【推荐1】How to Improve Your Confidence

Confidence is something that everyone admires. At some point in your life you may question your level of confidence and wish it to be higher.     1     Creating and keeping high levels of confidence is vital to your well-being.

Watch your intake.     2     So reduce the amount of time of soaps and reality TV each day. Read a book or magazine about a topic you are interested in. Listen to a different radio station you have not listened to before. In this way, you challenge the beliefs you hold and raise your awareness of new things.

    3     Spend an allocated period of time being quiet and just reflecting on your life. Remove yourself away from others and focus on the power of silence and improve your levels of concentration.

Believe in yourself. One of the key steps in raising your level of confidence is to believe it for yourself. You need to believe, accept and be in no doubt that you are a confident person.     4     Meanwhile, value the time that you spend doing this process.

Take a look around for people you admire. It can be helpful to have someone in your circle that you admire for their skills or achievements. Observe the way they face new challenges and communicate with people. You also should attend a club or a group associated with a topic you’re interested in.     5    

【推荐2】Although women get angry just as often as men, rage remains the prototypical male emotion. “My kids still talk about my ‘freak-outs,’” says Kim Garretson, 54, a corporate strategist in Minneapolis, who once erupted into volcanic fury; in a restaurant when served a still-frozen entree.” I didn’t express much of anything, but once in a while, I’d just blow.”

Why do so many men lose their tempers? “The rage comes because there’s so much frustration when you cut off something that is you. Yet that’s what men do, because they’re afraid that if you give emotions an inch, they’ll take a mile.” says psychologist Kenneth W. Christian, PhD, author of Your Own Worst Enemy. If you don’t learn how to work with your emotions, you’re a shadow figure, a small incomplete version of yourself. It’s only a matter of time until the house of cards that you are falls apart.”

For Kim Garretson, that day came four years ago when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As often happens when illness strikes men, he realized he had nothing to lose, and everything to gain, by letting himself feel. “I’m no longer afraid of expressing almost any emotion,” he says. “I get anger out with my quick, sharp tongue and move on. I use humor as an outlet, I’ve reconnected with old friends. I talk about the big questions of life. I search for spiritual meaning.”

Guys, Try These

In his Dirty Harry days, Clint Eastwood never flinched（退缩）. Now as a husband, father and Oscar-winning director of movies that explore the depths of men’s souls, the tough guy has turned tender -- but not talkative. “The men who hide their emotions the most may; in fact be the most sensitive,” observes Christian. Yet men can become more emotionally expressive without tears or fears. Here are some ways to start;

Develop a creative outlet. Hobbies like painting or playing a musical instrument can tap into a man’s soul. Remember that much of the world’s greatest art, music and literature was created by the allegedly emotionally challenged sex.

Release stress and anger through exercise. “When you get to the breaking point where you just want to put your head through a wall, taking a ten-minute time-out isn’t enough to calm down.,” says Westover, who in moments of extreme emotion finds a place to drop to the floor and do push-ups.

Try expressing “ a little” emotion. “Start with feelings you can control, find a sympathetic ear and use the term ‘a little,’” suggests Coleman, Saying you feel “a little” sad or “a little” scared feels safer than a full declaration of vulnerability.

Lean into the discomfort. “Rather than avoiding a feeling that you’re not sure how to handle, move toward it,” says psychologist Travis Bradbury, PhD, co-author of The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book. “Learning to handle emotions takes time and practice, because you need to retrain your brain, but it does get easier.”

【推荐1】Studying makes you tired?    1    Here is some advice that may add happiness to your life.

Breathe

Taking a deep breath in stressful situations has proven to be helpful. Slow, deep breathing stops the mind focusing on whatever else might be going on, and actively lowers stress levels. Practice breathing can help you to build up a great attitude to your life.

Rest at weekends

Weekends are time for a rest. After a week's hard work, weekends are the best time for you to relax yourself. Having a nice lie-in（懒觉）is a good idea.    2    

Cry out or laugh out

If you feel sad, don't try to hide your feelings. Crying out or laughing out may help to reduce your sadness. If possible, laugh more.    3    If you are able to smile during your day, you'll soon begin to see the effects of stress slowly disappear.

Keep a diary

Instead of allowing a jumble（混乱）of thoughts and ideas to jump around inside your head, let them fall out onto your computer keyboard instead.    4    They don't even have to make sense. Minutes later, you might be surprised at how light, airy and carefree you feel.

Join in activities

    5    Going out with friends for a trip will also make you happy. And it will also bring you a good sleep.

Enjoy a big meal

It's not a good idea for a kid to lose weight, so you don't need to eat less food. When you feel upset, enjoy a big meal. Eating delicious food will make you feel good.

【推荐2】Driving a car at high speed along a highway seems to be fun. You need only to follow the bright traffic signs beside the highways and it will take you to where you wish.

But to a London taxi driver, driving is not an easy job. A taxi driver has to have not only good driving skills but also a good knowledge of the city of a London, from the smallest lane to the most popular bar around. He has to be at the service of all kinds of passengers at all times.

A certain London taxi driver told of his job as follows.

During the night it is quite usual for him to stop two or three times for some refreshments (点心). He said. “I never drink when I’m working -- I would lose my license.”

He normally goes home between 2 and 3 o’clock in the night, there are times he has to stay longer and try to make more runs. He said, “That’s the worst thing about working for yourself. If you don’t make the money, no one is going to give it to you.”

London taxi drivers not only ‘take’ but also ‘give’. Every summer hundreds of children from London will go for a day at the sea-- by taxi! Their rides are paid by the taxi drivers, and these fares all go to the ‘London Taxi Fund for Underprivileged Children.’ At the sea, they are met by the mayor, and a lunch party is also held in honour of the taxi drivers and the children. After a happy day running around the sea beaches and visiting the market, the children go home again-- by taxi, and free of charge, of course!