1 . What makes us love some things and hate others? We know that sometimes even the tiniest change can result in a huge difference in how we perceive something, so is there any rhyme or reason to our tastes and preferences? Here are three factors which play a role.
1. Conforming to expectation
In London a few years ago, two talented rappers called Silibil N' Brains took to the stage to perform at a music industry show for unsigned bands. They were an instant hit. Their outrageous West Coast - American style, brilliant rap lyrics and couldn't - care - less attitude had the music industry's talent spotters falling over themselves to sign the pair. In a short space of time, Silibil N’ Brains had a deal with a top management company, a contract with a major record label and an advance of $70,000 -- and they hadn’t even made a record. Before long, they were on tour with Eminem and out partying with Madonna. They were living the dream.
But two years ago the same two rappers were laughed off stage by the same talent spotters for singing the same sons. So what was the difference? Amazingly, it was their accent. You see, Silibil N' Brains weren't, in fact, from West Coast U. S. A. at all. They were from Dundee in Scotland. During the first audition they had used their Scottish accents when rapping and it had not gone down well. ''They just laughed at us, '' recalled Brains. ''We were heartbroken. We went back to Scotland with our tail between our legs''. The lesson for them was that to succeed, you have to conform to expectations and at that time everyone expected rappers to be American.
2. The benefit of hindsight
Some people are simply ahead of their time. It's common knowledge that Vincent van Gogh sold only one painting in his lifetime -the other 900 or so were unknown and unloved until after his death. Monet’s paintings. at least in his early career, was considered incomplete and ugly by critics at the time, while Vermeer, the painter of Girl With a Pearl Earring, even had to use his mother-in-law as a guarantor when he borrowed money -- so unable was he to sell any of his work! Now that public taste has caught up with these artists, more or less anything they touched has an astronomical price tag attached to it. Perhaps the reason is that it just takes a while to get used to something - after all, not all beauty is obvious at first sight.
3. A reassuring price tag
In a world where the range of products on offer can be completely bewildering, we often look to price as an indication of quality. We may think we prefer the expensive wine to the cheap one, but we may simply be influenced by the price tag. Even professionals can make the mistake. A researcher from the University of Bordeaux in France took an average bottle of red wine and poured it into two empty bottles, on with an expensive label and the other with a cheap one. Then he invited 57 wine ''experts'' to taste the wine. Forty of them recommended the wine from the expensive bottle, describing it as ''agreeable'', ''complex'', ''balanced'' and ''rounded''. while the same wine from the expensive bottle, describing it as ''agreeable'', ''complex'', ''balanced'' and ''rounded'', while the same wine from the cheap bottle was described as ''weak'' and ''flat'', with only 12 of the experts recommending it. The study made the researcher unpopular with the French wine tasters, but he did prove that price has a significant impact on taste.
1. Which of the following statements about Silibil N’ Brains is true?A.Talent spotters fell in love with them at first sight. |
B.They are from the West Coast of America |
C.Their success was attributed to behaving and sounding like American rappers. |
D.They were friends with famous stars like Madonna even before they succeeded. |
A.their first audition proved a failure |
B.they felt proud of their performance |
C.they learned a valuable lesson |
D.being humble might contribute to their future success |
A.some artists are better known when they are alive than when they are dead |
B.public taste usually falls behind famous artists |
C.beauty at first sight lasts much longer |
D.Monet's paintings are priceless because of their incompleteness |
A.A price tag always fails to indicate the quality of a product. |
B.A price tag is less likely to confuse customers than the packaging. |
C.Low price will make the wine unpopular with tasters |
D.A price tag will cloud a person’s judgement of something. |
Who is in control of your life? Who is pulling your strings? For the majority of us, it’s other people-society, colleagues, friends, or our family. We learned this way of operating when we were very young, of course. We were brainwashed. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us. As Oscar Wilde puts it, “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry(模仿), their passions a quotation.”
When people tell us how wonderful we are, it makes us feel good. We long for this good feeling like a drug-we are addicted to it and seek it out wherever we can. Therefore, we are so eager for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives, failing to do the things we really want to. Just as drug addicts and alcoholics live worsened lives to keep getting their drug, we worsen our own existence to get our own constant drug of approval.
But, just as with any drug, there is a price to pay. The price of the approval drug is freedom-the freedom to be ourselves. The truth is that we cannot control what other people think. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and people change their opinions all the time. Moreover, people have their own business, and in the end, they’re more interested in themselves than in you. The person who tries to please everyone will only end up getting exhausted and probably pleasing no one in the process.
So how can we take back control? I think there’s only one way-make a conscious decision to stop caring what other people think. We should guide ourselves by means of a set of values-not values imposed(强加)from the outside by others, but values which come from within. If we are driven by these values and not by the changing opinions and value systems of others, we will live a more authentic, effective, purposeful and happy life.
