1 . A guide to gaining self-confidence and feeling your best
Do you value yourself as a human being? Do you believe that you’re able to get the things you want?
Exercise. When you take good care of yourself, you feel more confident and positive. For good health, exercise for 30 minutes a day most days a week. Do something fun, like playing tennis, going for a walk with a friend, or dancing to your favorite music.
Stop comparing yourself to others. You are one-of-a-kind, so you’re not going to be like everyone else. Instead of using others as a measuring stick for success, use your past self. That way, you can focus on creating a life that makes you happy. Try to remember that what you see on social media is just the high point of someone’s life.
Set and pursue (追求) realistic goals.
A.Write down everything you do well. |
B.Your dreams are totally within reach. |
C.Schedule time to pursue your hobbies. |
D.Schedule exercise into your day so you won’t forget. |
E.You usually don’t see the bad days and moments of self-doubt. |
F.A good support system helps you stay focused on your best qualities. |
G.If not, we’re here to help you go after your dreams and believe in yourself. |
2 . When you hear “I have a dream...”, one of the most famous speeches in human history, you’ll never have the idea how the audience on the scene were fueled by emotional intelligence. When Martin Luther King. Jr. presented his dream, he chose language that would stir the hearts of his audience. Delivering this electrifying (震撼性的) message required emotional intelligence — the ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions.
Emotional intelligence has been highly recommended by leaders, policymakers, and educators as the solution to a wide range of social problems. Emotional intelligence is important, but the uncontrolled enthusiasm has obscured (掩盖) a dark side. New evidence shows that when people sharpen their emotional skills, they become better at controlling others. When you’re good at controlling your own emotions, you can hide your true feelings. When you know what others are feeling, you can motivate them to act against their own best interests.
Social scientists have begun to document this dark side of emotional intelligence. In a research led by University of Toronto professor Jochen Menges, when a leader gave an inspiring speech filled with emotions, the audience were less likely to understand the message and remembered the content. Ironically, audience members were so moved by the speech that they claimed to recall more of it.
The authors call this the awestruck effect, but it might just as easily be described as the dumbstruck effect. One observer reflected that Hitler’s persuasive impact came from his ability to strategically express emotions — he would “tear open his heart” — and these emotions affected his followers to the point that they would “stop thinking critically and just emote.”
Leaders who master emotions can rob us of our abilities to reason. If their values are out of step with our own, the results can be destructive. New evidence suggests that when people have self-serving motives, emotional intelligence becomes a weapon for controlling others.
Throwing light on this dark side of emotional intelligence is one mission of a research team led by University College London professor Martin Kilduff. According to these experts, emotional intelligence helps people disguise (伪装) one set of emotions while expressing another for personal gain. Professor Kilduff’s team writes, “The strategic disguise of one’s own emotions and the controlling of others’ emotions for strategic ends are behaviors evident not only on Shakespeare’s stage but also in the offices and corridors where power and influence are traded.”
Of course, people aren’t always using emotional intelligence for nefarious ends. More often than not, high EQ is helpful in most aspects of our life. Emotional intelligence — like any skill — can be used for good or evil. So whether it is a gift or a curse lies in your hand.
1. Why does the author mention Martin Luther King, Jr?A.To honor the great leader of his courage. |
B.To recommend his speech to other leaders. |
C.To introduce the major topic to readers. |
D.To advocate a society with fewer problems. |
A.His followers would tear open their hearts to him. |
B.His followers would express emotions strategically. |
C.His followers would lose the ability to reason properly. |
D.His followers would develop the self-serving motives. |
A.They disguise their true emotions and show another one. |
B.They help their colleagues to build up confidence. |
C.They present their strategic behaviors on the stage. |
D.They lower their own dignity to gain popularity. |
A.Immoral. | B.Unimportant. | C.Controversial. | D.Uncontrollable. |
1.你的观点或看法;2.如何建立和增强自信。
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4 . When your best friends are upset, sad, or disappointed, all you want to do is lift their spirits. Here are some easy ways to cheer them up.
Help your friend clean their room.
Being surrounded by a mess doesn’t do much for your mental state.
Encourage them to talk it out.
Talking is effective. Teenagers usually want someone to talk to when they are stressed.
Practice gratitude.
Thinking about and focusing on the good things in your life can do wonders for lifting your spirits. Help your friend turn their attention to those things.
Staying active can help get depression (抑郁) away. Invite the person to join you in a dance class or anything else they may have mentioned before that they wanted to try out but never have. Fun time with friends is surely helpful.
