1 . One of the cores of emotional intelligence is self-regulation, an important skill in the workplace. Like any skill, mastery of emotional self-control requires intentionality and practice.
Pause to Mentally Distance
When you notice your typical physiological experiences associated with strong negative emotion, what should you do? Mentally step out of your immediate experience. Asking yourself any question, or imagining what you might look like to others right now, will do the trick. At that point, although still physiologically keyed up, you will be able to ask yourself, “What is the best course of action right now?” or “What advice would I give someone else who is in my shoes?”
Take Control of Your Self-Talk
We’re frequently unaware of how much self-chatter is going on in the background of our minds. Such self-talk might not be in fully articulated (铰接式的) words or phrases, but instead little flashes of thought. Becoming aware of your self-talk can be difficult. Why is this an important skill to develop?
Seek Support from Partners
Ask others you trust to help you recognize when your emotions seem to be getting the best of you.
Cultivate (培养) Curiosity
Our brains are wired to draw conclusions and form judgments at lightning speed, and those are frequently the cause of our negative emotions.
A.They are comfortable with all emotions |
B.Those judgments are not necessarily accurate |
C.Doing so provides you with choices as to how to act |
D.Explain your developmental goals and sincerely ask for help |
E.Stay focused on coming up with an answer and following through on it |
F.Because it is those background beliefs that fuel our emotional responses |
G.Here are four ways you can develop greater emotional self-management |
2 . Perhaps you’ve stopped doing what you want because you’re afraid of what others think of you. You feel that you must do what they expect and that you must meet their expectations, otherwise you’ll lose their approval.
Think about yourself, about what you really like and are interested in. You must lead your life independently.
By surrounding yourself with people who think like you, you’ll realize that you don’t feel judged. Then, you’ll start doing what you really want.
To overcome your fear of what others think and of their non-approval, you should start talking about your plans, For instance, you might want to tell a handful of friends about your wishes and dreams.
It’s unavoidable that not everything will be plain sailing, and you’ll find obstacles along your way.
A.There is no need to think about what you want. |
B.You don’t have to change your circle of friends. |
C.Your life belongs to you, as well as your actions. |
D.By talking to them, you’ll be able to organize your plans and ideas. |
E.If this is the case, it’s time to start working on your self-esteem (自尊). |
F.You must do what you want without being affected by what others think. |
G.However, you must trust in yourself and seek the necessary strength to move forward. |
3 . How to Overcome Jealousy
Everyone feels a little jealous once in a while — maybe someone was acting better than you, or maybe your best friend has been having much fun with a new coworker.
However,
Admit how you’re feeling to yourself before you do anything else. If you notice you’re feeling a little jealous, take a few minutes to check in with yourself. It’s perfectly normal to get jealous once in a while, so don’t judge your feelings — just let yourself acknowledge that’s what’s going on.
Don’t act on your jealousy while you’re upset.
Remember that other people have problems, too.
A.if jealous thoughts become really disturbing. |
B.when you are always jealous of someone. |
C.Take some time to cool off so you won’t say anything you’ll regret. |
D.It can be really inviting to look at other people and think they have a perfect life. |
E.Embrace yourself for who you are. |
F.Reflect on the root of your jealous feelings. |
G.Sometimes, just naming our emotions can help us start to get some control over them. |
4 . Shyness is normal and it is not considered as a mental problem. All people have been shy at one time or another. Even the most confident people experienced being shy.
You probably are wondering why you are shy. It may be because of the environment you were used to or the way you were brought up. Certain events or incidents in the past may also lead to the reason why you are shy now.
One of the negative sides of being shy is having the tendency to be passive. Most of the time shy people can’t stand up for themselves and what they believe is right.
While shyness has negative aspects, it has positive sides. Shy people are usually good observers and do not get themselves into too much trouble because they try to observe their environment or any situation before they act.
A.But in most cases, shyness proves to be genetic. |
B.They are sensitive and accustomed to getting suspicious. |
C.Because some people are born to be shy, they let it go hang. |
D.So if you’re feeling shy, don’t worry because you are not alone. |
E.They are not hot-headed and think twice before making any decisions. |
F.Although shyness is something from birth, it can be improved over time. |
G.They avoid crowds by nature and stay away from groups and social interactions. |