1 . I was recently told by someone that I am a people-pleaser, a person who works hard on satisfying other people. However, this person wasn't saying it in a nice way. So what's wrong with that? What's wrong with making sure others are happy with me? Moreover, what exactly are the negative results of being a people-pleaser?
People-pleasers bum their fingers because of their "others-focused" mindset, which puts them at a disadvantage. When others are not happy, people-pleasers cannot think of anything else, nor can they enjoy the moment, because they are often disturbed with the fact that there is someone on the planet who is not satisfied with them at the moment.
People-pleasers often make promises they can't keep—they write checks they can't cash. This is the situation I found myself in recently. I made a promise to someone that I would do something for him. But it was a bit unrealistic and would take more efforts than I was willing to put in. As a result, that promise was empty. The act of making the promise made them happy, and that, in turn, made me feel satisfied.
Now that we've got an idea of the negative aspects of people-pleasers, what can we do to get rid of those aspects? Where can we start? The biggest challenge people-pleasers must overcome is to get used to saying "no". I find that it is a struggle, indeed. However, if I want to change my ways, then I must learn to overcome that discomfort
Are you a people-pleaser too? Don't worry. It doesn't make you a bad person, or a dishonest person. But it can sometimes leave you open to unneeded anxiety or be cheated by truly selfish people who only wish to take advantage of your kindness. Keep the good intentions and the good-heartedness in your heart. Just work on how you express your real feelings and hold on to your position through your actions.
1. What does the underlined phrase 'burn their fingers” in Paragraph 2 mean?A.Hurt their fingers. |
B.Suffer some losses. |
C.Get slightly burned. |
D.Feel angry with people. |
A.Breaking his word. | B.Behaving selfishly. |
C.Saying no to others. | D.Cashing his checks. |
A.To instruct people to express true feelings. |
B.To stop people-pleasers from being cheated. |
C.To sum up negative aspects of pleasing others. |
D.To put forward suggestions for people-pleasers. |
2 . “Katy, please come to the front desk. You have a
As I
“You called me?” I said, somewhat
Sabrina looked up. “Oh yeah, the doorman brought this up and told me to give it to you.” As she
“What is it?” Sabrina asked.
Once glance inside, my doubt was confirmed.
“Someone has tagged me.” I
I had to
As I sat eating this amazingly delicious food, a
A.call | B.visitor | C.bill | D.package |
A.telephoned | B.approached | C.left | D.checked |
A.important | B.ordinary | C.unusual | D.impossible |
A.focused on | B.tired of | C.satisfied with | D.used to |
A.excitedly | B.curiously | C.hurriedly | D.doubtfully |
A.stressed | B.addicted | C.confused | D.thrilled |
A.emptied | B.filled | C.pushed | D.pulled |
A.opening | B.passing | C.throwing | D.dropping |
A.Lying | B.Laying | C.Hiding | D.Loading |
A.styles | B.shapes | C.contents | D.patterns |
A.replied | B.requested | C.sighed | D.shouted |
A.reached | B.put | C.took | D.got |
A.photo | B.envelope | C.card | D.drawing |
A.big | B.flat | C.wide | D.round |
A.swallow | B.count | C.try | D.pray |
A.hurting | B.beating | C.moving | D.breaking |
A.sweat | B.rain | C.warmth | D.pain |
A.strange | B.painful | C.strong | D.different |
A.confusion | B.peace | C.magic | D.gratitude |
A.went through | B.looked through | C.lived with | D.dealt with |
Resilience is thought of as the ability to bear difficult and painful circumstances. It is what makes the difference between a person who gives up in
Sometimes, when the worst happens, we blame everyone and everything around us—but ourselves—for
When emotional pain and disaster spread through the soul fully, we run the risk
4 . Last week I wrote about how giving to others can and does lift your life and brings more happiness, contentment, and even better health and a longer life. It must have
As I walked out of the building, I felt so good and happy in the
Most of us, when we talk about giving, tend to think
A.attracted | B.prohibited | C.motivated | D.allowed |
A.found | B.devoted | C.committed | D.dressed |
A.suddenly | B.specially | C.well | D.straight |
A.presence | B.center | C.edge | D.absence |
A.got through | B.registered for | C.rolled over | D.headed for |
A.donations | B.experiments | C.predictions | D.decisions |
A.voice | B.building | C.-world | D.mountain |
A.surprising | B.interesting | C.annoying | D.convincing |
A.often | B.purely | C.simply | D.deliberately |
A.make | B.share | C.get | D.change |
A.shock | B.feeling | C.gift | D.reward |
A.difference | B.restriction | C.gap | D.connection |
A.body | B.heart | C.muscle | D.ankle |
A.handle | B.improve | C.spread | D.block |
A.Purchasing | B.Organizing | C.Giving | D.Changing |
A.official | B.foreign | C.familiar | D.positive |
A.fortunately | B.constantly | C.primarily | D.eventually |
A.effort | B.contribution | C.requirement | D.chance |
A.real | B.legal | C.formal | D.huge |
A.terminal | B.lift | C.train | D.rest |
Nick was a 10-year-old boy. He was the only son to his parents. Nick’s father was a very busy businessman who could not spend time with his son. He came home after Nick slept, and was off to the office before Nick woke up in the morning. Nick longed for his father’s attention. He wanted to go outdoors and play with his father just like his friends did.