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3 . Giving generously and receiving gratefully make it easier to live happily with others.
Yet, why do we have such difficulty accomplishing these things in our relationships?
Let me start with the idea of giving generously. I think people are unwilling to be generous with others because they fear to be used. For example, my husband and I have family members who only contact us when they need money. We usually accept their requests, but we rarely receive a "thank you". Most people would say that my husband and I are being used, and I suppose we are. But when we give, we shouldn't be giving for the purpose of getting gratitude or praise. Rather, we should be giving because it's the good thing to do. A “thank you” is merely the icing on the cake.
Everything that we have, from our ability to wake up each morning to the money in our bank account, is a gift from the world. In return, the world asks us to use these gifts to help others, either by giving them our time or our resources.
The good news is that when we live our lives being nice to others, our lives run more smoothly(顺利地).
If you're generous, yes, some people will use you. But if you practice being generous, most of your relationships will improve.
And at the same time, we should remember to receive gratefully. I truly believe that you cannot say “thank you” enough. So often we get lazy about expressing gratitude. Parents can feel unappreciated by their children, and teachers can feel unappreciated by their students. Just because a task is part of someone's job description doesn't mean that you shouldn't thank them for it.
Words of appreciation make others feel good about themselves like nothing else. It's good for us to say “thank you” because we regularly need to remind ourselves of how lucky we are. And hearing those two words can make us feel great for days.
If you are looking for a secret solution to improve your life, I can give you one: Give generously and receive gratefully.
1. The author mentions her family members in the passage mainly to explain ________.A.why we should give even if we feel we are being used |
B.why people have trouble expressing gratitude |
C.why we should accept whatever others request |
D.why it's necessary to express gratitude or praise |
A.something that is necessary |
B.something that is not of much help |
C.something that leads to an unexpected result |
D.something that makes an experience better |
A.Because it makes us feel lucky. |
B.Because words of gratitude delight people. |
C.Because it's not other people's duty to help us. |
D.Because all we normally get are gifts from the world. |
A.To stress the importance of being generous. |
B.To persuade people to give generously and receive thankfully. |
C.To show how to express our gratitude to others. |
D.To give tips on how to improve other people's lives. |
[1] I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability-to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this… [2] When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a marvellous vacation trip-to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make wonderful plans: the Coloseum①, the Michelangelo② David, the gondolas③ in Venice, etc. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting. [3] After months of eager expectation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The airhostess comes in and says, “Welcome to the Netherlands.” [4] “The Netherlands?!” you say. “What do you mean, the Netherlands?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.” [5] But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in the Netherlands and there you must stay. [6] The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, awful, dirty place, full of diseases. It’s just a different place. [7] So you must go out and buy new guidebooks. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met. [8] It’s just a place. It’s slower paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around and you begin to notice that the Netherlands④ …and the Netherlands has tulips⑤. The Netherlands even has Rembrandts⑥. [9] But everyone you coming and going from Italy and they’re all boasting about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned. [10] And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away because the loss of that dream is a very, very significant loss. [11] But if you spend your life regretting the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about the Netherlands. | ① ② (1475~1564) Italian artist and architect ③ ④ ⑤ ⑥(1606~1669) Dutch painter |
1. The author compares her motherhood to ________.
A.her involvement in traveling abroad |
B.her experience with an unfamiliar task |
C.her dream of enjoying beautiful scenery |
D.her journey to an unplanned destination |
A.the Netherlands has many scenic spots to visit and enjoy |
B.the Netherlands is a country with many paintings to appreciate |
C.a mother of a disabled child can also feel the bright side of her life |
D.a mother who has traveled a lot can receive a special treat from her child |
A.proud | B.anxious | C.sociable | D.sensible |
A.beyond her endurance | B.more a gift than a loss |
C.worthy of others’ sympathy | D.preferable to going to Italy |
5 . I had a teacher who used to wake up in class by shouting: “The early bird gets the worm!” I say “let him have the worm”. I hate food that doesn’t stay still, and avoid Japanese restaurants for that very reason. Anyway, I stopped eating worms at the age of three, switching to regular breakfasts of cereal(谷物), to which I would add extra sugar.
Recently I was thinking about early birds and the competitive spirit after receiving a letter from a reader in Malaysia: ”My son deliberately throws away marks because he doesn’t like to be top of the class. What shall I do?” Give him a round of “applause” for being smart! Actually many children in Asia tend to be the focus by performing better.
Placed into a very competitive class when I was 11, I quickly learned the ideal position was second to last. The top three performers and the very last person are highlighted; the second-to-last contestant is INVISIBLE. And it’s an easy position to get—just deliberately underperform at every test. I could do that. I once came second to last in eight straight sports day races. No one suspected anything. I was so invisible that I could have robbed a bank in my street and no one would have noticed.
