be kind to him.
—Jeff
·I remember my parents started letting me set aside a summer weekend or two where I could stay up as late as I wanted. The rest of the year, I lived life according to our family's schedule and needs. But those precious few nights were 100 percent MINE.
—Sue
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1. Which of the following could best sum up Carolyn Hax's reply?A.Blame and label. | B.Support. Don't judge. |
C.Model and persuade. | D.Seek help. Don't ignore. |
A.Linda. | B.David. | C.Jeff. | D.Sue. |
A.Feature story. | B.Critic review. |
C.Advice column. | D.Classified ad. |
Mama and I spend mornings cleaning up the dirt that blows into our house. Mama says all the dust is due to the drought(干旱). The dirt covers everything. It covers our clothes. We have to wash the dishes before each meal. We rarely drive the truck because Papa fears the dust from the road will ruin the motor.
When my sister, Faye, and I walk to school we wear scarfs over our mouths so we don’t breathe in the dirt. On days when the air is so bad that they close the school, we stay at home and help Mama put wet sheets over the windows. But the dirt always finds a way in.
Last Sunday, there was no dirt in the air, only bright spring sunshine and a clear blue sky. After lunch, Papa headed out to the field to check on the cattle while I played with Faye in the yard. The temperature suddenly dropped. I looked to the west and saw a huge black cloud of dust. All the birds flew away. “I must warn Papa,” I thought to myself. To avoid her fear, I gently told Faye to go back inside where she would be safe, and then headed off to the field.
The storm hit so fast, and in an instant the day turned into night. By the time I entered the cow field the fine sand was whipping(抽打) across my face. I screamed for Papa, hoping my voice would lead him back. The dirt and sand stung my skin like a thousand bees. Although I was terrified, I refused to turn back. My dad was trapped and needed my help.
1. Read for the main idea. (Limit your ideas to less than 20 words.)2. Write a possible ending. (Limit your ideas to around 80 words.)
Covering my face with one hand, I groped(摸索) my way toward the truck and opened the door.
7 . Have you ever splashed out (花大笔钱) on a present for someone you love, spending far more than you would on yourself?
Splashing out on close relatives may be related to evolutionary psychology. Evolutionary psychology claims that, given the level of familiarity, relatives will usually be given more.
Our emotional intelligence (or EQ) may also play a role in determining the extent to which we splash out. Those with higher EQ spent more money on gifts for others, especially people they were close to.
Yet if we splash out on friends or relatives, that may be nothing compared to what we spend on our kids. Again, this may be partly down to evolution — a desire by the old generation to help descendants(后代). Research suggests that the lower your income, the bigger part of it you spend on children, compared to more wealthy families.
A.If so, you’re not alone |
B.Besides, presents are given to cheer people up |
C.And they experienced greater happiness doing so |
D.Then a better prediction of emotions is made possible |
E.That’s because children’s needs are seen as somewhat fixed |
F.And the reason lies in our unconscious drive to spread our genes |
G.Of course, it’s not just down to evolution or EQ that we give presents |
8 . Developing Interpersonal Relationships
One of the biggest keys to happiness is having strong interpersonal relationships. I believe that relationships are key to leading a fulfilling and contented life. Like anything worth having in life, they take some work to develop and maintain.
In the spirit of clarity, it’s good idea to take a quick look at the definition of interpersonal relationships.
For instance, I’ve had strong short-lived relationships with people I’ve worked with on a project as well as one for 50 years with my brother. My two best friends and I live in different cities but, we get together several times a year and have a great time. I have a mentor I worked with over a decade ago I still stay in touch with because we get along so well.
We will briefly touch on developing interpersonal relationships. Best way to approach it is to be a good partner or friend as the situation desires.
A.That’s how interpersonal relationship affects you. |
B.Interpersonal relationships serve to ease people’s anxiety. |
C.For instance, ensure you are a good person to work with. |
D.All of these are examples of strong interpersonal relationships. |
E.Put some effort into it and you’d be amazed at how that pays off |
F.An interpersonal relationship is a strong association between people. |
G.If you’re on a team, it should be something you’d like to help out with. |
9 . British historian Jacob Bronowski once wrote, “Man masters nature not by force, but by understanding.” This is especially for extreme climber Alex Honnold, who climbed California's El Capitan by himself, without any safety ropes(绳子), in 2017. The New York Times called it“one of the greatest athletic feats(功绩)of any kind, ever.”
Now you can watch him do it. The documentary Free Solo, which hit Chinese mainland cinemas on Sept 6, shows Honnold’s brave journey up the 914-meter high mountain. The film won the 2019 Academy Award for Best Documentary Feature in February. In it, Honnold gives us some useful advice:“You’ll always feel fear, but over time you’ll realize the only way to truly manage your fear is to broaden your comfort zone. It means that challenging yourself is important.”
In fact, free climbing requires perseverance, control, and concentration. “I’m not thinking about anything when I’m climbing,” Honnold said, “I’m focused on doing what’s in front of me.” This strong focus on the present is a sort of meditation (冥想) that we can use in our daily routines.
While the documentary seemingly praises extreme athletes for pushing the limits of human potential, some are concerned about Honnold risking his own life. “His deed puts great stress on his loved ones, even when he succeeds,” Climbing Magazine noted.
Free Solo seems to say that with enough courage and dedication, one can achieve any goal. However, the movie may also be viewed as the disturbing story of a climber who went against all better judgment and got away with it.
1. What do we know about Free Solo?A.It won an Academy Award in 2017. |
B.It was adapted from a book about mountain climbing. |
C.It introduces famous extreme climbers around the world. |
D.It shows how Honnold climbed El Capitan without any protection. |
A.He practices meditation regularly. |
B.He does different exercises to help him relax. |
C.He keeps taking on new challenges. |
D.He asks experienced climbers for advice. |
A.They believe he should value his own life. |
B.They think he will reach even greater achievements. |
C.They think he should have done more training. |
D.They see him as an idol. |
10 . You can’t choose friends for your child, but you can help him learn to choose friends wisely.
Build your child's self-confidence.
When he succeeds or has made a great choice, tell him you are proud of him.
Give him your full attention when he talks, and really listen to what he has to say.
Discuss the qualities in a friend with your child.
Discuss with your child the qualities that matter most, such as being reliable and kind, and making good choices when it comes to avoiding alcohol and cigarettes.
Get to know your child's friends.
After-school clubs and sports programs are good places for meeting new people. Be open to exploring different activities with your child to find something that he enjoys.
A.When he does not succeed, help him feel better and keep trying. |
B.You can teach him ways to find friends who will have a positive influence on him. |
C.There are many types of friends and we should be careful when making our choices. |
D.Introduce your child to new groups of people. |
E.Friends are very important for us. |
F.Talk with your child every day and listen to his concerns. |
G.Try not to judge your child's friends according to how they dress. |