Do an aimless act of kindness together.
A.Try new things together. |
B.Plan for your future together. |
C.Just be there for them and listen to them. |
D.Together, you can each list all the things you’re grateful for. |
E.Science has shown just being in nature naturally improves one’s mood. |
F.Meanwhile, having a tidy space can help you feel more in control and calmer. |
G.Oftentimes when we do things for other people, we are the ones that benefit. |
5 . Feeling upset is a normal part of life. Something stressful may occur everywhere, and make you angry or anxious.
Remove yourself from the situation.
Conflicts with others can be difficult to deal with.
When we’re upset, our nervous system will speed up our heart rate and muscles tense. It prepares the body as if to meet an attack. You can soften such physical reaction by using practical techniques. If possible, find a safe place, sit comfortably and focus on your breath, breathing deeply and evenly. Mindful breathing helps us calm our feelings.
Lift your mood with laughter.
Laughter relieves the tension we feel when depressed. We can think of a joke or watch a video that always makes us roar with laughter. Afterwards, you may be able to lift the fog of frustration. Make sure what you use is not mean-spirited, though.
Change your language.
Once things appear disappointing, many of us might punish ourselves with unkind words. In fact, it doesn’t have to be this way.
A.Do breathing exercises to relax. |
B.Keep yourself away from the noise. |
C.We can’t control what is happening around us. |
D.We should turn negative thoughts into positive statements. |
E.Sometimes we need to leave from the unpleasant condition. |
F.This kind of humor can actually make us feel more down. |
G.Thus, we can be physically and mentally entertained from that. |
When I left for the United States to study, I had butterflies in my stomach. My mind was full of
It was
A.Annoyed. | B.Sympathetic. | C.Confused. |
8 . Life is full of surprises. You never know what’s going to happen from one day to the next.
One way to fight against these negative feelings is through optimism,
When something bad happens, optimists are less likely than pessimists to blame themselves or others for what happened. They don’t consider these negative emotions. They are able to see things from a positive perspective, even when something doesn’t go as planned.
So it’s important to face bad things bravely and keep a positive mind. Of course, it’s important to remember that optimism can’t put a stop to all bad things.
A.It can be exciting. |
B.It can be a positive attitude to difficulty. |
C.Too much optimism can also be harmful. |
D.Optimism is a positive attitude toward the future in general. |
E.This kind of thinking can help lower stress and improve mental health. |
F.When you are optimistic, you’re also more likely to control the situation. |
G.No matter how positive you are, there’ll be times when bad things happen. |
A.Surprised. | B.Excited. | C.Stressed. |
10 . Did your mother ever say you’ll feel better after a good cry? It turns out Mom is right as usual-crying really is healthy. What’s more, letting yourself feel blue and accepting those feelings will help you feel better in the long run, according to a new research.
In three separate studies both online and in a lab, researchers at UC Berkeley evaluated the responses from 1,300 adults regarding their psychological (心理的) health and emotional well-being(幸福感).In one study,1,000 participants filled out a survey evaluating how they felt about the statement, “I tell myself I shouldn’t be feeling the way that I’m feeling.” Those who agreed with the statement scored lower on tests of well-being. In other words, letting yourself feel bad is better for your mind and mood than trying to control negative thoughts.
“We found that people who habitually accept their negative emotions experience fewer negative emotions, which adds to better psychological health,” said study senior author Iris Mauss, PhD, an associate professor of psychology at UC Berkeley in an article on the university’s website.
In a society where the importance to be happy is emphasized daily on the other social media platforms, letting yourself be down in the dumps can be tough. Just remember that true happiness isn’t always what people say it is.
“It turns out that how we approach our own negative emotional reactions is really important for our well-being,” said study lead author Brett Ford, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. “People who accept these emotions without judging or trying to change them are able to deal with their stress more successfully.”
So next time someone tells you to “turn that frown upside down”, ignore them. Embrace your inner feelings for a while.
1. How did the researchers carry out one of the studies?A.They gave the participants different tests. |
B.They compared their own thoughts with others. |
C.They studied the participants’ everyday experiences. |
D.They compared the participants’ thoughts and their feelings. |
A.Be lonely. |
B.Be depressed. |
C.Be positive. |
D.Be comfortable. |
A.It is better for people to accept negative emotions. |
B.We should never try to change others’ thoughts. |
C.People who accept themselves are happier. |
D.Positive people tend to be less stressed. |
A.Turn your frown upside down |
B.Crying is good for our health |
C.Stop having bad feelings |
D.Stop feeling the way that you’re feeling |