At the London Olympics a few months ago, badminton pairs from three Asian countries deliberately tried to lost matches to draw good lots in later rounds. It was funny to watch, but they were all thrown out for poor sportsmanship. What they really needed were acting lessons, their moves were so unconvincing. “Oops, I hit the ball in entirely the wrong direction.”
The other day, I took the children out and they raced for the car. “I’m first,” said one. The second said: “First is worst, second is best.” Together they sang at the last one: “And third’s the one with a hairy chest.”
It struck me that the organizers of sports matches could use this song when people deliberately lost matches. “I lost,” the delighted loser will say. The judges could still declare them winners, pointing to a new, optional regulation: “First is worst, second is best, third’s the one with a hairy chest.”
1. Why did the author dislike Japanese restaurant?A.Its food was served raw. | B.Its food contained worms. |
C.He was tempted by cereal. | D.He was affected by the saying. |
A.He highlighted the top three students. |
B.He came to second in sports races. |
C.He hid himself in a bank skillfully. |
D.He intentionally underperformed. |
A.The judge is encouraged to eliminate the dishonest players. |
B.Players disqualified from Olympic doubles for using drugs. |
C.Children’s song praises the dramatic acting skills of athletes. |
D.players purposefully failed for easier lots in the following rounds. |
A.Great minds think alike. | B.God favors those who are prepared. |
C.Honesty is the best policy. | D.A bird in hand is worth two in the bush |
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7 . Agnes de Mille was a dancer and a choreographer (编舞). Early in her career, de Mille had created the choreography for a ballet called Three Virgins and a Devil. She thought it was good work, but nobody made much of it.
A few years later, de Mille choreographed a ballet named Rodeo. Again, she thought her work was solid, but it resulted in little commercial fame.
Then, in 1943, de Mille choreographed Oklahoma!, a musical show that enjoyed nearly instant success. In the coming years, Oklahoma! would run for an incredible 2,212 performances, both around the nation and abroad. In 1955, the film version won an Academy Award.
But the success of Oklahoma! didn’t bring her much happiness. She thought that her work on Oklahoma! was only average compared to some of her other creations. She later said, “After the opening of Oklahoma!, I suddenly had unexpected success for a work I thought was only fairly good, after years of neglect for work I thought was fine. I began to think that perhaps my entire scale of values was untrustworthy. I talked to Martha.”
Martha was Martha Graham, perhaps the most influential dance choreographer of the 20th century. (Although not as well-known by the general public, Graham has been compared to other creative geniuses like Picasso or Frank Lloyd Wright.)
During their conversation, de Mille told Martha Graham about her frustration. “I confessed that I had a burning desire to be excellent, but no faith that I could be.”
Graham responded by saying:
“There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”
1. What can be learned about de Mille’s ballet named Rodeo?A.It earned her a large fortune. | B.It made her rise to fame overnight. |
C.It didn’t enjoy much success. | D.It laid a solid foundation for her career. |
A.Relieved. | B.Ashamed. | C.Confused. | D.Proud. |
A.was outstanding in visual arts and architecture |
B.enjoyed the same popularity as them |
C.had been influenced greatly by them |
D.was the most influential artist in her field |
A.Comparing with others prevents you from maintaining uniqueness. |
B.You should always keep yourself open to the urges that motivate you. |
C.Your action reveals the inner landscape, which is the soul of music. |
D.Choosing to be positive is going to determine how you live your life. |
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A.control | B.change | C.adjust | D.celebrate |
A.amusing | B.inspiring | C.troubling | D.touching |
A.apply | B.approve | C.appreciate | D.accomplish |
A.disbelief | B.disagreement | C.discovery | D.discomfort |
A.bright | B.false | C.general | D.flexible |
A.virtue | B.ability | C.effort | D.status |
A.originally | B.obviously | C.necessarily | D.regularly |
A.choice | B.command | C.display | D.lack |
A.Instead | B.Otherwise | C.Therefore | D.However |
A.result from | B.apply for | C.associate with | D.lead to |
A.immoral | B.impersonal | C.impossible | D.impolite |
A.challenge | B.accept | C.assess | D.inquire |
A.plainly | B.probably | C.immediately | D.actually |
A.exhibit | B.expect | C.establish | D.recognize |
1.
A.He qualified as a teacher. |
B.He became a student. |
C.He became a government researcher. |
D.He conducted a research on Zimbabwe. |
A.Children’s minds are not used to the full. |
B.It is a great drain on children’s time and energy. |
C.It highlights the flexibility of children’s minds. |
D.It prevents children from seeking answers by themselves. |
A.To teach people to understand the world |
B.To instruct people how to raise good questions. |
C.To encourage people to study as they get older. |
D.To inform people of problems in foreign countries. |
I was eighteen, summer fading, when my parents drove me to my university apartment. It was my first apartment.
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