One day, Nick was surprised to see his father at home in the evening.
“Dad, it is a big surprise to see you at home,” Nick said.
“Yes, son, my meeting was cancelled. So I’m at home. But after two hours I have to catch a flight,” his father replied.
“When will you be back?”
“Tomorrow noon.”
Nick was in deep thought for a while. Then he asked, “Dad, how much do you earn in a year?”
Nick’s father was taken aback (震惊). He said, “My dear son, it’s a very big amount and you won’t be able to understand it.”
“OK, Dad, are you happy with the amount you earn? ”
“Yes, my dear. I’m very happy, and in fact I’m planning to launch our new branch and a new business in a few months. Isn’t that great?”
“Yes, Dad. I’m happy to hear that. Can I ask you one more question?”
“Yes, dear.”
“Dad, can you tell me how much you earn in a day or even half a day?”
“Nick, why are you asking this question? ”Nick’s father was perplexed.
But Nick was persistent. “Please answer me. Could you please tell me how much you earn in an hour?”
Nick’s father gave in and replied, “It will be around $25 per hour.”
Nick ran to his room upstairs, and came down with his piggy bank that contained his savings.
“Dad, I have $50 in my piggy bank. Could you spare two hours for me? I want to go to the beach and have dinner with you tomorrow evening. Could you please mark this in your schedule?”
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Paragraph 1:
Nick’s father was speechless!
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Paragraph 2:
The appointed time with Dad was near.
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On paper alone you would never guess that I grew up poor and hungry. These years my
In my childhood, I spent a lot of my time
As an adult I thought I’d figured that out. I’d always thought my upbringing had made me wary and caution, in “lessons learned” kind of way. Over the past decades, though, that narrative
7 . The Happy Man
The happy man lives objectively, and has free love and wide interests, through which he secures his happiness. To be the receivers of love is a vital cause of happiness, but the man who demands love is not the man to whom it is given.
What then can a man do who is unhappy because he is enclosed in self? If he is to get out of the vicious (恶性的) circle of unhappiness, it must be by true interests. But before that, he should analyze his trouble first.
Admit to himself every day at least one painful truth.
All unhappiness depends upon lack of integration (融合). There is disintegration within the self,consciously and unconsciously or between the self and society.
A.There is much he can do about it. |
B.The man who receives love is the man who gives it. |
C.The interests will arise when you overcome being self-centered. |
D.The happy life is to an extraordinary extent the same as the good life. |
E.Teach himself life is worth even not having great virtue or intelligence. |
F.Self-denying leaves a man self-absorbed and aware of his own sacrifice. |
G.Neither divided against the self nor the world, the happy man never fails to unite. |
8 . The world that we live in is beautiful because it’s made up of people from a diverse set of backgrounds and cultures.
During this time, our multicultural world is embraced and celebrated for all of the variety and joy it brings. Can you imagine a world where everyone looks the same, has the exact same hobbies and interests, and even eats the same thing for breakfast, lunch and dinner?
To put it simply, our diversity and inclusiveness (包容性)are our biggest strengths. We’ll all profit from a more diverse, inclusive society, understanding, accommodating, even celebrating our differences, while pulling together for the common good. As such, Global Diversity Awareness Month is a great chance for us to learn more about the beliefs, values and customs of other cultures.
There is no doubt that diversity and inclusiveness make our world a better place.
A.There are many ways we can celebrate diversity. |
B.How can we make the world a better place to live in? |
C.What can possibly be a better way to celebrate that diversity? |
D.Respect for world diversity is the key to bridging the differences. |
E.It’s our unique differences that make the world so wonderful and interesting. |
F.What’s important is that we reach out to other people and appreciate those differences. |
G.In this way, we can open our mind to new ideas and ways of thinking to better our society. |
A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy came and
In the
Finally, the boy returned. "Sorry, my boy,
10 . As is known to all, positive people are lucky people. They can see the roses
I met a man who couldn’t move from the neck down in Cape Town. He said since his accident, he
There is an old
If you believe you are lucky, you will be lucky with that positive mindset. Things in the world just
A.when | B.although | C.since | D.while |
A.gradually | B.suddenly | C.magically | D.deliberately |
A.sadness | B.light | C.darkness | D.pleasure |
A.imagined | B.felt | C.struggled | D.promised |
A.hands | B.feet | C.teeth | D.arms |
A.lost | B.gained | C.dreamed | D.considered |
A.educated | B.skilled | C.cheerful | D.powerful |
A.put up with | B.came up with | C.made use of | D.paid attention to |
A.saying | B.story | C.evidence | D.rule |
A.feet | B.friends | C.food | D.home |
A.ready | B.grateful | C.suitable | D.good |
A.develop | B.work | C.happen | D.gather |
A.great | B.different | C.simple | D.same |
A.as for | B.except for | C.because of | D.instead of |
A.arguments | B.warnings | C.disappointment | D.experience |