【推荐2】The best way to learn new skills has been widely debated. In 2008, Malcolm Gladwell published Outliers, which introduced the so-called “10,000 hours rule” that states it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in a subject.

    1    Let’s break down what this involves.

You’re willing to learn from people you don’t like.

We tend to get annoyed with people who don’t share our view of the world.    2    That’s exactly why they offer opportunities to learn. You don’t need to buy into someone’s values about the world to learn from them and they can offer a new perspective.

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Stick to one comfortable mode of learning is a bad idea. Master learners are willing to learn from lots of sources, including the following: technical dry books or manuals, YouTube or Instagram, calling or visiting people they don’t know, searching the internet and through friendships and social relationships.

You can reflect on your work and think outside of the box.

Master learners don’t just become good in their field. They think about what they learn in ways that aren’t focused on one topic.     4     They allow their minds to move in creative ways and connect seemingly diverse concepts and tools that other people don’t connect.

You approach learning with your learning objectives in mind.

I love learning about other people’s learning processes. I once watched a video made by a medical student who stopped going to lectures. She recognized that the lectures weren’t as efficient or effective as reading her own books.

Master learners don’t follow someone else’s learning plan. For example, they don’t use one learning app for hundreds of lessons without exploring other options.     5    

【推荐3】Negative thinking is the easiest way to slow down your business and personal goals.     1     There are a number of ways to do it, and the one you choose is likely a personal decision.

Don’t expect everything to be perfect

Expecting everything to be perfect can be weakening and robs you of true happiness.     2     For example, if you are promoted next year - instead of this year, as expected - does one year really change anything in the long run? Struggling for goals with detachment (超然) to the end state having to be perfect can be a liberating way to live on your own terms.

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Thinking starts early in the morning. When a leader controls their thinking, they control their life. Negative thinking can slow a leader down. Leaders must take every thought captive by replacing thoughts of fear with thoughts of hope and belief. One tool that many great thinking leaders use is to develop a morning routine where they read something encouraging and positive every morning.

Tap into the root problem

    4    These negative thought patterns are sometimes ingrained in us from early on and have become part of our programming. In order to overcome these negative thought patterns, you must identify the deeper-seeded reason why these patterns keep showing up.     5    

【推荐1】Everyone’s different. We all have different parents, different upbringings and different values. However, we also need to be around and work with other people to function in society.     1    .

Active Listening

Although speaking is the first action that comes to mind when one hears the word “communication”, it’s actually just half of the equation. Equally important is listening. Rather than passively listening and just letting information flow at you, listen actively.     2    . When you do interrupt, do so at a pause and only to paraphrase(释义)to clarify what the person is saying.

Body Language

Keep your body open. Don’t cross your arms or legs, but keep both outstretched, indicating receptiveness.

Empathy(共鸣)and Personal Responsibility

Show empathy and take responsibility.     3    . One of the best ways to do the former is to use the paraphrasing strategy mentioned above. Taking responsibility relies on one word: “I” Never use “you” when discussing something negative.

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You need to use enough words to get your point across. You also need to save time so that your point isn’t lost or muddled in a sea of unnecessary words. Clarity is so important in effectively communicating that it deserves its own section.

Comfort

    5    , don’t try to find out the cause of or a solution to the anger until he has calmed down. People usually just need to be heard out when they5re angry, so let them talk, only speaking to give comfort. A resolution can be pursued later.

【推荐3】Habits of highly successful teens

As teens, your life is not a playground; it's a jungle. Being a teenager isn't any walk in the park. You need to learn the principles and ethics that will help you reach your goals and live a successful life.    1    .

Be proactive

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits.    2    . Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don't blame others for their own actions or feelings.

Begin with the end in mind

    3    , about your values, goals, and what you stand for, you will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the opinions of others. Create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide your decision-making process.

Put first things first

This habit helps you prioritize and manage your time so that you focus on and complete the most important things. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times.

Think win-win

Learn to believe that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win-win in every relationship.    4    .You will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them.

Seek first to understand, then to be understood

    5    ,one of the great frustrations in life is that many don't feel understood. This habit will ensure you learn the most important communication skill there is: active listening.

【推荐1】It may be difficult to start high school.     1     But never fear! Here are some suggestions for you to adapt to the change.

Do conduct research on the school through the school’s website. Check out the school’s grading policies, activities, and deadlines (for programs, curricula, etc.) before you move. If you’ve got that covered, you may choose to begin looking at school scholarships (奖学金) or competitions.     2    

Do visit the school before your first day of school. Most schools offer some kind of open house for newcomers to learn about the school’s academic (学术的) and curricular offerings.

    3    . Attending it can also help you find out a lot about the school’s academic atmosphere (氛围) and environment.

Do start looking into clubs and extra-curricular activities right away.     4     Once you’ve gone through the school’s clubs and found a few that interest you, attend all the clubs you found yourself drawn to. The purpose of attending these first club meetings is simply to gain a sense of the extra-curricular environment at your school, and see what activities you may find yourself enjoying.

    5    . Many students make the mistake of setting out to achieve the highest grades at their new school. It is true that your grades are very important, but make sure that you spend a good deal of your time interacting with other students and ensuring that you’ll have some healthy relationships and networks with others. A social network will offer you the support and fun you need during high school.