A leadership is the most significant word in today's competitive business environment because it directs the manager of a business to focus inward on their personal capabilities and style. Experts on leadership will quickly point out that "how things get done" influences the success of the     1     and indicates a right way and a wrong way to do things. When a noted leader on the art of management, Peter Drucker,     2     the phrase "Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things," he was seeking to clarify the     3     he associates with the terms.

When Stephen Covey, founder and director of the Leadership Institute, explored leadership styles in the past decade, he focused on the habits of a great number of highly     4     individuals. His Seven Habits of Highly Effective People became a popular     5     very quickly. His ideas forced a reexamination of the early leadership paradigm (范例), which he observed     6     on traits found in the character ethic and the personality ethic. The former ethic suggested success was founded on integrity, modesty, loyalty, courage, patience, and so forth. The personality ethic suggested it was one's attitude, not behavior, that inspired success, and this ethic was founded on a belief of positive     7     attitude. In contrast to each of these ideas, Covey advocates that leaders need to understand universal principles of effectiveness, and he     8     how vital it is for leaders to first personally manage themselves if they are to enjoy any hope of outstanding success in their work environments. To achieve a(n)     9     vision for your business, it is vital that you have a personal vision of where you are headed and what you     10    . Business leadership means that managers need to "put first things first," which implies that before leading others, you need to be clear on your own values, abilities, and strengths and be seen as trustworthy.

The world is full of weirdos who pretend to be normal for fear of drawing unnecessary attention to themselves and I am one of them. All my life, I have been trying very hard to avoid developing any permanent     1     with anyone. I manage it by intentionally minimizing my interaction with people around me to the lowest possible extent. I have been a man who slips away, in the way lovers leave chaos, the way thieves leave     2     houses. Some people might call it social phobia（社交恐惧症）and consider it a huge problem that needs to be resolved. But truth he told, I kind of enjoy this sense of rootlessness, knowing there will be less     3     on me.

It seems I am always attached to the good     4     of life but detached from life itself. It’s just like reading one of those well-received travel books. One only gets the chance to read all the fascinating stories accompanied with     5     beautiful sights. Therefore, one’s ideas and expectations of travel have been built up unrealistically. But when one gets his own chance to go travelling, he suddenly finds out it is not like that because travelling can be, and most of the time, will be filled with all those meaningless and disappointing trivia（琐事）. And that’s how after a few     6     attempts one starts to prefer reading travel books to travelling.

It also began to     7     on me that real life is a woman too good-looking for me. It’s a voyage too long, book too lavishly-illustrated, so I don’t have the courage to step into it. But when entering a book of stories, I know I can emerge from it feeling I have been immersed in the lives of others, in plots that     8     in their own unique ways, my body full of sentences and     9     as if awaking from sleep with a heaviness caused by unremembered dreams.

I don’t think I can or need to find a panacea（灵丹妙药）for my “problem” and of course, I don’t expect others to offer help. In most cases, when one takes in another man’s poison,     10     imagining he can cure him by sharing it, one will instead end up storing it within. So as long as I can live in peace and harmony with my weirdness, this very weirdness is something I would like to cherish rather than get rid of.

Dealing with Difficult Relationships

Everyone has at least one awkward or     1     relationship. It may be with somebody who will     2     your energy whenever you are with them. Or worse, it could be someone who always cuts you down. This person may be a family member or even a friend. No matter who it is, it’s necessary that you learn to set boundaries for yourself. Otherwise this kind of relationship can chip away at your self-esteem.

Setting boundaries for difficult relationships starts by     3     how you are affected by the relationship. Do they bring you closer to your goals or pull you farther away? For example, it’s time to study for tomorrow’s test. But your friend wants to take you to a party. Here, setting boundaries will help protect your     4     goals.

Next, decide how much time you should spend with these people. It’s easy to overcommit yourself. But it’s difficult to help others if you forget to protect your own     5    .

How do you know if a relationship is unhealthy, and it’s time to set boundaries? Here are a few practical questions to ask yourself.

1. How does this relationship affect me?

Every     6     can affect you positively or negatively. For example, someone who pressures you to something you’re not comfortable doing will     7     you out. But a friend who considers how you feel will respect your     8     to try something new.

2. Why am I in this relationship in the first place?

People may try to keep you in an unhealthy relationship. By     9     you it’s your obligation or duty, you forget about your own needs. Sadly, by remaining     10     to these people, you forget who you are. You allow them to take advantage of you or even belittle you.

Settling boundaries requires taking a long, honest look at yourself. By saying “no” to harmful patterns in relationships, you say “yes” to a healthier you.

When we meet someone for the first time, we usually get a vague sense of what kind of person they are by the way they shake hands, talk, or walk. In the age of social networking. however, first impressions are sometimes made even before we     1     meet someone in person--that is, by looking at their profile photo.

According to a recent study, these social images say a lot about our personality. In the study, resented in a paper at the International AAAI Conference on Web and Social Media, a group of researchers from the University of Pennsylvania in the US used software to     2     the profile pictures of 66,000 users of US social platform Twitter and 3,200 of their tweets. At the same time, about 434 participants were asked to complete a survey about their personality type.

The researchers wanted to find out if there was a     3     between personality traits--like openness, extroversion, and neuroticism--and a person’s profile picture. According to the results, open people are more     4     to pose in an unusual way and use objects such as glasses or a guitar in their profile photo because they enjoy new and exciting experiences. Meanwhile, neurotic people often hold back their     5     emotions. They try to avoid showing their face; instead, they use an image of something like a pet, a car or a building. That’s because neurotic people are strongly     6     by the “strong social norm against a very sad or angry appearance in profile pictures,” Daniel Preoiuc-Pietro from the University of Pennsylvania wrote in the research paper.

Apart from the objects in profile pictures, the colors used in them also give us some     7     about the photo’s owner. For example, extraverts were found to have the most colorful profile images, as they want to     8     their personality and show themselves off, the researchers wrote.

Although social media photos “usually represent an extension of one’s self, they also allow a user to shape his or her own personality and     9     view,” according to the researchers.

So, when choosing a profile photo, maybe we should ask ourselves first what kind of image we’d like to convey. After all, first impressions always     10    .

This is a story about a learning experience that had a big effect on the way I live my life．The _______in the story did not give me tests or even grade me on my work．I was taught by one of the most effective_______ of teaching，one that only people with lots of love can do．

“My wallet! Where is it?” were my first words_______I found my wallet was missing．I _______ my memory for a few good seconds, then realized that I had left my precious wallet in the library’s public _______ ! Because the library was now _______, I had to wait until the next morning to look for it．When I got there the next day, all I found was a clean restroom．This was the first time I could remember ever_______to see a clean restroom．As I walked out，I looked at myself in the mirror and shook my head at the _______ fool in front of me．

I politely _________the librarian at the front desk and asked her if a wallet had been found in the restroom yesterday．“No．”That was that．I walked off with a sense of __________．

I __________what I would do if I had found a wallet with sixty dollars，a phone card and other irreplaceable __________things．Finally，I __________ accepted the fact that my wallet was gone．

A week later，I received a __________ in the mail．It was my wallet! And most__________，nothing was missing! But there was a letter folded up in one of the wallet pocket that had not been there before．I slowly unfolded the letter，which __________something like this:

When we continue to help people around，we will live in a larger and more rewarding world．

This person didn’t even leave a return address．So I couldn’t__________ whoever it was．But from that day on，I __________ myself that l will follow this __________ and help others and make them as__________as I was when I opened that parcel!